Okay, Paizoians. I am in a bit of a quandary and seek the collective wisdom of message boards...
I keep my Facebook friends list fairly small. When playing with the Facebook settings on my new phone, I accidentally sent a friend request to everyone on my "People You May Know" list. This is scores of people, some of which I don't actually know.
Is it better to silently drop the people who accepted my request but I didn't actually want as Facebook friends (which is almost all of them), or should I send a PM to such people telling them what happened?
I'm thinking I'll get better advice here than in "Ask A Shoanti."
I'm thinking I'll get better advice here than in "Ask A Shoanti."
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Most people probably will not notice if you just silently drop them, I don't think a note is necessary in this case. My phone buzzes to notify me whenever I get a message from a friend; it would bug me to have to check my messages to get an explanation from some random stranger about something I don't care about. You already inadvertently caused a minor inconvenience; don't -advertently cause another one.
Dunno that there is any ettiquette for this.
I think of it as maintaining a rolo-dex or address book.
If people no longer need to be in there, I remove them.
On facebook, if I see a bunch of crap I don't like/agree with from a person, I will remove them. I can get along with a person face to face just fine, but that does not mean I need to see politcal/religious spam from them on an hourly basis.
silently drop them. your fb your rules.
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I'd just drop them. If somebody gets upset, you can always use my line: "my Facebook glitched and dropped you". Then never add them again. Chances are they'll forget. Or actually be honest and tell them you never intended to add them in the first place. Which is actually a good idea opposed to my hair-brained one.
Consider making fb post noting that recent friend invite was error/glitch if you don't want to send message to each one individually and then remove accidental "friends".
Consider making fb post noting that recent friend invite was error/glitch if you don't want to send message to each one individually and then remove accidental "friends".
That's a great idea. Then people who look at your wall wondering "Who is this guy?" will instantly have their answer.
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Or you could try the passive aggressive option... When the asshat conservatives won the elections in my country I spammed anti Tony Abbott/conservative messages out my waazoo... I got rid of bucket loads of bogans (rednecks) who had been to school with me and friend requested me and I was too polite to say no to.
Those that didn't unfriend me are obviously Chardonnay socialists like myself and my type of people.
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Don't mass message them - that creates a nightmare.
The rule with Facebook is that if you don't want them on your list, just defriend them. It doesn't necessarily mean you don't like them or even that you're not their friend. The term 'friend' on Facebook is just one of convenience. Facebook can potentially be full of personal stuff you may or may not want certain people to see, and that's fine.
You're in everyone's best interests to adopt the same philosophy - don't get offended if anyone defriends you, for whatever reason they deem fit. It's probably meaningless.