I'm turned off by internet complaints. JOY FOR EVERYONE INSTEAD!!!!
Bah, humbug!
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1. Doesn't Like Star Wars.
2. Doesn't like cats
3. Enjoys the twilight movies.
What's wrong with The Twilight Zone?
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To be honest, I haven't been very enthused about this thread for just that reason. At least when it comes to personal aesthetics.
It's one thing to say "people with glasses just don't work for me".
It's another to say "people with glasses are just terrible".
But then again I prefer a positive "turn on" thread than the negative.
youre weird.
Then again...
I'm way too old:
- Tattoos; a tattoo on an attractive woman is like graffiti on a church, and the tattoo that will either make a hot woman hotter or make a woman who ain't hot actually hot will never be invented
- Permanent, radical piercings; like it or not, admit it or not, it's self-mutilation
- Obsession with social media or electronic devices; put the f**king I-whatever down and talk to someone, will you?
- Someone who says, "I'm not religious, but I am spiritual." It immediately sets off my bu11$h!+ detector.
- Lying of almost any sort, including "little white lies."
- Brutal honesty; as someone once said, "Those who indulge brutal honesty tend to enjoy the brutality more than they do the honesty." (And yes, I note the irony.)
- Prince(sse)s; any woman (or man, for that matter) who's looking for the best deal they can get, or finding someone to keep them in the style to which they've become (or wish to become) accustomed, or the person who "deserves" them. Try looking instead for someone you love and who loves you. Radical concept, eh?
Not expecting to find anyone in the near future.
youve kinda painted yourself into a corner on at least two of those...
You've kinda painted yourself into a corner on at least two of those...Thank you, Holmes.
elementary, my dear watson.
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Fake anything.
A sense of entitlement.
Lack of education (not degree, just knowledge).
Rudeness.
Talking/texting while driving.
No self esteem.
No self respect.
Dressing like a hooker.
Dishonesty.
Trying to "change" me.
Racism.
Hipsters.
Anyone with a fake mustache tattoo on their finger.
Being under thirty. I'm turning 44 in a few weeks, I'm not going to be "that guy".
Thinks gaming is a "kids" hobby.
Too religious.
Is a Democrat.
Is a Republican.
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I'm always irked by anyone whom I can hear eat or chew. Keep your mouth shut while you eat! Just one of those pet peeves...
Honestly, I think that a lot of these things are not merely turn-offs but things people wouldn't like in anyone, not just a potential significant other. Who does like people who are rude? Or racist?
Other things seem to be unbelievably subjective, and I can say from experience that what you think are turn-offs may actually come to mean absolutely nothing when you find that person you will spend the rest of your life with.
A person is rarely never a list of plus-points with no negatives - there is a mixture of good and bad, and for a life partner (who presumably turns you on, right?) you accept all of them (and I don't mean put up with some negative traits because you really like the positives) as the person is the sum total of all their attributes, and you love that person.
And that's how Mrs. Dazylar puts up with me.... I hope!
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RPG Superstar 2013 Top 16
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Rich she shall be, that's certain; wise,
or I'll none; virtuous, or I'll never cheapen her;
fair, or I'll never look on her; mild, or come not
near me; noble, or not I for an angel; of good
discourse, an excellent musician, and her hair shall
be of what colour it please God.
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Is a Democrat.
*sob*
I thought we could be together!!!!
Fake anything.
A sense of entitlement.
Lack of education (not degree, just knowledge).
Rudeness.
Talking/texting while driving.
No self esteem.
No self respect.
Dressing like a hooker.
Dishonesty.
Trying to "change" me.
Racism.
Hipsters.
Anyone with a fake mustache tattoo on their finger.
Being under thirty. I'm turning 44 in a few weeks, I'm not going to be "that guy".
Thinks gaming is a "kids" hobby.
Too religious.
Is a Democrat.
Is a Republican.
So, we can expect that She isn't representing those traits? :P
My absolute favorite part of this thread, and the one I wish I had time to collate is:
- Number of restrictions
- Marital status
- Duration of marriage
I'm seeing what appears to be a strong inverse correlation between marital status and longevity of marriage vs. number of restrictions listed...
Hmmm....
So, the people who got married are the ones with fewer regulations? ;D
Wouldn't that mean that I should be married? I listed only one turn off...
Just piping up because one of my friends is an absolutely wonderful guy: 6'4", kind, honest, and wants to treat a woman like a queen (many refer to him as a "paladin"), but ends up on every woman's "no" list due to his low self-esteem and an unwillingness to take charge.
