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I’m a cis het white guy. My spouse and I were invited to help carry the Trans Pride Flag at our local Pride Festival Parade. I march and carry the flag for my stepson because their bio dad will never accept who they are. I march for our friend who decided to be the person she was always meant to be.
It was fun to see a bunch of our friends marching, yelling, running around carrying a flag and having the time of their life.
Today was a good day.
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We went to Pride also and I was happy to see that there were no people protesting against us. The Seattle Center was full of people having fun. The worst thing I saw was someone in a mascot outfit in 90 degree weather. I hope that they stayed hydrated!
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Removed gender as a required question for our New Library Card form yesterday.
Test engineer?
I wonder if Erik Keith is moving on.
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Going in for an interview for a potential promotion/new position today.
This could be big.
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So, after my daughter opened about being bi, now I have a co-worker that just told the entire company that she is a trans-woman. And here I though the international coming day was in October. :)
I must admit that I admire her courage. This is a very big thing, and I will support her all the way.
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The last couple weeks have been great and horrible at the same time. I have gone to a public pool and used the women's locker room. A friend went with me both times. It's still a little stressful, but it's getting easier. The last time an older lady even complemented me on my swimsuit! I don't expect people to talk to me in a locker room, and especially an older cis woman (she was in her late 60s to early 70s). Getting a positive comment really made me feel welcome and that I belong.
I also have been trying to get Medicaid to cover facial hair removal, but it's incredibly hard. I need 3 letters from different providers, photos of the area, and I can only use 4 different clinics in the entire state, but I need a letter from them also explaining what they are going to do. I have to have a medical reason why I can't shave. Looking in the mirror to shave triggers my dysphoria so bad that it can keep me in hiding for days on end.
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The last couple weeks have been great and horrible at the same time. I have gone to a public pool and used the women's locker room. A friend went with me both times. It's still a little stressful, but it's getting easier. The last time an older lady even complemented me on my swimsuit! I don't expect people to talk to me in a locker room, and especially an older cis woman (she was in her late 60s to early 70s). Getting a positive comment really made me feel welcome and that I belong.
I also have been trying to get Medicaid to cover facial hair removal, but it's incredibly hard. I need 3 letters from different providers, photos of the area, and I can only use 4 different clinics in the entire state, but I need a letter from them also explaining what they are going to do. I have to have a medical reason why I can't shave. Looking in the mirror to shave triggers my dysphoria so bad that it can keep me in hiding for days on end.
Big hugs, Cindy.
I am sure it will work out fine in the end.
Sending strong positive waves your way. Be well :-)
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Just in case folks hadn't seen it yet, today the US 4th Circuit Court of Appeals ruled that transgender people are covered by the Americans with Disabilities Act.
Here's a link to a Twitter thread summarizing the decision, along with a link to a PDF of the opinion. Be aware that, as the case was a lawsuit by a trans woman against law enforcement, the opinion does describe the transphobia she experienced while incarcerated.
The short version is that, while the ADA has an exclusion for "gender identity disorders not resulting from physical impairments," it does not define what those are, and there no longer is such a diagnosis. Gender dysphoria, on the other hand, is not specifically excluded, and at the time of the original adoption of the ADA, was not included under the umbrella of "gender identity disorders." Therefore, it is a protected disability under the ADA because it is not specifically excluded.
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Just in case folks hadn't seen it yet, today the US 4th Circuit Court of Appeals ruled that transgender people are covered by the Americans with Disabilities Act.
Here's a link to a Twitter thread summarizing the decision, along with a link to a PDF of the opinion. Be aware that, as the case was a lawsuit by a trans woman against law enforcement, the opinion does describe the transphobia she experienced while incarcerated.
The short version is that, while the ADA has an exclusion for "gender identity disorders not resulting from physical impairments," it does not define what those are, and there no longer is such a diagnosis. Gender dysphoria, on the other hand, is not specifically excluded, and at the time of the original adoption of the ADA, was not included under the umbrella of "gender identity disorders." Therefore, it is a protected disability under the ADA because it is not specifically excluded.
This is interesting. I have a feeling that this will be appealed to the SCOTUS who will rule that the concept of GID is still valid.
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While I don't think anyone here has, if you have done business with the Dungeon Hobby Shop, you need to know that it's possible that your Credit Card or PayPal account was compromised if you used it. Apparently, the clown in charge decided to share the information with at least one vender who did not need it. That vender has not done anything with it, but he is warning others that it's possible that others also have the information.
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It is Bisexual Awareness Week. CELEBRATE!
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That's a typo, it's actually Bisexual Awereness Week.
Now if you excuse me, I'm gonna go get mauled by my wife <3
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It is Bisexual Awareness Week. CELEBRATE!
Oh, that was you! I was wondering why I felt drawn to this thread again.
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Oh, that was you! I was wondering why I felt drawn to this thread again.It is Bisexual Awareness Week. CELEBRATE!
It's awareness, not summoning! That's the other guy!
Has anyone here tried any dating apps/sites with any success?
