Mark Hoover 330 |
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Co-parenting with the person I co-parent with... sucks.
I started writing a novel. I'm not going to bother. I'm just becoming a broken record at this point. Suffice it to say my 16 yr old was happy when she left to go mow her mom's lawn; she came home crying, slamming doors and screaming about how she NEVER wants to go back to her mom's house again.
All of this b/c, if I understand the situation from both sides correctly, my daughter agreed to mow the lawn a little over a week ago, then put it off, then told her mom yesterday she didn't want to do it anymore, and my ex got peeved at the "disrespect."
Of course she didn't want to. My daughter is 16, there's a pandemic, she can barely leave the house, and this weekend has been the first time in several weeks her best friend is avail.
For anyone reading this: be aware of the person you have children with. Be conscious of them, and how your lives will intertwine. Carefully analyze every good and bad way this person interacts with conflict in general and specifically when dealing with people who are in some way dependent on them.
If this person reveals that they often purposely take advantage of those people dependent on them, manipulate situations to make themselves appear as the superior, and demand respect without offering the same measure of it in return, factor that into your final decision to share in the parenting of a human being with them.
Sorry for the rant. I know... KNOW, that this is getting annoyingly repetitive. I will keep this crud off the boards going forward.
CrystalSeas |
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I know... KNOW, that this is getting annoyingly repetitive. I will keep this crud off the boards going forward.
Nah.
Parenting is hard enough when you can effectively double-team the kid.
When you're parenting from two different rulebooks, it's almost impossible.
While we can't be on your team, we can certainly be cheerleaders and fans.
Just let us know when you need enough noise to drown out the other coach's comments.
CrystalSeas |
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Just remember...
** spoiler omitted **
"Here's your money, Charlie Brown"
Hee, hee, hee, hee, hee
Limeylongears |
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Co-parenting with the person I co-parent with... sucks.
I started writing a novel. I'm not going to bother. I'm just becoming a broken record at this point. Suffice it to say my 16 yr old was happy when she left to go mow her mom's lawn; she came home crying, slamming doors and screaming about how she NEVER wants to go back to her mom's house again.
All of this b/c, if I understand the situation from both sides correctly, my daughter agreed to mow the lawn a little over a week ago, then put it off, then told her mom yesterday she didn't want to do it anymore, and my ex got peeved at the "disrespect."
Of course she didn't want to. My daughter is 16, there's a pandemic, she can barely leave the house, and this weekend has been the first time in several weeks her best friend is avail.
For anyone reading this: be aware of the person you have children with. Be conscious of them, and how your lives will intertwine. Carefully analyze every good and bad way this person interacts with conflict in general and specifically when dealing with people who are in some way dependent on them.
If this person reveals that they often purposely take advantage of those people dependent on them, manipulate situations to make themselves appear as the superior, and demand respect without offering the same measure of it in return, factor that into your final decision to share in the parenting of a human being with them.
Sorry for the rant. I know... KNOW, that this is getting annoyingly repetitive. I will keep this crud off the boards going forward.
The same thing (more or less) is happening with my other half and her ex-husband.
We have your back, my lad.
Mark Hoover 330 |
Sha Rothschild: watching for my bill in the mail!
She's in therapy and my ex and I regularly check in with her doctor. We've been advised by professionals not to shame or blame, to be supportive and HOW to do that, and so on.
My ex, on a recent Zoom session, literally rolled her eyes at some of the directives.
How do I co-parent with that? How do I help, guide and support this fragile gift in my care into healthy, responsible adult life while trying not to damage her any more than I did by getting divorced in the first place, only to have my co-parent disregard every safety measure we're supposed to be trying?
What's worse, how do I as an adult myself reason with someone who has open contempt and disrespect for my role in co-parenting, believing THEIR way to be superior to mine and everyone else's?
Sha-Dawg, I know we just slipped into a double-billing situation. Just let me know what I owe you.
captain yesterday |
So, I'm wearing my bedazzled veil (which is apparently what spies use to blend in with the locals, deep cover (in fairness, it is Appalachia) and I find this golf course, so I'm like, sweet, I'll rampage through here on my way to the sword thingy. Except all the ghouls are way outside my level range, as in I'm level 15 and they're level 62! Seriously?! What. The. F@#%.
It's like I'm playing Oblivion all over again.
Thankfully, the kids declared tonight to be Harry Potter movie night so I was able to stop before getting too frustrated.
Celestial Healer |
So, I'm wearing my bedazzled veil (which is apparently what spies use to blend in with the locals, deep cover (in fairness, it is Appalachia) and I find this golf course, so I'm like, sweet, I'll rampage through here on my way to the sword thingy. Except all the ghouls are way outside my level range, as in I'm level 15 and they're level 62! Seriously?! What. The. F!$~.