As one of my female friends put it, "Oh, sweetie, he's a wonderful guy, but I'd eat him alive. He wouldn't survive a month with me!"
And I had to agree with her; she's 100% wrong for him.
But watching him get thrown in EVERY woman's "no" bucket is a bit frustrating for those of us who care for him. So I just get all riled up at long "no" lists, especially items in the list that people can't help like height, ethnicity, or hair or eye color, etc.
EDIT: Of course, I had to live through U.S. high school, where the biggest jerks had girls lined up out the door to date them (and get treated like dirt), while the "nice guys" were all single and dateless, so I have a wee bit of post-high school bitterness. It's only been 30+ years. Can't be that bad...
Wouldn't that mean that I should be married? I listed only one turn off...
You're obviously the exception that proves the rule! :P
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So, the people who got married are the ones with fewer regulations? ;D
That's what I'm seeing...
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Just piping up because one of my friends is an absolutely wonderful guy: 6'4", kind, honest, and wants to treat a woman like a queen (many refer to him as a "paladin"), but ends up on every woman's "no" list due to his low self-esteem and an unwillingness to take charge.
Well, I assume you're familiar with the whole Internet Nice Guy thing, wherein dudes form friendships with women (and are "nice" to them) expecting to get sex in return for friendship, instead of, y'know, friendship in return for friendship, and that that's not what's going on with your friend.
That said, I hear this complaint from a lot of my male friends in reference to friends of theirs -- this friend is so nice, why can't he find a girlfriend? -- by which they mean, he's courteous and considerate and respectful of his friends and acquaintances.
And my answer is (in a turn of phrase I'll admit to stealing from someone else's blog entry about the subject) that expecting someone you'd consider dating to be nice to you is sort of like expecting your car to come with wheels attached.
A guy's nice? Good. Do I want to date him? If "nice" is the primary thing he's got going for him, no, sorry, I'm going to need more than that, and so are most women I know. When the main way people describe someone is as "nice," it reads to me as damning with faint praise.
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Just piping up because one of my friends is an absolutely wonderful guy: 6'4", kind, honest, and wants to treat a woman like a queen (many refer to him as a "paladin"), but ends up on every woman's "no" list due to his low self-esteem and an unwillingness to take charge.Well, I assume you're familiar with the whole Internet Nice Guy thing, wherein dudes form friendships with women (and are "nice" to them) expecting to get sex in return for friendship, instead of, y'know, friendship in return for friendship, and that that's not what's going on with your friend.
That said, I hear this complaint from a lot of my male friends in reference to friends of theirs -- this friend is so nice, why can't he find a girlfriend? -- by which they mean, he's courteous and considerate and respectful of his friends and acquaintances.
And my answer is (in a turn of phrase I'll admit to stealing from someone else's blog entry about the subject) that expecting someone you'd consider dating to be nice to you is sort of like expecting your car to come with wheels attached.
A guy's nice? Good. Do I want to date him? If "nice" is the primary thing he's got going for him, no, sorry, I'm going to need more than that, and so are most women I know. When the main way people describe someone is as "nice," it reads to me as damning with faint praise.
Quite a few of my female friends were initially women I wanted to get with, date, whatever, and they were aware up front. Some of them and I engaged, most didn't, and once it was known that we weren't relationship compatible, we just moved on and enjoyed our common interests and kept being friends. Honesty is the cornerstone of any relationship, platonic or romantic, and Internet Nice Guy is not honest, nor is he really "nice".
I wish I could like your post more than once.
Well, I assume you're familiar with the whole Internet Nice Guy thing, wherein dudes form friendships with women (and are "nice" to them) expecting to get sex in return for friendship, instead of, y'know, friendship in return for friendship, and that that's not what's going on with your friend.
That said, I hear this complaint from a lot of my male friends in reference to friends of theirs -- this friend is so nice, why can't he find a girlfriend? -- by which they mean, he's courteous and considerate and respectful of his friends and acquaintances.
And my answer is (in a turn of phrase I'll admit to stealing from someone else's blog entry about the subject) that expecting someone you'd consider dating to be nice to you is sort of like expecting your car to come with wheels attached.
A guy's nice? Good. Do I want to date him? If "nice" is the primary thing he's got going for him, no, sorry, I'm going to need more than that, and so are most women I know. When the main way people describe someone is as "nice," it reads to me as damning with faint praise.
Well-said, but all of us who know him know why he can't get a girlfriend: We introduce him to a woman, they hit it off wonderfully, she gives him her number, and he's too shy to call. He'll never take the initiative.
And you know what? I know of precisely 0 women who are interested in a man too shy to make the first move...
