Ladies and Gentlemen gamers,
please support me in that there is no way I am going to another baby shower. I went to one, (my wife's) and I hated it. Why do women continually insist on dragging men to their baby showers?My wife tells me that all the guys are going. Well, we just moved here; I don't know all the guys, and I dont believe they really are going.
Can't men and women be a little different?
I know you will back me up here, so thanks.
Tsulis
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Man, while I’m not one for widening the gender divide, or adhering too strongly to traditional gender roles, I’ve got your back on this one.
I can’t see what you’d get out of it. I can’t see many (if any) of the “other guys” being there. And whatever she might have said, I’m not sure that the mother-to-be would really want you there.
I don’t know what goes down at your typical baby shower, but I believe it’s best kept as Secret Women’s Business.
Don't go! I mean they DO have cake. But cake alone is not enough to change the fact you will be the only man in the room.
Sitting in a corner not talking to anyone while the women oggle baby clothes.
Eating cake.
Just ask your wife to save you a piece, stay home, and play video games.
For what it's worth, I don't like baby showers either.
They invited you over to give their baby a shower? Talk about lazy. Tell them to wash their own damn baby!
SAMMICH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1
But in all seriousness baby showers are pretty lame.
Don't knock baby showers! "Shower" is just another word for P-A-R-T-Y! I would so go. Do you get help open presents? That's the deal breaker.
I need to meet the people you kick it with, because its my understanding that "shower" actually means "Your a guy, you shouldn't be here, maybe tomorrow you can get yourself neutered." :b
SAMMICH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1
Compromise is a necessary part in any relationship. Go and find what good in it you can. Meet the people and listen to them. You are arrogant if you assume you have nothing to learn or discover from being around a bunch of new people. Get into it and see what happens.
Make it special for the people who go somehow, and you will find the friction in the relationship dissipate somewhat.
Do not put your own happiness first all the time. boundaries and ground rules are good, but so is flexibility and openness.
Do nice and kind and surprising things and see what happens.
My policy would always be to go--so put me in the sensitive guy/compromise camp. If you can get nothing out of it, at the very least you are building negotiation capital for later on... like on one of those nights you want to go out gaming and she has to watch the kid.
Try and tell her that you really don´t know any of these folks and feel uncomfortable and out of place at this baby shower (which seems to be not far from the truth, judging from your post). Perhaps she will understand and will not insist that you go with her.
That is how I would try to get out of things I really don´t like. I can feel with you. My fiancee would never try and make me go to things like this, as she knows I can be bullheaded about things I dislike - she always says I´m entering a mode of "passive resistance" :-)
Luckily, she does not like kids herself, and probably won´t go to a baby shower anyway.
Stefan
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Be a man! Tell her you are not going!
OK, it depends on the amount of pressure brought to bear. If you say you don't want to go, but go anyway, you have a bargaining chip banked for the future. Your presence obviously means something to her. I'm a little surprised she wants you to go if she knows you don't like them. Would I be going to far in assuming that there might be communication problems here?
I agree that it could be deadly dull. But it's not worth busting up with your Mrs about.
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Be a man! Tell her you are not going!
That would be my advice as well. If you give in and go, then you might as well give up your membership card to the male gender. My suggestion is to stay home, watch anything sports or violence related on TV, eat some raw meat, gnaw on a bone or two, and drink plenty of beer.
I'm lucky in that regard. My wife knows that something like that would bore the hell out of me. She has also learned that my level of boredom is in direct proportion to how much trouble I can cause or how embarrasing I can be.
Oh, and if your wife tells you that "all the guys are going", then she obviously must be mistaken. Real men do not go to something like that. These must be some former men whose significant others now keep a certain part of their anatomy hidden away somewhere in a jar.
I don't know why anyone would want to celebrate the impending arrival of a disease spewing feces dispenser.
Tell your wife you won't go for political reasons - let her wonder.
Pick up a case of beer to "share with the other guys, while you ladies do your thing." When you get there and there are no other guys there, drink the beer yourself.
All of it.
That'll be the last baby shower you get invited to.
Wear a stained wife-beater t-shirt, a pair of shorts and flipflops be sure to scratch your butt crack and burp from both ends this will seal the deal, also tell the most digusting stories and the worst jokes you can.
Dude, buck and and go to the damn shower; it won't kill you and might save your life later down the road; women never forget this kinda junk; just go and save yourself a lot of pain and grief.
Pick up a case of beer to "share with the other guys, while you ladies do your thing." When you get there and there are no other guys there, drink the beer yourself.
All of it.
That'll be the last baby shower you get invited to.
*smiles*
Not a big fan of baby showers myself either, but anyway...unless the mother is actually friend of yours (and not just friend of your wife), I wouldn't expect you to be there.
