I spent last night looking at Manhunt and Adam4Adam and realized that even if I want a hook up, that's not how I want to go about it. Those aren't the people I want to meet. Just looking at their profiles, they come across as self-absorbed. Their pictures only reinforce that. I'm not looking for that.
I've used OkCupid in the past and found a great woman on there. We ended up dating for 6 months but realized that we are better off friends than anything else. I created a second profile last night just for my alter ego. I'm honest on it. I just want to be more focused on the search. We'll see how this turns out.
Oh, and my cousin sent me the outfit. It's done! I will definitely post some pics once it arrives for those who are interested. This is what it looks like without me in it.
I'm getting more and better advice here than I have at sites dedicated to this.
The outfit looks awesome. She does nice work. Especially on the corset. I know how much of a pain those can be to make. :)
I'm so excited for this. It will be the first piece of clothing that I have ever had that was custom made to fit me. Men's clothing isn't that big of a deal most of the time but women's clothing doesn't usually fit me well especially in the chest and arms. It's almost like men and women generally have different frames.
It's almost like men and women generally have different frames.
What, nah, that's impossible!
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I'm so excited for this. It will be the first piece of clothing that I have ever had that was custom made to fit me. Men's clothing isn't that big of a deal most of the time but women's clothing doesn't usually fit me well especially in the chest and arms. It's almost like men and women generally have different frames.
Or it could be that you're discovering that fashion designers are sadists. >.<
Seriously, women's clothing doesn't fit women either. I have yet to meet a woman who doesn't have some reason why she finds it hard to find clothing. Too short, too tall, arms too fat, waist not exactly where it's supposed to be, etc, etc. Way back when I made my own clothes, before I started finding it impossible to use the sewing machine (stupid mennieres) the first thing I had to learn was how to alter patterns. And I figured out pretty quick why I have such a hard time finding off the rack clothes since I'm about three different sizes depending on which part of my body I'm looking at. So just know that when you find it difficult to find women's clothing that fits you are 'enjoying' a normal part of the female experience. ;P
@-Bob well I'm not an expert on women's clothing but you might try shopping at Lane Bryant. The have alot of quality clothes designed for plus sized women and I've heard their staff are very helpful.
The Lane Bryant here is not helpful to many ladies and treats the men worse. I have heard them complain about crossdressers openly. They didn't know they were complaining about me. I was shopping with a girlfriend for her. Those employees have moved on but the attitude hasn't.
The Lane Bryant here is not helpful to many ladies and treats the men worse. I have heard them complain about crossdressers openly. They didn't know they were complaining about me. I was shopping with a girlfriend for her. Those employees have moved on but the attitude hasn't.
Oh...well that's no good, sorry for the bad suggestion then, lol
There are some Lane Bryants with helpful and friendly salespeople....and then there are the others. We have one of the others here too. Only reason I shop there is because it's the only store I know of that carries bras in my size with no special ordering required. Their clothes for the most part wear terribly. One washing and that expensive shirt looks like crap.
Personally I like Old Navy, they have lots of plus size clothes. And the only jeans that actually fit me. :)
I don't know if they have one near you, Bob, but I would definitely recommend looking there if they do. They have a lot of options in knit, which is very friendly to plus sizes.
The Lane Bryant here is not helpful to many ladies and treats the men worse. I have heard them complain about crossdressers openly. They didn't know they were complaining about me. I was shopping with a girlfriend for her. Those employees have moved on but the attitude hasn't.
My mother used to shop the plus sizes at Fashion Bug pretty religiously, but then closed down locally and I just now read that the chain as a whole will be closing. They're usually in strip malls on the off chance you can score a closing out sale or something.
Old Navy is where we'ere headed next then to a place called David's Bridal. I'm on a mision to find a slip or white tights. How hard can that be? 7 plus size stores (one maternity) and nothing. The bridal store may actually have a slip but I'm not going to pay more than $20. Fashion Bug is going out of business and my friend and I have set aside money for some shopping.
The Lane Bryant here is not helpful to many ladies and treats the men worse. I have heard them complain about crossdressers openly. They didn't know they were complaining about me. I was shopping with a girlfriend for her. Those employees have moved on but the attitude hasn't.
I'm sorry man. I know this is an issue at Lane Bryant though- as a plus size clothing store, they get a lot of guys who wear ladies clothing in there a lot. I've gotten second looks in there once or twice when going through stockings without my wife present. I do hope their minds broaden in the future, because it really is a good place to go if you are a guy looking for women's clothing, whatever the reason(I would wear stockings a hot minute if I could- I ride my bike in all weather and sometimes sweatpants under jeans is either too much or not enough).
