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Not to change the subject, but I'm definitely going to Paizocon this year!
Anyone else?
I am this year for the first time! Every year, I tell myself I am going to do it, and then I don't. But last month I was looking for an old post and stumbled across a post of me saying, "I don't think I can come this year, but one of these years I am going to." That post was from 2011. That was the kick in the butt I needed to make it happen.

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Haladir wrote:I'm hoping to be able to. I don't know if I can. I don't like requesting time off of work just for gaming stuff.Not to change the subject, but I'm definitely going to Paizocon this year!
Anyone else?
Do you have vacation time at your job? If so, do you normally use it all up?
I make a point never to feel guilty about using the PTO time I am allotted.

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Bob_Loblaw wrote:Haladir wrote:I'm hoping to be able to. I don't know if I can. I don't like requesting time off of work just for gaming stuff.Not to change the subject, but I'm definitely going to Paizocon this year!
Anyone else?
Do you have vacation time at your job? If so, do you normally use it all up?
I make a point never to feel guilty about using the PTO time I am allotted.
I don't currently have any PTO. I just started my job less than a year ago so I haven't accrued any yet. It's going to be over a weekend so I can ask for an adjustment to my schedule. It wouldn't be the first time I've done that.
I might since it looks like a lot of people I would love to meet are planning on being there.

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Uncle Teddy wrote:If we could somehow "weaponize" Rysky's hugs and create "hug bombs" could that be the key to world peace?Isn't this basically the premise for the Care Bears?
I thought the premise was having your clique use death glares....?
Anyway, I'm heading back to Cedar Rapids for the last time today to supervise my move. Seattle is an amazing, incredible city and I can't wait to explore the culture. I think the entirety of my crew will be able to express who they are how they want without the social pariahness that tends to crop up in the midwest. Cedar Rapids was a lovely city, but not for a pack of LGBT 20-something geeks.

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Happy Friday!I was just informed that it's Thursday.
Poop. This has been a long week.
As I have been chosen by whatever powers of hell to work the night before Rosenmontag at the only place in my hometown that sells booze and cigaretts 24/7 I very much approve that the weekend is still one more day away.

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I am likely going. Just need to scrape together funds for a badge. Luckily, lodging will be free.
Also, I love when I can tell the exact moment the straight guy packing our stuff finds our toy drawer from 2 rooms over. Poor guy. Might be scarred for life. At least he dug the Pathfinder art in the living room.

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Paizo Con is really hard for me to swing, though it's a dream convention for me to go to at some point. In general, I really want to visit Seattle/most of the West Coast, but it's hard to afford the time off work, much less the flights and lodging.
Yeah I feel the same way. Paizocon and Gencon are two things I want to do...but right now I just don't have the money.
I wish there was a Paizocon Eastcoast.

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This was heartening to see:
SCOTUS Reprimands Anti-LGBTQ Groups for Misgendering Trans Student Gavin Grimm.
Also, Gavin = awesome. Hope his case goes well.

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So a while back I came out to my brother. I knew he'd have my back but it needed to be done on my terms as my now ex-wife was outing me.
He replied beautifully. He also finally admitted there was always something off that he just could not figure out about me for the last 4 decades or so. He made assumptions and put it aside. My coming out allowed him to finally connect all the dots for the "Ahaa!" moment. Then he told me of his prior guesses in statistical order coming close but missing. Anyway, non-issue. Pretty cool huh?
So why am I posting?
Today, he starts off texting me as his "Brister".
Brister.
As our convo continued, it devolved into ritualistic bravado and derogatory commentary regarding the other's lack of masculinity. Although he was obviously and always has been the better looking brother, he was willing to cede the title for better looking sister without contest. Which took on added meaning with my transness since the so-called zingers really weren't hurtful. "Who frick'n wears the dress in your house? OOOH OOOH I DO!"
Oh the snark that only a sibling can get away. ;-)

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So a while back I came out to my brother. I knew he'd have my back but it needed to be done on my terms as my now ex-wife was outing me.
He replied beautifully. He also finally admitted there was always something off that he just could not figure out about me for the last 4 decades or so. He made assumptions and put it aside. My coming out allowed him to finally connect all the dots for the "Ahaa!" moment. Then he told me of his prior guesses in statistical order coming close but missing. Anyway, non-issue. Pretty cool huh?
So why am I posting?
Today, he starts off texting me as his "Brister".
Brister.
As our convo continued, it devolved into ritualistic bravado and derogatory commentary regarding the other's lack of masculinity. Although he was obviously and always has been the better looking brother, he was willing to cede the title for better looking sister without contest. Which took on added meaning with my transness since the so-called zingers really weren't hurtful. "Who frick'n wears the dress in your house? OOOH OOOH I DO!"
Oh the snark that only a sibling can get away. ;-)
That is a great story...I hope when I do come out to my brother has a similar outcome.

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When I came out to my brother he was shocked, but not bothered. He respected my privacy and didn't share it with anyone other than his wife. I always expect a spouse to talk to their partner so I assume that if I come out to one, I come out to both unless I make it explicitly clear that I don't want them to know.
When my grandmother was dying and in hospice, one of my aunts flew out there and he was boiling over with needing to talk to someone. He asked her if I had discussed anything very personal with her. She said yes and they both had a look of relief because now they could talk to each other about what they knew and understood. Neither wanted to offend me by asking me questions that they thought might be too personal.
Anyway, a few months later my brother asked me for some pictures to see what I looked like. I sent him some and he was shocked again. He had thought that I was a drag queen. After seeing the pictures he and his wife had a better understanding. They realize that this is more of an identity issue and it's part of who I am.
My parents and other siblings don't know. I'm keeping it that way. I already have enough problems being accepted. This would not help me in any way.

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Yikes.