I have relationships and friendships with out D&D being a part of it. But all my lovers and my good friends know I play D&D and surf.
Yah know I have used, "Yahh wanna learn to surf?" as a pick up line; but never "Yahh wanna play D&D?"
Also, thier are some real geeky surfers. Surfing like D&D attract obsessive people (Thats me). Either you play D&D or you don't, either you surf or you don't. But surfing is sexy, D&D isn't. Maybe what paizo should do is sponsor the hotest gamers of the year calendar. You know take a step in making D&D sexy like surfing.
Hehe who i'm I kidding
Aloha
sir K
See, what you need is a chick that likes to surf, or is willing to learn how to. :P
I met her.., (sigh) but it was only in a dream.
I find her in the waking world, I'll let you know when we get married.
Ok this one is easy. I've been a gamer for Ohh 25 years or so and have been ridiculously happy in my only marriage of 14 years. I think the first time my wife found out I had 'geekish' tendencies is when I left her apartment (meet because I lived above her) and she asked me what I was going to go do. I said I was going to go paint. She said "you paint pictures" No I don't "paint pictures" She says I said it with distain. I meant miniatures. She to this day, does not play but does not think me a geek or weird or anything else wrong with my hobby. I don¡¦t hold her not playing against her nor does she hold the time I spend at my hobbies against me.
I have done some fantasy things with her (not gonna tell you about those ļ) but in bed sometimes I used to read to her before she went to sleep. Fantasy books live Salvator, Hickman and Wise, and some others. I sometimes make up a story with her as the main character. Asking her what she wanted to look like and explain it in detail. Sometimes it was romantic and other times she was the hero.
If she¡¦s not interested then it¡¦s ok. To keep her after you have her, make sure you¡¦re a part of her life not that she¡¦s only in yours. Keep constant contact. Show her she¡¦s the most special thing in your life. Make time for her and your hobbies. Don¡¦t be a butthead and force her into playing. Make sure that all the time you have with her is special for both of you. Let her know you lover her with words and deeds. So she¡¦ll never even mind if you play because she knows you¡¦re not only in love with her but your there for her. If you love each other it won¡¦t matter. Leaving books, magazines, and DVDs around is a good segue into it but be up front. Women hate liars the most. Tell her. I liked one forums suggestions the most, board game and acting. An escape from work and harder realities. It¡¦s a great release.
John Governale
Co-Owner of LovingReconnections.com
Gamer for 25+ years
Hi, I¡¦m the wife. I really don¡¦t see why it¡¦s such a problem or such a hard thing to share. For me its one of the things John does it does not define who he is. As long as we can share time together and he not a selfish a@~@*#@ about it, (and he never has been) I¡¦m thankful he has an outlet for his creativity, imagination. It also helps him to distress. (a distressed husband is a wonderful thing to have). It allows him time with our son while them both enjoying the play. I feel blessed that this is one of hobbies there are a lot worse ways he could be spending his time and enjoying himself. You have to learn how to share that includes your time. Good luck.
Joann Governale
Co-Owner of LovingReconnections.com
Wife of gamer for almost 17 years
Amazing... I must have been lucky or must show my 'geek tendencies' more than I think. Then again, I work with computers, read sc-fi and fantasy, watch star wars, start trek, Babylon 5, firefly, Dr. Who and anime. That might be a dead give away.
My fiancee (wife in 50 days and counting)knew this from the start and was fine with it. She even tried a few games with me and decided it wasn't her thing. But she has her hobbies and I have mine and we're fine with that.
Before her most of my girlfriends were always interested in trying it. Some I even met through gaming. But any girl who has ever laughed becuase I played was left standing in the dirt. Love me, love my 10th level rogue, as I always say.
If you want to talk about lucky, my wife (coming up on the 2 year anniversary in 11 days) was already a gamer and into video games and anime before we even met. She is the one currently working the hardest to get more gamers for our group. But what makes this story even better, is that we met on an internet chat room like 5 years ago and I moved half-way across the country for her ;)
How to tell your girl (or guy maybe) that you play D&D
Just tell her!
but under no circumstances should you let her see the following movies:
D&D the Movie (For generally sucking beyond all human endurance)
Mazes & Monster (80s reacionary nonsense from the BADD crowd)
Fear of Girls (you should watch it because its funny but she wouldnt get it and it might put her right off geeks)
but under no circumstances should you let her see the following movies:
D&D the Movie (For generally sucking beyond all human endurance)
Mazes & Monster (80s reacionary nonsense from the BADD crowd)
Fear of Girls (you should watch it because its funny but she wouldnt get it and it might put her right off geeks)
D&D the movie: The thing that should not be. A friend bought that DVD, we watched it, and he offered it to me. I killed him and buried him behind a pizzeria.
Not to be a contrarian, but I actually got a girl into playing D&D after we watched Mazes and Monsters. I don't know a single person who was actually afraid to play after that movie. If anything it had us all out trying to find cave systems to get ourselves killed in.
Icefalcon- OK... that's damn lucky.
Nermal- My fiancee bought me the D&D movie. She came home happy and smiling "Look honey! I know how much you love D&D so look what I got you!"
I didn't have the heart to tell her...
