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Friday night - eq2 raid nite. no phat loot but fun with friends.
Saturday - After surviving the news on the cost of graduation pics for my daughter, we had a 90th bday party for my mom. Much merriment ensued. Closed the evening playing poker with some buds. Broke even, but that's what you want to do with friends.
Sunday - My daughter did awesome at her dance competition at UofMichigan. She did a solo hip hop and a Pom routine with her varsity dance team.
Finally home and awaiting tonite's episode of Walking Aberzombie.
A darn good weekend
and I really hope everything sorts itself out, Shiny, maybe just a panic attack after realizing t´what engagement means?No. I had hoped it was just that, but she assured me that she just didn't want me anymore, and that agreeing to marry me was an attempt to change her own mind.
Shiny:
I am sorry to hear that BluePigeon. Please take care of yourself.
Mr. Shiny, don't give up. Please. Also, you are NOT a failure.
Jess, good luck with the diet.
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I'm not catching up on ~1200 posts. Let me know if I missed anything big. I hope folks are generally doing well.
Take care!
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and I really hope everything sorts itself out, Shiny, maybe just a panic attack after realizing t´what engagement means?No. I had hoped it was just that, but she assured me that she just didn't want me anymore, and that agreeing to marry me was an attempt to change her own mind.
As much as you want to look introspectively at yourself and figure out what it is you may have done wrong, it's not the way to approach things. A relationship takes at least two people to make things work. Some people don't want to progress beyond where they're at. Others may have lofty goals and take the egocentric route. Some don't want to ride the tough times out when things are at their lowest. Others lack the commitment and/or the maturity.
As an individual who has been in your position enough times than I'd wish to account for, I realize that I am only one individual and the blame doesn't squarely lie with myself. Once the initial shock wears off, I realize that there's only one direction I can go and that is forward. Unintended change is 10% how I react to it and 90% how I cope with it.
You may feel down. But you're not out. Pick up the broken pieces, make your peace with it, and channel that frustration into energy and forge ahead. Don't ever tell yourself you're not worth it.
Peace, bro.
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Changing eating habits is hard. I'm trying to stay ahead of the game and rampant heart disease in both sides of my family by getting into better eating and exercise habits now (instead of post-heart attack, like my father and grandfathers--forty is only eight years away for me).
Eat food, not too much, mostly plants. (Thank you Michael Pollan. I'm quoting a piece over from WebMD that I feel might be relevant and helpful for everybody.)
Pollan says everything he's learned about food and health can be summed up in seven words: "Eat food, not too much, mostly plants."
Probably the first two words are most important. "Eat food" means to eat real food -- vegetables, fruits, whole grains, and, yes, fish and meat -- and to avoid what Pollan calls "edible food-like substances."
Here's how:
- Don't eat anything your great grandmother wouldn't recognize as food. "When you pick up that box of portable yogurt tubes, or eat something with 15 ingredients you can't pronounce, ask yourself, "What are those things doing there?" Pollan says.
- Don’t eat anything with more than five ingredients, or ingredients you can't pronounce.
- Stay out of the middle of the supermarket; shop on the perimeter of the store. Real food tends to be on the outer edge of the store near the loading docks, where it can be replaced with fresh foods when it goes bad.
- Don't eat anything that won't eventually rot. "There are exceptions -- honey -- but as a rule, things like Twinkies that never go bad aren't food," Pollan says.
- It is not just what you eat but how you eat. "Always leave the table a little hungry," Pollan says. "Many cultures have rules that you stop eating before you are full. In Japan, they say eat until you are four-fifths full. Islamic culture has a similar rule, and in German culture they say, 'Tie off the sack before it's full.'"
- Families traditionally ate together, around a table and not a TV, at regular meal times. It's a good tradition. Enjoy meals with the people you love. "Remember when eating between meals felt wrong?" Pollan asks.
- Don't buy food where you buy your gasoline. In the U.S., 20% of food is eaten in the car.
Now, I don't entirely agree with everything Pollan says in his books, but I can get behind the list above. The things that have helped *me*, though, are:
- Stop drinking so much soda. My kryptonite. So easily available. Limit yourself. Cut back, then try and eliminate from your diet. When I'm out, if they've got unsweetened iced tea, I drink that instead, otherwise, I have just one, with a lot of ice.
- Drink. More. Water. Dear god, I have a lot of problems with this one.
- Don't eat at your desk. Get up, walk away, eat somewhere else. Lunch is a brain break as much as a food break.
- Stop when you're full. This is hard. Like many, I'm sure I was told to "Clean your plate!" when growing up, so I have that compunction to keep doing that, even with an enormous plate of food. Not good! Portion control, portion control, portion control. I had a delightful plate of pad thai yesterday. It was damn good. Like, lick your eyebrows kind of good. I stopped halfway through, because I was sated. It was REALLY HARD. ;_; But now I have a tasty dinner too. :D
- I like cookies. (Some may have noted this.) If the cookie jar has even one cookie in it, I don't make anything else. I try and only have one dessert available to me at any given time. (I'll also note I'm not always good at this. >.> )
- It's okay to cheat...if you work it off, or if it comes under your calorie budget. Right now, Girl Scout Cookies are carving huge swathes out of my calorie budget. They're tasty though. :D
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and I really hope everything sorts itself out, Shiny, maybe just a panic attack after realizing t´what engagement means?No. I had hoped it was just that, but she assured me that she just didn't want me anymore, and that agreeing to marry me was an attempt to change her own mind.