FHDM, considered long underwear? I started to wear them during cold weather a few years ago (after many years of going negative temperatures, in Celsius degrees, in trousers and regular underwear only) and found them to be great for whenever temperature drops below 13 degree Celsius. What to say, I am getting old and my internal temperature regulation is not what it used to be when I was much more cold resistant.
FHDM, considered long underwear? I started to wear them during cold weather a few years ago (after many years of going negative temperatures, in Celsius degrees, in trousers and regular underwear only) and found them to be great for whenever temperature drops below 13 degree Celsius. What to say, I am getting old and my internal temperature regulation is not what it used to be when I was much more cold resistant.
My skin absolutely cannot abide it. I start to itch at the very thought. My mother used to force me to wear it back in elementary school, and it was not fun at all. My skin needs to breathe.
The Lane Bryant here is not helpful to many ladies and treats the men worse. I have heard them complain about crossdressers openly. They didn't know they were complaining about me. I was shopping with a girlfriend for her. Those employees have moved on but the attitude hasn't.I'm sorry man. I know this is an issue at Lane Bryant though- as a plus size clothing store, they get a lot of guys who wear ladies clothing in there a lot. I've gotten second looks in there once or twice when going through stockings without my wife present. I do hope their minds broaden in the future, because it really is a good place to go if you are a guy looking for women's clothing, whatever the reason(I would wear stockings a hot minute if I could- I ride my bike in all weather and sometimes sweatpants under jeans is either too much or not enough).
I wasn't even looking at stuff for me at the time. It was obvious it was for my girlfriend so they probably thought they could vent to me. I asked them why they cared at all. Those guys were giving money to the company that gave them paychecks. They should be thankful for every dollar going in because when money stops going in, stores start closing. They didn't seem to understand.
FHDM, considered long underwear? I started to wear them during cold weather a few years ago (after many years of going negative temperatures, in Celsius degrees, in trousers and regular underwear only) and found them to be great for whenever temperature drops below 13 degree Celsius. What to say, I am getting old and my internal temperature regulation is not what it used to be when I was much more cold resistant.My skin absolutely cannot abide it. I start to itch at the very thought. My mother used to force me to wear it back in elementary school, and it was not fun at all. My skin needs to breathe.
Soccer-socks does it for me in cold weather (I also ride a bicycle in all weathers ). The long johns pretty much only come out of the wardrobe if the temperature drops below -15 °C (5 °F).
So I finally managed to find the slip I was looking for. Turns out the best place to go and not be judged is an adult shop. I can be open and they are extremely helpful. So helpful that I ended up buying more clothes. I'm sure there is a reason why they hire cute girls to work there...
Anyway, my outfit is now complete and I'm just waiting for it to arrive.
My outfit has arrived but I haven't taken any pictures yet. I didn't realize that it came in parts. I learn something new everyday. You women have to assemble your outfits. No wonder it takes you so long to get dressed. Once I account for everything (except stuff I need just to look like a woman), it's 9 or 10 pieces of clothing.
On the dating site note, I've crossed two off the list already. Apparently they aren't what they advertise. They are really just hook up sites. That or the dumbest people use them. I had a simple two paragraph profile. The first one was brief: who I am. The second was a single line: "Don't waste your time responding to me if you don't live within 20 miles." The only people who responded lived 2,000+ miles away.
There really needs to be a quality site like OkCupid but with a section for gender-queer or transgender. It would really make it easier.
There are some Lane Bryants with helpful and friendly salespeople....and then there are the others. We have one of the others here too. Only reason I shop there is because it's the only store I know of that carries bras in my size with no special ordering required. Their clothes for the most part wear terribly. One washing and that expensive shirt looks like crap.
Personally I like Old Navy, they have lots of plus size clothes. And the only jeans that actually fit me. :)
I don't know if they have one near you, Bob, but I would definitely recommend looking there if they do. They have a lot of options in knit, which is very friendly to plus sizes.
