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HOLY CRAP

My boss at the third job really, REALLY wants me to send in a picture of myself and a bio to use because I am THEIR EDITOR up at their website!!!!!! I will link here once it's up. I have never written a bio before- what do I do?!


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Freehold DM wrote:

HOLY CRAP

My boss at the third job really, REALLY wants me to send in a picture of myself and a bio to use because I am THEIR EDITOR up at their website!!!!!! I will link here once it's up. I have never written a bio before- what do I do?!

I'd start by checking out any other bios on the website to get a sense of what your colleagues have done (length, how personal to make it, humor, etc.).

Also, good onya, Freehold DM—it seems they like you! :-)


Cori Marie wrote:
She did not win. My gay running mate did. Prom Queen nominations were pretty stacked. There were five nominees for king, and fifteen for queen. Guys probably thought they had a better chance running for king.

Five vs fifteen...

I guess you do have a better chance with less competition.


A little late with the whole crossing genders in history/literature, but I've been recently poking through a book about pirates and came across the story of Anne Bonney and Mary Read.

Apparently, they were both female pirates passing as male, and they only discovered each other when one of them made a pass at the other! (I forget which.)

Hawt!


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The two of them appear in Assassin's Creed IV: Black Flag. :)

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Freehold DM wrote:

HOLY CRAP

My boss at the third job really, REALLY wants me to send in a picture of myself and a bio to use because I am THEIR EDITOR up at their website!!!!!! I will link here once it's up. I have never written a bio before- what do I do?!

Checking the format of others to be sure it matches in content and tone, as noted, otherwise most brief pro bios go something like this:

"Freehold DM has been the editor of placeholder name for x amount of time. He has has done similar work in the past for x and y, and received his name of college degree and major from university in x. He also has relevant or impressive vocational positions here, here, and here, and his professional interests include x, y, and z. He volunteers at the Orphan Rescuing Association. In his free time he plays pretendy funtime games, watches anime, and knits grenade launchers. He has a wife, name of wife, and if any kids, names of kids."

Obviously insert what is relevant, omit what isnt, and don't include info you are not comfortable sharing (e.g., some offer brief info on families, some don't). If the categories mentioned don't apply to you, skip to the next. Some places may want to know hobbies, and interests, others don't, so that's where looking at prior examples comes in.

Good luck.


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That Freehold DM guys sounds awesome, I'd hire him.


DeathQuaker wrote:
Freehold DM wrote:

HOLY CRAP

My boss at the third job really, REALLY wants me to send in a picture of myself and a bio to use because I am THEIR EDITOR up at their website!!!!!! I will link here once it's up. I have never written a bio before- what do I do?!

Checking the format of others to be sure it matches in content and tone, as noted, otherwise most brief pro bios go something like this:

"Freehold DM has been the editor of placeholder name for x amount of time. He has has done similar work in the past for x and y, and received his name of college degree and major from university in x. He also has relevant or impressive vocational positions here, here, and here, and his professional interests include x, y, and z. He volunteers at the Orphan Rescuing Association. In his free time he plays pretendy funtime games, watches anime, and knits grenade launchers. He has a wife, name of wife, and if any kids, names of kids."

Obviously insert what is relevant, omit what isnt, and don't include info you are not comfortable sharing (e.g., some offer brief info on families, some don't). If the categories mentioned don't apply to you, skip to the next. Some places may want to know hobbies, and interests, others don't, so that's where looking at prior examples comes in.

Good luck.

Thank you very, very much for your insight on this! I hope to have it in tomorrow. I will be staying up tonight editing and working on this.

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NotAlwaysRight wrote:


(I’m a rather flamboyantly gay waiter in a restaurant, and we occasionally have customers who disapprove of this. Usually my manager ends up kicking them out, but one time a young British man leaped to my defense.)
Homophobic customer: “I can’t believe they’d let someone like YOU work here! I’ll have you fired! Get me your manager right now!”

