Well, got a call from the mother-in-law a little while ago - wife's cousin passed away at 11:15 last night. He was just 27 years old. We'll likely be flying down sometime in the next few days for the funeral.
What a waste....
I am sorry to hear that. My condolances to you and your family!
Found out yesterday that my wife's cousin (a recovering heroin addict) OD'd on cocaine and prescription drugs. He's in the hospital with organ failure and low brain activity. We'll pray for the best, but there may not be much hope, as his heart had been stopped when the found him and they don't know how long. What makes it worse is that he and his father had just started getting their relationship back on track after a long estrangement.I'm sorry to hear that... You and your family are in our prayers.
I found out yesterday from my older brother that our younger brother has graduated from smoking pot to popping prescription pills. And then he likes to drink while on said pills. From what I gather he isn't picky about hat he's taking and will pop a few at a time. I'm worried that he is going to mix the wrong pill with alcohol and stop his heart....
Unfortunately he doesn't listen to anyone and thinks what he is doing is normal, and fun...stupid kid.
Maybe he's not too old for a smack on the back of the head from his big sister. :)
As someone who's had two sisters try (unsuccessfully, fortunately) to kill themselves, I know it's rough to see someone you love do something destructive.
I'm ready to simply set Kirk on him or just walk away and throw my hands up... we have been going through all this for nearly 5 years, and the kid is only 22!
Well, got a call from the mother-in-law a little while ago - wife's cousin passed away at 11:15 last night. He was just 27 years old. We'll likely be flying down sometime in the next few days for the funeral.
What a waste....
I'm so sorry...
You and yours have our thoughts and prayers.
My washing machine just blew a gasket and flooded half of my trailer. Took me two hours to clean up and I still don’t have any clean clothes for the morning and the nearest all night coin-op is 25 miles away.
None of the hoses are split so either the water pump is cracked or the tub seal is gone, either will cost about the same as a new one. One more unexpected expense I don't need.
Getting ready to move for school, turning in my intent not to resign my lease at my current apartment, thought I had a place with a friend all lined up lease signed, one month till moving day. Said friend calls up and says they won't let us have the place, read the intent to vacate premise and the reason put down is not taking apartment. So now I have less than a month to scramble and find a place before I have to move, and being lied to.
also, sorry to hear about your washing machine Xabulba
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Ok so I just need to vent.
I am not asking for help
So I made a mistake awhile back. my mother passed away and I had to get a loan to help pay for funeral expenses. don't even have everything paid for. that wasn't the mistake. taking first oen then another payday loan out to help with minor stuff in the mean time was. Ran out of money a month ago and went in to both places and told them that "hey I don't have it what can I do?" Oh we will work with you. ok thanks. since then has been harrasement calling me at work and then at hoemto make arrangements I had made in person. And today which is payday, well guess what, I don't have a pay check. both loans went through. I have no money. everything is gone. but I still have to find a way to pay for my real bills and I still have to find a way for food, and to get to work which is now across the city, not 5 blocks away anymore. I still have to pay my trash and water bill ect.. I am so stressed it isn't even funny. my only saving grace is my kids go to scouts for the weekend so I know they will be feed for the weekend.
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Yeah, life sucks. I guess this is what I get for having almost a year of good luck.
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So there's a real possibility that my plans for getting a job in the fall may go up in smoke if I have to home-school my kid instead. Not to mention that this big, beautiful house that we can't really afford, well, the whole reason we chose this house was so he could go to Ann Arbor schools. We could have got a similar house for 5-600 less a month just a few short miles away. Gah!
And just to make things absolutely perfect, of course, given the way he treats his peers, nobody ever wants to be friends with my not-so-darling child. He's a sweet, bright child with absolutely no impulse control and a total lack of compassion. Which isn't uncommon for six, but doesn't combine well with lack of impulse control. And of course questions authority at every turn. I'm having a really hard time getting him to grasp the concept that obedience is not predicated on his belief in the reasonableness of the request; that he is, in fact, required to obey regardless and before asking why.
