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On a happier note: My confidence level has risen to the point that I'm extremely happy with who I am. I'm going on dates (and having to actually schedule them so that I don't forget when they are). I've had to turn down dates because I'm getting so many guys wanting to meet me. I've been going to the pool more often, and using the women's locker room, without incident. I'm so incredibly happy with my life now. I'm still waiting for the consultation for my bottom surgery, but I'm trying to be patient.

If you want the link to the exact page and the profile picture they chose, here it is. There are a bunch of trans women there who have been targeted. I only ask that you report. Do not engage. That's what they want. There are far too many trans women and girls who don't have the coping skills in place to protect themselves from this and I fear that they will harm themselves. Hopefully we can save a few along the way.

If you're on Facebook, can you please report a page called Men Follower and Men Follower 2.0. They are a hate group that shares profile pictures of trans women in hopes to dox us and intimidate us. I was targeted today. I know that it won't stop them, but it will get their pages shut down and they will have to start over so it will slow them down.

I'm not worried about my safety. I encourage them to find me and find out what infantry veterans are capable and willing to do (I have many combat veteran friends plus myself as well trained). We have some really nice hospitals up here and I don't mind introducing them to our health care system. I'm more worried about the younger trans girls and women and their families and friends. I don't know how they will handle the hate.

I got my pictures back from my boudoir shoot and I'm in tears seeing myself. I feel so incredible! If you haven't done one and have been wondering if you should, the answer is yes, you should.

I don't have pictures yet, but last week I did a boudoir shoot. It was amazing! I highly recommend it! The photographer was wonderful. She kept me at ease the whole time. I brought my own oitfits, and she had several that she wanted me to try as well. I can't tell you how euphoric I felt!

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All my paperwork is in so I can get the consult for bottom surgery! There are about 150 people in front of me and he only does consults on Fridays. He's a professor of urology and does these surgeries. It's estimated that I can get an appointment for August. I'm excited!

Congrats! I turned in my second letter this week and am just waiting on insurance and a surgery date.

That's awesome!

All my paperwork is in so I can get the consult for bottom surgery! There are about 150 people in front of me and he only does consults on Fridays. He's a professor of urology and does these surgeries. It's estimated that I can get an appointment for August. I'm excited!

Welcome, Skillbert!

Well, I just spent 5 days in Georgia. I live in the Seattle area and I was invited to spend some time with a friend for her birthday along with 16 other women! Holy crap! That's a crowded house. We've all known each other for a few years, but I hadn't met any of them in person. They have known that I'm trans and been helping me along with my journey.

I was worried about the TSA, especially in Georgia. Not only did I not have any issues, I'm not even sure if they realized that I'm trans. They always used the proper pronouns. The airlines all did as well. Strangers did too.

My friends never treated me as a trans woman. They treated me as a woman. Sure, we had a couple conversations about transitioning, but those were few. They talked about things that women talk about when the men folk aren't around. It was great to be fully embraced. I felt normal.

I even went to a game store out there. It was LGBTQ friendly, and the person at the register was either gender non-conforming or trans. I never asked, but they definitely were AMAB, but didn't fit into the normal masculine mold expected in society, especially in Marietta, GA. The customers all treated me wonderfully, using proper pronouns and just talking about games.

I'm mentioning this because the states that are trying to make life difficult don't necessarily represent the people that live there.

I don't know who knows Owen Stephens or his wife LJ. Owen has had a very difficult time lately with some very serious medical issues. Clots and a pulmenary embolism. Now, the guy has colon cancer. He's a really nice guy and a huge ally. He has a Humble Bundle out for 2E stuff for just $10 so he can raise some money to help with these bills that are going to keep coming.

All of my photo IDs are now updated. Woot woot!

That's awesome! I'm just waiting for my Real ID to come in and I think that the most important things will be done for me.

I called Medicare this morning and they cover bottom surgery. My plan covers it 100%. I'm going to start the process. It's time.

Date finally happened! He's definitely a really sweet guy. We talked for about 90 minutes. The only reason we stopped was because I said I needed to get going.

During the whole date we talked a little bit about our military service. He briefly mentioned that he is twice divorced and has 3 kids. Then we talked about Dungeons and Dragons and Pathfinder. A lot. We both play and we could have talked for hours.