Me: “Right away, sir…”(The British man sat at the next table jumps up at this point, and puts his arm around my shoulder to stop me walking away)

Young man: “Whoa, let’s not get hasty here, surely we can talk about this like rational human beings.” (To the other customer) “Look, I understand that you’re angry about people like *him*” (nods at me) “being in the world, but you can’t just hate him for it! I mean look at him, he’s hotter than you, almost certainly gets laid more often than you, he’s probably cleverer and better educated than you, he’s a much nicer person than you, and generally just better in every way, but you can’t hate him for it! You have to try and focus on improving yourself, trying to visit misfortune on others isn’t going to improve your life at all!”
(The homophobic customer turns red, then without even bothering to reply stands up and storms out.)

Best. Response. To Homophobia. EVAH!

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Rysky wrote:
NotAlwaysRight wrote:


(I’m a rather flamboyantly gay waiter in a restaurant, and we occasionally have customers who disapprove of this. Usually my manager ends up kicking them out, but one time a young British man leaped to my defense.)
Homophobic customer: “I can’t believe they’d let someone like YOU work here! I’ll have you fired! Get me your manager right now!”

Me: “Right away, sir…”(The British man sat at the next table jumps up at this point, and puts his arm around my shoulder to stop me walking away)

Young man: “Whoa, let’s not get hasty here, surely we can talk about this like rational human beings.” (To the other customer) “Look, I understand that you’re angry about people like *him*” (nods at me) “being in the world, but you can’t just hate him for it! I mean look at him, he’s hotter than you, almost certainly gets laid more often than you, he’s probably cleverer and better educated than you, he’s a much nicer person than you, and generally just better in every way, but you can’t hate him for it! You have to try and focus on improving yourself, trying to visit misfortune on others isn’t going to improve your life at all!”
(The homophobic customer turns red, then without even bothering to reply stands up and storms out.)

Best. Response. To Homophobia. EVAH!

Indeed. I missed that post the first time around, that's awesome.


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This was cute.


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Tonight I had a kind of funny dream/wakening up.

The one I'm in love with is from another part of the country, about 800 miles away. I dreamt I was going to them by train, and when I was about to switch from train to bus for the last 120 miles and was talking to them on phone, I started waking up.

And I was like "no, no, I don't want to wake up, I want to dream about hanging out with my love! sleep, g&*#**n, sleep!!!". Only to realize that nowadays, we live together and they were sleeping right next to me.

That was awesome and now this morning I'm so g#!#&$n happy because I don't live a 22 hour train travel from them anymore.

Tirisfal wrote:

This was cute.

Yeah. I also like this:

Link
(Text read: "Today Kjell lives with Britt-Marie. Don't miss any important mail. Order redirection of mail when you move.")

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Ilja wrote:

Tonight I had a kind of funny dream/wakening up.

The one I'm in love with is from another part of the country, about 800 miles away. I dreamt I was going to them by train, and when I was about to switch from train to bus for the last 120 miles and was talking to them on phone, I started waking up.

And I was like "no, no, I don't want to wake up, I want to dream about hanging out with my love! sleep, g*%#**n, sleep!!!". Only to realize that nowadays, we live together and they were sleeping right next to me.

That was awesome and now this morning I'm so g%@~&*n happy because I don't live a 22 hour train travel from them anymore.

Guh. 22 hours. That's sounds kind of terrible. I had a 5 hour drive to Amarillo to see a girlfriend for awhile and that was pretty awful.