Good grief, now I know I'm upset. I just used a semicolon in casual posting. (The more pissed off I am, the more formal my language becomes.)
Edit: Okay, deep breaths. It's gonna be okay. Somehow. It's probably not that bad. This time. And hopefully a miracle will occur and the behavior will get better. Right now I'm so stressed that I feel like I'm gonna vomit. But surely things cannot be that bad. I'm just so totally at a loss for how to fix this.
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Lynora, is there a condition involved in your son's health? Maybe some mild form of autism, OCD or ADD? His behavior as described reminds me of a friends child with Asberger's Syndrome.
I am sorry for what you are going through though and wish you the best.
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My cousin-in-law has gotten stupid and decided that he is tough enough to have a heroin habit. He isn't though and is now a junkie mess. This has caused my wife to use all her way too valuable destress time to help check him into a detox program, empty out his apartment so the drug-dealers don't take everything, and now tonight she has to meet with the rest of the family to work out who is going to help him after the 5-day detox to keep an eye on him and help out. Tonight is D&D night and I was supposed to be running the Graul house from Hook Mountain Massacre and I had to last minute let-down my group which is something I despise doing, especially because of some idiot family member who decided that all the other examples of this type in the family weren't like him.
Morons. That's why I keep my family at arms reach.
Lynora, is there a condition involved in your son's health? Maybe some mild form of autism, OCD or ADD? His behavior as described reminds me of a friends child with Asberger's Syndrome.
I am sorry for what you are going through though and wish you the best.
Thanks for the good wishes. We had thought based on family history that the behavior issues were just beginning ADHD. But things just keep escalating, and it doesn't look as much like ADHD now. He just gets these frenetic bursts of destructive activity and can't seem to stop himself. We're trying to figure out now what we need to do to get him in to see someone who can evaluate things and see if there is something more going on there.
I was trying to think of something more than 'Hang in there' and sympathy when I read your line about compassion. Has he ever had a pet that was his sole responsibility to look after?Warning: Rant
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Yes. A fish. We had cats (they died of old age) and we have two dogs. I make sure that he has a part in taking care of them, but other than the fish which doesn't really require anything more than the occasional pinch of food, he has a really hard time being kind to pets. He means well, but I have to watch him (not quite as closely now that he's getting older) to make sure that he doesn't squeeze them too tight (but I was just giving him a hug, mom) or pull their ears or whatever. And every few days when he's frustrated we have to have yet another talk about it not being okay to kick the dogs. Luckily they're very friendly and long-suffering or he'd have definitely gotten bit by now.
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My oldest sounds just like your son. He has grown quickly and is much calmer now then when he was younger. He had an incident in 1st grade on the last day of school where 5th grade students thought it would be fun to beat up a younger kid in the restroom while no one was around. Since that time he has chosen to fight at any small provocation throughout elementary school. It was a minimum of once a year that he attempted to strangle some class mate for some offence, real or imagined, This last year he was actually expelled, along with another little snot nosed brat, from the last week of Middle school. Even then though I must say he is and has been doing much better. Reading and Boy Scouts have come a long way to calm him down and to help him deal with not only his peers but with adults in authority that he does not like. I am not saying it won’t be rough but it will get better.
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You may not be able to 'fix' this. But you can be a big part of a fix. Wow. No sage advice. Counseling, medical evaluation? Having someone 'outside' help is uncomfortable but sometimes needed.
Good luck.
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** spoiler omitted **You may not be able to 'fix' this. But you can be a big part of a fix. Wow. No sage advice. Counseling, medical evaluation? Having someone 'outside' help is uncomfortable but sometimes needed.
Good luck.
