RPG Superstar Season 9 Top 32
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I think they want to avoid the trope/trend in which representations of non cishet relationships in mainstream media always seems to end in tragedy. It's extremely difficult to get gay romance published/on air through major or mainstream channels unless it doesn't end happily.
It's not impossible, though.
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WHY CAN'T YOU DO THESE THINGS IN THE NORTHEAST!!!!!!!!
More seriously, I hope you have a wonderful time.
What's wrong with happy endings?
1. I love me some happy endings! I just hadn't realized that was a requirement to be considered a romance instead of fiction. :-)
2. You CAN do these things in the Northeast! Or rather, YOU can! Tracy Timmons-Gray, the organizer, put this together herself from scratch in her free time after reading local writers' wistful comments about wanting to meet all their online writer-friends—canvassed people to gauge interest, found a time and a venue, and spread the word. Just have to get out there behind the idea and PUSH! (Of course, it helps to have someone like Tracy, who does event planning as part of her day job, doing part of the pushing.)
I like stories that take me on an emotional rollercoaster ride and make me cry manly tears. Highly emotional, bittersweet endings after an increasingly dark/tragic buildup and climax tend to be my thing.
I am not usually drawn to romance, which probably has something to do with me being aromantic.
is it different if an lgbt writer writes romantic relationships that usually end tragically regardless of the genders of the characters?
EDIT: just realized the pattern in my work: relationships that were already in place tend to not survive to the end of the story. the ones that do survive the story are usually background information. happy relationships only form just before, during or after the climax.
i think my romantic relationships read anyway more like touchy-feely close friendships, often with benefits.
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It's not impossible, though.
** spoiler omitted **
Seriously, it's the gayest show I've ever watched, in the most fantastic way. And not just in the clearly defined relationships/romances, but in like, everything. You get the feeling that straight is the exception, which is nice for a change. It's also rather flipped the "tragic gay" trope on it's head, as the only romance that seems to not be tragic to some degree is one of the gay ones. And, well, I guess one can interpret Stevens' and Connies relationship as a het romantic one, but they seem more like close friends and that one just assumes there's something romantic going on because of heteronorms and that many kids' shows don't show explicit romance.
EDIT: And, if someone still hasn't watched the show and hasn't been convinced to do so, watch this clip, though I should warn that it is spoilery. But better be a bit spoiled than miss out on it :P
since I do not interpret steven as being a binary cis boy (but rather having a broader and more nebulous experience of gender) I dont see steven and connie's relationship as hetero, i also see it as being somewhere between platonic and romantic in nature.
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since I do not interpret steven as being a binary cis boy (but rather having a broader and more nebulous experience of gender) I dont see steven and connie's relationship as hetero, i also see it as being somewhere between platonic and romantic in nature.
Yes, that's how I interpreted Steven too. I don't know Stevens' gender, but since he's referred to himself as a boy several times it seemed it could be interpreted as hetero. But it's not like he seems too tied up in being a boy considering various stuff like the Giant Woman song and various things Stevonnie says. I have no idea on their relationship though, and honestly, I kinda like that it's so nebulous and unspoken. The show tends to be pretty explicit on romantic interests
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since I do not interpret steven as being a binary cis boy (but rather having a broader and more nebulous experience of gender) I dont see steven and connie's relationship as hetero, i also see it as being somewhere between platonic and romantic in nature.Yes, that's how I interpreted Steven too. I don't know Stevens' gender, but since he's referred to himself as a boy several times it seemed it could be interpreted as hetero. But it's not like he seems too tied up in being a boy considering various stuff like the Giant Woman song and various things Stevonnie says. I have no idea on their relationship though, and honestly, I kinda like that it's so nebulous and unspoken. The show tends to be pretty explicit on romantic interests ** spoiler omitted **, so when it doesn't make anything explicit, it seems it might be completely platonic (or not).
I think the big thing the show tries to divest from is gendered roles, relationships, tropes, etc. Characters may have genders they identify as or gendered pronouns, but they actively subvert our expectations as to what comes along with those. I say gendered pronouns because it's been hinted that Gems aren't *really* female or gendered at all, they just default to female pronouns because that fits the language/Earth's narrow conceptualization of what they are. See also how so much gem tech is called "Magic", often an explanation for any sufficiently advanced tech a culture doesn't understand.
