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Congrats to both keftiu and Kittyburger!
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According to my Facebook memories, today is my 4 year anniversary of taking estrogen! Yeah! A few days ago was the 8 year anniversary of my stroke. I want to boo that, but yeah! I'm alive!
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Musk perpetuates hate. He created a safe space for evil people to gather and went out of his way to enhance their voices while while silencing good people.
He has outright ruined the platform. Disgusting.
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I was told that the city I live near was hosting an event for veterans today. All I had to do was sign up. There would be a guest speaker and a free lunch plus a bunch of sponsors. So I signed up and brought a friend.
My reason for signing up is to start networking with a few other veterans and the local LGBTQ organization that is starting up in the city. My friend is part of a nonprofit that helps veterans and since it's just starting up she wanted to network also.
Well, the event was bit more than I expected. The speaker is a Vietnam veteran who draws portraits of fallen troops for Gold Star families at no charge. These are amazing portraits. He has done it for British and Polish troops as well. Poland had their first veterans event because of him. He's just an amazing guy.
The food was also not what I expected. I thought maybe some sandwiches or pizza. Nope. A 3 course meal. The wait staff came over and put the dressing on our salad for us. The table was formal. The entrée was herb chicken on mashed potatoes with baby carrots. The dessert was our choice of raspberry chocolate cake or carrot cake.
They also presented a large sheet cake for the Marines because it's their birthday. They had a Marine version who also served during Vietnam cut the cake with a sword.
The entire event was a great experience. I met a lot of really great people. It was far more than I was expecting.
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I was told that the city I live near was hosting an event for veterans today. All I had to do was sign up. There would be a guest speaker and a free lunch plus a bunch of sponsors. So I signed up and brought a friend.
My reason for signing up is to start networking with a few other veterans and the local LGBTQ organization that is starting up in the city. My friend is part of a nonprofit that helps veterans and since it's just starting up she wanted to network also.
Well, the event was bit more than I expected. The speaker is a Vietnam veteran who draws portraits of fallen troops for Gold Star families at no charge. These are amazing portraits. He has done it for British and Polish troops as well. Poland had their first veterans event because of him. He's just an amazing guy.
The food was also not what I expected. I thought maybe some sandwiches or pizza. Nope. A 3 course meal. The wait staff came over and put the dressing on our salad for us. The table was formal. The entrée was herb chicken on mashed potatoes with baby carrots. The dessert was our choice of raspberry chocolate cake or carrot cake.
They also presented a large sheet cake for the Marines because it's their birthday. They had a Marine version who also served during Vietnam cut the cake with a sword.
The entire event was a great experience. I met a lot of really great people. It was far more than I was expecting.
Really happy for you Cindy. Hope it will be the same every year.
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I was approached by the Pride organization for my community to join them and help out. I don't know yet what that would require, but I have been thinking more and more that I want to be an advocate for the LGBTQ community with a focus on transgender people.
Has anyone joined their local LGBTQ organization and are willing to share their experiences, negative, positive, and neutral?
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I was approached by the Pride organization for my community to join them and help out. I don't know yet what that would require, but I have been thinking more and more that I want to be an advocate for the LGBTQ community with a focus on transgender people.
Has anyone joined their local LGBTQ organization and are willing to share their experiences, negative, positive, and neutral?
I just got roped into being on the board of our local trans support group this week.
I just got roped into being on the board of our local trans support group this week.I was approached by the Pride organization for my community to join them and help out. I don't know yet what that would require, but I have been thinking more and more that I want to be an advocate for the LGBTQ community with a focus on transgender people.
Has anyone joined their local LGBTQ organization and are willing to share their experiences, negative, positive, and neutral?
What do you think?
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What do you think?Has anyone joined their local LGBTQ organization and are willing to share their experiences, negative, positive, and neutral?I just got roped into being on the board of our local trans support group this week.
It really depends on the group. Some can be catty and others can be good and supportive. The only way to find out is to dip your toe in the water and test it.
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I am thankful for each and every one of you.
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Over the weekend, I was at my FLGS for some board games. There were a bunch of teens getting ready for their 5E session. I bought everyone at the table a set of dice. One girl picked up some pink dice and I mentioned that they were the lesbian pride colors. (The dice were from Heartbeat Dice.) She said that was perfect because she's a lesbian. Then one of the other young ladies looked at her dice and said, "That's good because I got the bi dice and now that we're dating, we have matching dice!"
That really makes me happy!
