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Navior wrote:

Paladin of Baha-who? wrote:

Honestly, I think you're heterosexual and picky.

Speaking as another demisexual, it has absolutely nothing to do with being picky. Please do not deny people's sexuality.

Yeah, the community should seriously be more open to the asexual spectrum. The things I hear are just downright shameful. "You're not asexual, women just have lower libidos!" (false, btw), "You're not demisexual, you're just picky." "You're not aromantic, you're just not opening yourself to romance/love." "You're not really asexual, it's all just a result of some trauma."

Asexuals get their identity denied and invalidated even in our community, and I think we can do way better than that.

Unfortunately, bisexuals have similar issues. I don't understand why people feel they have enough grasp of someone else's identity to dictate to them how they should identify. I've been told, "You're not bisexual, you just like boobs."

I actually had a great time roleplaying an aasimar sorcerer devoted to Lymnieris. What great memories!

Right now I have a satyr sorcerer devoted to Desna and Chadali who fills a similar function. Plus a psionic half-orc chaladin. For some reason I just can't resist making all my high-Cha dudes scantly-clad flirts. It just fits! XD

I routinely min/max for Charisma, which amuses my husband (since I often end up with low Wisdom instead). He says it reflects me pretty well: pretty and able to win someone's attention, but with a bad habit of putting my foot in my mouth without having a clue as to why.

Welcome to the club! BI REPRESENT *double knuckle pound with bisexual tattooed on the knuckles*

(that's not actually a thing I have but I'm kinda tempted.)

It's nice to not feel alone. :) When my gaming group is all either family who don't know my orientation or kids with whom it's inappropriate discussion, it's nice to have a place to talk about gaming and how sexuality affects it.

I'm new here, both to this particular thread and to the Paizo forums in general. I'm jumping in because I'm so darn EXCITED to see this post here.

I'm bisexual, though most of my players and family aren't aware of it. Being married and monogamous, it largely doesn't come into conversation much, so I let sleeping dogs lie.

Except when it comes to games. I both play and GM (Pathfinder rules, mostly homebrew setting) and for my character building, I use utterly elaborate sexual orientation and gender identification charts to define the sexuality and gender of my characters and NPCs. I've broken it down by cultural area and race, too. I've spent what some people might call an abnormal amount of time thinking about how my characters relate to sex and gender.

For an upcoming game I'm GMing, I've already asked my players to define their character's sexuality on the Kinsey scale (or to include a complete backstory explaining their asexuality, if they choose). Part of it is because my brother-in-law is playing a female socially-licensed prostitute and I want all the players and characters to have decided beforehand how they might feel about being in close quarters with her for long periods of time.

I'm including elements of orientation and gender identity in a game for teens I run with our local library, too. The kids don't know this because they haven't talked with her extensively, but I have a transgendered cleric in town; she was born male but when she answered her god's call, she was granted a body which reflects her identity. It's caused her to be a little neurotic about adhering to her clerical calling for fear the god will take back the blessing if she proves a disappointment.

Something I read on Tumblr a while back really emphasizes how I feel about gender identity and sexuality inclusion in fantasy games: it's hard to escape onto a world if you don't see elements of yourself reflected there. It's true of books, visual media, and games, any escapist media. It's why it's important to me to include LGBT characters in my fantasy worlds; if I can make the world, I'm going to make it reflective of how I think the world should be. So my games include gay characters, trans characters (both those with a deific blessing and those without), straight characters, asexual characters. I want to see a world where these things aren't an issue and where differences are embraced rather than reviled.

...and I'll shut up now. Hello, I'm happy to be here.

I've looked at the Mooncaller archetype and that might suit him. He's still really new to this (and I'm a fairly new GM, though I spend a lot of time reading sourcebooks).

I'm running an expanded Beginner Box campaign for teens at my local library and have a puzzle. One of my newer players is looking through the base material (with my permission) and would really like to be a druid. I'm fine with this, but he's asking for information on moth-themed aspects. I can't find much data in the books I've explored for moths, so I'm sort of flying by the seat of my pants. I'd love to set him up with a moth druid archetype or an insect domain, but I'm not sure where to start. Any advice?

I introduced my husband and brothers-in-law to AD&D 2nd edition several years ago and we've been doing a round-robin of D&D and Pathfinder games ever since, adding girlfriends and wives as they came along. I'm currently planning two Pathfinder games for when it's my turn to GM. I also run a Pathfinder beginner box game for teenagers at our local library, which has been entirely female in attendance. I've got three players ranging in age from 12 to 15 and no boys at all. It's been fun, honestly, because the girls are exploring being powerful in a world that might not always see them as powerful. I work to balance gender equality, especially for the library game, but throwing some things in that let the kids think about what it means to be female in an antagonistic society has been about as helpful as teaching them how to use a bank (yes, I maintain an interest-paying bank for adventurers).