Notice it's in off topic, so don't tell me to quaff an owl's wisdom. I am open to "supplements" though. Wisdom = presence and peace of mind. Something that will help a person have attention to detail and help him entertain friends and girlfriends. I know it's a tall order, but something small that helps you cope would help, with a bunch of small suggestions, hopefully we can gain a point or two.
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Avoid OTD Forums.
Ginkgo Biloba.
Weed.
Magic
Sometimes I play magic the gathering, doesn't seem to help.
Avoid OTD Forums.
It's a symptom, rather than a cause. I visit OTD because I'm somewhat distracted.
Ginkgo Biloba.
I'll give it a shot. The wiki page on it seems to support a bonus.
time and experience, whether personal or listening to those who have become wise.
I believe one can be taught wisdom, though it sounds more like you're wanting to be more perceptive in general. Just as one learns to track by reading signs of a forest, one can learn that as well. Or so I believe...
Yes more perceptive in general. As a consequence of being somewhat hampered, the wise and I don't meet. I have learned from experience the signs of wisdom, and lack of it. The means for actively cultivating it remain a mystery. I am guessing that playing sports (now golf as I'm getting older), and keeping a somewhat regular schedule help.
Weed.
Weed does help in the short term. I'm not sure about long term bonus, and stopping tends to make me less perceptive. I'm still on fence on it.
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MagicSometimes I play magic the gathering, doesn't seem to help.
Well thats because Magic: The Gathering increases your Charisma. I'm talking about Maaaaaaaaaaagic
If you have trouble remembering names, here are a couple things that have helped me get better with them:
1. When you first meet someone, ask them their name and then repeat it. "Hi Susan, it's a pleasure to meet you." Repetition aids learning.
2. Ask them about themselves, and try to tease some interesting factoid out of them. "So you're dyslexic and hate subtitles in foreign films? I like subtitles myself, but I can see why you don't." The more you know about someone, the easier it is to remember their name.
To get more observant in general...that's tougher. A professor of mine who races antique cars made an analogy that has helped me somewhat: He said that when you're on the racetrack, you don't focus on one thing. You "soften your vision" so that you're more likely to notice important details...like the guy creeping inside your blind spot, or something slick on the pavement.
So I try to soften my vision not only when driving, but in general. If I spot something unusual or interesting, I'll momentarily focus on it. Using "soft" vision, I do tend to notice things that I otherwise wouldn't.
Learn to tell stories.
People like authors, writers, verbal story tellers and comedians often have a strong skill of picking out important details. The best can often determine underlying causes that either create, or are created by, the detail.
Story tellers are fun at parties too... cause they've always got a story to tell.
Learning to tell good stories is a life time of work.
If you have trouble remembering names, here are a couple things that have helped me get better with them:
1. When you first meet someone, ask them their name and then repeat it. "Hi Susan, it's a pleasure to meet you." Repetition aids learning.
2. Ask them about themselves, and try to tease some interesting factoid out of them. "So you're dyslexic and hate subtitles in foreign films? I like subtitles myself, but I can see why you don't." The more you know about someone, the easier it is to remember their name.
To get more observant in general...that's tougher. A professor of mine who races antique cars made an analogy that has helped me somewhat: He said that when you're on the racetrack, you don't focus on one thing. You "soften your vision" so that you're more likely to notice important details...like the guy creeping inside your blind spot, or something slick on the pavement.
So I try to soften my vision not only when driving, but in general. If I spot something unusual or interesting, I'll momentarily focus on it. Using "soft" vision, I do tend to notice things that I otherwise wouldn't.
Nice. That approach seems to help with problem solving as well. You were speaking metaphoicly right? I have a pretty clean driving record.:)
I don't have too much trouble remembering names, I just use a visual picture of them and an item that reminds me of their name.
Gain 4 levels.
Ok, that was a bad joke. But seriously, Wisdom comes with time, age and/or practice. So basically, practice makes perfect.
Learn to tell stories.
People like authors, writers, verbal story tellers and comedians often have a strong skill of picking out important details. The best can often determine underlying causes that either create, or are created by, the detail.
Story tellers are fun at parties too... cause they've always got a story to tell.
Learning to tell good stories is a life time of work.
I wrote something long, but it didn't post:(
I'll work on that. I'm going to work on a story for this Saturday when I go out with friends.
I do get practice, my friends and I get together once a week to sit around a table and tell fantastic stories:)
Gain 4 levels.
Ok, that was a bad joke. But seriously, Wisdom comes with time, age and/or practice. So basically, practice makes perfect.
Appropriate joke. This is one of the few places where it is understood.
I am wiser than I was when I was younger and getting into car accidents. I suppose I am looking for an easy solution, and getting older doesn't take much effort.