I hope everyone had a great holiday and that the new year starts off well for you!
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A slightly-off-center request here:
I'm working on the community guidelines for a new website with a discussion board for members.
Do any of you have good examples of well-written community guidelines that you have found to be useful, helpful, written in a kind way, or otherwise framed positively that are also good at protecting marginalized individuals?
While I find the "don't do this!" lists to be slightly amusing (I'm always trying to figure out the scenario that prompted that particular rule), I'm mostly looking for content that will clearly frame how the community can be vibrant without being contentious.
Any links or suggestions greatly appreciated.
I'm an admin in a board game group on Facebook. These are our rules. While not perfect, we do revist them periodically to make sure that they align with the goals of the group.
This Group is a Safe Space - Be Kind Always
This group is a safe space for trans and cis women, as well as all non-binary folks. We welcome self-proclaimed veteran gamers and beginners alike, and want to keep this community safe and welcoming for everyone. Please remember that this is an international group and give everyone the benefit of the doubt. If anything is off, contact the modmins – and be kind, always.
All Non-Binary Folks Belong Here
All non-binary people are valid and welcome here regardless of their assigned gender at birth, pronouns or gender expression. This group is theirs and they belong here. Non-binary people are NOT women lite, or any other subset of women. By joining our community, you confirm that you agree.
No Sales, Charity, or Spam Posts Allowed
We don't tolerate spam, charity or sales posts, or any type of post asking people to spend or donate money. We're an international group and these posts cause confusion. We also want to protect our members from charity fatigue. Posts breaking this rule will be deleted.
No Business Pages or Profiles
We only accept requests from personal profiles. This is to help keep our group free of promotions and ads. Join requests from business profiles will be rejected. If you're a woman or non-binary person with a board game related project or business, please join on your personal profile. You can then share your project on one of our dedicated creator or crowdfunding threads.
No Self-Promoption Posts Without Admin Permission
If you want to post about content or a project you're connected to, you must ask an admin each time. We delete all unapproved posts. **This includes anything that someone running a project asks you to post or reshare** We'll only approve if: ✓ It's been more than 4 weeks since your last promo post ✓ Your post starts with a question or asks for feedback ✓ You've already been in the group a while We have a monthly 'creator corner' thread where you can share your work without asking.
No Hate Speech, Bullying, or Personal Attacks
Bullying, hate speech, and personal attacks are STRICTLY FORBIDDEN. We love conversations but we hate fights. Please, always remember to act with kindness and report misbehavior to the admins.
Respect One Another
We discuss board games but we also have occasional debates on several issues within the Community here. Having a different opinion than someone else is in no way a reason to disrespect, belittle or attack them. Please ALWAYS reply with kindness.
Inviting Other People
When you 'invite' someone to the group, they often don't get notified of the invite at all. In most cases it just automatically submits a join request on their behalf, without telling them, asking them our membership questions or checking they agree with our group rules. That means the request might be auto-rejected. To solve this, when inviting people to the group please only invite by using the 'share' option to send a link via messenger, so the person can request to join the usual way.
To Report a Post to Us, Comment "Admin" on it
Instead of using the 'Report to admins' button, please comment 'admin', 'mod' or 'modmin' under the content. This immediately flags it to us for review and we will deal with it.
Purposeful Off-Topic Posts Are Allowed
Off-topic posts are allowed as long as they don't go against the other rules.
We have been trying to find more ways to have the rules be more positive, but we have found that it's a lot easier to have the rule be concise, and sometimes that means that we need to have negatives. I can say that we have 6 people running a group with over 8,000 members and we have very little to do. The group is consistently growing. It's an overall positive place to be where people can discuss gaming and issues related to gaming without fear that they will be ostracized for it.
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I don't do resolutions. I will wish the best that the world offers to you. May your lives be filled with everlasting peace, love, and harmony.
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I just want the world to be a better place.
Sadly, its getting harder and harder to believe that will happen. Lately, it very much feels to me that "good" lost the battle a few decades ago.
Now we're just watching that result play out in slow motion. :(
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Our new (and youngest) Prime Minister in France is the first openly gay person to become the head of the government.
And absolutely no one has even mentioned his orientation, except to salute the historical event.
Truthfully, this quiet acceptance (I hope it's the proper word) would have been unthinkable 10 years ago.
So some things do change for the better.