What we never talked about was me being trans. It never once came up. I was ready for basic questions, but he asked nothing. It was really nice to just be Cindy instead of Trans Cindy.

We hugged when we left and we're going to have a second date.
I'm incredibly happy!

Did you know that the kiwi is the only bird that lays an egg larger than itself?

That's not possible, but it does lay an egg that's about 15% of its body weight.

Kobold Catgirl wrote:

Haha, that's always a delight. It's funny how many Paizonians here turned out to be huge eggs. Not that I'd know anything about that.

Of course not. You're definitely not a recognizable personality on the boards that would have stood out for having a slightly different name and made me click.

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I don't know if you remember me from before, but when I changed my name I simply sent them a message asking them to make this my primary. It took about a day.

I just scheduled a boudoir shoot for April!

I know that this is a very old thread, but I searched to boards to see if anyone had announced that Kim Mohan passed away 12/12/2022. I don't have any details. I just wanted to let people know that one of the titans has passed on.

So my brother's oldest child just game out as non-binary and bisexual. They also just started playing DnD! They're such a nerd! I love it! They are athletic, a talented artist, musician, actor, and very intelligent too! I'm such a proud auntie! They were telling me all about their tiefling bard. My sister in law asked me what to get them for Christmas. I threw out all kinds of ideas that are inexpensive, but tailored to her. Oh, and their love of DnD wasn't my fault! I didn't even tell them about the game. I rarely talk with them and I haven't seen them in years because they live 3000 miles away!

For those who celebrate, I hope you had a good thanksgiving!

I live near Seattle. I'm sure that most of the problems I'll run into will be just from jerks online, but I'm still worried about in person interactions.

I'll take a look at those and see what might work for me. Thank you.

I tried Lex. After just a few days, the only people who responded to me at all were looking to get high, catfishing, or just downright transphobic. It was a horrible experience.

I'm trying OkCupid, but it's not very promising. I'm very nervoud about Tinder and I don't know anything about Bumble or HER. Are they trans friendly?

Has anyone here tried any dating apps/sites with any success?

Belkar's response is so perfectly Belkar! Roy's response to all of it is spot on.

While I don't think anyone here has, if you have done business with the Dungeon Hobby Shop, you need to know that it's possible that your Credit Card or PayPal account was compromised if you used it. Apparently, the clown in charge decided to share the information with at least one vender who did not need it. That vender has not done anything with it, but he is warning others that it's possible that others also have the information.

Just in case folks hadn't seen it yet, today the US 4th Circuit Court of Appeals ruled that transgender people are covered by the Americans with Disabilities Act.

Here's a link to a Twitter thread summarizing the decision, along with a link to a PDF of the opinion. Be aware that, as the case was a lawsuit by a trans woman against law enforcement, the opinion does describe the transphobia she experienced while incarcerated.

The short version is that, while the ADA has an exclusion for "gender identity disorders not resulting from physical impairments," it does not define what those are, and there no longer is such a diagnosis. Gender dysphoria, on the other hand, is not specifically excluded, and at the time of the original adoption of the ADA, was not included under the umbrella of "gender identity disorders." Therefore, it is a protected disability under the ADA because it is not specifically excluded.

This is interesting. I have a feeling that this will be appealed to the SCOTUS who will rule that the concept of GID is still valid.

The last couple weeks have been great and horrible at the same time. I have gone to a public pool and used the women's locker room. A friend went with me both times. It's still a little stressful, but it's getting easier. The last time an older lady even complemented me on my swimsuit! I don't expect people to talk to me in a locker room, and especially an older cis woman (she was in her late 60s to early 70s). Getting a positive comment really made me feel welcome and that I belong.

I also have been trying to get Medicaid to cover facial hair removal, but it's incredibly hard. I need 3 letters from different providers, photos of the area, and I can only use 4 different clinics in the entire state, but I need a letter from them also explaining what they are going to do. I have to have a medical reason why I can't shave. Looking in the mirror to shave triggers my dysphoria so bad that it can keep me in hiding for days on end.