Dude, what?
That is messed up man, hang in there. It sounds like it is definately a case of it's not you it's her.
I hope it works itself out man ... but on the plus side (hard to see it at this time I know), if this was going to happen it's far better that it happens now than a year after you're married.
good stuff
Another thing I've noticed really helping in my own struggle to cut down on sugar (and quitting candy entirely) is don't go to the shop when you're hungry. The amount of snacks I've bought to munch on the way home is creepy.
made quinoa again.
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Sure beats putting it on popcorns.
Okay on a scale of one to ten, how wrong is it to smear popcorn butter on your wife's naked bottom? >:)
Schway! As about as wrong as putting in on naked dryad strippers.
Just saying with a grin.
Okay on a scale of one to ten, how wrong is it to smear popcorn butter on your wife's naked bottom? >:)
What?! My wife never lets me do that, but she'll let you?! /shakes fist
Thish....thish slatternly comportment is unbecoming and beneath me; I don't think I can asshoshiate with fawtl any longer if thish ish going to go on with butter and bottoms and shuchshhhh.
I am in New Orleans now. Wish me the best on keeping my f-ing mouth shut around Karen's parents. Have a good night and hope tomorrow goes well for everyone. -sneak Kindle Fire post attack -
Good luck.
Oh, it's Sharoth.....he's always running his yap; never mind.
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Why is it that directions on the internet never match reality? I've spent all evening trying to configure two wireless routers on the same network. Result: FAIL (not epic, don't want to show up on Treppa's list.)
I'm actually regressing as my old router now doesn't want to be recognized with security enabled. I think its jealous of the new router.
sigh - after boys finish their internet network perhaps I will try some more. Or go to bed.
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Good Food advice
Thanks for sharing.
The biggest light bulb idea I picked up from weight watchers is that I shouldn't view each meal as an independent event. If I had to go out to dinner in the evening, I had needed to adjust my eating before and after. It always worked until I changed jobs or moved and messed with my routine.
Good luck to all those striving for better health.
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Good Food adviceThanks for sharing.
The biggest light bulb idea I picked up from weight watchers is that I shouldn't view each meal as an independent event. If I had to go out to dinner in the evening, I had needed to adjust my eating before and after. It always worked until I changed jobs or moved and messed with my routine.
Good luck to all those striving for better health.
I found my "Aha!" moment when I got over the "clear your plate" mentality. Not eating food feels like a waste, but in reality stuffing food in your mouth beyond what you need is just as wasteful.
Good morning, FaWTLies. Fresh baked PIE for breakfast?
Shiney, I'm sorry about the breakup. As cheesy as it may sound, it really isn't you, it's her.
A big + 1 on the changing how and what one eats moreso than straight up dieting. I'm not a fan of refusing to eat anything with ingredients you can't pronounce - preservatives are important if you want food to last till you get it from the farm to the store to your plate. I've found its better to educate oneself on what to specifically avoid as not all preservatives are made equal. That said, yeah, eat more veggies/fruit, cook at home more and drink more water.
Okay on a scale of one to ten, how wrong is it to smear popcorn butter on your wife's naked bottom? >:)
I'm gonna go with a 6.
A big + 1 on the changing how and what one eats moreso than straight up dieting. I'm not a fan of refusing to eat anything with ingredients you can't pronounce - preservatives are important if you want food to last till you get it from the farm to the store to your plate. I've found its better to educate oneself on what to specifically avoid as not all preservatives are made equal. That said, yeah, eat more veggies/fruit, cook at home more and drink more water.
The more I study chemistry the more I know what some of that stuff is. And some of the things that look scary are just normal ingredients spelled out in a fancy way. I second the idea that it's more important to learn what the ingredients are rather than dismissing them out of hand. Also, being able to pronounce monosodium glutamate does not make it good for you. :P
I think the biggest struggle for me is staying adequately hydrated. I remember being relieved when my physiology teacher told us how much water we actually needed in a day (a lot less than the unrealistic numbers I'd been told by diet programs) because it was at least an attainable goal. But even with that I still struggle to drink enough water. I carry a water bottle with me and if I ever actually drank the entire bottle I would be in much better shape. A fact that was highlighted for me last night when I fainted from dehydration while getting ready for bed. The bathroom floor is not a good place to to find yourself laying. Especially when it hasn't been cleaned in a week. Yech. So since passing out every time I get sick is no fun I'm going to be trying to drink more water.
I am really not wanting to be here right now. I hope I can get through class. Thank goodness it's a short day anyhow. The antibiotics are helping, but I still feel like crap. :/
But at least I was able to catch up on my homework over break so I won't feel lost and behind for the first time in a while. :)