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Has anyone here tried any dating apps/sites with any success?
I'm a trans lesbian in a pretty progressive big city, so let that inform my answers some.
Tinder has been surprisingly kind to me, though I wound up sorting through a lot of accounts allegedly for hetero couples looking for a third - yuck! OkCupid worked pretty well where I'm at, but definitely had a lower install base, while Bumble and especially HER were very, very quiet... which makes finding my current partner through HER kind of hysterical.
The biggest snarl I ran into was that I'm monogamous, and apparently every single queer person where I live outside of my partner is not, which wasn't really the apps' fault.
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I tried Lex. After just a few days, the only people who responded to me at all were looking to get high, catfishing, or just downright transphobic. It was a horrible experience.
I'm trying OkCupid, but it's not very promising. I'm very nervoud about Tinder and I don't know anything about Bumble or HER. Are they trans friendly?
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I tried Lex. After just a few days, the only people who responded to me at all were looking to get high, catfishing, or just downright transphobic. It was a horrible experience.
I'm trying OkCupid, but it's not very promising. I'm very nervoud about Tinder and I don't know anything about Bumble or HER. Are they trans friendly?
Lex was awful for me.
I've not had to deal with anything more than some pretty clueless cis people on Tinder, but I'm also in a big, West Coast city, and not interfacing with men at all - YMMV there, depending on both those factors.
Bumble's whole (admirable, but heteronormative) schtick is that if users their system sorts as a man and a woman connect, the man isn't allowed to message first; same-gender matches are free from this. No matter what kind of pairing it is, users have 24 hours to send a first message - if nobody makes the first move, it unmatches you. A novel way to force spontaneity and avoid matches that go nowhere.
HER was originally built to be a lesbian dating app, as the name suggests, but took the understandable step of opening up to trans men as well... but, frustratingly, made filtering results by pronoun a paid feature. I sucked it up and just swiped left on the folks who weren't for me, but it's definitely annoying. The people themselves were nothing but kind.
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I live near Seattle. I'm sure that most of the problems I'll run into will be just from jerks online, but I'm still worried about in person interactions.
I'll take a look at those and see what might work for me. Thank you.
I tried Lex. After just a few days, the only people who responded to me at all were looking to get high, catfishing, or just downright transphobic. It was a horrible experience.
I'm trying OkCupid, but it's not very promising. I'm very nervoud about Tinder and I don't know anything about Bumble or HER. Are they trans friendly?
Lex was awful for me.
I've not had to deal with anything more than some pretty clueless cis people on Tinder, but I'm also in a big, West Coast city, and not interfacing with men at all - YMMV there, depending on both those factors.
Bumble's whole (admirable, but heteronormative) schtick is that if users their system sorts as a man and a woman connect, the man isn't allowed to message first; same-gender matches are free from this. No matter what kind of pairing it is, users have 24 hours to send a first message - if nobody makes the first move, it unmatches you. A novel way to force spontaneity and avoid matches that go nowhere.
HER was originally built to be a lesbian dating app, as the name suggests, but took the understandable step of opening up to trans men as well... but, frustratingly, made filtering results by pronoun a paid feature. I sucked it up and just swiped left on the folks who weren't for me, but it's definitely annoying. The people themselves were nothing but kind.
intriguing.
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Lex is a truly dreadful app. It wants to be both a queer community hub and a dating app, but there's no "swipe" feature, there's no group chat, there's barely even emoji support.
If Lex wants to be a community builder, it should be designed more like a messageboard, or like Discord, but banning "cis men" counterintuitively kind of kills that idea. The policy forces trans men and transfem eggs to out themselves, excludes all gay and bisexual cis men (which also hurts bisexual women), and puts masc-leaning transfem nonbinary people in a really awkward and weird position where they have to "codify" their identity to be allowed inside and people constantly treat them like impostors. I know this isn't always a popular take, but the policy's 2010s progressivism at its absolute worst.
If they wanted to allow users to control which types of profiles and posts they see, that would work just as well without excluding certain groups, but... then it's a dating app, not a community app. And as a dating and hookup app, it just flat-out sucks, because the vast majority of queer relationships (and hookups) I've seen start out in shared community spaces where people can get a safe feel for one another. Lex can't decide what it wants to be.
That being said, I did manage to find a great Pathfinder group and find my moving-to-my-town girlfriend a place to stay on Lex, so it has some uses buried beneath it all.
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In other news: thanks to their incredibly kind support (and relentless, gentle prodding), I was able to quit my awful day job about three months back, with the intention being that I could focus on my tabletop work. I got two projects out the door before falling into a total quagmire of fatigue... until today, when I was able to release a full game! I've got two more finished, and going to be trickling them out over the next two weeks - they form a linked trio!
I'm feeling so incredibly blessed, lucky, and loved... and I got to make some cool stuff!
Lex is a truly dreadful app. It wants to be both a queer community hub and a dating app, but there's no "swipe" feature, there's no group chat, there's barely even emoji support.