Well, 22 hours of train is better than 5 hours of car IMO, because on a train I don't have to focus on driving, I can just chill out, play some ADOM or read a book. And eat. G#~!*@n, I love eating on trains. And I don't have to stay completely sober.

yeah i like food:
The last time I made the trip home from there we were two, so my supplies where:
Evening:
Two full meals of Indian food from a local restaurant and four naan bread
Four strong cider (heh)

Morning:
A full loaf of bread, a tube of tartex, and four tomatoes
A litre of soyghurt

Lunch:
About a pound vegetarian swedish meatballs w/ sauce
About a pound of cooked potatoes
A six-pack of low-alcohol beer

Snacks:
4 apples, 3 oranges and 4 bananas
about a pound of candy and half that amount of crisps and a six-pack of swedish chocolate balls and a six-pack of swedish punch rolls

Granted, we were two, and there where some slices of bread left when we arrived, but still... Eating is the best thing to do on a train. And play magic the gathering.

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Yeah, that sounds much more pleasant than spending five hours trying to keep away and changing radio stations every 1.5 hours. ^_^
I've never really eaten on train. They aren't very big in any part of the states that I've lived in. It sounds really nice though. I bet it would be a great place for a Call of Cthulhu game if you could round up enough people.


Lissa Guillet wrote:

Yeah, that sounds much more pleasant than spending five hours trying to keep away and changing radio stations every 1.5 hours. ^_^

I've never really eaten on train. They aren't very big in any part of the states that I've lived in. It sounds really nice though. I bet it would be a great place for a Call of Cthulhu game if you could round up enough people.

OTOH, you can do 5 hours for a weekend. Long weekend easily.

22 you can't. Even the long weekend is rough.

Maybe a more pleasant trip, but it's still a much bigger time commitment.


To visit my girlfriend, it's luckily only a two hour drive from Melbourne to Ft Lauderdale. I usually just plug my MP3 player into my stereo and blare whatever music happens to be on there. Beats constantly finding a radio station.

Turnpike makes it more bearable, with less traffic. Sunpass is a nice thing to beat the tolls too.


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I don't remember where I found a link to this video (I really hope it wasn't here, or I'll feel like a moron) but I really liked it:

Eu nao quero voltar sozinho

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I love train travel (though I've never done a 22 hour trip--I think the longest I've done is 9 hours, which was overnight so I just slept on the train). I did entertain the notion that if Paizocon ever falls on a weekend I could go, I'd make a vacation of it and take the train cross country (take the train to Chicago, then transfer to the northwestish train that ends in Seattle). I always thought it would be cool to see the country by train.

That said, at least the Amtrak trains I usually ride you can't heat up food and the stuff from the diner car is often questionable, but packing cold snacks works well and is fun.

That's an awesome dream anyway Ilja.

Last dream I remember someone I was in a house with a serial knife murderer.


I had an idea for an adventure on a train

Train Shenanigans

but no one seemed interested.


DeathQuaker wrote:

I love train travel (though I've never done a 22 hour trip--I think the longest I've done is 9 hours, which was overnight so I just slept on the train). I did entertain the notion that if Paizocon ever falls on a weekend I could go, I'd make a vacation of it and take the train cross country (take the train to Chicago, then transfer to the northwestish train that ends in Seattle). I always thought it would be cool to see the country by train.

That said, at least the Amtrak trains I usually ride you can't heat up food and the stuff from the diner car is often questionable, but packing cold snacks works well and is fun.

That's an awesome dream anyway Ilja.

Last dream I remember someone I was in a house with a serial knife murderer.

This makes me wish we had a good train system all across Florida. I'd love to hop on and hit Orlando or Miami or Tampa or Jacksonville anywhere else.


Odraude wrote:
DeathQuaker wrote:

I love train travel (though I've never done a 22 hour trip--I think the longest I've done is 9 hours, which was overnight so I just slept on the train). I did entertain the notion that if Paizocon ever falls on a weekend I could go, I'd make a vacation of it and take the train cross country (take the train to Chicago, then transfer to the northwestish train that ends in Seattle). I always thought it would be cool to see the country by train.

That said, at least the Amtrak trains I usually ride you can't heat up food and the stuff from the diner car is often questionable, but packing cold snacks works well and is fun.

That's an awesome dream anyway Ilja.

