Battlemind Link confusion

Hey all, i recently made a sorc that took battlemind link and im a little confused on how it works.

the description reads:

You fuse your thoughts with an ally's, allowing the two of you to fight in tandem, perfectly coordinated. You and the ally each roll initiative in combat and use the higher die result before adding modifiers. This has three effects.

Melee: If you both make melee attacks against the same creature, you both make attack rolls and both use the higher of the two dice for your attack rolls (plus bonuses).

Ranged: If you both make ranged attacks against the same creature, you both make attack rolls and both use the higher of the two dice for your attack roll (plus bonuses).

Spell: If you both cast spells and target the same area or same creature, affected creatures take a –2 penalty on their saving throw against the spells.

You and the target lose these benefits if you cannot see each other or if you or the target is unconscious or helpless.

Now does only the second person get the bonus rolls? as how does the game know if we are hitting the same guy? what if he dies? do we go at the same time? pretty much my ranger friend would have it and shoot with a bow, and id shoot scorching ray at the same time? or wait til my turn and then he and i would BOTH roll for my attacks and take the higher mod? im guessing if he rolls a crit i get that too? Sorry if this is confusing, im abit confused myself.

This issue has been brought up before here: http://paizo.com/forums/dmtz4x1r?Battlemind-Link
There's an obvious problem and there does not appear to be any official ruling on it. For now I'd just bring up the issue with your dm and see how they'd run on it. I personally would have you both take the higher initiative die roll then add it to the lower modifier (putting you on the same initiative)and further say you must make your attacks at the same time to get the benefit so that issues with delaying an action don't come up.