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I'm happy for you.
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And his reasons for doing all this are so pathetically petty.
Oh, he is a very, very petty person. Or so he came across in my dealings with him.
At least know that there are many of us who also strongly dislike him and pretty much hold him in contempt. Not at all sure if that will help.
Please do what you have to do for your own health. But I'll miss you if you leave these boards. You've been a shining light in the darkness recently.
Hey, did things get deleted while I turned a page here? 'Cuz two posts does not equal six.
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Yes.
My bad!
I deleted it because it came across as insensitive and rude and that's not how I roll.
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<3
Sometimes I'm just looking for sympathy, not advice, is all. I do appreciate it.
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Sometimes I'm just looking for sympathy, not advice, is all. I do appreciate it.
I know, my wife has been known to tell me that exact same thing.
I don't like seeing people unhappy and my first inclination is to try to help solve it, which obviously isn't always the answer.
It's all good, I don't mind being corrected or called out when I'm wrong or being a jerk or insensitive or just generally unhelpful.
Also, my entire day at work was driving around and bailing out overwhelmed crews, so I was probably still stuck in "help at all costs" mode.
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Why do I keep going back to the controversy threads? They get more toxic every single time I check in on them. Soon Paizo will have to start issuing Geiger counters so we can measure our exposure properly.
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About to head to bed for LOTR readings.
Anyways, this was a weird birthday. Very quiet and isolated, with a lot of forum stress. But a few close online friends helped a lot, and I just finished playing TF2 with my girlfriend, which was a treat.
Fun fact of the day: Canonically, hobbits celebrate their birthdays by giving their guests gifts, rather than the other way around. Honestly, that sounds really cute. Too bad that would get absurdly expensive for me this time of year. XD
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This dude's gonna get suspended again, as he always does, and if they don't make it permanent this time I'm probably just going to leave. It's not healthy for me. It's infuriating that he's still around, that the mods didn't consider him sticking Ben Shapiro and Jordan Peterson quotes in his bio knowing what those men represent to trans people enough of an issue to make him take them out. I know he knows because I told him, and his response was to emphasize the quotes further.
I may live rent-free in his head, but he lives rent-free in mine these days, and I don't want him in here.
Man that was easy.
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Sometimes I'm just looking for sympathy, not advice, is all. I do appreciate it.
I know, my wife has been known to tell me that exact same thing.
I don't like seeing people unhappy and my first inclination is to try to help solve it, which obviously isn't always the answer.
It's all good, I don't mind being corrected or called out when I'm wrong or being a jerk or insensitive or just generally unhelpful.
deal with this at work all the time. It's part of my job. Hardest part too. Higher ups expect me to automatically know when to approach someone and when not to and a lot of times it just doesn't work that way.
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About to head to bed for LOTR readings.
Anyways, this was a weird birthday. Very quiet and isolated, with a lot of forum stress. But a few close online friends helped a lot, and I just finished playing TF2 with my girlfriend, which was a treat.
Fun fact of the day: Canonically, hobbits celebrate their birthdays by giving their guests gifts, rather than the other way around. Honestly, that sounds really cute. Too bad that would get absurdly expensive for me this time of year. XD
HAPPY BIRTHDAY
Please tell me you whipped out the birthday legs.
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I've definitely read some stories along similar lines, although I'll admit they usually end differently... hmm. ;P
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Do yourself a favor and don't look at that thread today .
I just really enjoy being lumped in with a mob. Someone needs help, and it's not me.
HAPPY BIRTHDAY KC!
I hope the coming year is better than the last, and that things continue to improve as the years go by!
I've definitely read some stories along similar lines, although I'll admit they usually end differently... hmm. ;P
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I would not use my shrink ray for lascivious purposes! Well, at least non consensual ones.
About to head to bed for LOTR readings.
Anyways, this was a weird birthday. Very quiet and isolated, with a lot of forum stress. But a few close online friends helped a lot, and I just finished playing TF2 with my girlfriend, which was a treat.
Fun fact of the day: Canonically, hobbits celebrate their birthdays by giving their guests gifts, rather than the other way around. Honestly, that sounds really cute. Too bad that would get absurdly expensive for me this time of year. XD
HAPPY BIRTHDAY
Please tell me you whipped out the birthday legs.
