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Just wanted to touch base for those of you who messaged me re:books and such. All the packages are out the door now, so you should see them shortly. However, many were sent via Australia Post, who I know hand off to the USPS, so who knows how long it will take in transit given current dramas. (Please DM me or something when they arrive, so I can tick them off!)
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You’ll be the first to know!
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Just wanted to touch base for those of you who messaged me re:books and such. All the packages are out the door now, so you should see them shortly. However, many were sent via Australia Post, who I know hand off to the USPS, so who knows how long it will take in transit given current dramas. (Please DM me or something when they arrive, so I can tick them off!)
I didn't know that you live in Australia! I promise not to be too jealous.
We’ve taken a depressing turn in the last thirty years. Still a great place to live though, no doubt about it. :)
Ugh. It's been years since this happened to me, but I've been struggling with depression in the last couple of months. I don't really have any "excuse" this time around and it feels like I should be able to snap out of it. My life is pretty darn good by any standards. Sadly, it doesn't work like that. :/
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Ugh. It's been years since this happened to me, but I've been struggling with depression in the last couple of months. I don't really have any "excuse" this time around and it feels like I should be able to snap out of it. My life is pretty darn good by any standards. Sadly, it doesn't work like that. :/
Yep, depression doesn't work like that. So sorry it's hit you again.
Sometimes those people live in my head and the instructions are in the form of "I should" followed by feelings of guilt and anxiety. Sometimes I give myself advice left over from childhood, when I had far less agency than I do now.
In that situation, it's good for me to ask myself "Who told you that?" and "Is it true, kind, and beneficial right now?" Being kind includes being kind to ourselves.
You'll get through this, and we're here to help.
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Ugh. It's been years since this happened to me, but I've been struggling with depression in the last couple of months. I don't really have any "excuse" this time around and it feels like I should be able to snap out of it. My life is pretty darn good by any standards. Sadly, it doesn't work like that. :/
Whenever I say that I should or shouldn't be able to do something my therapist likes to tell me that I'm shoulding all over myself.
There is a lot going on in the world that is mentally taxing and exhausting. Things like this worldwide pandemic and civil unrest in one of the largest and most influential free nations brings up emotions that I don't think we understand how to handle.
Depression doesn't care about what your life is like. It does what it does. What we have to remember is that it's part of a chemical imbalance as well as emotions. We can address the chemical imbalance through medication if that's necessary. We can address the emotional issues by challenging our thoughts and making sure that we are having accurate thoughts. Note that I am not saying that we have happy thoughts. Sometimes things are accurate and sad. That's ok. We can deal with that once we have the accurate thought.
Reach out to those whom you trust. Talk about things. Even the stupid little things that you may think shouldn't be an issue. If it's affecting you, then it's an issue. Address those things as best you can.
You can always reach out to me. I believe that you have my email. If not, I can give it to you. I would be more than happy to chat with you through video chat if that's what you would like also. I can also chat over the phone if that's an option. I'm here for you.
Thankyou, Cindy. Thanks Rysky. I can use them.
It hasn't hit me for years, but whenever I used to struggle with depression I always found the first thing I do is to cut myself off from any community or social groups that bring me pleasure. I'm struggling to stay connected, but whenever I browse paizo.com or RPG twitter, all I see are the ugly bits. It's like I deliberately sabotage myself to make sure there's nobody around to give any hope. :(
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Thankyou, Cindy. Thanks Rysky. I can use them.
It hasn't hit me for years, but whenever I used to struggle with depression I always found the first thing I do is to cut myself off from any community or social groups that bring me pleasure. I'm struggling to stay connected, but whenever I browse paizo.com or RPG twitter, all I see are the ugly bits. It's like I deliberately sabotage myself to make sure there's nobody around to give any hope. :(
There are currently only 2 things I look at regularly here. This thread and the Order of the Stick. Otherwise I don't really do much else here anymore.
I avoid Twitter. It's just not a healthy place for me to be.
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Thankyou, Cindy. Thanks Rysky. I can use them.
It hasn't hit me for years, but whenever I used to struggle with depression I always found the first thing I do is to cut myself off from any community or social groups that bring me pleasure. I'm struggling to stay connected, but whenever I browse paizo.com or RPG twitter, all I see are the ugly bits. It's like I deliberately sabotage myself to make sure there's nobody around to give any hope. :(
I noticed that the first things I do not find time for when I go depressed are exactly the things that would help me get better.