I think the other thing on Connie and Steven is that they're young; just hitting the start of puberty. Fusion-as-a-metaphor aside, I don't think they even know if what they have is a strong platonic friendship or a romance yet. More importantly, I don't think that matters to them. For all we know Sugar & Co. are setting this up to gently call us out on the idea in media that male/female friends automatically are destined for a romantic relationship if they're good friends.
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My friends have been, for ages now, been attempting to get me to watch Steven Universe.
I now want to watch it. Problem is, I only have Netflix :P
My friends have been, for ages now, been attempting to get me to watch Steven Universe.
I now want to watch it. Problem is, I only have Netflix :P
google shenanigans
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I can't be part of your bad-NB shenanigans! I like following the rules and doing what's expected of me. It makes me feel nice.
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Just wanted to point out, this depends a lot. I'm on methylphenidate (which is the default treatment here), and the list of side effects that are dangerous was quite long, and some where quite common. Potential side effects include psychosis, high blood pressure, irregular heart beat or even heart attacks, suicide attempts, liver failure and coma, difficulties to breathe, myocardial infraction, sudden death (yes, that's what it says as a side effect lol), and epileptic attacks.
Most of these are fairly rare (in the <1% or even <.01% category each) but with such a long slew of side effects, the amount of people who suffer from at least one of them is probably quite high. Before I was allowed to start on it they had to do stuff like take EKG's and similar.
Yes. Concerta has side effects. All medications do. But a few facts:
* The side effects lists in FASS are the result of people sending in suspected side effects, including all the pharmacological companies. The companies want to be sure they get everything reported so they won't get sued, meaning EVERY SINGLE DRUG has nausea, headache and vertigo. After all, someone using the drug could have gotten their headache from it. Given enough time, most side effects will end up on all the lists. It is a better idea to use Läkemedelsverket's summaries about various drugs, where the relevant, including common and dangerous ones are listed.
* The frequencies of side effects are total, not broken down by any sort of groups. This means that if only cardially ill people get heart attacks when using the drug, the only result will still be that everyone using it has a certain percentage according to the lists.
* Most of the side effects you bring up are things you can check to make sure there is no problem.
* Sudden cardial death is a pretty odd side effect. All it means is that someone died from sudden heart failure while using the drug. Good luck in trying to determine the correlation there with a dead person to ask about symptoms.
* It looks scary if you see that some very dangerous side effects have 1/1000 or 1/10000 of happening. On the other hand, I would suggest that you check the side effects lists of drugs considered not dangerous enough to require prescription: Paracetamol, Ibuprofen and Acetyl salicylate. Just to give a few hints: trombocytopenia, leukopenia, liver damage and acute necrosis, affected kidney function, myocardial infarction, heart failure, meningitis, tinnitus, intestinal perforation, vomiting blood, pancreatitis, various serious kidney conditions, severe skin conditions including Stevens-Johnsons syndrome (a particularly charming condition where the skin loses its connection to the body), severe allergic reactions including anaphylactic reactions, depression, confusion, hallucinations, severe intestinal bleeding...
All in all, yes, there are things you need to check to use it safely. But it is not something I would call dangerous. At least not compared to stuff people gladly buy over the counter and guzzle down.
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Most medications are a game of finding that "Goldilocks Zone" where you have enough to get the benefits with minimal side effects. Everyone's metabolism is different and the rate at which they metabolize out (or don't!) a given medication takes some adjustment over time. That's part of why psychiatrists meet with folks more frequently when they initially get onto medication and why for some meds, you need regular blood work.
Heck, a lot of non-psych medications are like this too (I have to get bloodwork once a year for some stuff I take to make sure I'm not that .01% of the population where my kidneys can't filter it.