I don't know what those are, but thank you and Fergie!
I don't know what those are, but thank you and Fergie!About to head to bed for LOTR readings.
Anyways, this was a weird birthday. Very quiet and isolated, with a lot of forum stress. But a few close online friends helped a lot, and I just finished playing TF2 with my girlfriend, which was a treat.
Fun fact of the day: Canonically, hobbits celebrate their birthdays by giving their guests gifts, rather than the other way around. Honestly, that sounds really cute. Too bad that would get absurdly expensive for me this time of year. XD
HAPPY BIRTHDAY
Please tell me you whipped out the birthday legs.
They are below your waist and people generally use them for walking.
Happy National Chocolate Candy Day!!
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Happy B-Day KC!!
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Happy birthday, KC!
You share it with Guy Debord (amongst others), which is pretty cool.
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I'm trying to wait for the end of the holiday break, on the off chance that the moderation team might need to confer before someone like TK can be banned. But even typing that out, it feels completely unlikely, and I hate being in this liminal space where I know I'll probably have to leave in the end. They aren't going to ban him. They aren't even going to make him change his bio. I wish I could ignore him, but I can't. He's too prolific a poster.
On the other hand, I'm in a depression spell, and I would rather not light any dramatic bridge fires I can't take back when I'm not myself.
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Steve Geddes talked me out of it a tiny bit, they're a dear. Night, all.
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Steve Geddes talked me out of it a tiny bit, they're a dear. Night, all.
Please hug Steve for me. Let them know I miss him.
I don't like to come across as ungrateful for the attempts at consolation, but I am going to ask that people please stop telling me to "ignore the troll". It only makes me feel worse that I can't.
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poof, still say hello to Steve for me, still good folk that one. Also no offense taken KC.
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I don't like to come across as ungrateful for the attempts at consolation, but I am going to ask that people please stop telling me to "ignore the troll". It only makes me feel worse that I can't.
What you do is, go into his brain, and take a big ol dump in his favorite underpants.
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See, that's the kind of maturity level I'm looking for right now. :P
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What fast food/local delicacy have you always wanted from NY? And what fast food/local delicacies do you have where you are?
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Hm... I don't know what's in New York, so I couldn't say! Over here, I think a lot of people like craft beer and wine, which Oregon has a lot of, but I'm not a fan of either. There's Burgerville, a local chain. They're serving a blue cheeseburger right now with blue cheese and mushrooms, and they're known year-round for their shakes, which use locally grown fruits (especially blackberries and filberts). Oregonians do love our mushrooms. There's also a lot of, like, sushi, and South Asian cuisines around here. My favorite local restaurant is a Mexican food place called Urban Deli that serves fantastic tortas and aguas frescas--it's disarmingly wholesome food that never makes me feel overfed.
It's hard to work out what we have that other people don't, honestly, but those are my best stabs at it.
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Big day without much happening, and I've stayed up well past my bedtime.
I've been making plans to get a new place with my two girlfriends (and finally no longer live with my ex, which would be very nice), but I worry that I'm just repeating mistakes. It's awfully hard to get a nice place, though, and my Bellevue girlfriend has a very helpful income, meaning I wouldn't be the only income for the household anymore. She and another friend we're thinking about adding in are also gifted cooks, meaning we might finally be able to cut this Doordash addiction.
It's very appealing practically speaking. Is it smart for the relationships? Am I going to break things I didn't want to break here? I sure hope not. But less financial strain and kitchen workload on me would certainly be a relief that might make me a nicer person to live with.
Speaking of cooking, I made an excellent mac and cheese today. I like to freeze my jalapenos when they're starting to wrinkle, and then I can grate them into for and never have to mince.
I've also cut my workload a tiny bit--or rather, massively hiked the cost of the tiers that were giving me trouble, in the hopes that either people will cut their pledges or they'll at least pay me way more for the emotional toll it takes on me.
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I have been wondering to myself what (or who) a Catbold Kobgirl might be. I think it would make a grand name for a (flying) pirate ship.