So it's more venting frustration that here's a guy who would make a great husband/father who's shooting himself in the foot through sheer, "She needs to make the first move on EVERYTHING" than, "I can't understand why he doesn't get dates."
If you never ask for a date, you never get a date...
I like hats, but avoid the fedora, I figure if I can get into hats while I still have hair, everybody will be used to it, and won't notice so much when I start to go bald...
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Also.
I have no problem with tall, tattooed, smoking women with six-pack abs, lopsided hair-dos (and possibly jacked up teeth).
:)
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Is a Democrat.
*sob*
I thought we could be together!!!!Can't do it, you're very attractive, and I love your demeanor, but I just can't get over your affair with that lying ho...
;-)
She told me she would cut taxes! What am I, made out of stone?!?!
Just piping up because one of my friends is an absolutely wonderful guy: 6'4", kind, honest, and wants to treat a woman like a queen (many refer to him as a "paladin"), but ends up on every woman's "no" list due to his low self-esteem and an unwillingness to take charge.Well, I assume you're familiar with the whole Internet Nice Guy thing, wherein dudes form friendships with women (and are "nice" to them) expecting to get sex in return for friendship, instead of, y'know, friendship in return for friendship, and that that's not what's going on with your friend.
That said, I hear this complaint from a lot of my male friends in reference to friends of theirs -- this friend is so nice, why can't he find a girlfriend? -- by which they mean, he's courteous and considerate and respectful of his friends and acquaintances.
And my answer is (in a turn of phrase I'll admit to stealing from someone else's blog entry about the subject) that expecting someone you'd consider dating to be nice to you is sort of like expecting your car to come with wheels attached.
A guy's nice? Good. Do I want to date him? If "nice" is the primary thing he's got going for him, no, sorry, I'm going to need more than that, and so are most women I know. When the main way people describe someone is as "nice," it reads to me as damning with faint praise.
I'll definitely buy damning with faint praise(love that expression, actually), but the internet nice guy thing is starting to wear thin. Not all problems someone has with the individuals they desire can be wrapped into that singular unappetizing burrito. Some people are only confident in one particular conversational topic, others have no idea how to find their way around personal hygiene, still others have no sense of timing(that last is a really bad one). Some people just bring nothing to the table.
Well, I assume you're familiar with the whole Internet Nice Guy thing, wherein dudes form friendships with women (and are "nice" to them) expecting to get sex in return for friendship, instead of, y'know, friendship in return for friendship, and that that's not what's going on with your friend.
That said, I hear this complaint from a lot of my male friends in reference to friends of theirs -- this friend is so nice, why can't he find a girlfriend? -- by which they mean, he's courteous and considerate and respectful of his friends and acquaintances.
And my answer is (in a turn of phrase I'll admit to stealing from someone else's blog entry about the subject) that expecting someone you'd consider dating to be nice to you is sort of like expecting your car to come with wheels attached.
A guy's nice? Good. Do I want to date him? If "nice" is the primary thing he's got going for him, no, sorry, I'm going to need more than that, and so are most women I know. When the main way people describe someone is as "nice," it reads to me as damning with faint praise.
Well-said, but all of us who know him know why he can't get a girlfriend: We introduce him to a woman, they hit it off wonderfully, she gives him her number, and he's too shy to call. He'll never take the initiative.
And you know what? I know of precisely 0 women who are interested in a man too shy to make the first move...
So it's more venting frustration that here's a guy who would make a great husband/father who's shooting himself in the foot through sheer, "She needs to make the first move on EVERYTHING" than, "I can't understand why he doesn't get dates."
If you never ask for a date, you never get a date...
Also, this.
Hope.
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I tried wandering around with mine open for a while, but they shot me as a zombie.
I tried wandering around with mine open for a while, but they shot me as a zombie.
zombies can shoot guns!?!
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Poor guns...
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Also.I have no problem with tall, tattooed, smoking women with six-pack abs, lopsided hair-dos (and possibly jacked up teeth).
:)
Notice none of those are on my list, either ;-)
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She told me she would cut taxes! What am I, made out of stone?!?!
Is a Democrat.
*sob*
I thought we could be together!!!!Can't do it, you're very attractive, and I love your demeanor, but I just can't get over your affair with that lying ho...
;-)
Apparently something is, and it's where you do your thinking. Skank. :P
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Fake anything.
A sense of entitlement.
Lack of education (not degree, just knowledge).
Rudeness.
Talking/texting while driving.
No self esteem.
No self respect.
Dressing like a hooker.
Dishonesty.
Trying to "change" me.
Racism.
Hipsters.
Anyone with a fake mustache tattoo on their finger.