I do get practice, my friends and I get together once a week to sit around a table and tell fantastic stories:)
Roleplaying does use a lot of the same skills as storytelling, but it can be different. While roleplaying shares a lot with improv acting, for example, improv acting is much more focused and the tools it uses are honed to a much greater degree than what happens at most tables.
Also, elements of good story telling can make for bad roleplaying... for example if you spend too much time telling the story to the others at the table, instead of playing with them.
Consuming media is a great way to learn about stories as well. Picking apart a TV show to figure out how the writers make it different from some other TV show that's similar. What things do the writers put in to evoke certain reactions or quickly convey information to the audience so that the story can be told more efficiently.
Weed.
I was going to say LSD.
LSD might as well be magic!
Nice. That approach seems to help with problem solving as well. You were speaking metaphoicly right? I have a pretty clean driving record.:)
To get more observant in general...that's tougher. A professor of mine who races antique cars made an analogy that has helped me somewhat: He said that when you're on the racetrack, you don't focus on one thing. You "soften your vision" so that you're more likely to notice important details...like the guy creeping inside your blind spot, or something slick on the pavement.So I try to soften my vision not only when driving, but in general. If I spot something unusual or interesting, I'll momentarily focus on it. Using "soft" vision, I do tend to notice things that I otherwise wouldn't.
Actually I was speaking literally. For example when I'm in an unfamiliar place, I'll scan the area with soft vision, and then focus on details that may be important or interesting only after I get a 'wide lens' picture of things.
Roleplaying does use a lot of the same skills as storytelling, but it can be different. While roleplaying shares a lot with improv acting, for example, improv acting is much more focused and the tools it uses are honed to a much greater degree than what happens at most tables.Also, elements of good story telling can make for bad roleplaying... for example if you spend too much time telling the story to the others at the table, instead of playing with them.
Consuming media is a great way to learn about stories as well. Picking apart a TV show to figure out how the writers make it different from some other TV show that's similar. What things do the writers put in to evoke certain reactions or quickly convey information to the audience so that the story can be told more efficiently.
I do watch TV. I do notice the similarities between that 70's show and the Big Bang theory. I take away that I need a foreign friend that isn't good with chicks, a unique friend, and a friend with secondary relationships. :P
Weed.I was going to say LSD.
LSD might as well be magic!
If I'm on the fence on weed, I'm on one side of the fence about channeling timothy leary. The magic suggestion was funny though and I encourage it. I'd be neat if I could just wear some gawdy hat and be able to get stuff done.
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Get out more. The more you socialize the batter you get with doing it.
Understand exactly what you are looking for, this will lead you to where you want to go. Take a philosophy class, go to church, talk to a psychiatrist or bartender. Whatever works for you.
Don't expect a lot of good, or any, advice on a RPG message board. Let alone the OTD forums.
Wisdom = Judgement (the capacity to make decisions verified by previous experience)
Therefor to increase your Wisdom you should do all the wrong things to verify that they are indeed the wrong choice. if they are not - then they may lead to even greater rewards.
I want to be wise enough not to even say that was a bad choice or a good choice, just to be able to say ____ is what I did.
Getting out away from people for a while generally helps me. Just take some time to think about things. Look for cool s!!$ like beauty??
Ritualised activities like golf probably help too.
True, getting away from people has been helpful. I'm going to try and work some more golf in soon.
Actually I was speaking literally. For example when I'm in an unfamiliar place, I'll scan the area with soft vision, and then focus on details that may be important or interesting only after I get a 'wide lens' picture of things.
I'll try and keep my head up, then look for interesting, cool, shiny, or pretty things.
Get out more. The more you socialize the batter you get with doing it.
Understand exactly what you are looking for, this will lead you to where you want to go. Take a philosophy class, go to church, talk to a psychiatrist or bartender. Whatever works for you.
Don't expect a lot of good, or any, advice on a RPG message board. Let alone the OTD forums.
I'm not staking my coping ability in this thread, I'm just looking for a few tips. This is one of my outlets, and you snuck in some good advice yourself.
Oh weed sucks.If you want to increase you decision making skills IE Wisdom Weed/Alcohol won't help.
If you want a temp increase in your Charisma though... give it to your date.
I'll agree that alcohol isn't very helpful (at least on me).
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Since it seems we're talking about social graces, try taking an interest in others, their desires and their interests. I find it helps to observe a person (casually, of course; nothing starts a social interaction off on the wrong foot like creepy staring) and note something about them that interests you (a tattoo, a pithy saying on their t-shirt, some topic of conversation they bring up, etc.) and ask them about it. Most people are more than happy to take up a topic they have a personal interest in.