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I should also stress, once again, that this mess started in September, and literally every single trans person I know who's been taking part has been unbelievably burned out at this point. None of the points you or Sanityfaerie here are remotely new to us. That doesn't mean they have no validity, but familiarity breeds contempt. When someone bursts down the door and immediately starts trotting out the same tired "people here are getting so offended lately" take, without first asking us in good faith what our feelings on things are, it's the thirtieth time we're dealing with it.
(I'm not certain, but that's quite possibly an underestimation.)
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I deleted my prior post as not to derail.
But I stand by my point that there is lack of nuance and lots of interpretation based on local (and personal) context and experience, which is non-productive out of that context (even if understandable).
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I should also stress, once again, that this mess started in September, and literally every single trans person I know who's been taking part has been unbelievably burned out at this point. None of the points you or Sanityfaerie here are remotely new to us. That doesn't mean they have no validity, but familiarity breeds contempt. When someone bursts down the door and immediately starts trotting out the same tired "people here are getting so offended lately" take, without first asking us in good faith what our feelings on things are, it's the thirtieth time we're dealing with it.
(I'm not certain, but that's quite possibly an underestimation.)
As someone who for his own sanity is only popping in once every week or two and thus doesn't see all the things that have been deleted or everything folks have been dealing with, I just want to say I see this and am sorry if anything I've said has contributed to it. Emotional exhaustion and loss of patience are inevitable when feeling constantly under assault.
I think the OP has a point about "nuance" becoming a verboten topic lately, but this explanation really helps to put the tension and raw feelings into context. Thank you and, again, apologies if I contributed to it.