We went to Pride also and I was happy to see that there were no people protesting against us. The Seattle Center was full of people having fun. The worst thing I saw was someone in a mascot outfit in 90 degree weather. I hope that they stayed hydrated!

Well, looks like there's no 2nd date. I'm ok with that. I honestly still count this as a win. I gathered the courage to ask. I didn't back out when he said yes. I had a great time. He was honest and said that he doesn't feel anything romantic. We are still friends and will still game together. The date did what it was supposed to do: determine if we should have another date.

The fact that he said yes is more than enough to help me with my fear that people will generally be transphobic enough to not be interested in me. The first try was a success.

So a few days ago, my twelve years old daughter told us that she is Bi-Sexual.

So, I wanted to know, how old were you when you realise that you identified differently. And also, any suggestions on how I should proceed from here. I'm supportive to her, so that's not a problem, but I would like to make sure she remains open and confortable to talk to us.

I realized I was different when I was very young, but I wasn't allowed to explore who I was. My family pushed me away from anything that could even remotely be feminine. When puberty hit I started to realize that I liked boys and girls, but boys more than girls. Since I was joining the Army, I could not, under any circumstances, let anyone know that I was not male and that I was attracted to men.

I bottled all of that up inside me for decades. When I finally decided to come out and I talked to my parents, I was about 45. They have barely spoken to me since then and last year they decided that they no longer want to talk to me at all. I never really felt comfortable talking to them about anything long before this. I knew exactly where I stood and who I have to be to get their love.

If you want to be supportive of her, treat her the same as you always have. Don't make a fuss about her being bi. Treat each of her partners as the individuals they are and make sure that expectations are followed (curfews, who's allowed in the house when, etc. I would make sure that she has good sex education. If that's something that you are not comfortable doing or don't know as much about as you would iike, there are plenty of clinics and organizations that can help. I'm not talking about the mechanics of sex. I'm talking about some of the things that LGBTQ people face at a higher rate than cishet people. She should definitely be aware of how to practice safe sex with anyone. I know that parents don't want to think about their kids having sex, but the thought will probably cross her mind just like it did with us when we were her age.

Date was successful! I felt pretty. He looked great. We went to a place on the waterfront near the Edmonds Ferry (we live in Washington). We looked over Puget Sound while we ate. Then we went for a walk along the waterfront/beach. It was really nice. Now we need to figure out what to do for date number 2!

Well, I asked a guy out for dinner and he said yes. I was expecting a polite no, but he said yes. Now I have to figure out where to go.

Celebrated one year with my partner a few days back and am so, so pleased. I can't believe a relationship can be as comfortable as this has been.

Congratulations!

One thing I'm really liking about Star Trek: Discovery is that two of the main characters are a married male couple. They show affection just like anyone else would. I like how they are normalizing it. There's nothing grandiose. Even the scenes where they kiss, it's not like the women kissing where the camera pans around and zooms in on their lips as they caress each others' faces tenderly as some sort of softcore porn.

I have an appointment coming up for laser hair removal so I can finally address my face! I'm excited and nervous at the same time.

That was a good experience! We're talking about me going back to cover more. Turns out that an hour just isn't enough time to go over two different topics and then how they intersect.

Wednesday, 5/11. at 11am PST, I will be on the Bariatric Beauties Podcast. I'll be discussing my weightloss journey and the challenges I've had along the way. Things that I've learned and things that I wish I had known.
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Cindy Robertson wrote:

I'll remind people a day or two prior in case anyone wants to listen in.

Thank you. I just want to say how impressed I am with your journey. It's been heartening to see how far you've come, even with the struggles you're still having.

Thank you. I'm not always confident or positive, but if I don't at least try then I'm stuck with giving up. I fought too hard to give up.

For anyone who is interested, I'll be a guest on a podcast about bariatric patients (weight loss). Because of the initial success I had and the troubles I had (nearly died) in addition to being a trans woman who started transitioning I bring a lot to the conversation. The podcast will be on May 5 at 1100 PST. You can find it on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4sfedeZv_cpydgL__1QrVw and Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/weightlosssurgeries

I'll remind people a day or two prior in case anyone wants to listen in.

So the VA is compiling a panel of transgender veterans to discuss the current way that the VA handles/treats transgender people and what we would like to see going forward. I was selected to be part of that panel! Yeah!