Thanks. We're working on figuring out exactly who we need to see to get an evaluation done. At this point I really need to know exactly what's going on to cause these behaviors. Right now it feels like throwing darts in the dark trying to figure out how to help him. So we'll see how things go I guess.
Thanks. We're working on figuring out exactly who we need to see to get an evaluation done. At this point I really need to know exactly what's going on to cause these behaviors. Right now it feels like throwing darts in the dark trying to figure out how to help him. So we'll see how things go I guess.Warning: Rant
** spoiler omitted **You may not be able to 'fix' this. But you can be a big part of a fix. Wow. No sage advice. Counseling, medical evaluation? Having someone 'outside' help is uncomfortable but sometimes needed.
Good luck.
I will put you and your family in my prayers, lynora. I wish you all the best in these trying times.
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Thanks. We're working on figuring out exactly who we need to see to get an evaluation done. At this point I really need to know exactly what's going on to cause these behaviors. Right now it feels like throwing darts in the dark trying to figure out how to help him. So we'll see how things go I guess.Warning: Rant
** spoiler omitted **You may not be able to 'fix' this. But you can be a big part of a fix. Wow. No sage advice. Counseling, medical evaluation? Having someone 'outside' help is uncomfortable but sometimes needed.
Good luck.
I would suggest a Neurologist could be very helpful in figuring out something. I took my son in to one and he seemed to know just where to send my boy for testing and evaluations (besides his own to narrow down the disorder). They seem to have a larger breadth of general knowledge in brain disorders than any of the other professionals that come to mind and I feel like that breadth of knowledge will help to keep an open mind instead of another type of doctor trying to shoe-horn in a diagnosis that may not really fit.
Just 2 more. Hope it helps.
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So, my Mom went into the hospital last night. I talked to her earlier this week and she said she was feeling drained and kinda weird, so she wanted to see the doctor to run some tests or something since she has had heart problems in the past. The doctor ran some tests and decided that she had "extreme anemia". I talked to her this morning and though she sounded weak, she seemed to thing everything was going to be fine. I'm just anxious because she's not relaying any solid information I can wrap my head around. Maybe the doctors don't know much and they're just telling her something until they know more, maybe she's trying not to worry me or maybe she just doesn't know. There's really nothing I can do, but sometimes I get anxious and worry.
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So, my Mom went into the hospital last night. I talked to her earlier this week and she said she was feeling drained and kinda weird, so she wanted to see the doctor to run some tests or something since she has had heart problems in the past. The doctor ran some tests and decided that she had "extreme anemia". I talked to her this morning and though she sounded weak, she seemed to thing everything was going to be fine. I'm just anxious because she's not relaying any solid information I can wrap my head around. Maybe the doctors don't know much and they're just telling her something until they know more, maybe she's trying not to worry me or maybe she just doesn't know. There's really nothing I can do, but sometimes I get anxious and worry.
I can understand you being worried, it's mom. I don't really have anything to say that will help, but you and your mom are in our thoughts and prayers. I hope everything turns out ok.
So, my Mom went into the hospital last night...
I know this routine...hang in there, Daigle.
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Thanks guys.
She ended up going home after getting three units of blood. They say she is bleeding internally but don't know where until they do more tests. She had to go home because she couldn't afford to be in the hospital any longer than necessary. I suppose that if they released her, they thought it was safe. She's got a test and a meeting with a specialist coming up Monday, so we'll know more then. She's going to get another test on Thursday too, so again, more information then. She sounded much stronger when I talked to her yesterday and today, so that at least set our minds a bit more at ease.
I've never been wrapped up in grabbing and holding when it comes to money, but right now I wish I had a big fat bank roll so she wouldn't have to worry about having the dough for decent treatment...for whatever this is.
I am sorry that you and your mother are going through this. I wish you both the best and I will put you in my prayers. Take care my friend!
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Thanks guys.