I've also had issues with Lane Bryant salespersons. I had one experience where one woman would not leave me the hell alone, and after I tried on some items, she insisted on taking the items I had in my hands, both the ones I wanted and the ones I wanted to put back (I don't know if she thought I was a shoplifter or what). She ended up putting back the item I wanted and selling me the item I didn't want. When I discovered this and returned to the store the next day, the sale I had bought the item on was over so they refused to exchange the item (which is all I wanted to do, as both items were the same price), only credit me the amount I had paid (which meant to get the item I wanted, I had to pay extra, when had I gotten the correct item the first time, I wouldn't have had to pay more for it). Given it was THEIR mistake that caused me to purchase the incorrect item, I think I was cheated. I should have fought it more, but I also was getting sick and didn't have the physical or emotional energy to raise a fuss. Hopefully I at least gave those b+*~!es my cold.
I've been reluctant to purchase anything from them since (that was not the only bad customer service experience I've had there, just the one that made me angriest)--and it IS frustrating since the actual clothing designs are excellent and really are tailored well to different kind of bodies (as opposed to just taking "normal" made for models clothing and boosting the size without tailoring it for builds which may have large busts and/or bellies and/or hips). But then it is always infuriating when bad customer service prevents you from enjoying or buying a good product. As a friend of mine likes to say, "If you want to make it difficult for me to give you money, I will happily spend it elsewhere."
I agree with Lynora that Old Navy has some great options at least for casual wear--I have trouble finding good work clothes there. And yes, their jeans are THE BEST. I used to wear men's jeans before I found Old Navy because the men's casual fit Levi's were the only ones I could get to settle on my hips properly. The nice thing about Old Navy's jeans in particular is that they have several very easy to understand styles of cut, so you can find what works for your body, to exaggerate what you want and de-emphasize other parts. Old Navy's also great because while their customer service people are really nice, they leave you alone to shop (the very best trait of a clothing store salesperson in my opinion--they stay out of your way unless you specifically ask them for help) and don't get judgy.
Now, there's always online options as well -- and that is a good way to avoid bad customer service at least while you're browsing and buying. It also is a better guarantee they will have something in your size. The problem is of course needing to try on the clothes--some people do order stuff, try it on, and return it with ease but it seems like a lot of rigamarole with me--and then in Bob's case, I don't know how comfortable you feel trying on clothes in the store anyway (if you do, rock on!). But it is an option.
(For Lane Bryant in particular for my issues, I've thought about going to the stores to try on clothes to see what cut/style fits me best, then ordering it online so I can get the number and color I want--and thus can ensure no b~#+$y or conniving salesperson gets any sort of credit or commission for the sale.)
For purely online options, I'd also suggest looking at Torrid, which has a lot of really awesome plus-size clothes.
Torrid is indeed the shiznit.
My wife also strongly suggests igigi, who also makes good stuff.
Now, there's always online options as well -- and that is a good way to avoid bad customer service at least while you're browsing and buying. It also is a better guarantee they will have something in your size. The problem is of course needing to try on the clothes--some people do order stuff, try it on, and return it with ease but it seems like a lot of rigamarole with me--and then in Bob's case, I don't know how comfortable you feel trying on clothes in the store anyway (if you do, rock on!). But it is an option.
(For Lane Bryant in particular for my issues, I've thought about going to the stores to try on clothes to see what cut/style fits me best, then ordering it online so I can get the number and color I want--and thus can ensure no b~+$$y or conniving salesperson gets any sort of credit or commission for the sale.)
For purely online options, I'd also suggest looking at Torrid, which has a lot of really awesome plus-size clothes.
I do some shopping online, mostly for the undergarments. I know my size so it's easy to just click a few buttons. It's a little harder with anything from the waist up though. Apparently we men are built differently than women and we gather weight in different spots too. I've been lucky so far that one of my friends has given me all of my skirts but I would be able to buy them since I don't have to take into account my thigh width like I would with pants.
I don't feel very comfortable trying on women's clothing in stores. At least not yet. I just don't like getting the weird looks. I'll probably get more confident and be able to but right now I can't. What I want to do is go to a store that sells men's and women's clothing so I can bring them both into the changing room and then I can try stuff on.
Thanks for the suggestion about Torrid. You're the second person to suggest it but I had forgotten about it. Seeing a link allowed me to bookmark it.
On a side note, I found out yesterday that one of my friends of more than 10 years has a problem with who I am. He hasn't said anything to me yet. He was supposed to come over yesterday to game but his soon-to-be-exwife turned on the tears to keep him at home (he's always at home, I haven't seen him in at least 2 years). I was told that he has a problem with it for religious reasons. Although I have a lot of supportive friends and family, I'm starting to encounter some people who are discriminatory. This is the part I was not looking forward to.