But of course if your wife insists, you get brownie points for going. Best solution would be to have some other event for the same day which really cannot be rescheduled, and then being able to just make a short appearance on the shower before you unfortunately have to leave early.
Personally I don't see the point in baby showers for anyone. If the mother wants to have a party she should wait until she is not pregnant and can actually enjoy it. If she is trying to get free baby clothes she should just have people send them to her.
Ladies and Gentlemen gamers,
please support me in that there is no way I am going to another baby shower.Tsulis
Put some points in escape artist...
Pick up a case of beer to "share with the other guys, while you ladies do your thing." When you get there and there are no other guys there, drink the beer yourself.
All of it.
That'll be the last baby shower you get invited to.
I like this idea.
I'd say bite the bullet and go, if it will make your special lady happy. Consider it an investment in the future. The chest pounding testosterone stuff is great on paper, but I'd rather endure an afternoon of baby nonsense than a tense, quiet evening and a "why don't you take an interest in anything I want to do" lecture.
When one of my fiancee's friends has a new baby I refuse to go see the thing until it is at least 6 months old because I think they look like aliens until then. As for baby showers, well she's gotten smart enough not to even ask me to go to those especially if they are on a Sunday- game day. Granted she doesn't much like going to them either unless they are for a close friend.
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Go to the shower but use it as leverage to get some of that kinky stuff that the woman don't like to do so often that you love to have done to you......you know what I'm talking about, freak. Make sure you have a full and binding discussion prior and, if possible, get her to sign an agreement.
Shower is over, the fun begins.....Boom-chicka-Bow-now(cheesy 80's porn music).
FH(speakin' from experience, baybe!)
Thank you for the many awesome replies.
As a guy who never plays 1/2 orcs, and is always willing to play the cleric, and who likes to write non-combat related encounters, I have to agree with the sensitive clan a little. Doing nice suprising things is good. But in this case...I dont feel it.
The pragmatic school has a point too. Going to a boring baby shower might get me laid, or win me time to get away and maybe game a little. Our marriage is not on the rocks, so I don't have to worry about dire consequences if I don't go, thankfully. I still think it will be too boring to be worth the likely pay off.
The point about the communication break down is a good one. It might be that my wife just doesnt want to drive, and that is why she wants me to go. So I could drive her there and then go study somewhere until it is over.
But Fake Healer is the Marriage Counseling Superstar! Boom chick a boom, baby! I think what I will do is offer to drive her there and back if she makes herself my willing slave for 1d12 x 5 minutes.
Does anyone know where I can a die with all 12's?
Go to the shower but use it as leverage to get some of that kinky stuff that the woman don't like to do so often that you love to have done to you......you know what I'm talking about, freak. Make sure you have a full and binding discussion prior and, if possible, get her to sign an agreement.
Shower is over, the fun begins.....Boom-chicka-Bow-now(cheesy 80's porn music).FH(speakin' from experience, baybe!)
Boom-chicka-Bow-now!
Oh yeah, much better than the beer idea!
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Thank you for the many awesome replies.
As a guy who never plays 1/2 orcs, and is always willing to play the cleric, and who likes to write non-combat related encounters, I have to agree with the sensitive clan a little. Doing nice suprising things is good. But in this case...I dont feel it.
The pragmatic school has a point too. Going to a boring baby shower might get me laid, or win me time to get away and maybe game a little. Our marriage is not on the rocks, so I don't have to worry about dire consequences if I don't go, thankfully. I still think it will be too boring to be worth the likely pay off.
The point about the communication break down is a good one. It might be that my wife just doesnt want to drive, and that is why she wants me to go. So I could drive her there and then go study somewhere until it is over.
But Fake Healer is the Marriage Counseling Superstar! Boom chick a boom, baby! I think what I will do is offer to drive her there and back if she makes herself my willing slave for 1d12 x 5 minutes.
Does anyone know where I can a die with all 12's?
Take the average - that's 6.5 x 5 = 32.5. Should be long enough....
Driving her there might be a good point. Caring, but doesn't inflict the agony of boredom. A good compromise. And you won't embarrass her by sitting there looking bored enough to saw off your own leg for kicks.
Go to the shower but use it as leverage to get some of that kinky stuff that the woman don't like to do so often that you love to have done to you......you know what I'm talking about, freak. Make sure you have a full and binding discussion prior and, if possible, get her to sign an agreement.
Shower is over, the fun begins.....Boom-chicka-Bow-now(cheesy 80's porn music).FH(speakin' from experience, baybe!)
You guys gotta ask for that stuff?
yeah, am curious too; what did you do; and wonder what you will be posting a year from now.
Either he went to the shower or he's been vacationing for the holidays. ;) (I vote "went".)