She ended up going home after getting three units of blood. They say she is bleeding internally but don't know where until they do more tests. She had to go home because she couldn't afford to be in the hospital any longer than necessary. I suppose that if they released her, they thought it was safe. She's got a test and a meeting with a specialist coming up Monday, so we'll know more then. She's going to get another test on Thursday too, so again, more information then. She sounded much stronger when I talked to her yesterday and today, so that at least set our minds a bit more at ease.
I've never been wrapped up in grabbing and holding when it comes to money, but right now I wish I had a big fat bank roll so she wouldn't have to worry about having the dough for decent treatment...for whatever this is.
Ah Daigle, sorry to hear this man.
Does your mom have a history of ulcers? Ulcers can sometimes cause anemia, especially in older women.
Daigle, sorry to hear about your mom's troubles. I hope that they find what's wrong soon so that she can get better.
Sorry to hear about your mom, Daigle. I hope she gets better.
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This is nowhere near life-threatening, but I have been having a rough f$&#ing weekend.
So far, I've worked close to eight hours overtime, had to reboot the gas pumps three times, witnessed two car accidents, eaten twice, and nearly run myself broke all over a span of two days. My job's alright, but my luck F&~*ING SUCKS. They say s~+* happens, but I don't know why it always has to happen on my g#%@%#n shift.
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Something else that sucks in this awesome thread:
Hurting your back. Stupid me lifted some stuff badly and pulled something. Damn, it's painful! I'm constantly conscious of the fact that it's sensitive and then every so often I twitch and seize up as pain shots up it and I realize I turned a degree too far or something. I expected it would be painful when I, say, bent over but I never realized that you get out of bed with your back. Now I have to slide myself across until I'm vertically above my feet and then lift with my legs - all the while gasping and blowing. From a one second to a two minute procedure.
Bah! Physio says I should give it a few weeks and there's nothing badly wrong with it. I'd hate to have a BAD back problem! It's enough to make you start exercising :)
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This is nowhere near life-threatening, but I have been having a rough f#~&ing weekend.
So far, I've worked close to eight hours overtime, had to reboot the gas pumps three times, witnessed two car accidents, eaten twice, and nearly run myself broke all over a span of two days. My job's alright, but my luck f#~&ING SUCKS. They say s%@~ happens, but I don't know why it always has to happen on my g*%!!@n shift.
They say things come in threes - so that's no more rebooting of the gas pumps at least. Unfortunately it means one more accident (hopefully just a scrape) and then that cycle will have run it's course too.
Now you need, say, three lottery wins, three strangers to say hello while passing, three smiles from check-out girls and three days of beautiful weather while you can enjoy them. That'll sort you out!
Hope it clears up for you soon mate!
I've been in Washington for a week now helping my son plan his wedding and taking care of my mother. My mother was the first female police officer in Kitsap county, she fought her way up the ladder, blazing the way for other women, finally retiring after 35 years on the force. She qualified for mensa and could do the New York Times crossword in under five minutes, in ink. She has been diagnosed with Korsakoff disease, a degenerative dementia. She screams at me, accuses us of horrible acts and thinks I'm the grooms sister. I'm up with her until four every morning, no sleep aid seems to work. I love my mother.
I am a patient person, I am calm, understanding and serene. I don't ever lose control and I always maintain my composure. Those that know me know that it takes a hell of a lot to get me to even raise an eyebrow, yet lately, I've felt like I want to scream to the heavens and pound my fists.
I know she loves me, I know she doesn't control her mind anymore, I know it's not going to get better, so why am I so impatient and frustrated, and why are all her made up memories so accusatory and evil?
I feel like such a bad person.
Sorry to rant your eyes off my friends, I just needed someone. I need strength, God give me strength...I miss my mommy.
Sorry to hear how tough things are for you, Lady Lena. My mom went through something similar with her mom, and it was so hard. It sounds like you're a strong person approaching it with a great attitude. A bad person? Hardly (those these kinds of feelings seem to go with the territory).
My prayers are with you.