Atleast the second movie much better then the first one. I recommend it for a good laugh and to get the taste of the first movie out of your mouth. I have hopes that the third movie will actually be up to par with our current day movie standards.
Oh yeah in the second movie, Watch the rogue closely in the scene with the Mage and her familiar, its the funniest thing ever...
Atleast the second movie much better then the first one. I recommend it for a good laugh and to get the taste of the first movie out of your mouth. I have hopes that the third movie will actually be up to par with our current day movie standards.
Oh yeah in the second movie, Watch the rogue closely in the scene with the Mage and her familiar, its the funniest thing ever...
Agreed! #2 was better, and the scene with familiar made my entire gaming group guffaw.
Maybe what paizo should do is sponsor the hotest gamers of the year calendar.
It wasn't going to be gaming related, but I did have plans to make a calendar with a friend of mine. I believe "Twelve Months of Passion" was going to be the name and my pseudonym was going to be "Thud Mancake". Thud Mancake cuddling a kitten for Teen Beat. Thud Mancake in cut off jeans and sweat bands washing my '91 Ford Contour. Uh Oh! Captured by Pirates! How will Thud Mancake escape?!
...
Maybe it's a good thing we didn't make this calendar.
Icefalcon- OK... that's damn lucky.
Nermal- My fiancee bought me the D&D movie. She came home happy and smiling "Look honey! I know how much you love D&D so look what I got you!"
I didn't have the heart to tell her...
ROFL man thats classic bro!!
I have hopes that the third movie will actually be up to par with our current day movie standards.
No. Not going to happen. There's about as much chance of the third one being good as there is that the Earth suddenly implodes with no scientific reason whatsoever. Which is to say, none, zero, zip, nadda, nil, etc.
Well, when I get a girlfriend, I'm hoping it will be someone who already knows this.
Alternatively, I go a lot of drama, so I can just say it's like that.
Maybe what paizo should do is sponsor the hotest gamers of the year calendar.It wasn't going to be gaming related, but I did have plans to make a calendar with a friend of mine. I believe "Twelve Months of Passion" was going to be the name and my pseudonym was going to be "Thud Mancake". Thud Mancake cuddling a kitten for Teen Beat. Thud Mancake in cut off jeans and sweat bands washing my '91 Ford Contour. Uh Oh! Captured by Pirates! How will Thud Mancake escape?!
...
Maybe it's a good thing we didn't make this calendar.
Hey! I was going to do a calendar under the "nom de plum" Burly Manly.
Seriously though, one of my good friends who owns a game shop is still planning on putting out a 2007 calendar of some of his female customers. He came up with this plan a few months ago and so far has gotten four women to pose for the calendar. He even did a radio spot for his shop for using the whole "hot chicks come to my game shop" tip.
I think the real question here is:
How do I tell my D&D group that you have a girlfriend or boyfriend?
How do you explain to your fellow nerds what you are doing in your room with that other person.
Does it involve DICE?
What do you mean you two indulge in role-play without dice... you don't want to sound like a LARPer to your regular D&D group do you?
Pfft. Explaining D&D to potential mates is easy.
Its Improv, with Dice. If you wish to learn more, come and play.
If not no big deal, not every couple has to game. And not every game needs a couple.
Lol Kherzial; hehe thanks for sharing that; did you have to sit down and watch the movie :)
I remember when I a friend of mine was going to introduce me to the woman who became my wife; one of the things he said was; She plays d&d with my wife and owns the box set. :)
Most girls will let you have a night off for games with you buds if they know your not out drinking and carousing; we have the games at my house and my wife doesnt care as long as nobody tries to tell her their lousy gaming stories; I think it is the gaming stories not the game that gives us such a bad wrap; I would wonder what this girl you are talking about knows about the game; maybe she has played, maybe not; would be easier to play if she was a video gamer; then you just tell her its like a video game where you play and decide the actions without any script or animation.
Next time you are telling a gaming story and some woman starts asking about it juts tell her that its a new soap opera that she has never heard of that everyone else is watching but her.
Agreed! #2 was better, and the scene with familiar made my entire gaming group guffaw.Atleast the second movie much better then the first one. I recommend it for a good laugh and to get the taste of the first movie out of your mouth. I have hopes that the third movie will actually be up to par with our current day movie standards.
Oh yeah in the second movie, Watch the rogue closely in the scene with the Mage and her familiar, its the funniest thing ever...
I disagree. The first movie sucked, the second was far worse and licked balls as well. Occasionally thier would be references to old D&D modules "Remember what we did in the 'Shrine of the Kua-toa." I think they also mention the Ghost Tower of Inverness. But except for the bad guy no one in that movie could act. Even though the first D&D movie was lame, they had real actors who could act .
I think the real question here is:
How do I tell my D&D group that you have a girlfriend or boyfriend?
I have a habit of dropping my game night for women. That has angered some of my fellow gamers when it happens. But I'm not the only one, I just have the keys for the place we play. So if I don't show no one plays. If I get a date on game night, I'm dropping the game, my gaming group will always love me(I hope). Real life can be an adventure go for the real adventure when the opportunity is there and save the fantasy for later.
Vale- Oh yeah. Had to sit through the whole thing. In the end she even said... "Wow, I expected so much more from Dungeons and Dragons than, well... THAT."