If Lex wants to be a community builder, it should be designed more like a messageboard, or like Discord, but banning "cis men" counterintuitively kind of kills that idea. The policy forces trans men and transfem eggs to out themselves, excludes all gay and bisexual cis men (which also hurts bisexual women), and puts masc-leaning transfem nonbinary people in a really awkward and weird position where they have to "codify" their identity to be allowed inside and people constantly treat them like impostors. I know this isn't always a popular take, but the policy's 2010s progressivism at its absolute worst.
If they wanted to allow users to control which types of profiles and posts they see, that would work just as well without excluding certain groups, but... then it's a dating app, not a community app. And as a dating and hookup app, it just flat-out sucks, because the vast majority of queer relationships (and hookups) I've seen start out in shared community spaces where people can get a safe feel for one another. Lex can't decide what it wants to be.
That being said, I did manage to find a great Pathfinder group and find my moving-to-my-town girlfriend a place to stay on Lex, so it has some uses buried beneath it all.
mmm.
Also intriguing.
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In other news: thanks to their incredibly kind support (and relentless, gentle prodding), I was able to quit my awful day job about three months back, with the intention being that I could focus on my tabletop work. I got two projects out the door before falling into a total quagmire of fatigue... until today, when I was able to release a full game! I've got two more finished, and going to be trickling them out over the next two weeks - they form a linked trio!
I'm feeling so incredibly blessed, lucky, and loved... and I got to make some cool stuff!
I'm glad you were able to get out. And I'm even more glad you had support to do so. Please keep making stuff. And advertise here, if you can.
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I'm glad you were able to get out. And I'm even more glad you had support to do so. Please keep making stuff. And advertise here, if you can.
Thank you! If the mods don't mind me sharing: 199X: SHUTDOWN is a cyberpunk/horror microgame (3 pages!) using Jason Tocci's 24XX system. You play as a thrown-together team of survivors trapped within an immense corporate arcology, locked down by a murderous newborn AI.
It's inspired by old-school cyberpunk games, especially Shadowrun in the 90s (when I was busy being nonexistent/a toddler), so it's got fun stuff like wireless hacking being extraordinary - but you can get a "hardlink harpoon" to hack with your crossbow! You can play it completely standalone, or borrow its unique rules (a ton of gear, a "spell list" of hacking Software, a bunch of cybernetic Hardware) for the other two 199X games I'm releasing over the next two weeks!
Next friday, I drop 199X: INFEST, which is about the folks scraping by in Rad Zone 1, where they pit salvaged tech, psychic Powers, and mutant Twists against everything from bandit warlords to alien Bugs. The week after that sees 199X: COMPLEX, where players are agents of the titular counter-terrorism agency who tackle classified cases with robot Drones and their Sway over the ruling Factions of Monsoon Sprawl - power-hungry monsters who see them as expendable as everyone else.
The idea was that each game stands alone... but if you chop them up, you've suddenly got a good deal of varied mechanical options for cyberpunk in under 10 pages, complete with a shared setting. If they do well, I've got ideas for one or two more!
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Cooooooooooool
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For those who celebrate, I hope you had a good thanksgiving!
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Moving interstate is stressful. And my wife finally caught covid in her final two weeks handing over from her current job. :o
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So my brother's oldest child just game out as non-binary and bisexual. They also just started playing DnD! They're such a nerd! I love it! They are athletic, a talented artist, musician, actor, and very intelligent too! I'm such a proud auntie! They were telling me all about their tiefling bard. My sister in law asked me what to get them for Christmas. I threw out all kinds of ideas that are inexpensive, but tailored to her. Oh, and their love of DnD wasn't my fault! I didn't even tell them about the game. I rarely talk with them and I haven't seen them in years because they live 3000 miles away!
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Big congrats to keftiu and Cindy's newhatched nibling!
Moving interstate is stressful. And my wife finally caught covid in her final two weeks handing over from her current job. :o
Stay safe!
I'm on Day 28 of NaNoWriMo, and my graph looks like this. It's pretty hectic, but I've been able to keep up with work through it, so that's nice! (I'm basically doing 1.5 NaNoWriMos if you count what I write for work.) I lagged really bad in the first half in large part because it turns out you shouldn't have the first half of your YA romance novel take place with the two main characters separated from one another. X3
Meanwhile, my other girlfriend recently moved to town, so we all got to spend a Thanksgiving together. I even finally nailed the roast chicken!
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I just scheduled a boudoir shoot for April!
I just scheduled a boudoir shoot for April!
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It's been a few years, but I was popping back in to see the OGL gossip and noticed some almost familiar names in the forum threads. I clicked on the similar name and it was the person I was thinking about and it appears they came out as trans a couple years ago.
I came out as trans this year (although, I'm pretty sure my profile on here would prove me otherwise). I just love how queer the RPG community is and it felt nice to know that I wasn't alone.
Anyway, thank you all for all of my egg years and I hope to see you all again if I delve back into PbP PFS/SFS.
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Haha, that's always a delight. It's funny how many Paizonians here turned out to be huge eggs. Not that I'd know anything about that.