And my goal is to keep the Realms firmly planted in the better direction it has gone these last 3 years.
"Better direction", you´re kidding, right?
Ya know, there were reasons these changes happend and it's not because some random guys said to themselves "Hmm.....we don't like this setting as is, lets change it!" but probably read what a multitude of people felt about the setting and saw it's decline during the 3E era and said "If we want this to be our MAIN campaign setting for 4E, we should probably appeal to a broader base and spread out instead of a niche group of people.
Well, I assume this "niche group" is actually larger than the FR 4E supporter camp.
And it's unfortunate that you feel you can't participate in the current Realms even though the lore is all still there, the Gods (mostly) are still there, and the world is still the Realms, dispite your personal views.
I don´t know, but this FR 4E don´t feel like the Realms anymore. Maybe its the annihilation, or almost annihilation, of entire pantheons (Drow, Duergar, ...) and nations, the switching of continents across planes (Maztica - Abeir), earth motes (or whatever they are called - obviously inspired by wow), the nonsensical and inconsistant storyline of the events that culminated in the spellplague, the hatred against well known and loved characters or ...
These changes are arbitrary and feel so forced, it would have been better, if they had created a new setting and implemented some of these ideas there (many of them aren´t bad per se but simply don´t fit into the realms).