Depression is good at keeping us under its sway.
What I noticed also is that the depression after all is said and done is always shorter and less deep than the previous one.
You will get better.
And keep on sharing here. All the extra super nice and great people on this thread will help anyway they can.
Just as you will help us one of these days ;-)
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Sometimes in our lives we all have pain
We all have sorrow
But if we are wise
We know that there's always tomorrow
Lean on me, when you're not strong
And I'll be your friend
I'll help you carry on
For it won't be long
'Til I'm gonna need
Somebody to lean on
(Bill Withers)
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I know this isn't really the thread for this, but I have been dealing with some depression myself due to work issues. Its gotten to the point that I am updating my resume and looking at talking to some people about things. It is important to note that things will get better, but it is easy to forget.
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This is too precious to keep to myself
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Should I be happy or upset when someone mansplains to me? On one hand it's great that they see me as a woman. On the other hand they can just f-off for being a misogynist.
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THE STRUGGLE
definitely a fun position to be in
“I feel validated! and also like murdering someone!”
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Gets in a fast hug before Rysky realizes what's happening.
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Five years ago, Sigma Phi Epsilon made history as the first fraternity to allow transmen to join
Sigma Phi Epsilon
By a unanimous vote of those in attendance, the Sigma Phi Epsilon National Board of Directors have officially opened up membership to people who identify as transgender.
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Student Director Sawyer J. Hicks explains that the fraternity is built “on the brotherhood and fellowship of men,” and this should no longer exclude those who self-identify as men, regardless of the gender they were given at birth.
Now one of their chapters is being sued by the national for admitting nonbinary people and women
Michigan Daily
The University’s chapter of Sigma Phi first started admitting women and non-binary members in 2016, according to Zangoulas. He said the decision came about after an initiated member later came out to the fraternity as transgender.
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Headline from today
The Root’s Live Election Blog, Prayer Circle and Dumpster Fire Watch Party
In the previous episode of this long-running reality show, the villain, played exquisitely by veteran reality show veteran Donald J Trump, played a racist dog whistle as an uncontrolled coronavirus dumpster fire killed more than 200,000 Americans. Meanwhile, Joseph Robinette Biden appeared out of nowhere to save the country.
Will our viewers vote the villain off the island or will America end in flames?
The Root’s Senior Politics Editor Stephen Crockett, Senior Reporter Terrell Starr and Senior Writer Michael Harriot will bring you all the relevant plot twists and updates into the wee hours of the morning while trying their best to abstain from breaking open the brown liquor.
Stay tuned!
The Blog
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*offers margaritas to anyone who needs them*
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How do I love thee? Let me count the ways
Elizabeth Barrett Browning
Yesterday's wins, by state, then by jurisdiction
Colorado
State
Brianna Titone, the transgender lawmaker who was re-elected to Colorado’s 27th House District
Delaware
State
Sarah McBride, who will become the highest-ranking transgender official in the country after winning her Delaware state senate race
Florida
State
Michele Rayner-Goolsby became the first Black queer woman elected to Florida’s House of Representatives
Democrat Shevrin Jones became Florida’s first openly gay state senator.
Georgia
State
In Georgia, social justice advocate and Episcopal priest Kim Jackson First LGBTQ Georgia State Senator; One of Few Black LGBTQ Women Senators in the Country
Kansas
State
Stephanie Byers, who became the first transgender representative in the history of the Kansas state legislature after winning a seat in the state House.
New York
Federal
Democratic Reps.-elect Ritchie Torres and Mondaire Jones will become the first openly gay Black men to serve in Congress.
State
Jabari Brisport, a public school teacher and third-generation Caribbean-American, was elected to the New York state senate as the first-ever Black LGBTQ person elected to the New York state legislature,
Ohio
County
Charmaine McGuffey, who became both the first woman and the first open LGBTQ Sheriff in Hamilton County, Ohio
Oklahoma
State
Mauree Turner, who became the first openly non-binary person ever elected to a state legislature in the United States ( also becomes the first Muslim to ever serve in the state’s legislature)
Tennessee
State
29-year-old Torrey Harris became the youngest openly gay state lawmaker in the history of Nashville after beating out incumbent John Deberry in the race for a seat in Tennessee’s State House
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Not sure how many people here have played Celeste, but the creator just confirmed the main character is trans, and wrote a short article about it & general trans representation.
It's also a really good game if you like platformers. :)
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CEEEEEEELEBRATE GOOD NEWS,
COME ON!