It's like I'm playing Oblivion all over again.
Thankfully, the kids declared tonight to be Harry Potter movie night so I was able to stop before getting too frustrated.
Yes - the ghouls of Whitespring are not for you, padawan.
You have two choices: wait to seek out that sword at a later level, or grab a stealthboy and sneak around those bastards.
Woran |
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Sha Rothschild: watching for my bill in the mail!
** spoiler omitted **
Sha-Dawg, I know we just slipped into a double-billing situation. Just let me know what I owe you.
I have no idea how its done in america. But here, when the kids turn 18, they are concidered adults and can choose when they want to see a partent. (this also helps because they might be off to college and not be able to meet the visitation sceculde).
So maybe keep holding on and strike off the days on the calendar untill she's 18?
captain yesterday |
captain yesterday wrote:So, I'm wearing my bedazzled veil (which is apparently what spies use to blend in with the locals, deep cover (in fairness, it is Appalachia) and I find this golf course, so I'm like, sweet, I'll rampage through here on my way to the sword thingy. Except all the ghouls are way outside my level range, as in I'm level 15 and they're level 62! Seriously?! What. The. F!$~.
It's like I'm playing Oblivion all over again.
Thankfully, the kids declared tonight to be Harry Potter movie night so I was able to stop before getting too frustrated.
Yes - the ghouls of Whitespring are not for you, padawan.
You have two choices: wait to seek out that sword at a later level, or grab a stealthboy and sneak around those bastards.
I do have a couple of stealthboys, but stealth really isn't my thing and they'll definitely know someone's there when they suddenly start getting shotgunned in the face.
I should probably just go see what the mayor of Grafton wants.
Also, this guy joined my team yesterday, gave me a chainsaw I couldn't use (yet) and promptly started following me around shooting me asking me if I could hear them.
People are weird.
lisamarlene |
Mark Hoover 330 wrote:Sha Rothschild: watching for my bill in the mail!
** spoiler omitted **
Sha-Dawg, I know we just slipped into a double-billing situation. Just let me know what I owe you.
I have no idea how its done in america. But here, when the kids turn 18, they are concidered adults and can choose when they want to see a partent. (this also helps because they might be off to college and not be able to meet the visitation sceculde).
So maybe keep holding on and strike off the days on the calendar untill she's 18?
Pretty much yes.
When we were in high school, I ended up living with my dad in Florida because I was weak-willed and I hoped the mental, physical and emotional abuse would stop if I said yes. (Spoiler: it didn't.) Eve was stronger and said she wanted to stay with Mom in California. Every time they saw each other, he both beat her and browbeat her to try to convince her to follow me, and eventually she got a restraining order against him. She didn't see him again until my graduation from college. After that, she didn't see him again until my wedding. Both instances highly supervised.
lisamarlene |
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The Trove is dangerous.
This morning, I discovered there is not only an Amber RPG book, but also a visual guide to Castle Amber with maps of every floor and every apartment, and illustrations and descriptions of all of the trumps in the family deck of cards.
Of course I downloaded it immediately.
I will probably never use it, and I don't care. It exists; therefore, I must have it.
It helps that it costs me nothing but hard drive space.
Yes, Amber will always be my guilty indulgence. It's like Hostess Ding Dongs. Or chili dogs topped with Que Bueno at NH and Gothbard's house.
Drejk |
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The Trove is dangerous.
This morning, I discovered there is not only an Amber RPG book, but also a visual guide to Castle Amber with maps of every floor and every apartment, and illustrations and descriptions of all of the trumps in the family deck of cards.
Of course I downloaded it immediately.
I will probably never use it, and I don't care. It exists; therefore, I must have it.
It helps that it costs me nothing but hard drive space.
Yes, Amber will always be my guilty indulgence. It's like Hostess Ding Dongs. Or chili dogs topped with Que Bueno at NH and Gothbard's house.
I am still angry on Roger Iron for dying before writing more... :(
*Żelazny surname means (of) Iron (adjective, masculine form), though Roger used anglicized form, replacing Polish ż (which is like 'j' in French) with z.
Limeylongears |
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Freehold DM wrote:Its old DC RPGs for me. Terrible system, but perfectly researched each character and their powers and flaws.Palladium Books RPGs for me, I can't help myself.
I've been reading through the player's handbook (or equivalent thereof), for some reason. I have no idea how they selected the names for the alignments/types of magic users, as they only occasionally make sense.
Limeylongears |
Tequila Sunrise |
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Freehold DM wrote:Its old DC RPGs for me. Terrible system, but perfectly researched each character and their powers and flaws.Palladium Books RPGs for me, I can't help myself.