Lady Lena, I don't even know what to say. That has to be unbelievably hard.
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They say kidney stones are almost par to giving birth...now you know my friend.
Thank you friends for the hugs, prayers, and kind words, I am trying desperately to hold on to my sense of humor. Luckily, I have the Paizo boards when I need a smile or a chuckle.
They say kidney stones are almost par to giving birth...now you know my friend.
Thank you friends for the hugs, prayers, and kind words, I am trying desperately to hold on to my sense of humor. Luckily, I have the Paizo boards when I need a smile or a chuckle.
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Drat, you made your Will save vs. abduction.
They say kidney stones are almost par to giving birth...now you know my friend.
Thank you friends for the hugs, prayers, and kind words, I am trying desperately to hold on to my sense of humor. Luckily, I have the Paizo boards when I need a smile or a chuckle.
Of all the things I've lost, I miss my mind the most. ~sighs~ I am so sorry for the issues that you are having. Unfortunatly, Alzimers runs in my family too. I have had several relatives come down with it. I wish you the best and I will keep you in my prayers. Good luck!
Edit - Also, just remember this. If you are frustrated, imagine what your mother is going through. I am sure that at some level she knows what is going on and is very upset at the situation. Jsut remember that she loves you no matter what.
... sad things about her mom...
You are neither evil nor bad. In fact, you are more of a role model than many other people for caring for your mom like you do. It is no small thing to care for your mother like that, not many folks would have that strength. (I´m not sure if I could muster that strength.)
It is perfectly natural that you are frustrated in a situation like that. No human can stand this treatment - from a loved person no less - for an prolonged amount of time and not be frustrated, angry and sad.It is absolutely necessary that you vent your frustration somehow, otherwise you might be heading for a breakdown yourself. This situation can erode your own formidable strength over time, so take good care.
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Something else that sucks in this awesome thread:
Hurting your back. Stupid me lifted some stuff badly and pulled something. Damn, it's painful! I'm constantly conscious of the fact that it's sensitive and then every so often I twitch and seize up as pain shots up it and I realize I turned a degree too far or something. I expected it would be painful when I, say, bent over but I never realized that you get out of bed with your back. Now I have to slide myself across until I'm vertically above my feet and then lift with my legs - all the while gasping and blowing. From a one second to a two minute procedure.
Bah! Physio says I should give it a few weeks and there's nothing badly wrong with it. I'd hate to have a BAD back problem! It's enough to make you start exercising :)
That happens to me every few weeks or so.
It sucks, I'm a young guy, and I'm having all this old-man stuff happen to me. I have a bad back, the beginnings of arthritis in my hands and wrists, and my hair's starting to turn gray. I suppose I should have expected it--the same things happened to my dad when he was my age.
It sucks.....my hair's starting to turn gray.
Mr. Shiny be thankful you still have hair to turn gray. I'm 23 and balding, I have to shave my head so I don't have to look at it, but yeah, same thing with my dad too. I hate genetics sometimes.
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It sucks.....my hair's starting to turn gray.Mr. Shiny be thankful you still have hair to turn gray. I'm 23 and balding, I have to shave my head so I don't have to look at it, but yeah, same thing with my dad too. I hate genetics sometimes.
Judging by my genes, I'm going to have a hairline like Ian MacKaye by age thirty. Plus, my hair falls out in quarter-sized patches when I'm stressed out.
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Car troubles. Car went in over 3 weeks ago. Got it back after 2 weeks but it wasn't fixed so they took it back again for a day. Then they didn't fix it AGAIN!!! So I gave it back to them AGAIN!
... AND THEY DIDNT FIX IT AGAIN!!!!!!!!!!!!!
So I called them yesterday and he said he would talk to the mechanics and call back.
... HE DIDN'T!!
So I get to call again today ... and then I get to be without a car AGAIN for however long it takes this time around.
... happy happy joy joy my ass.