
Mimski |
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I saw a very good post today on another site how TDOV changed from the need of being seen to being more about the need of the struggles and problems being seen. I do really hope that improvements will continue, despite reactionary backslashes, for all of you in the now and soon.
(Uh, hello everyone. I'm Mimski, a gay man, cis [I, uh, have some what I call 'gender thoughts', but those are complicated] using he/they pronouns. I tend to mostly lurk in online spaces, because I have the tendency to get obsessed with "keeping up" to my detriment. I wish everyone the best though!)

Cindy Robertson |
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For anyone who is interested, I'll be a guest on a podcast about bariatric patients (weight loss). Because of the initial success I had and the troubles I had (nearly died) in addition to being a trans woman who started transitioning I bring a lot to the conversation. The podcast will be on May 5 at 1100 PST. You can find it on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC4sfedeZv_cpydgL__1QrVw and Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/weightlosssurgeries
I'll remind people a day or two prior in case anyone wants to listen in.

Cindy Robertson |
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Cindy Robertson wrote:I'll remind people a day or two prior in case anyone wants to listen in.Thank you. I just want to say how impressed I am with your journey. It's been heartening to see how far you've come, even with the struggles you're still having.
Thank you. I'm not always confident or positive, but if I don't at least try then I'm stuck with giving up. I fought too hard to give up.

Freehold DM |

Wednesday, 5/11. at 11am PST, I will be on the Bariatric Beauties Podcast. I'll be discussing my weightloss journey and the challenges I've had along the way. Things that I've learned and things that I wish I had known.
You can find them on
Facebook HereAnd on YouTube here
WOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

Konradleijon |
Can I bring up a tendency in media for their to be more queer females/WLW then queer males/MLM.
like even in Pathfinder when you look at the major deities three of the main female deities are in a Polymorus open throuple. and Calistia sleeping with everyone. but none of the “main” male gods has ever been said to have been in a Same sex relationship.
I headcannon that Cayden is pansexual and has bedded men, women, and other both as a mortal and as a god. but that’s never been confirmed.
alongside Zon-Kuthon also being pansexual… in his weird tourture is love way.
in the Abyss it’s mentioned that several male indefiying demon lords have sexual relationships with each other.
here’s a Reddit post about it. https://www.reddit.com/r/TwoBestFriendsPlay/comments/nzdvve/weird_double_st andards_in_media/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=ioss mf

VixieMoondew |
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It's definitely, like... a Thing. I don't know enough about the main deities of Pathfinder or the iconics or what-have-you (beyond the occasional WLW nugget, which--this is actually the first I've heard of three of the main female deities being in a polycule?? rad).
That said, it's a double-edged thing; WLW gets a lot of the rep for two big (bullshit) reasons:
1. A lot of straight men think sapphics are hot, but are turned off by MLM.
2. Women are seen as having less sexual desire; a WLW relationship is more likely to be portrayed as love and kisses and romance whereas people have trouble seeing men as led by anything but their... loins.
It's one of those things that we're starting to see turn around, here and there, but progress is slow and I'd love to see it get some momentum. In the meantime, bless Lil Nas X for doing Arshea's work.

Cindy Robertson |
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One thing I'm really liking about Star Trek: Discovery is that two of the main characters are a married male couple. They show affection just like anyone else would. I like how they are normalizing it. There's nothing grandiose. Even the scenes where they kiss, it's not like the women kissing where the camera pans around and zooms in on their lips as they caress each others' faces tenderly as some sort of softcore porn.

Cindy Robertson |
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Date was successful! I felt pretty. He looked great. We went to a place on the waterfront near the Edmonds Ferry (we live in Washington). We looked over Puget Sound while we ate. Then we went for a walk along the waterfront/beach. It was really nice. Now we need to figure out what to do for date number 2!

Rannik |
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So a few days ago, my twelve years old daughter told us that she is Bi-Sexual.
So, I wanted to know, how old were you when you realise that you identified differently. And also, any suggestions on how I should proceed from here. I'm supportive to her, so that's not a problem, but I would like to make sure she remains open and confortable to talk to us.

keftiu |
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So a few days ago, my twelve years old daughter told us that she is Bi-Sexual.
So, I wanted to know, how old were you when you realise that you identified differently. And also, any suggestions on how I should proceed from here. I'm supportive to her, so that's not a problem, but I would like to make sure she remains open and confortable to talk to us.
It’s awesome that she trusted you enough to share that! The best thing to do, IMO, is nothing - you talk to her just like you did before, and understand that her attraction to other genders is a real, full thing.
It’s hard to put a firm date/age on mine. Did I know when I was sixteen, and chose to crossdress for Halloween? Did I know for the years I spent worrying “will my partner still love me if I’m not a man?” I came out at 21, but a lot of that is our society not equipping people with the vocabulary to describe these feelings or making it feel like being trans was an option available to me. The assumed default of cisgender, heterosexual existence hurts a lot of us, and keeps us from being our true selves for years.