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I'm extremely overwhelmed lately.
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I'm extremely overwhelmed lately.
Is it a 'good' overwhelmed or a 'bad' or a *So swamped can't even give it a value* overwhelmed?
Because that last one's been my week so far, if it's any consolation?
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Feeling a bit better. I've been working more on my novel lately--I'm about past 2,000 words, in fact, since yesterday morning. Very excited about it. I am currently grappling with the serious question of, "Would dragons be transphobic?"
But what about fairy and folklore beings like dragons and trolls? They're mostly going to be fairly adversarial or unpleasant or alien, and I could see them serving as unpleasant embodiments of the status quo.
That said, after thinking about it, I realized a major plot point is supposed to be that she's exceptionally adept at casually dealing with unnatural creatures. It makes more sense that they'd serve as a benevolent force in this regard, similar to the village, and wouldn't match the cities' behavior. When she meets her dragon at the end, if it understands gender at all, it will not care to police it.
"You did something remarkable with that creature there."
Fret blinked down at her cupped hands. The little beast was currently nestling into them, as if they were a cozy bed made just for his personal use. "I just called him."
"Yeah, and he heeded. You be careful, lass, what you call with that voice of yours. There are bigger and sharper things than him out there that might answer."
I think I would go with the Fae creatures having no concept of gender or sexuality (homo v hetero v pan v whatever) at all.
They would, however, have sex with anyone or anything that may cross their path depending on their mood. Or just as likely kill and eat them. Or give them a hug and skip away jovially.
In this story, the fairies are very much creatures of folklore, and folklore itself is often steeped in the beliefs of those that shared it. You know, like "never trust a woman who lives alone". So I do think there's a fair argument that the fairies would exist within the bigotries that mingled with their creation, and be very traditionally-minded, and very cruel.
Depending on what power level you're ascribing to the dragons of your setting, a lot of them in D&D/Pathfinder/myth/etc had the capability to assume a humanoid form.
I suspect that they'd be more power-motivated than plumbing-motivated, unless a particular plumbing arrangement gained them vast coin for their hoard?
Do they manipulate the hatred behind the scenes, because it's easier to control people who've been fed a steady diet of hatred?
No, the fairies and dragons are very much their own problem. That's not to say there can't be parallels, though, in the problems they cause.
Obviously, in this case, the troll was acting in as much a societal capacity as anything, and as such was a tool of transphobia as much as any abusive doctor or guardsman.
I think I would go with the Fae creatures having no concept of gender or sexuality (homo v hetero v pan v whatever) at all.
They would, however, have sex with anyone or anything that may cross their path depending on their mood. Or just as likely kill and eat them. Or give them a hug and skip away jovially.
The original group of elves in my campaign setting are similar.
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On the other hand, I'm in a depression spell, and I would rather not light any dramatic bridge fires I can't take back when I'm not myself.
Okay ... can I just own that I read this post and immediately thought, "OMG that is so not a spell! I wonder what class list!?!?!?" and then I got it and thought, wow, you're a little overtired and need someone to cast a coffee spell on you ;)
I think I may see many of these creatures as being kind of like Satanism--not truly transgressive, ultimately embodying the same values as the dominant structures,
just, well, on the other side of it. Just as Satanism is still fundamentally Christianity, so might the fairies be still fundamentally part of the traditional structures, just framed in opposition.
Or not. I think the fairies might come to represent a lot of things in this setting.
It gets weird when you're thinking of things as both embodying values of the dominant culture and as creatures of their own.
Yeah, Satanism is weird, huh? But that's how it's practiced in the real world. It's a Christian religion that defines itself by hating Christianity while still buying into a lot of Christian theology.
A talking wolf might embody the temptation to stray off the path or disobey authority figures and still act as punishment for those that do, still believe it's wrong to disobey authority figures, because that's the value system it exists within. The Devil might oppose God and still seem to believe that God is good and the Devil is evil and that evil must be punished.
Stories are neat like that. Why does the Devil still punish the wicked, when he should be rooting for them? Why does the Devil still hate God, if he believes God is good? How is "wow evil is awesome" a real motivation for anyone? Fairy tale creatures don't have to make sense.