Last dream I remember someone I was in a house with a serial knife murderer.

This makes me wish we had a good train system all across Florida. I'd love to hop on and hit Orlando or Miami or Tampa or Jacksonville anywhere else.

I think we have too many old people for the state to dip into their pockets for that, unfortunately.

I've never had the chance to ride a train but I've always wanted to :(

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Odraude wrote:
DeathQuaker wrote:

I love train travel (though I've never done a 22 hour trip--I think the longest I've done is 9 hours, which was overnight so I just slept on the train). I did entertain the notion that if Paizocon ever falls on a weekend I could go, I'd make a vacation of it and take the train cross country (take the train to Chicago, then transfer to the northwestish train that ends in Seattle). I always thought it would be cool to see the country by train.

That said, at least the Amtrak trains I usually ride you can't heat up food and the stuff from the diner car is often questionable, but packing cold snacks works well and is fun.

That's an awesome dream anyway Ilja.

Last dream I remember someone I was in a house with a serial knife murderer.

This makes me wish we had a good train system all across Florida. I'd love to hop on and hit Orlando or Miami or Tampa or Jacksonville anywhere else.

You could always take the Silver Service (stops in Miami and Jacksonville and heads up the coast to New York). How you get to Miami or Jacksonville I can't help you.

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So...

The United Church of Christ, two Unitarian Universalist ministers, a Lutheran priest, a Baptist pastor, and a rabbi walk into a North Carolina courthouse...

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Krensky wrote:

So...

The United Church of Christ, two Unitarian Universalist ministers, a Lutheran priest, a Baptist pastor, and a rabbi walk into a North Carolina courthouse...

I'll admit, as someone who largely went to baptist(earlier went to pentacostal and christian science) churches growing up, I did not expect to see a baptist pastor in that mix.


I dunno if they're going about it the best way, but It's nice to see some fellow Christians stand up for this.

Liberty's Edge

Part of it is that the amendment they're going after is not as written a ban, persay, on same sex marriage. It specifically makes it a crime for a clergyman to officiate over a marriage or marriage-like ceremony without a marriage certificate.

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Just dropping in to point out that the new web fiction series which started today is chock-full of gay romance. (It's basically the story of Aladdin if both he and Princess Jasmine were men.)

Don't mean to spam, but I thought some folks here might be into that. :)

Link: Boar and Rabbit

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James Sutter wrote:

Just dropping in to point out that the new web fiction series which started today is chock-full of gay romance. (It's basically the story of Aladdin if both he and Princess Jasmine were men.)

Don't mean to spam, but I thought some folks here might be into that. :)

Link: Boar and Rabbit

It's a whole new world, indeed. :)

Scarab Sages

James Sutter wrote:

Just dropping in to point out that the new web fiction series which started today is chock-full of gay romance. (It's basically the story of Aladdin if both he and Princess Jasmine were men.)

Don't mean to spam, but I thought some folks here might be into that. :)

Link: Boar and Rabbit

Nooooo! Sutter - stop catching my interest and taking my spare time prisoner!


I am still waiting for the day he reveals that he isn't in fact 'The other James', but The other Sutter...


I just changed locations for where I work. Same company but different location. I'm thinking that this may be a good time for me to go back into the closet. I don't have to change anything with my friends but I can take this time to not share with my coworkers. I am finding that I'm not really happy no matter what clothing I'm wearing. I am also finding that it's not possible for me to find someone if I don't become what others want. I'm tired of being lonely. I'm tired of being confused. This is probably not the right forum for spilling all this but I don't really have anyone to talk to.

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Bob_Loblaw wrote:
I just changed locations for where I work. Same company but different location. I'm thinking that this may be a good time for me to go back into the closet. I don't have to change anything with my friends but I can take this time to not share with my coworkers. I am finding that I'm not really happy no matter what clothing I'm wearing. I am also finding that it's not possible for me to find someone if I don't become what others want. I'm tired of being lonely. I'm tired of being confused. This is probably not the right forum for spilling all this but I don't really have anyone to talk to.