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This morning, a pioneer in gaming passed away. Jennell Jaquays had been working in game design and development since the 1970s. Her work on Dungeons and Dragons alone shaped role-playing games for future generations. She was also an artist, with her art on novels as well as many game products. She's the one who coined the word "dungeoneer".
She was also a trans activist. Her work helping families of transgender youth saved lives.
I considered her a friend. I didn't know her well, but she always made herself available when I had questions.
She is survived by her wife, Rebecca Heineman, who has worked in video game design since the days of the Commodore 64 and created many games that I enjoyed growing up. Her work laid the foundation for games that are beloved today, including Baldur's Gate that many of you are enjoying today. Becky won the very first video game tournament in 1980. She was also an activist, laying the foundation for laws within my own state of Washington that have protected the lives of LGBTQ+ people and given us rights that we had previously been denied.
They had 5 children.
The world is a little darker today.
This hit me harder than I thought it would. She, along with others, created an environment where I can not only live, but thrive. I will forever be grateful.
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It's been a while since I've checked in on this thread (it's been a long few years, and I'm a belle grognarde who still hasn't dabbled her toes in PF2, so my forum time tends to focus on my play-by-post games, but I thought folks here might have some insight on current affairs?
It's not happy news, so I'll put the lurid details in spoilers, but what's up with the WPATH stuff?
A lot of the usual nonsense about "won't someone think of the AFAB children" and so-called "early-onset gender dysphoria" and all that.
Came across it in, predictably, the reliably reactionary British media - apparently I'm one of the radical far left types some worry about - but mercifully I haven't seen it cut through on other platforms I follow, though that's cold comfort. Anyone know if this is getting traction anywhere else?
Wondering if this is something we should brace for in my part of the world, where this past autumn we had to mobilize the community to counter-protest a punch of lunatics up in arms against efforts to acknowledge gender and sexual diversity at all levels of education.
Wondering, too, if it's too (uncharacteristically) optimistic to hope this will fizzle out quietly or go the way "Climategate" eventually did?
:( :( :(
Trying to find a happier note, the student insurance provider at my school has recently broadened its coverage for gender-affirming care, so I need to look into that for some last odds-and-ends that would be helpful for me.
I hope everyone's staying safe out there, as best as they can. <3
It's been a while since I've checked in on this thread (it's been a long few years, and I'm a belle grognarde who still hasn't dabbled her toes in PF2, so my forum time tends to focus on my play-by-post games, but I thought folks here might have some insight on current affairs?
It's not happy news, so I'll put the lurid details in spoilers, but what's up with the WPATH stuff?
** spoiler omitted **Trying to find a happier note, the student insurance provider at my school has recently broadened its coverage for gender-affirming care, so I need to look into that for some last odds-and-ends that would be helpful for me.
I hope everyone's staying safe out there, as best as they can. <3
I hadn't heard anything about it. I'll have to do some research on it. I'm very confused about what's happening.
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I'm a belle grognarde who still hasn't dabbled her toes in PF2
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Don't worry, I'll be making her learn soon enough for Age of Worms.
I hadn't heard anything about it. I'll have to do some research on it. I'm very confused about what's happening.It's been a while since I've checked in on this thread (it's been a long few years, and I'm a belle grognarde who still hasn't dabbled her toes in PF2, so my forum time tends to focus on my play-by-post games, but I thought folks here might have some insight on current affairs?
It's not happy news, so I'll put the lurid details in spoilers, but what's up with the WPATH stuff?
** spoiler omitted **Trying to find a happier note, the student insurance provider at my school has recently broadened its coverage for gender-affirming care, so I need to look into that for some last odds-and-ends that would be helpful for me.
I hope everyone's staying safe out there, as best as they can. <3
Ugh, I hope it may just have hit me particularly hard. I'm not seeing it anywhere else yet, and hopefully that can stay that way. There was a bizarre editorial at The Guardian; I've put a link in the spoiler below.
It's deeply unpleasant stuff, so if anyone decides to brave it, be ready to - I don't know - touch grass? put on some really angry music? responsibly self-medicate? call a holy crusade in the name of the Syrian Goddess / Inanna?
Or, I guess, vent? With me, if you like, either here or by PM? ♀️
On the bright side again, let's see... Oh, I've started listening to audiobooks while I do a bit of embroidery. Recent listens that get the Qunnessaa stamp of approval, for something light while plying a needle, include Casey McQuiston's I Kissed Shara Wheeler and Ami McKay's The Witches of New York. (The latter wraps up its main plot but dangles plot hooks for more volumes quite shamelessly, one of which is a loose end from an unexpected but very welcome sapphic subplot.)
