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Ugh, stupid life getting in the way.
* grabs everyone in a big fluffy bear hug *
There, that's better.
* grabs everyone in another big fluffy bear hug *
Stay awesome.
Selene, I can only second (or is it third) what Wei Ji and feytharn have already said. Just be you.
Thanks.
Shutting down the machine, letting it cool, applying the paste, hoping...
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Okay...maybe people here can help me with my social anxiety I am having over the LGBT minger/mixer. I would have to go presenting as a guy...but calling myself a Trans woman. I feel...like people might not believe me...or even get hostile. I hope I will be able to present as woman for it...but right now that will be a long shot.
Ahhhhh I remember my first... arrived as a male, changed out, got so nonchalant about it I didn't change back (public parking mall, long commute and walking through neighborhood to my door) until home. I was supercharged that evening and no way was she going back in the closet.
I am willing to bet that there is a space available for quick change artists who remain stealth or are uncomfortable "traveling while trans". Ask the organizers if there will be a designated room of sorts.
On a related note, those same organizers are your best bet to line up "Big Sister mentoring", let them know your situ and need for a trans starter kit. So many of us have clothes that are beautiful yet no longer fit/style or have sentimental value cluttering our closets. I hate throwing away good stuff but more than willing to donate or charge minimal fee to a needy soul.
So even if you show up not dressed for event, you might end up in a mismatched skirt/blouse and tennis shoes looking like a fashionista trainwreck. But you'll be comfortable and a whole lotta sisters hooking you up with cast-offs.
I have been there. A lot of us have. You are in good company.
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Okay...maybe people here can help me with my social anxiety I am having over the LGBT minger/mixer. I would have to go presenting as a guy...but calling myself a Trans woman. I feel...like people might not believe me...or even get hostile. I hope I will be able to present as woman for it...but right now that will be a long shot.
I wouldn't give it a second thought. Lots of trans women who have trouble getting things together before a big event early and before transition. We all understand. I know, many lgbt cons have had little ribbons for preferred pronouns that you can pick up and I can't imagine an LGBT mixer wouldn't have some method for that these days to. Every one has to start somewhere. I went to my first support meeting "en homme" as we called it in the day. Worked up to changing at the center and eventually just being able to handle everything before hand. Took some work and some time and I'm sure you won't be alone. Go, say hi, meet some people, find some resources. You'll be great.
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I wouldn't give it a second thought. Lots of trans women who have trouble getting things together before a big event early and before transition. We all understand. I know, many lgbt cons have had little ribbons for preferred pronouns that you can pick up and I can't imagine an LGBT mixer wouldn't have some method for that these days to. Every one has to start somewhere. I went to my first support meeting "en homme" as we called it in the day. Worked up to changing at the center and eventually just being able to handle everything before hand. Took some work and some time and I'm sure you won't be alone. Go, say hi, meet some people, find some resources. You'll be great.Okay...maybe people here can help me with my social anxiety I am having over the LGBT minger/mixer. I would have to go presenting as a guy...but calling myself a Trans woman. I feel...like people might not believe me...or even get hostile. I hope I will be able to present as woman for it...but right now that will be a long shot.
What Lissa said. Remember that all trans women start out presenting as guys. It's not a comfortable place to be, but it's not something any of us would look down on you for <3
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What Lissa said. Remember that all trans women start out presenting as guys. It's not a comfortable place to be, but it's not something any of us would look down on you for <3I wouldn't give it a second thought. Lots of trans women who have trouble getting things together before a big event early and before transition. We all understand. I know, many lgbt cons have had little ribbons for preferred pronouns that you can pick up and I can't imagine an LGBT mixer wouldn't have some method for that these days to. Every one has to start somewhere. I went to my first support meeting "en homme" as we called it in the day. Worked up to changing at the center and eventually just being able to handle everything before hand. Took some work and some time and I'm sure you won't be alone. Go, say hi, meet some people, find some resources. You'll be great.Okay...maybe people here can help me with my social anxiety I am having over the LGBT minger/mixer. I would have to go presenting as a guy...but calling myself a Trans woman. I feel...like people might not believe me...or even get hostile. I hope I will be able to present as woman for it...but right now that will be a long shot.
I went to an LGBT-focused gaming convention not too long ago, presenting in as masculine a fashion as you can imagine, with a big shiny "She/Her" ribbon hanging off my ID badge, and not once was I so much as accidentally misgendered.
I still felt like some kind of horrible confusing fraud the whole time of course, but that was 100% internal.
And of course with any luck, a couple months from now I might be going to a con on HRT under my dead name, which should also be a weirdly awkward experience.
Okay, Wei Ji. Never let it be said that I don't suffer for my craft. Eight hours to upgrade one of my tools. *Bangs head on wall* But I did use that time constructively. I wrote a small program to calculate the population increase of a colony world over time, for Starfinder.
How does that song go?
...It don't come easy...
Y'know it don't come easy...
It don't come easy...
Y'know it don't come easy..
Gotta pay your dues
If you wanna sing the blues
An' you know it don' come easy...
And wow, that's a bit of work on maths beyond what I'd do for a thing.
Also, Heat seems to be steady at 50C under steady load (but not stress-load)
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Selene, I wish to add my voice to the chorus of encouragements from the awesome people here
I will add that you have extraordinary love and understanding that you freely share with others. Just remember to give it to yourself too :-)
You are a very worthy person. Should anyone denigrate you, they are the poorer for it. Too bad for them that they will not get to know you as the great person you have shown yourself to be here again and again
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Thanks everyone you have given me some confidence. I will post about the experiencenter here.
