So my wife wants me to find gamers at least one of two that also have young children like we do so on some of the game nights they can bring over their wives and children I think this is cool and fair, I enjoy gaming with people who I am friends with out side of gaming until recently that's how I usually gamed. Moving cost me my past game groups.
How do you go about finding other gamers with young kids or does that cause people to give up on gaming in person for the time being?
Or do I have to find friends and convert them to playing RPGs?
Im just hoping for some good discussion on this topic
I play in two groups. One group lost one player because of new children. The rest of that group are old enough that it wasn't an issue.
The other group I play in, half of the group has children. Those with children have continued to play as often as possible. When child related things came up, they missed games.
My wife gave birth to our first (an only) child just this year. When I attend my first group, she stays home with the baby. When I attend the second group, we take the baby with us if we aren't hosting. My wife plays, so it helps. When we take the baby to the other hosting home, the host's wife and the wife of one of the other players looks after our daughter.
We've been very fortunate in this regard. In my own experience, its difficult to find players with young children that can devote a lot of time to the game. But that's only my experience. I'm sure others have faired differently.
Yeah my wife doesn't play and I dont think she ever plans to play anything besides board games
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Father of many a brood seeking other brood-fathers to mingle with while playing games of chance.
Broodlings may be used as collateral, as game pieces, or as a snack if necessary.
Drinks will be provided.
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My wife and I have a two-year-old and a baby on the way. We both have jobs.
Shockingly, we still make the time to play twice a week. But we always host. There's just no other way to do it. We can't leave when she's asleep and she won't let us play when she's awake.
The two-year-old rules our house. :)
When my sister and her husband had a kid, they just stopped. They stopped doing everything when it came to interacting with other people. They stopped playing ttrpgs, video games, everything. I can understand reducing the time of doing those activities to have plenty of time to spend with the kid. That's to be expected. But dropping everything to spend almost every waking moment with the kid seems excessive. The kid is almost 3 years old now, and they are at his every beck and call. That doesn't seem to healthy for anyone involved.
I have known others where both parents play, even with young children. Even with brand new babies.
I have known others where both parents play, even with young children. Even with brand new babies.
Yep. We do that. It requires a little extra effort on both our parts, but it works. I plan to get the baby involved as soon as I think she can handle it. But, I have a bit of a wait (only 9 months, and she keeps putting the big, not-swallowable dice in her mouth...)
Yeah My wife sees the RPGs as my thing and she doesnt really want to get involved and is not really interested in them so both of us playing isnt going to happen.
I was very lucky in that regard. My wife didn't play when I met her, and as our relationship progressed, she got more interested in fantasy. The first Lord of the Rings movie pushed her off the edge into the depths of it. Finally, she got tired of being an RPG widow, and she's been playing ever since. I think a good ten years now, perhaps longer.
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Like Randarak's, my wife didn't have any interest in playing Pathfinder at first. I think it helped when she realized that the only reason she didn't play was because of the gamer stereotype and her fear of roleplaying in front of people. So she took it as a learning and growing experience. Now she's more or less embraced the game though still rolls her eyes about some of its cultural accouterments.
I think it helps to play with a group in the same stage of life. Almost everyone in our group is married, trying to have kids, expecting, or has kids under the age of three. It helps to all be on the same page about expectations and schedules.
I think it helps to play with a group in the same stage of life. Almost everyone in our group is married, trying to have kids, expecting, or has kids under the age of three. It helps to all be on the same page about expectations and schedules.
This is what I would love to be able to find just struggling to find it
I'm not sure if I'll keep gaming when I have children. Probably not. Gaming is too much of a chore as it is. Can't keep it up once I'm that busy.
Just don't invite people without kids. They'll come, because, hey, a game is a game, but it's annoying as crap when the younguns come up mid-game with all their...events...and...needs...and stuff. Always in the middle of when it's getting good, too. And when mom and/or dad come back, they never remember where we were, or if we do continue, they miss what happened, and...ugh...
Babysitters exist! They're really not that expensive! Urgh, why do people with kids insist on bringing them everywhere?!
We always gamed at our house. The kid was part of the decor. Didn't like the kid. But we've always been pretty laid back when it comes to gaming. We adapted.
We always gamed at our house. The kid was part of the decor. Didn't like the kid. But we've always been pretty laid back when it comes to gaming. We adapted.
I DID NOT mean to say we didn't like the kid! He was mine, after all! (stupid not reading before posting....grrr). I was going to say "if they didn't like the kid they didn't have to come game".
Egads... *smacks head on keyboard.*
*shrugs* At least there will be snacks...
Maybe check at the local game store to see if there are other parents that want to get together to game?
We had to give up D&D campaigns shortly after our second was born, babysitters are expensive (it is around $20 an hour around here), and a lot of our friends we were gaming with didn't have much time either.
That being said if you are willing to wait 5 to 7 years you have built in players, we're just restarting this year, our group consists of my 7 year old, my 5 year old, my husband and me both DMing and playing a healer PC.
I'm also thinking about seeing about getting a kids group going in a few months depending on how much the small ones enjoy it, they have a bunch of friends who would probably enjoy it.
Sounds like someone's wife read the post and was packing up to leave.We always gamed at our house. The kid was part of the decor. Didn't like the kid. But we've always been pretty laid back when it comes to gaming. We adapted.I DID NOT mean to say we didn't like the kid! He was mine, after all! (stupid not reading before posting....grrr). I was going to say "if they didn't like the kid they didn't have to come game".
Egads... *smacks head on keyboard.*
Nah, she left a long time ago, but for vastly different reasons... lol
Thanks, but it's all good. We're still best friends. Just get along better in separate houses... lol.
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So my wife wants me to find gamers at least one of two that also have young children like we do so on some of the game nights they can bring over their wives and children...
In my experience, any peripheral people that aren't playing end up being major distractions. That includes children, spouses, and friends.
If you're cool with that, I would plan for a lite style of gameplay that fits the restrictions you will have.
As far as finding them, I would try all the usual methods (online recruitment pages, meetup.org, FLGS postings, etc.)