Being under thirty. I'm turning 44 in a few weeks, I'm not going to be "that guy".
Thinks gaming is a "kids" hobby.
Too religious.
Is a Democrat.
Is a Republican.
So, we can expect that She isn't representing those traits? :P
** spoiler omitted **
None of the above :-)
Thanks!
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I love Mrs Gersen, but her sisters are walking lists of turnoffs.
While I was away, the two of them were visiting, woke up before Mrs Gersen one morning, and decided to make coffee. Ignoring both of the open containers of coffee in plain sight (one regular, one with chickory), they ransacked the cabinets and hijacked one of my reserve cans of coffee & chicory (which both of them have refused to drink in the past, and of which, as noted, there was already an open container). I came home to find this can crumpled at one edge, with the top hacked and battered, but otherwise unopened, and the can opener had been destroyed.
These ladies' ages are 30 and 26.
I have no idea how they intended to attempt to actually operate the coffee maker, if they'd gotten the tin open.
That is an awesome visual. I now want to two meet these two and figure out what happened.
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*SIGH*... "Oh, Gruumash! You're SO awesome! You should TOTALLY start a thread on your awesomeness!"
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youre weird.
Then again...
King was probably my gateway to androgyny attraction at a young impressionable age. :)
I remember that once I defeated the girls team and saw King with torn shirt and noticed bra I was surprised that (s)he wasn't a terribly ass-kicking dandy that hanged with two hot girls. I think that later parts made King a bit more feminine or maybe there was just increase in resolution allowed for adding more details.
We are speaking about KoF 1994, right?
Huh... It seems that it appeared in Poland arcades quite soon after release.
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I've dated a wide variety of women, and honestly as a man of modest means, height, and genitalia, I'm not interested in limiting my choices too much.
But if there is one thing that will absolutely put a woman on my "No Fly" list it is entitlement.
And this is a tricky one, because I am aware of the baggage that comes with calling a woman, or any underprivileged class really, 'entitled'. It's like saying you can't handle a woman who's 'bossy' - what you're saying may be saying a lot more about you than her. So, if I may broaden the subject a bit, this would apply to any person of any gender no matter what level of relationship I am considering.
No matter who you're talking about, there is nothing more irritating than a person who believes they are owed something by the world and treat the rest of humanity as mere pissants to witness their greatness. And I feel like so many of the most common 'deal breakers' - rude to waitstaff, doesn't show gratitude, complains, can't have fun, "Nice Guy" misogynists, even racism/sexism/homophobia - can all be described as some form of personal entitlement.
I've dated a wide variety of women, and honestly as a man of modest means, height, and genitalia, I'm not interested in limiting my choices too much.
But if there is one thing that will absolutely put a woman on my "No Fly" list it is entitlement.
And this is a tricky one, because I am aware of the baggage that comes with calling a woman, or any underprivileged class really, 'entitled'. It's like saying you can't handle a woman who's 'bossy' - what you're saying may be saying a lot more about you than her. So, if I may broaden the subject a bit, this would apply to any person of any gender no matter what level of relationship I am considering.
No matter who you're talking about, there is nothing more irritating than a person who believes they are owed something by the world and treat the rest of humanity as mere pissants to witness their greatness. And I feel like so many of the most common 'deal breakers' - rude to waitstaff, doesn't show gratitude, complains, can't have fun, "Nice Guy" misogynists, even racism/sexism/homophobia - can all be described as some form of personal entitlement.
I'm not sure there's a more succinct way to express my own views. So instead, I'll just say "+1."
Here are my big three absolute dealbreakers:
1. Is taller than 5'7".
2. Is shorter than 5'7".
3. Is 5'7".
Are those turn offs or turn ons?
- Being rude TO ANYONE (with the possible exception of other rude people).
- Smoking &
- Bad hygiene (to me smoking is a form of bad hygiene)
- Messy people
- Illegal drug use... This is WAY more than a turn-off. I might call the police.
- obesity
- Hypocrisy
- Lies about anything important. I may not care if you lie about what your buying as a gift... but don't lie about anything that impacts us as a couple.
- As an extension of Lies is Secrets; If you don't trust me enough to tell me everything, then how on earth can you expect ANY intimacy in return.
- Violent people. If you are screaming and hammering your fist into the dashboard while driving us then I am imagining you doing that to me over some real or imagined slight.
- Anti-religious people. God is a part of my life and that isn't going to change. If you can't handle that then you need to get lost.
- Sexism
- a lack of confidence in their behavior.
PS: Why is single ply toilet paper an issue for anyone? Just take an extra sheet and fold it into double ply.