EDIT: Thanks Freehold. I added that to my bookmarks as well. Two of my friends suggested http://eshakti.com/ They will customize the outfits a bit for you as well. I've seen their work. It's good stuff. The elastic they use is durable too. It will last.
I don't feel very comfortable trying on women's clothing in stores. At least not yet. I just don't like getting the weird looks. I'll probably get more confident and be able to but right now I can't. What I want to do is go to a store that sells men's and women's clothing so I can bring them both into the changing room and then I can try stuff on.
By all means, don't feel pressured to do so (either way). And yeah, the folks in the adult shops are going to be way cool (from your other post).
Thanks for the suggestion about Torrid. You're the second person to suggest it but I had forgotten about it. Seeing a link allowed me to bookmark it.
No problem, enjoy.
On a side note, I found out yesterday that one of my friends of more than 10 years has a problem with who I am. He hasn't said anything to me yet. He was supposed to come over yesterday to game but his soon-to-be-exwife turned on the tears to keep him at home (he's always at home, I haven't seen him in at least 2 years). I was told that he has a problem with it for religious reasons. Although I have a lot of supportive friends and family, I'm starting to encounter some people who are discriminatory. This is the part I was not looking forward to.
Sorry to hear that. Just remember you DO have that support network--you can't force people to accept you but remembering that so many do can be a great source of strength.
Also, it sounds like he's also got a load of issues of his own (divorcing a manipulative spouse, always stuck at home)--so any intolerance and hatred on his part, while unacceptable, is likely not rooted in you and you can't feel responsible for them. Unsolicited advice: Keep cool--and wait to hear from his own mouth how he feels about the situation. It's all too easy for even well intentioned people to misinterpret or exaggerate what they heard someone else say--sure they might have also been spot on, but it's best not to assume what someone thinks of you till you have their own words and deeds to go by.
I've been trying to use OkCupid but there isn't a transgender option. I sent a suggestion to them and they said it's something they want to do but it's not as easy to implement because the other options are binary. I'm happy to see that they want to make the changes. They are a decent site.
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Adding another +1 for Torrid. 'Tis teh win.
Also, it sounds like he's also got a load of issues of his own (divorcing a manipulative spouse, always stuck at home)--so any intolerance and hatred on his part, while unacceptable, is likely not rooted in you and you can't feel responsible for them. Unsolicited advice: Keep cool--and wait to hear from his own mouth how he feels about the situation. It's all too easy for even well intentioned people to misinterpret or exaggerate what they heard someone else say--sure they might have also been spot on, but it's best not to assume what someone thinks of you till you have their own words and deeds to go by.
I meant to respond to this but I spaced. This is something I need to keep in mind with any discrimination that comes my way. I'm the kind of person who will deal with someone up front. I spoke with him and he said that he doesn't have any problems with it because he's my friend and friends accept each other the way they are. I'm going to take him at his word. He may want to do that and I have to give him the opportunity to do so. If I don't, I'm only perpetuating a problem. I do know that he had a problem with mutual friend of ours who is gay. From what I've been told by several people, it's because he is gay. That was a few years ago though. It's possible that he has changed. As we get older and as we experience more, we tend to realize that our old views don't match reality as well as we want.
As for Torrid, I'm probably going to be making some purchases next week when I get paid. I just have to remember that I can't just buy clothing for my feminine side. I still have to wear men's clothing too. I do live in both worlds.
That's awesome CH. May it continue to last.
Bob, you might find some clothes you like over at Igigi.com, as well.
I started looking there and signed up for their mailing list. They have some nice stuff.
So it looks like my aunt is going to try to take some pictures this Saturday of me. I don't know how long it will take to develop them but as soon as she sends them to me, I will certainly post them. She used to be a professional photographer so these will turn out very well. I'm not as photogenic as I would like to be but she knows how to address that.
She wants to do some outdoors shots and I'm really nervous about that. I've managed to get one friend to go along with me. He hasn't seen me dressed up yet but has been very supportive so far. I'm going to be wearing my St Pauli outfit to his party so it's entirely possible that he's scouting out the competition...
Anyway, I'm nervous about being outside dressed up. However, I think that with the help of friends and the excuse of Halloween pictures, I can probably do this. I want to get a few different outfits together and see what we can do in the few hours we'll have. Besides being in a relatively public area, I'm concerned about having a place to change. No matter how comfortable I am, I don't think I should be in my skivvies in public. It may be just a little inappropriate.
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It has been 3 months since my first date with my bf. Time flies.
He's still the best ever.
That is all.
