
Tobus Neth |

That's right Today I will marry me girl, we've been together a 11 years in May!
A man conceived a moment's answers to the dream.
Staying the flowers daily, sensing all the themes.
As a foundation left to create the spiral aim,
A movement regained and regarded both the same,
All complete in the sight of seeds of life with you.
Changed only for a sight of sound, the space agreed.
Between the picture of time behind the face of need,
Coming quickly to terms of all expression laid,
Emotion revealed as the ocean maid,
All complete in the sight of seeds of life with you...
A clearer future, morning, evening, nights with you.
I am all nerves

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That's right Today I will marry me girl, we've been together a 11 years in May!
A man conceived a moment's answers to the dream.
Staying the flowers daily, sensing all the themes.
As a foundation left to create the spiral aim,
A movement regained and regarded both the same,
All complete in the sight of seeds of life with you.
Changed only for a sight of sound, the space agreed.
Between the picture of time behind the face of need,
Coming quickly to terms of all expression laid,
Emotion revealed as the ocean maid,
All complete in the sight of seeds of life with you...I am all nerves
Congrats, bro! My only advice....Something WILL go wrong. Expect it and be prepared to roll with it. It all works out in the end and all you will have is good memories and maybe a funny story of the incident.
Water off a duck(you being the duck, not the water).
Charles Evans 25 |
Good luck to you both, although you have <told> her that you occasionally hang out here on the Paizo boards, haven't you?
([blast, what was that emoticon for knowing wink?])
Hope you've remembered to vote in the Superstar contest Round 4, since I would also hope that you have plans to be too busy with *other* things [assume a further knowing wink to have been inserted here] for the next few days to be able to post on these boards too often. (Unless she's a Paizo gamer, too?)

Taliesin Hoyle |

Don't mistake partnership for ownership.
Beware of archetypes. She is not WIFE and you are not HUSBAND.
Don't assume you understand anything she says. Make sure.
Relax and enjoy each other as you are.
Be true to yourself and do not cut off bits of your self to fit her.
It is ok to get angry.
Never undermine her authority.
Spoil each other all the time.
Do things without being asked.
Always say out loud that you love her.
Tell her why.
Say yes! a lot.
Unless you mean "Hell no!"
Get your will sorted out.
Make sure you are both absolutely clear about money and territory.
Have a space that is yours alone.
Use your voice. Do not try to be innofensive and reasonable all the time.
Let yourselves be silly.
Don't get stagnant.
Take time together when you actually want to be together.
It is o.k to sit in silence.
Talk about sex.
Share fantasies.
Make a contract of ground rules and store it.
Take time on your anniversaries to discuss the year that was and whether you got all you deserved and gave all you could.
Get in the habit of honesty. If you feel you need to lie to your wife, something is seriously wrong.
Do not try to change who she is. Encourage her to grow, not prune.
Put it in writing.
Get it in writing.
Have lives outside each other.
Share some stuff and keep some stuff.
Don't let her take over all the responsibility for the entropic work.
Take a walk when you get angry.
You have already been toghether for eleven years, so think about what you have learned so far and thank her for it.
It bears repeating. You are not your role.

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Congrats Tobie!
Being all nerves is natural for this day, but remember this:
It will all go by in a blink of an eye...the wedding, the reception, everything happens so fast. After we left the reception, and were alone together, we kind of looked at each other, dazed, and asked "What happened? Did we just get married?"
Make sure to have plenty of pictures taken, because you'll need them to remember what all happened!
And, yes, something WILL go wrong. For me, it was not being able to find the hotel we were staying at (although having Seattle Metro buses honking at us was cool), and the hotel NOT having sparkling cider and dessert waiting for us in the room, as I requested. But, yes, just roll with it...it is a wonderous day to have in your life!

mwbeeler |

Congrats! Getting married was the smartest thing I ever did.
At our wedding I was so nervous I arrived two hours early and was freaking out because no one was there. She was so gorgeous walking down the aisle I could barely speak, and the priest thought I forgot my vows so I had to shush him (my wife still laughs at that). Halfway through the service I thought she was being way too serious so I leaned way over and whispered "Penis!" into her ear.
We left the reception late, and I received a speeding ticket on the way, but we just barely caught the last ferry over to Mackinac Island for our honeymoon. Good memories!

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I have performed eight weddings and have used this excerpt from the Prophet by Kalil Gibran in each one of them. I know I'm a little late but I didn't have proper time when I first saw this thread. Enjoy.
You were born together and you shall be forevermore.
You shall be together when the white wings of death scatter your days.
Ay, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God.
But let there be spaces in your togetherness,
And let the winds of the Heavens dance between you.
Love one another, but make not a bond of love.
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other’s cup, but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread, but eat not from the same loaf.
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone.
Even as the strings of the lute are alone, they quiver with the same music.
Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping,
For only the hand of life can contain your hearts.
And stand together, yet not too near together,
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow.

Tobus Neth |

We thank you for all your kind words...
Now to answer some of your questions...
Something WILL go wrong. Expect it and be prepared to roll with it.
1.)Minor promblems such a a late limo, a drunk bridesmaid whom became possessed by the spirit of Vomit Guy...
2.)During the wedding pictures at near by park with a stand of pine trees and and the sun just perfect, a stench from a nearby sewer plant overwhelms us and we flee...to the reception!
The reception was a grand time of dancing, drinking, laughing and a overall grand time with the small gathering of friends and family(about 60 people) at least 12 people I had no clue as to whom they were or where they came from...
But why'd it take you 11 years?
We had battled a certain Yakuza clan(I will not name them)for 9 years, we did not rest until every member was slain, so as to not be bothered in our blissful happiness...
Where's the honeymoon?
The night ended with us at a small cozy cabin in the Pinelands in N.J. we had a short little break fridaynight although very tired and Saturday/night=OH YEAH!it was a very beautiful time...we returned today at around 3 pm...The real Honeymoon takes place in May when for two-weeks we will go to Bar Harbor Maine to a summerhome owed by a uncle of my wife, and spend time in Acadia National Park can't wait...
Now Jack Daniels & Strippers Those Rock!
So if you marry a Bartender/Stripper that would indeed ROCK?
(I married a school teacher;although she could be stripper..I'm sure some of her students think about that in class...Taliesin Hoyle:We lived together for all these years based off what you had written down there, thats how we are! everyone says we are the coolest couple!Thanks for the wisdom of those words they are very true..
Daigle;Kalil Gibran excerpt was a very nice(Say it like Borat!)
thank you guys/gals lords and ladies of boards...
peace out
Tobus Neth/Oji