It's been a full year since I was kicked out of my long time gaming group. Gaming counts for most of the best parts of my life, friends were made, adventures had, and life has been richer because of it. I'm grateful.
Things change however, and after nearly 10 years at the game table, the social dynamic among those I played became quite different from when I had started.
There was a period of time were I felt I was no longer fitting in at the table. I tried to convince myself it was just insecurity as these people had been friends for years, and I still enjoyed the chance to get out of the house for a couple hours a week. Sadly though, my instinct was right, and I should have left some time earlier to avoid embarrassment.
At the start of a late summer game session, one of the guys in the group. Someone I really admired and respect, gave me the talk. Some of you may know this feeling when you are fired from a job. It was just like that, only rather than a job, it was friendship. I didn't have whatever qualities were needed to fit in, and they wanted me gone.
It was an "Et tu, Brutus" moment for sure, and it honestly felt like someone had stuck a physical knife into my heart.
Things haven't been all bad as a result. The free time has allowed for me to focus on college, and I have stellar grades as a result, but there are times I still miss those nights.
Being able to move forward from sad events that cause change will let you encounter others, and possibly(and hopefully) end up in a better place with better people that match you. Good Luck over there, and btw, grats on the college grades.
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You haven't really said what actually caused you to be kicked. In the end, while you might not get back with this group, there might be a lesson to be had, possibly about how you behave, or about the sort of people you want to game with. There is more to life than gaming - getting good grades in college is arguably more important - so a chance to focus on these things may make a more rounded person with broader interests. I dunno - it's tough, not just the gaming but the terminated friendships too.
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Did you drink the milk?
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Did you drink the milk?
And straight from the bottle no doubt!
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Heya!
Are you still friends with the people you used to game with? If so, that's the most important thing.
Also, what did they say the reasons were for punting you?