VixieMoondew |
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So, I wanted to know, how old were you when you realise that you identified differently.
Professor Oak asked me, "Are you a boy or a girl?"
I didn't realize the significance of how I hated the idea of picking "boy" so much and loved the idea of picking "girl" until years later, but that was already in place. Pokemon Crystal came out in 2000, so I can't have been more than 8 or 9 years old.
And also, any suggestions on how I should proceed from here.
It sounds like you're already on the right path, but hey--might I recommend a bit of Bi Pride merch? Nothing says "I accept you" like "I literally bought you a thing with the flag on it." It's not a "must do" or anything, but it's a nice gesture!

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Rannik wrote:So, I wanted to know, how old were you when you realise that you identified differently.Professor Oak asked me, "Are you a boy or a girl?"
At least one friend of mine found that question incredibly uncomfortable at a similar age, and it helped them come to a few realizations as well. When they saw the question again years later as part of a cosplay at an event though, it was unfortunately triggering.

Cindy Robertson |
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So a few days ago, my twelve years old daughter told us that she is Bi-Sexual.
So, I wanted to know, how old were you when you realise that you identified differently. And also, any suggestions on how I should proceed from here. I'm supportive to her, so that's not a problem, but I would like to make sure she remains open and confortable to talk to us.
I realized I was different when I was very young, but I wasn't allowed to explore who I was. My family pushed me away from anything that could even remotely be feminine. When puberty hit I started to realize that I liked boys and girls, but boys more than girls. Since I was joining the Army, I could not, under any circumstances, let anyone know that I was not male and that I was attracted to men.
I bottled all of that up inside me for decades. When I finally decided to come out and I talked to my parents, I was about 45. They have barely spoken to me since then and last year they decided that they no longer want to talk to me at all. I never really felt comfortable talking to them about anything long before this. I knew exactly where I stood and who I have to be to get their love.
If you want to be supportive of her, treat her the same as you always have. Don't make a fuss about her being bi. Treat each of her partners as the individuals they are and make sure that expectations are followed (curfews, who's allowed in the house when, etc. I would make sure that she has good sex education. If that's something that you are not comfortable doing or don't know as much about as you would iike, there are plenty of clinics and organizations that can help. I'm not talking about the mechanics of sex. I'm talking about some of the things that LGBTQ people face at a higher rate than cishet people. She should definitely be aware of how to practice safe sex with anyone. I know that parents don't want to think about their kids having sex, but the thought will probably cross her mind just like it did with us when we were her age.

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Rannik wrote:So a few days ago, my twelve years old daughter told us that she is Bi-Sexual.
So, I wanted to know, how old were you when you realise that you identified differently. And also, any suggestions on how I should proceed from here. I'm supportive to her, so that's not a problem, but I would like to make sure she remains open and confortable to talk to us.
I realized I was different when I was very young, but I wasn't allowed to explore who I was. My family pushed me away from anything that could even remotely be feminine. When puberty hit I started to realize that I liked boys and girls, but boys more than girls. Since I was joining the Army, I could not, under any circumstances, let anyone know that I was not male and that I was attracted to men.
I bottled all of that up inside me for decades. When I finally decided to come out and I talked to my parents, I was about 45. They have barely spoken to me since then and last year they decided that they no longer want to talk to me at all. I never really felt comfortable talking to them about anything long before this. I knew exactly where I stood and who I have to be to get their love.
If you want to be supportive of her, treat her the same as you always have. Don't make a fuss about her being bi. Treat each of her partners as the individuals they are and make sure that expectations are followed (curfews, who's allowed in the house when, etc. I would make sure that she has good sex education. If that's something that you are not comfortable doing or don't know as much about as you would iike, there are plenty of clinics and organizations that can help. I'm not talking about the mechanics of sex. I'm talking about some of the things that LGBTQ people face at a higher rate than cishet people. She should definitely be aware of how to practice safe sex with anyone. I know that parents don't want to think about their kids having sex, but the thought will probably cross her mind just like it did with us when we were her age.
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Cindy Robertson |
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Well, looks like there's no 2nd date. I'm ok with that. I honestly still count this as a win. I gathered the courage to ask. I didn't back out when he said yes. I had a great time. He was honest and said that he doesn't feel anything romantic. We are still friends and will still game together. The date did what it was supposed to do: determine if we should have another date.
The fact that he said yes is more than enough to help me with my fear that people will generally be transphobic enough to not be interested in me. The first try was a success.