Today is the International Trans Day of Visibility. Visibility is a double edged sword, but necessary for future generations.

Idaho is trying to not only make it illegal to provide gender affirming care to children, but the punishment could be up to life in prison. That includes even taking the child out of state to get them gender affirming medical care.

Freshly back from a trip to Seattle with my partner to meet a bunch of their awesome queer friends and it was such a joy. I didn’t think things could be this good; I’m so grateful for having found my way to them and this.

Praying for some of that same kindness to reach y’all, too.

I live in the Seattle area! Next time you're out this way, maybe we can get together.

If you need a pick-me-up right now, dial (707) 998-8410. A group of Bay Area students age 5-12 pre-recorded pep talks. I actually dialed it to make sure that it's legit. It's legit.

I worry for anyone in Texas right now. Is there anything I can do to help?

Donate to the ACLU, donate to Beto, donate to the Trevor Project, donate to LGBT!+ organizations in Tx (research them first though, not all charities are worthy of our money).

Cindy Robertson wrote:

Is anyone here part of Pathfinder or Starfinder Society? I can't figure out how to log my games at all. I have played one game of Starfinder and I assume that I am supposed to be able to log it somewhere.

Were you the GM or a player? If you're a player, you don't need to do anything other than hold on to your chronicle sheet. Make sure you scan or take a photo of it (and put it in your GDrive or whatever) in case something happens to the paper copy.

Ok, cool. I wasn't sure. Thanks!

Is anyone here part of Pathfinder or Starfinder Society? I can't figure out how to log my games at all. I have played one game of Starfinder and I assume that I am supposed to be able to log it somewhere.

Tonight I played in a Pathfinder Society game. It went incredibly well, except that it was 1E and I wanted to play 2E since I haven't played that yet. Next week I'll be joining a Starfinder Society game. I just need to figure out what I'm going to play.

I had never met these people before, and they all immediately used the correct pronouns and got my gender right without any prompting from me. I know that I live in a good area, but it's also a testament as to how great the owners of the store are. They set the culture and the expectations for their business.

10/10 stars, would recommend! If you are ever in Lynnwood, Washington (just north of Seattle), stop by Around the Table. Tell them Cindy sent you!

Wei Ji, I hope you and the GM feel better soon.

I'm looking for a 2E or Starfinder game to join. I'm probably going to join a Society game, but I don't really know what I need to do to be ready.

Tonight, the Pathfinder 1e game was pretty good. We lit part of an army on fire after the ranger one shot killed their leader in the surprise round. She did well over 100 points of damage with a crit and Branch Pounce from 200 feet up. It was messy to say the least.

I saw that Gen Con will have a space on badges for pronouns for people who want them! I think that's awesome!

Today I went to my FLGS to pick up the newst expansion for Marvel Legendary and some sleeves for another game. I got something to eat and suddenly the power went out. Then it came back on a few seconds later while we were looking out the window. Then a transformer literally exploded across the street! It was crazy! I have seen it happen in videos, but never in person! There was a huge ball of green fire and then sparks started flying like the bridge on Star Trek! 5 hours later, they still didn't have the power back on. I didn't get the expansion. It hadn't shown up yet. I'll get it on Saturday.

That was my adventure in gaming for the day. How was yours?

2021 took a wonderful person. Betty White is no longer with us. She was a kind soul. I'm happy we had her for 99 years.

Today was a Zoom meeting with some family for a Secret Santa swap. (My family is complex, but this group isn't blood, but I've always known them as my family because they were my mother's foster family for 9 years.) I hadn't seen some of them in 30-40 years! I wasn't sure what to expect. Some knew about me already and have been very supportive, but I wasn't sure about the others.

Everyone was awesome! I wasn't asked any questions other than what's it like in Seattle. I was ready for all kinds of questions, some very personal. I was deadnamed once, and before I even realized it, my aunt had corrected herself and moved on. I may have been the only one who even noticed.

I was getting worked up and worried for the several weeks prior. I really should remind myself that this group of people was raised to love people for who they are. They have never let me down before. I'll keep reminding myself whenever I get worried.

Today was a good day!