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For those who don't know Rebecca Heineman, wife of Jennell Jaquays, both trans women, both gamers, and both advocates for LGBTQ issues with a focus on transgender issues, has passed away due to cancer. They worked to ensure that LGBTQ Washingtonians had protections enshrined in law. Valhalla has gained another warrior.
We're in the middle of Ace Awareness Week. If you're Ace, you are welcome and valid! I don't see you because I don't know who you are, but if I did, I would see you!
This was announced a while ago, but the media definitely should be reminding people of this.
It's healthy to step back and consume less media, both social media and the news. Mute the excess noise around you. Obviously, we need to stay informed, but too much information will only make us more anxious and less likely to make safe, healthy, and wise decisions. For myself, I only get an hour of news in the morning and in the evening. I've deactivated Facebook (my primary social media) for the time being. Spend time with the people who love you and will be there for you. It's ok to cry. It's ok to be angry. It's ok to be happy. Emotions are completely normal. It's how we process those emotions that matter. Also, if you have a therapist, please, reach out to them. Stay safe everyone.
I just got my amended birth certificate with my corrected name and sex! It came 2 weeks before my birthday!
It was "whatever version he had", I didn't look at the box or anything for details since he was hosting and handling all the "here's how to play" introduction that I had to focus all my attention on. Did you enjoy it?
That's awesome! Also, do you have the latest version of Paperback? It's one of my favorite games!
A while ago, I met a guy and we became friends. I asked him if he wanted to date and he politely declined. We remained friends. Today, he reached out to me and said that he is open to it now. I never lost interest in him. I just respected his boundaries and didn't push. He respected mine as well. This is why I don't believe the friendzone is a real thing. It's arbitrary. People talk about it like it's some sort of punishment. We were friends first. We remained friends. I see no reason why we won't remain friends if things don't progress. He's still a really great guy and I'm a really great woman.
With Pride Month coming to a close, did anyone do anything to celebrate? I was going to head out to Seattle Pride on Sunday, but I may not be able to go. You have made a difference in my life. It may not seem like a lot, but I look forward to your commentary whenever I come online. I wasn't able to go unfortunately. My friend had to put her cat down and needed some support.
With Pride Month coming to a close, did anyone do anything to celebrate? I was going to head out to Seattle Pride on Sunday, but I may not be able to go.
Awesome!
My heart goes out to Tristan Kern de Gonzales, the husband of Jonathan Joss.
May you all have a safe and happy Pride month!
It's been a while since we've had people in here flagging posts for being pro-LGBTQ. Thank you for cleaning house. I wish that it wasn't needed.
It was definitely a victory in the fact that only TERFs were allowed to give their side of things. Trans people were not given the opportunity. That tells me where the court is leaning for future trans issues.
It may have been a narrow ruling, but it can still have a huge impact on the safety of trans people. That's especially true because the people who fought against equal rights for trans people are funded by JK Rowling, who has a lot of money. They are claiming victory right now.
It took me all day to realize that you were talking about Transgender Day of Visiblity! I even spent the day in a few AMAs and it still didn't dawn on me until 1030 PM. I feel dumb.
Today, I'm mailing off the paperwork required to change my birth certificate to match my legal name and correct gender. I'm so worried that I screwed up the paperwork and it will be denied. I'm also now wrestling with the fact that, as soon as this goes through, if my step mom find out (and she probably will because she keeps up on genealogy stuff) that I will not see my immediate family again, with the exception of my brother. This is definitely another one-way trip in my journey. It's terrifying, but it's also what I need to do. Yes, even in our 50s, we want to be loved and accepted by our parents.
That's very unexpected and good news!
It's going to be challenged in the courts. There's no way that this wouldn't throw things into chaos. It would mean that some people are allowed to get a passport and not others based on the state they were born in. I'm in the process of changing my birth certificate. I know many who have. There are states that don't allow for it. I have no idea how the SCROTUS would rule, but allowing it to stand would throw things into chaos for people. It would impact intersex people as well. It could also throw things off if parents just decide to put gender neutral on a birth certificate at birth.
Welcome, Josephine! I also have to inject. It's annoying to stab myself once a week, but it's the safer and easier method for me. Just to give you a head's up, you will get a burst of hormones and they will slowly fade until your next injection. Expect your emotions to ramp up the first day or so after injecting. My bestie tells me that it's like I'm having my period every week!That sounds like quite a trial. Worth it though! I had to learn how to deal with it and I spent (coincidentally) the last few years learning about emotion regulation. I still feel the fluctuations and cry often at small things, but it doesn't cripple me like it did initially.
Welcome, Josephine! I also have to inject. It's annoying to stab myself once a week, but it's the safer and easier method for me. Just to give you a head's up, you will get a burst of hormones and they will slowly fade until your next injection. Expect your emotions to ramp up the first day or so after injecting. My bestie tells me that it's like I'm having my period every week!
I'm one step closer to bottom surgery! I need 80% of the hair permanently removed before I can be put on the long list. Today, I hit that 80%! I sent a message to my surgeon and now I wait.
You can also speak with the insurance and see if they prefer it in a different form.
Woo! Doctor visit went well, she took the news of me transitioning well, approved me for spiro and recommended a closer-to-home endo in case I need in-person visits that I wouldn't need to drive three hours for. That's awesome!
That's awesome! I have limiations also because of health concerns. I can say that once I got going on things, my dysphoria got better. It doesn't go away, but it does get better. I needed to also get more focused therapy to help. CBT and DBT are game changers when it comes to therapy. They take a lot of work, but they are worth it.
I live in a very liberal state and I couldn't get my estrogen or spironolactone until I was evaluated by a therapist. That took a few sessions. I was able to get my HRT pretty quickly after that.