A lot of people especially young transgendered/cross dressers purge to one degree or another. It's a shared experience and most of us understand that pretty well. You should do what you need to do. One of the things that many transgendered people don't quite get up front is that transitioning and getting surgery won't solve all of your problems. If you were medically depressed before you will likely be medically depressed afterward, you'll just have one less thing to trigger you. It's a big thing and it can help a lot but all of your problems are still there and it will probably create some new problems.

I guess all I'm saying is, do what's right for you. Sometimes the closet can be a good space to feel safe when you aren't. Sometimes it's claustrophobic. But you can deal with that if and when it comes around again.


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What Lissa said, basically. ALL personal change is a game of two steps forward, one step back, and it takes time to reach a situation you feel you want. And it's not a bad idea to check with a doctor whether you have a depression anyhow.

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I know it's not universal, but do you have any pets? Animals accept and love you no matter what.

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Spill all you want, Bob. But since you do feel a need to talk to someone, have you considered counseling?

It's not for everyone, and you've got to figure out what's right for you. For what it's worth I know my counselor has helped me deal with a lot of issues that otherwise I probably would have drowned in (a strange phrasing, I know, but that's my best description for it). I hope you can find some kind of safe outlet at least.


I have a psychiatrist who has been wonderful with my PTSD and bipolar. She's started doing research into LGBT issues for about a year. He daughter came out last year. She hadn't really had to deal with it until then. I'm having a hard time finding the money and time to see all my doctors.

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Maybe finding someone with lgbt issues as an area of expertise might be the way to go. Doesn't have to be a psychiatrist (maybe even better if it's not). Some lgbt organizations offer some services for free. I don't know what's available in your area but maybe it's worth looking up?


Do you have a local PFLAG, Bob? Can you email/Facebook PM/call them to see if they know any local experts/specialists that might be able to help? Even if the PFLAG rep you talk don't know off the top of their head, they can always ask the group the next time it gets together.

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Friendly Neighborhood Cultist wrote:
I am still waiting for the day he reveals that he isn't in fact 'The other James', but The other Sutter...

HA! Jacobs and Wes were actually VERY excited to be the first people to show me that movie. :D


James Sutter wrote:
Friendly Neighborhood Cultist wrote:
I am still waiting for the day he reveals that he isn't in fact 'The other James', but The other Sutter...
HA! Jacobs and Wes were actually VERY excited to be the first people to show me that movie. :D

Great Movie.

Hopefully YOU won't destroy the world. At least the one we are living in.


Please share, Bob. That is what this wonderful community is for. Would PMs be better?


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You're not bothering me, Bob. If you feel the need to share, you've got our support. This is a safe place :)


Hang in there, Bob. Do what you need to do in order to take care of yourself.

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Same here, Bob. You are really a very good person IMO, so you can hold to that, and that many people recognize you as such. It is very natural to feel overwhelmed from time to time.


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Random thought of the day. Why, oh why, do some people have to continually be douchecanoes over the fact that LGBT people exist? They are neurotically insistent that they have the right to pretend we don't exist, and get all upset and butthurt when it is pointed out that it is really pretty horrible to try to systematically erase any group of people from the face of society and from normal, proportional representation in literature and media.

I don't get it. Sadly, I do have to live with the results of it. Grump.

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I am trying not to be distracted by the word "douchecanoe..."

But anyway.

Yes. Some people are frightened that people different from them exist, because it challenges their own tiny, fragile, barely formed sense of identity because they've lived their lives learning to try to be what other people expect instead of serve their true selves. And it makes them jerks. And it's stupid.


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DeathQuaker wrote:
And it makes them jerks. And it's stupid.

Absolutely. The "I can't imagine anyone might be even vaguely different from me" mindset is disturbingly common.

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