Its awesome to see this much interest in drow life. I actually run a RP based game where the players are drow within the city of menzoberranzan if any of you would like to join in and play. We have been down for several months but are kicking back up again and plan to play a couple times a week again.
http://menzoberranzan.50.forumer.com
You can check out our forums and see what you think. We honestly have just about all info for drow and the city of menzoberranzan available for you if you have any questions, etc. We pretty much do all the above stuff you guys are mentioning that would be cool to do in a game. We used to play this on NWN and had actually created about 85% of the city with it's toolset. But now due to bugs in the game with the newer versions of windows, etc we are just RPing through chat channels. Which has actually turned out to be a pretty good move since we are alot less limited this way.
You can also add me on msn messenger at: raistlin0031@yahoo.com if you have any questions about joining or anything else. We would love to see you guys join up and play with us though. I will say this in parting though. We are VERY MUCH focused on the RP side of the game. We ARE NOT powergaming drow and if you come in as a powergamer you will be asked to not play anymore lol.