two most important words (even more important than "I love you"):
Yes, dear.
Just a place for those of use that have been or currently are wedded to give some advice to the newbie.
Tip #1) If she asks you, "Does this make me look fat?" Do NOT respond with "Nothing makes you LOOK fat."
Try, "Nothing makes YOU look fat."
Note: If you cannot say this without the slightest tone of sarcasm, or with an utterly innocent and sincere face, for your life's sake, think of something else.
When you're going out to dinner and she tells you "Where-ever you want is fine."
Do not believe her! You will hear this or something similar thousands of times- it is not meant as a test, however, it is a test.
Respond accordingly
Never take anything for granted.
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Change Your Attitude: Before marriage, you used to think about your happiness and comfort as an individual. Marriage is an entity where it is important for you to take care of your partner's needs and wants as well. When you are married, you have to start thinking in terms of a team. At times, you may have to make sacrifices for the well-being of your spouse. Never mind even your spouse is also going to make a number of sacrifices for your sake!
Have Patience: Petty annoyances are bound to give rise to some conflicts. Accept this reality and try to solve the problem with a lot of patience. While addressing the problem make sure you do not end up making personal attack against your spouse. Most importantly, screaming and yelling at him or her is not going to help. Rather, it can provoke more bitter feelings in your partner's mind.
Keep the Romance Alive: This is one of the most important marriage tips for newlyweds because lack of romance and sexual intimacy often have an adverse effect on marriage. Many newlywed couples believe that romance dies after marriage as they start taking each other for granted. However, this is not true. Romance gets a completely new meaning in married life. It is not confined to nice gifts, flowers and candlelit dinners. Now the focus is more on caring each other, appreciating each other and sharing the joys of your life with your partner. Thus, you can keep the freshness of your marriage intact.
Communicate with Each Other: There is nothing wrong if there are issues where you and your partner do not agree with each other. However, if you neglect these problems for long, then it can snowball into much bigger ones. Have an open discussion with your partner and tell him or her about your feelings. This can solve half the problem. Communication does not mean that you will talk and the other person will listen. Make sure you give chance to your partner to express his or her viewpoint as well. In other words, you should be a good listener too. This way you can get to know about your spouse's expectations.
Manage the Finances: The root cause of many of the marital problems is money. Therefore, from the very start you should make efforts to manage the financial matters together. Initially, there could be some financial difficulties due to huge expenses in the wedding and honeymoon. You can successfully deal with this problem by proper planning of a monthly budget. It may sound a bit difficult but when you will find that you can save some money because of this kind of planning, I am sure none of you are going to complain.
I say make sure she has the largest portion of the horde.
Any advice you take will be wrong.
Including this advice.
Especially this advice.
Meh. Depends on the liquor.Alas Aberzombie you have only partially succeeded. Please allow me to continue...
HARD LIQUOR!
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If you have enough it doesn't matter
This is the best advice out there, bar none. Take it to heart.
1 Corinthians 13:3-7 (Note that most quotations of this pssage do not include verse 3, but it is essential to understanding that the passage is not simply discussing love).And though I bestow all my goods to feed [the poor], and though I give my body to be burned, and have not charity, it profiteth me nothing. Charity suffereth long, [and] is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth; Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.
Genesis 2:24
Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
This is not just about sex - it's about commitment of the highest order. Be of one mind and one spirit. Stand by each other always, unless the other makes a morally reprehensible choice.
Thanks for all the well wishes and good advice everyone.
My advice.
Both of you should have a hobby or activity thats just yours. Being joined at the hip or "always" doing things together isn't right for every couple.
Boom chicka wow wow.
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1) NEVER STOP DATING.
2) Still do the special stuff for her that you used to.
3) Have fun, crack the jokes you did while you were dating, all that stuff.
4) Remember to communicate. Closing off from each other creates problems. Talk, even if it's just random BS, just talk.
5) Be honest in your communication. She might not like what you have to say, but say it.
And whatever you do....
6) Don't give her the location or the passcodes to the HOARD. She gets half you know. :P
Good Luck!
Marital advice, eh? Hmm... OK. These are the bits of advice I'd give to both men and women.
1. Pick your battles. Not everything is worth a fight.
2. Practice forgetting the small slights. Learn to just let the little hurts go. Over a lifetime, you will ding each other plenty... dragging the memory of each of those hurts around is just dumb. Let the little ones go.
3. When you 'win' an argument, you just lost. Ensuring a 'win' whether through logic or some other means almost always ends up hurting the other person more than the 'victory' is really worth.
4. Learn to apologize for hurting your partner's feelings. It isn't about being sorry for the point you made, the side you took in the argument, etc. You can stand firm on whatever your platform is... but you CAN be sorry for hurting the other person in the process of making your point.
6) Don't give her the location or the passcodes to the HOARD. She gets half you know. :PThe horde is actually pretty safe.
Until she realizes there a number of people on the FAWTLy boards willing to pay good money for access. ;D
~gulps~ Uh oh! And you all can Facebook her to tell her that! ~cries~ I am DOOMED!!! Doomed I tell you! ~runs off to cuddle with my hoarde and treasure it before my wife sells it off to these fiends~
Compliment on the awesomeness of her sandwich making skills.
Or this may help. ;-)6) Don't give her the location or the passcodes to the HOARD. She gets half you know. :PThe horde is actually pretty safe.
Until she realizes there a number of people on the FAWTLy boards willing to pay good money for access. ;D
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For the Horde! :D