The best thing to do with side effects is ask your doctor what the common ones are their frequency and what, if anything, could be a sign you should call them right away. Always ask them to provide drug information beyond what's going to be on the bottle. There are usually always some adjustment issues (nausea, headache, etc.) with most meds no matter what as your body gets used to a new chemistry. Make sure you follow instructions on taking with/without foo and/or with/without plenty of water to help with this. (Side Note: A glass of milk is a good substitute when you need to eat with meds but don't have time to eat in the AM).
since I do not interpret steven as being a binary cis boy (but rather having a broader and more nebulous experience of gender) I dont see steven and connie's relationship as hetero, i also see it as being somewhere between platonic and romantic in nature.Yes, that's how I interpreted Steven too. I don't know Stevens' gender, but since he's referred to himself as a boy several times it seemed it could be interpreted as hetero. But it's not like he seems too tied up in being a boy considering various stuff like the Giant Woman song and various things Stevonnie says. I have no idea on their relationship though, and honestly, I kinda like that it's so nebulous and unspoken. The show tends to be pretty explicit on romantic interests ** spoiler omitted **, so when it doesn't make anything explicit, it seems it might be completely platonic (or not).
love steven universe.
I don't know if steven is heterosexual or not, although I would say evidence leans towards him being so, as well as cisgender. He reminds me of being a little boy of about 7 years old. I liked being around girls and wanted to have a girlfriend, but I wasn't sure why really. Iliked laughing with my female friends moreso than anything else, but my hormones took over a little earlier than some others(and a mother who insisted on me watching the miracle of life over and over again[whenever I asked where babies came from] helped to kickstart that, I suspect).
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I'm glad you're back. I hope that a trip to the doctor results in answers for you.
I believe that the SU crew posts episodes for streaming on their blog and website, so you can watch episodes without feeling guilty about anything. I'll try to find a link and send it to you if you're interested, but I'm at work so it'll have to wait just a bit.
if you're talking about theworldofstevenuniverse blogspot, it's not actually run by the SU crew. I don't think they're actually allowed to stream their own episodes for free but don't quote me on it.
It looks scary if you see that some very dangerous side effects have 1/1000 or 1/10000 of happening.
I just want to point out that the way the studies are done, they don't determine the chance that any particular side effect can occur, but rather the percentage of people who were in the study got the side effect. This is often compared to placebo.
So if 8% of people got a headache from Drug X and 7% of people got a headache on placebo, there is really no discernable difference between the two. That doesn't mean that there is an 8% chance that you can get a headache from Drug X.
Participants are told to write down everything that happens, no matter how slight. So if Participant 1 gets a mild headache and Participant 2 gets a massive headache, they are both listed as "headache."
I participated in a drug trial once. I'm also a pharmacy technician. These things are things I'm familiar with.
Precisely. I should have been clearer.
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We're getting close to being able to test each individual patient for specific genetic variations that influence drug bioavailability, clearance, metabolism, etc so we can avoid as many of those potential side effects as possible.
Right now we can take certain population scale considerations into effect (since certain genes that influence drug metabolism are more frequently found in specific racial demographics, broadly speaking) but ideally in the next decade we'll be able to personalize this stuff patient by patient.
And breaking topic to another, I've had SU recommended to me, but I've been put off rather a lot by the fandom online that I've seen in passing (threats against show writers and some really creepy stuff on tumblr).
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So a bit of good news. My insurance has approved SRS and I'm just awaiting a date. It only took 15 years. =)
This is rather belated, but congrats from me and one of my players who went through the same thing! :)
Well, that was an odd day. I was so anxious I pretty much wasted my workday staring at the screen until the therapist appointment. And I said the words. "I have been questioning my gender identity for almost two years. At this point, I am pretty such to be female, despite my looks."
And after a short moment of feeling like a deer in headlights, he just jotted down a note, asked a few questions on how I got to that point - and continued the initial talk without giving it much more room.
I feel... strange. A little more free. A little more able to face other parts of my history. As if just saying it to another person instead of just typing had removed a burden from my shoulders.
I salute your courage. Well done!
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Well, that was an odd day. I was so anxious I pretty much wasted my workday staring at the screen until the therapist appointment. And I said the words. "I have been questioning my gender identity for almost two years. At this point, I am pretty such to be female, despite my looks."
And after a short moment of feeling like a deer in headlights, he just jotted down a note, asked a few questions on how I got to that point - and continued the initial talk without giving it much more room.
I feel... strange. A little more free. A little more able to face other parts of my history. As if just saying it to another person instead of just typing had removed a burden from my shoulders.
I don't think I can do justice to how I feel right now—I'm crying if that means anything.
