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What they want in a game is not my preferred style of play. But I can deal with it and give what they ask for. But they still don't seem to like it. What they say they want is apparently not what they really want.
Everyone seems to be enjoying the game, but one person tells me that everyone is grumbling when I’m not around. But no one will tell me what the problem is.
One guy insists on building non-functional PC’s, but it’s my fault when they don’t work out.
Another insists on super optimizing PC’s until they make everyone else look like sidekicks.
I’ve just had it. I’m going to drop my home game and just concentrate on PFS for a while. Maybe after I cool off I will try to find another group.
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No response really needed from anyone, I just had to get that off my chest.
Quite likely.
What part of the country are you in?
Ah yes, that was fun.
The only time I've had everyone at the table ask me to flood the field with conjured creatures.
Xenia isn't too hurtful of a drive. You have a home group with any space?
Sometimes home games, or any games, don't work out. People are people. They're fickle, childish, passive-aggressive and sometimes very opinionated. Others are VERY go-with-the-flow types.
I recommend anyone looking to game w/new people in RL go out for a non-gaming event first. Heck, go on a couple. You meet some dudes at a games store or online and want to get a game together, great! Before the first stat block hits meet 'em out for coffee, or beer, or a meal. Hang out with them at a ball game.
By doing this you see what they're like outside the game. Do they gripe about their job/school/significant others a lot? Do they have an issue with authority? Are they passive-aggressive, overly pushy, or have no opinions on anything?
All of this helps inform you what kind of gamer they are. Also you establish a baseline. If they all say "We love plot and RP" but then are socially awkward, don't read much and obsess over strategic video and board games, chances are you might need them to define what "plot" and "RP" mean to them.
Finally if you don't like them, you don't like them. That sucks, but that happens. I had a guy who wasn't doing anything wrong in my games; his builds were fine for the level of combat, he occasionally hogged the spotlight but whatever; we all do that from time to time. But in person he was dry, scientific. I couldn't joke w/him and we didn't seem to get along really well. Eventually the games just fizzled and I realized I just didn't like hanging with the dude.
That blows, but I've been rejected by enough people in my life to realize that some people you just don't gel with.
@ OP: sucks that you're in Ohio. I'm up here in MN and I prefer face-to-face over online interfacing. I hope your game either picks up or you get a new infusion of players/GMs.
Good luck finding a group man, it can be hard to find them. I'm fortunate enough to have access to a relatively large pool of players & gms, through a university group.
Though, I do have some folks I dont like. One guy played in my games and ended up quiting because he found "they had too much choice". He's also an awful GM, dry and lacking the presence necessary to keep people interested. He's ok as a person, but game-wise...
This might be the oportunity to "corrupt" new players into existence. I've found GMs tend to "mold" new players, so maybe a group of "fresh" players might be more to your liking. YOU CAN MAKE THEM YOUR OWN! MUHAHAHA!
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Our home group in Xenia meets the 2nd Friday of each month at my house. And yes, we have space right now. We have a GM and 4 players with various levels of experience. The party just made 4th level, so we're not too deep into the game at the moment.
I should be at Epic Loot on the 1st, hit me up if you want to know more.
Fridays usually don't work for me. But I might be able to free up 1 a month. I will plan to see you on the first.
I too have been without a home group for a couple of years now (grown old and all my players have moved away, and as I've said before it is difficult for me to start playing with younger players).Have you considered contacting the members of your old group and playing via Skype or a VTT?We are bouncing e mails back and forth to see if a Skype game is something we all want to try
It might just happen
Might want to check out Storium as an option.