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* grabs everyone in a big fluffy bear hug *
Good morning, everyone.
* joins in sending out positive vibes and my love to everyone *
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The Irish Pagan Society seems like good people.
And, as a Scandinavian, I'm really fed up with racist s+!#heads trying to appropriate our cultural history.
(Also, I disagree with the idea that we can't write "s*!#," but not my messageboard, so...)
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Sitting here at work staring with disgust at an icon on my taskbar. It seems Windows "decided" to download and apply update 5 to Visual Studio 2012 Ultimate on its own. And the update seems stuck. Come on, computer, sometime today.
Edit: Actually, in the 15 minutes I've been away, the progress bar moved ... 4 pixels. Yay.
I have taken to getting a post it note and striking it down on the line just to make sure some things move when they are updating.
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The Irish Pagan Society seems like good people.
And, as a Scandinavian, I'm really fed up with racist s##%heads trying to appropriate our cultural history.
(Also, I disagree with the idea that we can't write "s~!@," but not my messageboard, so...)
Knowing quite a few Irish living in my hometown, the writer made surprisingly little use of the f word. Even I would have appreciated more colourful language in that answer ;-)
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*Whoohoo Go Irish Pagans!*
*Also - still a great, warm, cozy, bright place for talking, merryment, smiles, hugs, gaming and company*
*Hot beverages included*
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The Irish Pagan Society seems like good people.
And, as a Scandinavian, I'm really fed up with racist s&%&heads trying to appropriate our cultural history.
(Also, I disagree with the idea that we can't write "s+#~," but not my messageboard, so...)
go pagans!
The Irish Pagan Society seems like good people.
And, as a Scandinavian, I'm really fed up with racist s!#@heads trying to appropriate our cultural history.
(Also, I disagree with the idea that we can't write "s&~$," but not my messageboard, so...)
I knew there was always a reason why I liked the Irish and Pagans.
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I'm black.
For years I thought the white in my family was Irish.
Turns out they're Scottish.
Cool.
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* grabs everyone in a big fluffy bear hug *
Stay awesome, everyone.
I'm German, French-Canadian, Irish, and Native American. What does that make me (besides a mutt)? :)
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Crap, forget to wish a happy Lesbian Visibility Day yesterday, to all our lovely and awesome Lesbians here I hope you had a great day yesterday!
*channels positive feelings and offers hugs to anyone and everyone that wants or needs some*
*Looks up, frazzled, her hair improbably more wild than usual, ink stains on her hands and face.* Oh, was that when that was? I’m afraid I was cloistered away in my office all of last week, finishing up various projects for the end of the semester – it looks like I missed quite a bit in the thread, too!
Still, if I was invisible on the 26th, I did manage to make some time later to go to the local lesbian film festival, which was a lot of fun, and so there were a lot of us just out there on the weekend. :)
And next week I’m off to a conference where I’ll be presenting a silly paper about a few aspects of queerness in the ancient Greek-speaking world, so hopefully my ideas won’t prove too improbable, and folks will be able to point me to some additional sources to develop my research further.
Okay...maybe people here can help me with my social anxiety I am having over the LGBT minger/mixer. I would have to go presenting as a guy...but calling myself a Trans woman. I feel...like people might not believe me...or even get hostile. I hope I will be able to present as woman for it...but right now that will be a long shot.
Also, Selene, I don’t really have anything to add to what everyone else has said, but for what it’s worth I’ll add my voice to their chorus. (Oooh, does that make us proteans? I do so like the Maelstrom. All that primal magic!) Anyway, back to the topic on hand: I remember some of the first few times I went out as myself, and even though my presentation hadn’t shifted spectacularly, with just a name-tag to guide them, even people who only knew me from before I was out in my transition adjusted easily and politely, and the one or two new people who had to be gently corrected were nice about it. When I go out to conferences I still carry a bunch of nametags that specify my pronouns, just in case, but I’ve never felt yet (knock on wood!) that I’ve had to use them.
I hope everyone’s midweek is playing nice!
* grabs everyone in a big fluffy bear hug *
Stay awesome, everyone.
I'm German, French-Canadian, Irish, and Native American. What does that make me (besides a mutt)? :)
If I had to guess, y'are Métis.
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Okay so I just found out the founder of Sirius XM is a badass Jewish gay trans woman.
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Had sneezing and clogged sinuses not long after the first mug. I'll give what's left to my mother, who doesn't have my allergy.Made a pot of Earl Grey tea for work last night, and my allergies flared up. It seems I'm allergic to Earl Grey.Probably the bergamotte - I am mildly allergic to that myself (sneezing for some time after contact), yet I am too stubborn to give up on Earl Grey tea...
A wiser choice than mine, I give you that much.
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Someone posted this on my Facebook feed, and I had to share...
"Pro Tip: 'Foolish mortals' is a gender-neutral form of address.
So is, 'Puny humans.'"
On a completely unrelated note, anyone here going to Paizocon?
On a completely unrelated note, anyone here going to Paizocon?
Unfortunately not this year. Someone asked me to help them run PFS stuff at Phoenix ComicCon, which happens the same weekend.
So, here I am at work, allergy free. It was definitely the tea.
Glad to hear you're doing better!
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Happy Thursday, everyone!
*Grabs everyone in a big, fluffy, hypoallergenic (for those with allergies) bear hug *
Sending out my love and positive thoughts to you all.
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Someone posted this on my Facebook feed, and I had to share...
"Pro Tip: 'Foolish mortals' is a gender-neutral form of address.
So is, 'Puny humans.'"
I love it! I may have to borrow them.