Wait, I was looking around and found what appears to be a contradiction about being unable to act.
as per "gaining and loosing actions", on pg 462 of the handbook, last sentence..
"The most restrictive form of reducing actions is when an effect states that you can’t act: this means you can’t use any actions, or even speak. When you can’t act, you don’t regain your actions and reaction on your turn."
But under the quickened condition, pg 622, of the same book, there is a sidebar "gaining and loosing actions" that mentions more rules are on pg 462 but ends with this..
"Other conditions simply say you can’t act. When you can’t act, you’re unable to take any actions at all. Unlike slowed or stunned, these don’t change the number of actions you regain; they just prevent you from using them. That means if you are somehow cured of paralysis on your turn, you can act immediately."
One of my friends said it says paralyzed there so that's the only exception. I said it was but an example and besides, paralyzed says you can still do purely mental action so it's different anyway. My focus was that both of these rules seem to categorically state when someone is under an effect that states they "can't act", obey the following rules.
It would appear to me that the Summoner rules were written with the rule from pg 622 in mind, not 462. Which is why it categorically states when one of you is restricted in how you may spend your actions, the other is not as in the example of immobilization or petrifaction. Then why it goes on in the meld into eidolon feat to state what actions cannot be taken, despite starting off with saying the summoner "can't act".
I tried to point this out, saying I just wanted consistency, and got told for the love of god drop it. End of discussion.
I guess this is just for me now, whatever. So which is it? Gotta say, I'm a little tired of something stating "for example" then being told that's the one and only time it applies. That's not what 'example' means.