I've just hit five month with mine. I gave him the pet name Leonal, because 1) it has the same rhytm as his proper name, 2) he's a Leo and 3) "nal" in Swedish sounds like "nalle" meaning teddybear, and that's what he is, a big, cuddly bear. Also the 3.5 Leonal is kind of hot. And of course 4) he's goodness incarnate. ;o)
...I just have to remember that I can't just buy clothing for my feminine side. I still have to wear men's clothing too. I do live in both worlds.
I know a lot of women's clothing pings instantly as female, but can you get away with wearing some more androgynous women's clothing, like maybe "less-fitted" jeans or cargo pants? Or sneakers? I have a couple T-friends and both of them (pre-transition) used to mix in such types of clothing with their male ("drab") casual work and everyday wear. Nobody ever pinged to it and it seemed to help with their stress levels wearing clothing that matched their brain gender, even when no one else was aware of it.
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This thread caught my eye the other day, and I'm surprised and happy to see so many other LGBT Gamers. They seem so rare around my parts! :P I recognize a few of you from other threads.
Lets see... Name is Kevin. I 'came out' when I was 16, by accident. Left a note about a guy I had a crush on at the time that my mom found. Being in the south (North Carolina counts as the south, right?!), my family didn't take so kindly to it at first, but they've come a long ways since.
I read these boards quite a bit, but I should actually post more often! I need some folks to toss Pathfinder ideas back and forth with.
Also, kudos to those who are brave enough to be themselves or try new things!
Good luck, Bob! Looking forward to seeing how the pictures come out. :)
...I just have to remember that I can't just buy clothing for my feminine side. I still have to wear men's clothing too. I do live in both worlds.I know a lot of women's clothing pings instantly as female, but can you get away with wearing some more androgynous women's clothing, like maybe "less-fitted" jeans or cargo pants? Or sneakers? I have a couple T-friends and both of them (pre-transition) used to mix in such types of clothing with their male ("drab") casual work and everyday wear. Nobody ever pinged to it and it seemed to help with their stress levels wearing clothing that matched their brain gender, even when no one else was aware of it.
I actually enjoy being Bob most of the time but I also enjoy being Cindy too. That's where I run into the cost issues. There are some things, like underwear, that I can wear most of the time without a problem. Pants, shirts, etc, are all things that I actually like to have be either masculine or feminine. I want the distinction. There are times when I sneak a bra or girly socks but usually I am either male or female.
So yesterday I spent a few hours with my aunt and a friend walking around a local park dressed up. She took some pictures. I was terrified at first but as time went on it was easier. I'm still not completely comfortable but it was daylight and there were other people there. I did have a mild anxiety attack but fortunately both of them know how to deal with that and I have medication for just such a situation.
My aunt is editing the pictures and hopefully will send them to me today and I can post some links for anyone who wants to see them.
I'm headed out for a pedicure and some shopping soon. I hope everyone has a great day.
On an unrelated note, I'm sure that those of you who looked at my pictures noticed that I'm overweight. That's also being addressed. Most of those pictures were 25 pounds heavier than I am today. It's a slow process but it's something that I'm working on as well. I'm actually so big that I'm essentially carrying around another person all day. It doesn't have to be that way and I plan on doing something about that.
Glad to hear you lost weight, dood. Keep it up, I need to get back in shape myself.
It won't be soon but it will be worth it when it happens. I have 130 more to lose. Then I can really start wearing great stuff and not have to worry about heart attacks so much.
Way to go Bob. I've lost seventy five pounds in the last year, and even though for me, it was too little to late, here's hoping you get to a weight you are comfortable with soon, and enjoy the benefits for a long time.
I'm sorry to hear you think it was too late to get in shape, but I'm glad you lost the weight.
It won't be soon but it will be worth it when it happens. I have 130 more to lose. Then I can really start wearing great stuff and not have to worry about heart attacks so much.
Yay for better health and better clothes. :)
Good luck with reaching your goals. I know it can be challenging at times. I'm currently working at getting into a shape other than round myself. I think the hardest part for me is times like now when I'm sort of caught between two dress sizes. Patience has never been my best virtue. :)
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It won't be soon but it will be worth it when it happens. I have 130 more to lose. Then I can really start wearing great stuff and not have to worry about heart attacks so much.Yay for better health and better clothes. :)
Good luck with reaching your goals. I know it can be challenging at times. I'm currently working at getting into a shape other than round myself. I think the hardest part for me is times like now when I'm sort of caught between two dress sizes. Patience has never been my best virtue. :)
I'm stuck between two dress sizes too: 26 and 14.
