WOW! No, not I, but that sounds rather terrible.
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I only have my little brother and my wife as far as family goes no issues yet. However even though my father is no longer "Gaming is of Satan" we still can't play at his house. Now he wants to make sound effects from the next room.
Seriously we were start RotRL the goblins attack and I describe a goblin cackling in the distance and from the next room we hear my dad laughing in a high pitched shriek.
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My Dad is one of my players, and feels uncomfortable because everyone else at the table is less than 1/3 his age. What he fails to realize is that all the regular players are like "Is your dad gonna be able to play?" because he's just that funny.
Behind the screen, he's a GM's dream come true. Interested in roleplaying/diplomacy, has the calm voice of wisdom that can reign people in (which I lack for the moment). There's no one who DOESN'T want him there.
My first thought was that for a game that has gone on for a long time and you have had family in the game for 10 years, it can't be over the game. There may have been arguments at the table, but more than likely it was something away from the table. Get with your Niece and see if she want to get back with the game.
Apparently a couple years ago my mom's co-worker (who honestly seems like a great guy) tried to get a DnD campaign going with a group that included my mom and her boyfriend but it got derailed before it could begin. That's the closest my family gets.
Lately I've been possessed with the urge to teach my grandma the game but I lack the fancy materials (miniatures, pretty maps, more than one set of dice) that make the game less abstract on a physical tabletop, and the language barrier might also be a problem.
EDIT: I might just get her started with the beginner box rules and graduate her to the full version of the game if she likes it.
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I have been playing with my little brother for quite a while now, never been a problem.
But then...our sorcerer and our ranger seperated (no problem, all fine), a few days later she started dating our bard (no problem, sorc was fine with this, after a few weird minutes at the start everything was fine), a few months later she dumped the bard (problems starting, slowly getting bigger), a few months later the sorc started dating her again (problem in full-blown group destroyer mode), the sorc and the bard had a pretty bad falling out...and then the sorc dumped the ranger via text (full-blown-nuclear-apocalypse-problem - though TO BE FAIR he really regrets that and it happened in the moment).
Campaign lies dormant since then (not only because of that, though).
But problems with family...nah.
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I guess I should explain. I used to baby sit my niece when she was a kid. Often my group and I would let her play D&D with us, since sometimes the night's I'd watch her were also game nights and she was curious. Flash forward to the present and my nicece, now in her mid-20s has become your modern geek/gamer girl. Her boyfriend, whom I honestly don't remember how she met was a nerd as well and completely flipped out when he found out she used to game. He begged her to game with him. I guess they couldn't find a group or she knew that I still gamed, regardless, my niece asked if they could sit in on a few games.
My group was just starting up a new Pathfinder campaign, our first in the Pathfinder campaign setting (running Curse of the Crimson Throne while I worked on my own campaign) so I said sure (I had run for eight player before so seven wasn't to hard). Before that we had been using Pathfinder for homebrew Dragonlance and Dark Sun games.
Things were fine for the first few game session. I wasn't sure when I noticed but I did eventually notice that one the other players (whom I had been playing with on and off for over ten years.. not ten years straight) was acting a little too flirty with my niece. Now my opinion is probably skewed 'cause she is my niece, but I think she's a pretty girl and she is a nerd so I guess I should have seen this coming. So I talk with my player and tell him he needs to tone it back a bit he was like, "Well my Bard is a ladies man so I'm just playing my character". I told him "fine flit with characters and npcs, not with my niece."
To be fair he did tone it back a little, at first, but as I got more distracted by the campaign, raising a three year and work and so on and so on, I didn't notice he started it up again. All the while my niece's boyfriend turns out to be a super jealous, insecure tw*t and they actually had a few arguments about the other guy, my niece didn't tell me cause she didn't want to bring their drama to our game (in her opinion they were guests in our campaign). Finally the whole thing boils over one night with her boyfriend interrupting the game and accusing the guy of trying to seduce and steal her away from him.
Things went insane from that point and there was shouting, name calling and her boyfriend and the other guy almost get into a fight. I wish I was making this all up, I mean it sounds made up when I read it all here, but sadly it's not. In the end my niece and her boyfriend split up, my old time player and his brother (whom I had also been playing with, on and off, for over ten years) both decide to leave the group. So with two player left I was had no option but to put gaming on hiatus.
I don't blame my niece and actually it turns out she has helped me to reform my group. Which is now composed of my wife, my other player from the disbanded group, a friend from high school who's moved back in town and my niece and a girlfriend of hers from college. Also I was able to finish writing my campaign and several adventures for it during the off time. So despite the drama things have worked out in the end and I'm looking forward to finally getting a chance to explore Golarion.
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I only game with friend and family. I decided a while ago that if I have to chose between spending time with people I like and not game or spending time with people I don't particularly care about and game, I chose the former. If something happens in my group that results in a fallout like that, the gaming group breaking apart is the least of my concerns.
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@Dragoon, this is not so much of a family issue. I've seen similar things with attraction at the table where no family was involved. Family just makes it a little more personal.
Good luck on the future game!
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@Dragoon, this is not so much of a family issue. I've seen similar things with attraction at the table where no family was involved. Family just makes it a little more personal.
Good luck on the future game!
True this would could have happened even if it wasn't my niece, but that did make a big difference in how things turned. I guess you'll never know how people will act (close friends or not) in a given situation until they are actually in that situation.
Thanks for the well wishes the game, it's going great so far. I'm very happy to be able to put this campaign on the table. Golarion is a really rich setting!
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I think your issue is playing with a jerk and a drama bomb, not a family member. Your niece wasn't the problem, it was the bard player for refusing to cease his asshattery, and her boyfriend for overreacting to the aforementioned asshattery. Either of those two people acting like civilized humans could have avoided this.
I've gamed with both of my sisters and two cousins and never had an issue. I have also gamed with jerks and drama bombs and they are disruptive as hell.
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P.S. If you pull someone aside to have a conversation about something they're doing that's disrupting the game, and their response is "I'm just playing in character", that's kind of like when certain kinds of frogs have bright coloration to warn predators that they're poison. Someone saying that is warning you that they're poison.