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and reminded myself that I don't want to be that guy.
In examining what he did to get to that point I found all kinds of behaviors that we absolutely do not share (which of course comforts me).
But I have to admit, that we likely share one trait at times, and that might be frustration. Frustration is not your friend on forums (or any form of communication).
I'm going to try and do a better job of accepting the current state of the game and the community at whichever state I find them in.
I'm probably just talking to myself, but I thought I'd share, in case it helps anyone else.
I'll still be crowdforging, and posting, but if you notice some changes, Yay for me.
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Savage Grace
Thanks for this very insightful opening of the thread. Let me try to give a little bit more of background to this as the banned person was an Emerald Lodge member. Well - technically not at the time - but we get to that.
Lets start with the good parts.
The player was extremly enthusiastic about the game - online hours at a time, trying out stuff, gathering for his settlement, fighting escalations, helping new players and recruiting at least one new member for us.
He could often give insightful comments and even was defensive up to the degree of a fanboi of PFP at times.
Unfortunately this was coupled with a lack of tolerance for other opinions and the feeling that opposing views often were personal attacks - which led to verbal feuds and quickly spiralled downwards towards unacceptable language.
To some degree the player was what you want for your company / settlement - someone knowledebale, enthusiastic, reliable and online nearly 24/7.
To some degree the player was the worst you can imagine for your company / settlement - someone who starts feuds on the boards that can fester and drag your whole settlement into a war.
I did spend quite some time of diplomatic clean up during the first days of his game when he blundered in and seemed to antagonize nearly every important faction in this game.
He was aware of that and offered his resignation. I felt I would do a better job for this game if we can make him into an asset instead of driving him off. For a while it seemed to work. Interactions on the board where less toxic and I even spotted a few favourites for some of his posts.
Yes - there were still one or two players he just wouldn't get on with - but it seemed I didn't have to patch up anymore and that it was slowly getting into calmer waters.
36 hours ago he resigned from the Emerald Lodge. It seems he didn't survive 24 hours before being banned.
What can be learned from this sorry episode?
1) There is a lot of communication in this game. Communication is two sided. We all will get better along if we show some tolerance instead of blasting back. The replies here of Kadere and Pyronous Rath are typical examples of driving someone even further over the edge. Such behaviour is not helping the game. Even or especially if you think you are justified.
2) Players need to understand that it is easier for them to change as to ask a settlement / the community / the game to change to their style.
3) Enthusiams about the game and frustration that this game isn't going fast enough are a toxic mix. Look at the next patch and you could cry out 'WHY' did GW do that - can't they see - isn't this stupid, etc. Take a step back and watch where the game develops over the longer term (I'm in since alpha 8) and you will see that changes come and go and some bad ones will be rectified later. Just be patient.
Sometimes the best option is - show some tolerance or take a step back and don't post at all.
If you have any personal issues related to this and still unresolved then please PM me instead of voicing it here online.
Thanks for reading
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Passion is quite normally a double-edged sword. There is a lot of energy to be directed and when challenges and disillusionment occur, there is always a good chance of it severely backfiring. It really isn't all that different from how many people treat their exes in personal relationships. After all, they forged a personal relationship with the game.
I can't believe how long it has been since something frustrated or upset me in the game or forums.
As the game keeps improving, many people (including myself) are spending more of our free time playing the game rather than arguing over it.
I can't even play the game at all without crashing. They are trying to help me but I don't know the files or location to send.
I have decided that I'm too frustrated to post on goblin forums so. Blah :/
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I can't even play the game at all without crashing. They are trying to help me but I don't know the files or location to send.
I have decided that I'm too frustrated to post on goblin forums so. Blah :/
If you pick "run" from the Windows start menu and type "dxdiag" in the box it will take a moment to scan your video system. Then when it's done running, and you click "save all" it should output a file for you that is what Ryan was looking for.
I put a couple of photos online in an album here that might help.
That said, a computer from 2007 is going to have a tough time running the game.
