So this happened earlier. I was dming a game online on R20 and one of the player is very quiet, I asked if something's wrong, the player said they're distracted because they were typing on this other session they were playing.
I got offended because I thought it was disrespectful to do so, but some of the other players said 'it's no big deal'.
So, am I crazy or should people not play two pathfinder sessions at the same time? It clearly slows down both games and doesn't give enough focus on either
If you're the GM, you get to decide whether to keep that person in the game.
If you're a player, you get to decide whether you want to keep playing with a GM (and group) that doesn't think that it's disrespectful.
There isn't a "should" here. Either option is just as valid. And it sounds like some of the other players don't mind.
It might be worth an ooc discussion to see whether you're the only one who minds, or whether there is a group split about the acceptability of this behavior.
Clearly it's not a deal-breaker for some members of the group. My question is whether you've expressed your discomfort clearly, and how the entire group responded. Also, what's the GM's perspective?
No matter what people say in this thread, you aren't going to persuade the opposite side by using the argument that random strangers in the Paizo forums don't like it. The only opinions that count are those of the people actually participating in that game.
Well, the group is split into two. Half thinks it shouldn't be allowed, the other thinks it's fine. I stated that I won't tolerate it, but I just wonder if i'm over-reacting and wanted outside opinions
Are you overreacting? Maybe, maybe not
"I won't tolerate it"
Are you the GM?
Does that mean you're going to shut the game down if it continues? Does it mean you're going to kick out players who are doing it? Or are you simply going to kick out players who take too long (for whatever rule you make up to define "long") to announce their next action?
Are you a player?
Are you going to quit the game if other players take too long to announce their next action? Are you going to set a private time limit? Or are you going to announce that you're leaving if anyone takes more than X minutes to respond?
Are you going to get all the other players who agree with you to quit simultaneously?
Overreacting means threatening to do things that you don't intend to do. I'm not sure what it means when you say "I won't tolerate it". I'm not sure you do either
Personally I find it rude, but I've put up with a lot of rudeness over the years in order to keep a game going. People who are always late, people who have to order dinner during the game, people who forget their character sheets, yada yada yada. It all depends on your tolerance for rude behavior. And you're the only one who can set that boundary and enforce it, especially when "enforcing your boundary" means that you quit playing with that group.
So this happened earlier. I was dming a game online on R20 and one of the player is very quiet, I asked if something's wrong, the player said they're distracted because they were typing on this other session they were playing.
I got offended because I thought it was disrespectful to do so, but some of the other players said 'it's no big deal'.
So, am I crazy or should people not play two pathfinder sessions at the same time? It clearly slows down both games and doesn't give enough focus on either
Yes, it's disrespectful.
I had ONE game with a very very slow player who hated advice and took forever to do here turn, so I read or played during it.
But to do this on a regular basis is rude.
Player in question has definitely set a new bar in managing to be disrespectful to two GMs at once.