When I started, honestly the best support I wanted was the non-hostile apathy. I really didn't want a big fuss about it. I just wanted people to respect my journey and treat me the same way they always have.
My health care and disability income are going to be taken away. I live in Washington state. We have a lot of protections, until the Supreme Court decides that we don't. I fully expect them to make things worse. My medical care and disability are federally funded so my health care can be taken away by the next administration. He did it before. This time, I expect Congress to enshrine it into law.
In slightly better news, apparently PP in KS does do telehealth for gender-affirming therapy and treatment, so I won't have to drive for two hours to visit them in person. I'll need to see about picking up a webcam while I'm out at therapy tonight. If you are on Facebook, there's a group you can join called Buy Nothing. Someone might have a webcam to gift you.
My health care and disability income are going to be taken away.
I will probably be gone for quite some time. Today's election has shown me that my own country doesn't want me around. I need to figure things out.
I don't think that it's as simple as [insert trans thing here]. I know a lot of cis people who enjoy exploring their gender, but they are still very much cis. They may wear skirts sometimes, but they still identify as male or they may wear makeup, but are still male. They may be AFAB, but wear mostly men's clothing because it's more comfortable and they dislike makeup, and work on cars, etc, but are still very much women.
That's all great news (except your transphobic family)! Remember that we don't need labels for ourselves. They are to help others. I'm still working on figuring out which labels apply to me, but I've learned to accept myself for myself without them. It's been so much easier for me.
Seriously? They know that they are attacking people who can't afford to fight this. It's outrageous.
Happy Bisexual Awareness Month to all who celebrate! Remember that you have to have at least two parties this month!
I'm doing ok. I just celebrated my 53rd birthday! We planned on going to a water park, but the weather decided that we should do something indoors so we watched Deadpool & Wolverine instead.
On Friday, June 21st, I have an appointment for a consultation for bottom surgery! I've been waiting more than a year for this! It's only the consultation, so I suspect it's still a year away for the actual surgery. This is such a great thing to happen during Pride month!
I don't recall us ever having any beef, but if so, it's in the past. Welcome to our little club! We all have had to grow over time. I used to be homophobic, transphobic, racist, misogynistic, etc., but I've grown a lot. I came to realizr that I didn't know I was those things, and I'm a trans woman. I still make mistakes because I'm always growing. That's what makes us become better people in the end. Welcome!
That's awesome! I'm still waiting for my consultation. I've been waiting for about a year already. Let us know how things go!
And now the day where we can disappear if we wish to with two simple words. :) John Cena?
PEOPLE! SO MANY PEOPLE VISIBLE TO ME! MORESO THAN NORMAL! AAAHHHH! Today is the day we have a -20 to our stealth checks!
I read the article and it's definitely misleading. It links to The Telegraph, which I'm not going to pay for a subscription to, but the headline says that doctors are hiding the risks of cancer with HRT. However, I knew about the risks before I started because there were already studies on it. They are hyping this up because they want to get transphobes riled up. It's going to work because people don't actually read any links provided to get more information. For example, the article links to the WPATH guidelines, which do remove age restrictions, but instead go with when the patient hits puberty, which is different for everyone. The article mentions it, but not very clearly.
I hadn't heard anything about it. I'll have to do some research on it. I'm very confused about what's happening.
This morning, a pioneer in gaming passed away. Jennell Jaquays had been working in game design and development since the 1970s. Her work on Dungeons and Dragons alone shaped role-playing games for future generations. She was also an artist, with her art on novels as well as many game products. She's the one who coined the word "dungeoneer".
I considered her a friend. I didn't know her well, but she always made herself available when I had questions. She is survived by her wife, Rebecca Heineman, who has worked in video game design since the days of the Commodore 64 and created many games that I enjoyed growing up. Her work laid the foundation for games that are beloved today, including Baldur's Gate that many of you are enjoying today. Becky won the very first video game tournament in 1980. She was also an activist, laying the foundation for laws within my own state of Washington that have protected the lives of LGBTQ+ people and given us rights that we had previously been denied.
The world is a little darker today. This hit me harder than I thought it would. She, along with others, created an environment where I can not only live, but thrive. I will forever be grateful.
I don't do resolutions. I will wish the best that the world offers to you. May your lives be filled with everlasting peace, love, and harmony.
I'm an admin in a board game group on Facebook. These are our rules. While not perfect, we do revist them periodically to make sure that they align with the goals of the group. This Group is a Safe Space - Be Kind Always
All Non-Binary Folks Belong Here
No Sales, Charity, or Spam Posts Allowed
No Business Pages or Profiles
No Self-Promoption Posts Without Admin Permission
No Hate Speech, Bullying, or Personal Attacks
Respect One Another
Inviting Other People
To Report a Post to Us, Comment "Admin" on it
Purposeful Off-Topic Posts Are Allowed
We have been trying to find more ways to have the rules be more positive, but we have found that it's a lot easier to have the rule be concise, and sometimes that means that we need to have negatives. I can say that we have 6 people running a group with over 8,000 members and we have very little to do. The group is consistently growing. It's an overall positive place to be where people can discuss gaming and issues related to gaming without fear that they will be ostracized for it.
I hope everyone had a great holiday and that the new year starts off well for you!
Over the weekend, I was at my FLGS for some board games. There were a bunch of teens getting ready for their 5E session. I bought everyone at the table a set of dice. One girl picked up some pink dice and I mentioned that they were the lesbian pride colors. (The dice were from Heartbeat Dice.) She said that was perfect because she's a lesbian. Then one of the other young ladies looked at her dice and said, "That's good because I got the bi dice and now that we're dating, we have matching dice!" That really makes me happy!
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