I am so proud of you. I cannot fully appreciate your situation (I am gay, but cisgender), but I've experienced confusion, fear, and depression regarding my identity.
Please know you have friends here.
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Keep hold (or memory) of that good feeling, for it will sustain you and it will come back ;-)
Good human beings take an interest in the welfare and happiness of fellow human beings.
There are a lot of Good human beings on these boards and especially in this thread. Very likely you are also one of them.
Thank you for telling us about yourself. It is an honor to share that with you.
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Hehe. I pranked my best friend and it was awesome.
I had asked her to be in the wedding party, and when we were on the phone today, I said something to the effect of:
"So, we've been thinking about wedding colors, and we thought we should do something meaningful to celebrate same sex marriage being legal in all 50 states. The rainbow flag is such a powerful sign of diversity, so we decided to do a rainbow-colored wedding. What I'd like for the women in the wedding party is to wear a dress that incorporates all the colors of the rainbow."
It was fun listening to her squirm about how, "that's a really interesting idea. I mean, I guess a rainbow-colored dress would be unique..."
I tried to keep it together, but I started cracking up about 30 seconds in. I'm so mean.
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I see 7 bridesmaids one each in the ROY G BIV, colors....
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Well, that was an odd day. I was so anxious I pretty much wasted my workday staring at the screen until the therapist appointment. And I said the words. "I have been questioning my gender identity for almost two years. At this point, I am pretty such to be female, despite my looks."
And after a short moment of feeling like a deer in headlights, he just jotted down a note, asked a few questions on how I got to that point - and continued the initial talk without giving it much more room.
I feel... strange. A little more free. A little more able to face other parts of my history. As if just saying it to another person instead of just typing had removed a burden from my shoulders.
Hi, Masked Maiden. I just wanted to say I hope things only get better for you.
I think I can just imagine some of what you’re going through based on my own experiences. I only worked up the nerve to talk to someone for the first time in the couple of months between finishing my undergraduate studies and moving away from home for grad school. Good timing, huh? As much as I think it really was that it was only that summer that I was finally able to put things together to the point that I was sure I could say I needed and was ready to talk to someone about it, part of me can’t help but feel it was awfully convenient to choose a time I could just walk away (however temporarily). Even that helped, though.
In the event, I found the courage – or recklessness – to make use of the new start while I was studying away from home to keep working on figuring out who I was. Luckily, in the first term I found a wonderful doctor at the campus clinic (seriously, if I know anyone who comes close to sainthood for compassion, it would be her), and things just took off from there, but I can still remember my first appointment. I felt ashamed even to try to look my doctor in the eye, and skittish as a fawn, ready to bolt hell for metal if anything seemed to be going wrong. But like you said, just talking about it, naming it, was such a relief, and now, still fairly early on in my transition, the years before that seem like an ever more dimly remembered nightmare. Whatever place in your skin ends up being most comfortable for you, I hope you can find it at least as smoothly.
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Hehe. I pranked my best friend and it was awesome.
I had asked her to be in the wedding party, and when we were on the phone today, I said something to the effect of:
"So, we've been thinking about wedding colors, and we thought we should do something meaningful to celebrate same sex marriage being legal in all 50 states. The rainbow flag is such a powerful sign of diversity, so we decided to do a rainbow-colored wedding. What I'd like for the women in the wedding party is to wear a dress that incorporates all the colors of the rainbow."
It was fun listening to her squirm about how, "that's a really interesting idea. I mean, I guess a rainbow-colored dress would be unique..."
I tried to keep it together, but I started cracking up about 30 seconds in. I'm so mean.
Funny!
And I don't remember seeing you mention it, but congrats on the engagement!
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Hehe. I pranked my best friend and it was awesome.
I had asked her to be in the wedding party, and when we were on the phone today, I said something to the effect of:
"So, we've been thinking about wedding colors, and we thought we should do something meaningful to celebrate same sex marriage being legal in all 50 states. The rainbow flag is such a powerful sign of diversity, so we decided to do a rainbow-colored wedding. What I'd like for the women in the wedding party is to wear a dress that incorporates all the colors of the rainbow."
It was fun listening to her squirm about how, "that's a really interesting idea. I mean, I guess a rainbow-colored dress would be unique..."