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Good luck guys. My thing lately has just been trying to exercise daily (I can't do the every other day thing, I fall out of habit real fast). I don't think I've lost much weight, if any, but I certainly have felt a lot better doing it.
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Eat less, do more. Set mini goals (and reward yourself with not-food) on your way to the big goal. (I have my eyes on a full set of Copic Markers.)
... or get a cr@ppy table-waiting job! I lost twenty pounds in the first four months I started working at my current job.
Out to the tables... back to the kitchen... out to the tables... back to the kitchen. Rinse. Repeat.
:)
I'm stuck between two dress sizes too: 26 and 14.It won't be soon but it will be worth it when it happens. I have 130 more to lose. Then I can really start wearing great stuff and not have to worry about heart attacks so much.Yay for better health and better clothes. :)
Good luck with reaching your goals. I know it can be challenging at times. I'm currently working at getting into a shape other than round myself. I think the hardest part for me is times like now when I'm sort of caught between two dress sizes. Patience has never been my best virtue. :)
Lol. Fair enough. I find I get demotivated if I look at the big picture, so, like Lilith said, lots of small goals on the way. :)
Lol. Fair enough. I find I get demotivated if I look at the big picture, so, like Lilith said, lots of small goals on the way. :)I'm stuck between two dress sizes too: 26 and 14.It won't be soon but it will be worth it when it happens. I have 130 more to lose. Then I can really start wearing great stuff and not have to worry about heart attacks so much.Yay for better health and better clothes. :)
Good luck with reaching your goals. I know it can be challenging at times. I'm currently working at getting into a shape other than round myself. I think the hardest part for me is times like now when I'm sort of caught between two dress sizes. Patience has never been my best virtue. :)
For every 50 pounds I lose one of my friends promised to by me a new dress. I just need to lose 25 more and I get my first prize. You think that would get me to the treadmill more often but I hate exercising that much. I'm slowly doing it though.
For every 50 pounds I lose one of my friends promised to by me a new dress. I just need to lose 25 more and I get my first prize. You think that would get me to the treadmill more often but I hate exercising that much. I'm slowly doing it though.
Lol. Fair enough. I find I get demotivated if I look at the big picture, so, like Lilith said, lots of small goals on the way. :)
(Unsolicited Advice)
I usually get hideously bored doing exercise. What I've managed to get to stick is Leslie Sansone's Walk at Home videos. They're basically aerobics workouts designed around ambulatory movement. I don't know why, but for some reason I don't get bored doing her workouts the way I tend to get fed up with most other things I've tried. There's a lot of varied movement and it works muscle groups I like to work (although of course like most good workouts it aims at all of them). At least for me, I'd rather do a few miles of a Sansone workout (the workouts count your steps and add them up to miles) than do an elliptical or treadmill. Of course, you have to buy the videos, although I think if you have Silverlight you can preview some at Gaiam's Website, if it sounds like it might be something worth looking at.
(Unsolicited Advice II)
I'd set a smaller goal than 50 lbs. It's a good longer term goal, and I know males lose weight faster than females, but I'd also suggest setting a shorter term goal like 5 or 10 lbs, with a small reward at those milestones.
(/unsolicited advice)
That's good advice DQ. I have tried several videos and some of the Wii games but they don't hold my interest for very long. What does hold my interest is going for walks with my friends or some activity like basketball or soccer or swimming even though I suck at the first two. I still enjoy them. It's just hard finding time that my friends and I are off at the same time and that the weather is cooperative. I've tried going to a gym for those things and I have anxiety attacks so I stay away from the gyms now. I need to find ways to make this work. I have things I enjoy. I just can't seem to do them. I work a lot of 10 hour shifts so I'm usually very tired when I get home.
The 50 pound mark is from my friends. For me, I look for 10 pounds. I was treating myself to something sweet but with my new meds, that has been a problem so I need to figure something else out. I've mostly been happy just bragging that I've lost the weight. I don't get to brag about much very often (I'm not a braggart no matter how well I do).
As we go into winter, it's going to be harder but my new meds make it so I don't enjoy eating as much as I used to so hopefully I won't feel like I'm hungry all the time. That was my biggest problem for a long time. I could eat a full meal and then feel like I was ready for more within 30 minutes or so. I don't have those cravings anymore. There are days when I have to force myself to eat. I'm diabetic so I can't just skip meals regularly. That could cause all kinds of glucose problems.