Back in the 90s as a kid/teen, I was under the mistaken assumption that all D&D supplements were part of some cohesive whole, that there was an overarching vision of the D&D multiverse, and so of course I had to have them all.
lisamarlene |
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What am I listening to right now?
I though it'd be incredible, but it isn't. Even Michael McDonald can't save it.
Oh my goodness. When I was, what, twelve? That was played so often on the only radio station in my hometown that it actually made me wish (fleetingly) that they'd go back to their usual format of "All Anne Murray and Neil Diamond, all the time!"
I've never understood the appeal of McDonald's voice, but then, I was never into the Doobies, Steely Dan, or the whole "yacht rock" scene. (My father-in-law almost disowned me when I admitted I didn't "get" Steely Dan.)
I always assumed that this song, like the entire Sade catalog, was designed for yuppies to make out to while doing lines of coke off glass-topped coffee tables in their condos.
Freehold DM |
Limeylongears wrote:What am I listening to right now?
I though it'd be incredible, but it isn't. Even Michael McDonald can't save it.
Oh my goodness. When I was, what, twelve? That was played so often on the only radio station in my hometown that it actually made me wish (fleetingly) that they'd go back to their usual format of "All Anne Murray and Neil Diamond, all the time!"
I've never understood the appeal of McDonald's voice, but then, I was never into the Doobies, Steely Dan, or the whole "yacht rock" scene. (My father-in-law almost disowned me when I admitted I didn't "get" Steely Dan.)
I always assumed that this song, like the entire Sade catalog, was designed for yuppies to make out to while doing lines of coke off glass-topped coffee tables in their condos.
I love Sade...
The Vagrant Erudite |
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captain yesterday wrote:Back in the 90s as a kid/teen, I was under the mistaken assumption that all D&D supplements were part of some cohesive whole, that there was an overarching vision of the D&D multiverse, and so of course I had to have them all.Freehold DM wrote:Its old DC RPGs for me. Terrible system, but perfectly researched each character and their powers and flaws.Palladium Books RPGs for me, I can't help myself.
Sort of true, if you buy into the idea that every multiverse, somewhere, connects to the city of Sigil in Planescape somehow.
I once had a team go from Forgotten Realms to Dragonlance by traveling through there.
Vidmaster7 |
Are we talking about the strangest RPG systems that we have played? Monte cooks World of darkness d20 edition. Werewolfs started at 1st level with a +3 BAB. It was the white wolf lore put into the D20 rules set and it was weird.
AS far as the DC roleplayeing game are you talking about the one from Green Ronnin that is molded after their Mutants and masterminds rules?
Freehold DM |
Are we talking about the strangest RPG systems that we have played? Monte cooks World of darkness d20 edition. Werewolfs started at 1st level with a +3 BAB. It was the white wolf lore put into the D20 rules set and it was weird.
AS far as the DC roleplayeing game are you talking about the one from Green Ronnin that is molded after their Mutants and masterminds rules?
No the original Mayfair rpg.
Nylarthotep |
What kind of telegaming medium does everyone prefer? Roll 20? Zoom meetings? A Ouija board? I need to get my games going again and none of my players are willing to do so in person, nor are any of them willing to commit to spending even more time on screens than they have to. However a couple have expressed a grudging acceptance of this new reality and have asked me to research different platforms.
My group has tried a variety of things. We found the layer system of roll20 to be challenging. In fairness, we did not give it much of a chance (just one session and not much homework done before hand with youtube to learn how best to use it).
Another GM has had better luck with Fantasy Grounds. He watched a lot of youtube videos on how to set it up and use it. He started with prepared material (Descent in Avernus and Extinction Curse) and now is doing his own PF2 conversion of Carrion Crown on this platform. They still use Discord for voice. They find this acceptable. I am not participating for reasons mostly unrelated to the platform. As some have noted, this does require a license for everyone, or one big one for the GM. There are frequently sales or discount codes for the big license, but it is still three digits I think.
I am seeing good stuff from Vorpal Board, which is closing out its beta and releasing sometime in september. This likewise requires a monthly subscription, but it is pretty cheap and only one person needs it. It has built in voice and dice roller and cameras to show battle mat or 3D landscape. Players can control a pointer through a mouse to point to stuff on shared screen. Some good examples are being shown on the dwarven forge twitch streams.
My personal build is cameras over my play space fed into OBS (although xsplit works well too), then screen shared in discord. No built in gaming tools (dice rollers, character trackers), and requires the host (me) to move miniatures around per player direction, but that is not a big deal and feels closer to normal gaming. Also for higher level PF stuff, we have all the rules on hero lab, but not on FG...so maybe a bit better for that.