I tried to keep it together, but I started cracking up about 30 seconds in. I'm so mean.
Lucky for her they're apparently no longer available. ;-)
And onya, Masked Maiden—good luck with your journey!
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Hehe. I pranked my best friend and it was awesome.
I had asked her to be in the wedding party, and when we were on the phone today, I said something to the effect of:
"So, we've been thinking about wedding colors, and we thought we should do something meaningful to celebrate same sex marriage being legal in all 50 states. The rainbow flag is such a powerful sign of diversity, so we decided to do a rainbow-colored wedding. What I'd like for the women in the wedding party is to wear a dress that incorporates all the colors of the rainbow."
It was fun listening to her squirm about how, "that's a really interesting idea. I mean, I guess a rainbow-colored dress would be unique..."
I tried to keep it together, but I started cracking up about 30 seconds in. I'm so mean.
Funny!
And I don't remember seeing you mention it, but congrats on the engagement!
Thank you!
Aww, you could've had a prismatic wedding ;)
(Congratulations!, by the way)
I find it ironic that the current name I use (Aniuś Talewise/Taluwīs) is more 'special snowflake-y' than the pen name I used to use before I discovered I was trans.
My legal surname is Polish, but because it looks exactly like a totally unrelated silly English word, I always struggled with accepting it. I translated the name into English and used it as my pen name for a few years. It was nice and professional looking, but that name is dead now, and not for me anymore.
Then I discovered I was trans and switched out my first name for one that is a feminine name with a grammatically masculine ending. That is Aniuś.
Also for personal reasons I started feeling rather jaded/ambivalent about using my family name, and a patronym/matronym was out of the question for the same reason, so I opted for an epithet. I asked a friend to give me an epithet, and he called me "Aniuś the Wise". Aniuś Wīs does not flow poetically in Anglo-Saxon in my opinion so I appended Talu and made it a kenning. Thus I became Aniuś the Talewise.
On the other hand I haven't totally rejected the surname and in some contexts I still use it. I reclaim it by adding an acute mark ´, the way it is correctly spelled in Polish.
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Then I discovered I was trans and switched out my first name for one that is a feminine name with a grammatically masculine ending. That is Aniuś.
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Aaaand... So much for step forward...
The newly elected Polish president representing the strongly-catholic party will not sign the sex adjustment legislation.
The parliament can pass the legislation without presidential signature with 3/5 votes. It will be hard. The legislation was initially passed with 252 votes for, 158 votes against, 11 abstained (there are 460 PMs in the lower chamber, I assume the remaining wasn't present during voting). If the voting will be delayed until the new election then the legislation is as good as dead, because due to crap done or not done by the current ruling party in the last eight years the president's party will probably get a majority. Guess who was voting against the legislation?
Parliamentary elections are in three weeks and two days...
I'm heading over there to punch the polish president in the face
And the name of Jaryło will be written on the knuckles
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I'm heading over there to punch the polish president in the face
And the name of Jaryło will be written on the knuckles
Be warned, there is a law in Poland that penalizes "insulting a head of state" (any, not only ours, a few dozen years ago it was used to prosecute a journalist for insulting Pope John Paul II as a head of Vatican).
Also, as a child of Pole you are Polish citizen unless your other parent is non-Pole and the Polish parent contacted the embassy within three months of your birth with a statement that you will have American citizenship only (or if you renounced Polish citizenship later on your own). Poland allows for dual citizenship but in dealings with Polish magistrates, officials, and laws, the other citizenship is ignored.
I'm heading over there to punch the polish president in the face
And the name of Jaryło will be written on the knuckles
Be warned, there is a law in Poland that penalizes "insulting a head of state" (any, not only ours, a
fewdozen years ago it was used to prosecute a journalist for insulting Pope John Paul II as a head of Vatican).Also, as a child of Pole you are Polish citizen unless your other parent is non-Pole and the Polish parent contacted the embassy within three months of your birth with a statement that you will have American citizenship only (or if you renounced Polish citizenship later on your own). Poland allows for dual citizenship but in dealings with Polish magistrates, officials, and laws, the other citizenship is ignored.
oh my god all these stupid laws!! I know abortion is illegal too
And yeah I'm def a polish citizen