damnitall22 |
Well I just found out that my wife is going to be having twins! The thought makes me really happy and yet I can't help but wonder how I am going to raise four children.
On the plus side once they are all old enough I shouldn't have trouble finding a gaming group. :)
Still in shock but I had to voice it everywhere. I wish my dad had lived for just 3 more months so I could have told him. I can imagine what he would have said but its just not the same. I wish he could have known them.
Well enough of that. I am happy and worried all together.
Have a great day everyone. I know mine was.
Erik Mona Chief Creative Officer, Publisher |
Dragonborn3 |
Db3's Astral Projection wrote:Have you thought of any names yet?Don't overlook Caramon and Raistlin.
Congrats!
What about Tasselhoff?
I really think we should send you oversized fluffy dice and a lamanated table showing what you need to roll on a % to get a boy or girl or any other possible outcome. Do when know when the happy day is supposed to be?
Congratulations.
Basilforth |
Congrats! We have five kids. Cheaper by the dozen don't you know. The more you have, the bigger your in house Pathfinder games will be in about 10 years. My kids are ages 6 through 14 and I run RP for them. :)
Well I just found out that my wife is going to be having twins! The thought makes me really happy and yet I can't help but wonder how I am going to raise four children.
On the plus side once they are all old enough I shouldn't have trouble finding a gaming group. :)
Still in shock but I had to voice it everywhere. I wish my dad had lived for just 3 more months so I could have told him. I can imagine what he would have said but its just not the same. I wish he could have known them.
Well enough of that. I am happy and worried all together.
Have a great day everyone. I know mine was.
damnitall22 |
Congratulations! Twins sounds really cool. I always say to my wife that I wish I was a twin. Of course, that's usually followed by her fainting....
Well lets just say that if the adage that your kids are worse than you were is true I am in for one hell of a ride.
Count Buggula |
Wohoo! We're probably in for just one more kid in my family...maybe late this year, and the idea of twins both excites and scares the bejeebers out of me.
So congratulations, and good luck, cuz you're in for one crazy wild ride.
Oh, and if one's a boy and the other's a girl, may I suggest Natsuo and Yuki?
Sebastian Bella Sara Charter Superscriber |
Invader Smee |
A million congratulations! I can thoroughly empathize with your situation, since I am the proud father of newborn twin girls myself. As far as names go, please don't name them anything cutesy like Sienna & Sierra (saw that on a baby-name website). The kids will already have a challenge throughout their lives of establishing their own identities and personalities that are separate and distinct from each other. Naming them something that is one-letter-off of each other will just promote confusion, and possibly identity issues. However, you still want to designate the fact that they are twins and therefore interrelated to each other. What we did was give one a name starting with A, and one starting with Z (and middle names were variations of Grandma's names).
If you have identical twins, you have the choice about whether you want to dress them in identical outfits, as well. We decided against this, as much for our own sake as for theirs (the first time I had to take one to the pediatrician for her two-week checkup, I actually got mixed up and grabbed the wrong baby. Thankfully, the doctor thought it was hilarious). Since easily 50% of ALL girl-baby clothes are pink, Zoey always gets dressed in pink, and Astrid always gets dressed in some other color. This also helps the relatives easily identify which baby they are cooing at, and aids in establishing familial bonds.
And a word about paternal/fraternal twins - sometimes you will be surprised. I have read that some babies will be born looking somewhat different, but over the course of the first year will grow to look more and more like each other. So even if you don't think they are identical at first, that isn't necessarily the case.
Man, I could go on for hours. I've done so much research about twins that it's silly. Did you know that, statistically, twins are becoming more common in modern society? This is attributed to the increasing use of fertility drugs, and also to the increasing average age of mothers giving birth, both of which are contributing factors to the occurance of twins. Did you know that once you have twins naturally, you are statistically more likely to have them again with successive pregnancies? (you might not want to share that particular factoid with the wife)
Overall, though, my advice is not to panic. It can be overwhelming, especially when both babies are screaming AT THE SAME TIME. But hey, you've got two arms, and you've got two babies. Learn the techniques to feed them both simultaneously, and just work on efficiency in general, or else you'll be spending every minute of your waking life tending to them. And since you already have kids, you understand to forget about getting any sleep for the first, oh, 18 years of their lives. I am surprised at how well I was able to adapt to sleep deprivation. Going on four months now that I haven't slept for longer than 4 hours at a stretch. Yeah, I hallucinate a little sometimes, but it's workable.
The one thing you have to keep telling yourself: At least it's not triplets.
spalding |
Oh yeah, Baby screams are specifically designed to drive their specific parents nuts. They are at the exact right frequency for your brain specifically to go haywire. It's wonderful!
Just deep breath and step out of yourself when it happens and try to treat it like someone else's (who you really like) child.
Dragonborn3 |
Just don't name them after virtues. It never works out. If you name the girl "Charity" she'll end up a miser. Never mind what happens if you name her "Chasity"...
Don't try the reverse either, having a child named Pride won't make them humble, and don't even think about naming one Gluttony...
damnitall22 |
As far as names go, please don't name them anything cutesy like Sienna & Sierra (saw that on a baby-name website).
If you have identical twins, you have the choice about whether you want to dress them in identical outfits, as well.
Well we have already decided no similar or rhyming names. We have also opted not the dress them the same.
Since we already have two children I commented that after this I think we can both get fixed. As far as the statistics I don't know how we play out she is 24 and I am 29 and no fertility drugs were used. I think we will be ok with everything after getting used to having the two at once.
Now I just have to figure out how I am going to manage to set aside college funds for 4 children. I had a start with the first two but now I have no idea how to run with it. I suppose I will figure it out with a little work.
I will say one thing. I am so glad I got a decent job last year. More comments later.
damnitall22 |
Abraham spalding wrote:Just don't name them after virtues. It never works out. If you name the girl "Charity" she'll end up a miser. Never mind what happens if you name her "Chasity"...Don't try the reverse either, having a child named Pride won't make them humble, and don't even think about naming one Gluttony...
Maybe I should go with Sorshen and Xanderghul or something similar.
Maybe just random names from Pathfinder. I mean they apparently have access to a Wayfinder of the silly cravings variety. Seriously tomato, onion, pickle, and A1 sandwiches? Not to mention the garlic dill pickles in ranch dressing.