Ugh, I hope it may just have hit me particularly hard. I'm not seeing it anywhere else yet, and hopefully that can stay that way. There was a bizarre editorial at The Guardian; I've put a link in the spoiler below.
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It's deeply unpleasant stuff, so if anyone decides to brave it, be ready to - I don't know - touch grass? put on some really angry music? responsibly self-medicate? call a holy crusade in the name of the Syrian Goddess / Inanna?
Or, I guess, vent? With me, if you like, either here or by PM? ♀️
On the bright side again, let's see... Oh, I've started listening to audiobooks while I do a bit of embroidery. Recent listens that get the Qunnessaa stamp of approval, for something light while plying a needle, include Casey McQuiston's I Kissed Shara Wheeler and Ami McKay's The Witches of New York. (The latter wraps up its main plot but dangles plot hooks...
I read the article and it's definitely misleading. It links to The Telegraph, which I'm not going to pay for a subscription to, but the headline says that doctors are hiding the risks of cancer with HRT. However, I knew about the risks before I started because there were already studies on it.
They are hyping this up because they want to get transphobes riled up. It's going to work because people don't actually read any links provided to get more information. For example, the article links to the WPATH guidelines, which do remove age restrictions, but instead go with when the patient hits puberty, which is different for everyone. The article mentions it, but not very clearly.
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PEOPLE! SO MANY PEOPLE VISIBLE TO ME! MORESO THAN NORMAL! AAAHHHH!
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PEOPLE! SO MANY PEOPLE VISIBLE TO ME! MORESO THAN NORMAL! AAAHHHH!
Today is the day we have a -20 to our stealth checks!
And now the day where we can disappear if we wish to with two simple words. :)
And now the day where we can disappear if we wish to with two simple words. :)
John Cena?
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I think one of the reasons I've had such a sinking dread of the god being killed being Iomedae is because she has the allegiance of a LOT of the particularly powerful trans NPCs in the setting.
"Trans people can't have nice things" is a thing I play RPGs to escape from.
Rest assured, at my table gods do not die so much as they go away for a while, and come back, sorta kinda American Gods/Scion style.
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I totally get where you're coming from, Kittyburger. Of course, for me, "exciting drama and challenging character arcs" are nice things. If all queer rep gets stuck playing it safe, I start to feel like only the cishet characters are getting to go outside.
Waitaminute. There weren't this many women here before.
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Everyone, a moment of your time.
One of my oldest friends and gaming companions has just come out to me as transgender. I have known this person for over 20 years, and this is...well, I am shocked. Beyond shocked. I never knew this of them in any way.
I'm happy they were in a place where they could come out to the gaming group. Actually, I am beyond happy that they would be able to do so. But the shock is still there.
I hope the shock doesnt make me a bad person. But this news is less than 2 minutes old, and this was the first place I came to, the only place I could think of.
Wow.
I mean.
Wow.
I never even thought or suspected...
My friend from above just informed me they are going for bottom surgery tomorrow.
Wow.
WOW.
I will stop by the hospital to see how they healing this Saturday, after hanging out with someone from these very messageboards.
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Everyone, a moment of your time.
One of my oldest friends and gaming companions has just come out to me as transgender. I have known this person for over 20 years, and this is...well, I am shocked. Beyond shocked. I never knew this of them in any way.
I'm happy they were in a place where they could come out to the gaming group. Actually, I am beyond happy that they would be able to do so. But the shock is still there.
I hope the shock doesnt make me a bad person. But this news is less than 2 minutes old, and this was the first place I came to, the only place I could think of.
Wow.
I mean.
Wow.
I never even thought or suspected...
My friend from above just informed me they are going for bottom surgery tomorrow.
Wow.
WOW.
I will stop by the hospital to see how they healing this Saturday, after hanging out with someone from these very messageboards.
That's awesome! I'm still waiting for my consultation. I've been waiting for about a year already. Let us know how things go!
I'm sorry- I see more women TODAY than usual, not that other day.
I'm sorry- I see more women TODAY than usual, not that other day.
I'll be honest, for a moment I thought you were just like "Wow, a bunch of people around here have come out as trans women lately and I'm just realizing how skewed the gender balance is getting because of it" XD
I do think that just like writing/reading have more transmascs than transfems, transfems are probably more represented in TTRPGs than transmascs? But that's anecdotal.