IT'S A CELEBRA-SHYOWN
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Sorry for the hiatus... the 'essential' life is very draining.
Grats to all the folks with neato milestones.
Still holding my breath and allowing only a slight optimistic perspective on a potential resolution to national woes.
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Been about a week, hope people have been staying safe and sane out there.
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"No" means no, dang it!
If I'm required to respond a second time, it's going to be "Let's talk about all of your anxieties that are triggered by my saying 'no, thank you'," rather than discussing my feelings and decision processes.
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So I don't know if this is, like, even an appropriate venue to raise this, but I do manage a queer-focused gaming Discord server. It's kinda a safe space but we would really love to get some other LGBTQ+ people in to run some Society games too. I'll pop a link here - discord.gg/r6Qk6vf
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if it helps after getting your leg blown off, you limped up to the offender and fired every weapon you had at them.
So I don't know if this is, like, even an appropriate venue to raise this, but I do manage a queer-focused gaming Discord server. It's kinda a safe space but we would really love to get some other LGBTQ+ people in to run some Society games too. I'll pop a link here - discord.gg/r6Qk6vf
Looks great! A little too populated for my comfort level, but I liked what I saw when I popped in.
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Bad: I have three days, now, to complete three and a half reflection papers, a meaty quiz, a final paper revision, two projects(?)/homework of unknown but presumably major size with another quiz and a small paper on the side, and afterwards there's a months-late essay and a weeks-late resume to do. Last three days were spent almost entirely running from my problems on desperate autopilot. It's been over a year since I lacked something late lurking in the back of my mind and could relax without deluding myself. Mix of ADHD, addiction to distractions, and bad organization/time management leaves me wondering how I even got this far in college (the answer being a lot of luck and mercy). Coming back to this site to read obsessively despite a site-blocking app (inputting a relatively long string of random numbers and letters isn't enough deterrence) is just one component.
Good: at some point in the weeks I've spent away from my major social circles (specifically, October 26, the birthday of a very close friend who helped me), I learned just what flavor of trans I am and why, after months of questioning after years of noncommittal shrug and misconception, and friends in those major social circles and even two of my sisters already know, but the idea of coming back to those circles like this and being able to change how I live at home to something more fulfilling is just so nice. The idea of finally being able to relax again next month is so lovely, even though I know I'll still have things to do. I have hope that scary circumstances in the wider world won't turn out as poorly as was once feared. I learned more about the value of communication and practiced it with my teachers. I'm probably going to find a way to graduate and eventually find fitting work and find that life will continue even if I screw up this term or I beef the entire bid for a degree. I think I have enough strength to turn off my phone and get a little more work done today. I'm not alone no matter what. ~w~
Congrats on the new clarity!
That is a lot that is going on!
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This looks like an interesting movie
It’s interesting that the phrase you used was “what you could get away with.” I feel like there’s this pressure from the general bisexual community on the internet to do things “responsibly” in terms of representation and to avoid the bisexual stereotypes: that we’re flighty, we can’t make up our minds, we’re slutty. But Danielle gets to be all those things in Shiva Baby, just totally unapologetically bi.
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I got my new driver's license and when I put it beside my old one, I look like a completely different person. It's really weird. My name is legally changed with the state and the courts. I'm now just waiting for Social Security to finish their work and my name will be changed with them as well. Then I can start the incredibly slow and obnoxious journey of changing my name with each individual business, like the bank, work, credit cards, etc.
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Yay Cindy! That drivers license is a huge step forward.
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I had to take a picture of both licenses side by side to help me when I get dysphoric. The changes are so great that I look like a completely different person. It's incredible.
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For those that didn't see it in the news, introducing Elliot Page. Whishing him all the best for his transition and I am hoping that it will not hurt his career in movies. Looking forward to seeing more of his work.
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For those that didn't see it in the news, introducing Elliot Page. Whishing him all the best for his transition and I am hoping that it will not hurt his career in movies. Looking forward to seeing more of his work.
I love how the media has mostly reacted. Most of the headlines just simply stated that Elliot Page has come out as transgender and that he had roles in Umbrella Academy. They didn't deadname him. Sure, in the body of the article several mentioned his deadname, but for some of us that really helped identify him. I honestly didn't because I haven't seen most of his work.
I also love that IMDB, Wikipedia, Netflix, etc. had changed his name within a few hours. It was so fast. I'm so happy for him. I hope he continues to do well.