Missing_Aria
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Fairly certain that all of my players who've played in games where my gf was a player would tell you I do not favor her. But I also don't unfairly punish her because that's toxic bs.
That said, I'm mostly running Runelords (a TON of folks really want to knock that one out) these days and I try to follow the AP as much as possible. I also tend to include special things (flavor items, plot points, bonuses for certain character backstories in certain situations) that let my players know I value all of them and am engaged in their character development.
If you treat your players like you appreciate them and want to know more about they're characters, this should not be an issue.
And, speaking as a girl who has played TTRPGs for 20 years, I would also point out that most of these situations are just bad players who are looking for reasons to be mad. I've had exactly one instance where I personally experienced my GM showing favoritism towards his gf at the table and the rest of us (players) all just left without fuss. He asked why, we told him, he admitted it was messed up to give her a Ysalamir pet (Star Wars obv), and we all moved on. I've had 2 instances where someone tried to show me preference (once a player, once a DragonCon GM) and both times I noped out of that so hard the "nice guys" are still confused about what happened.
Most gamer girls don't want the special treatment. We hate it. It's the TTRPG equivalent of that rando guy buying you a drink and expecting you to "give him something" in return. We're not stupid, we know that. Even when it seems like the person in question is loving the extra attention, often they just don't know how to make it stop/realize the issue yet. There are hundreds stories that show this to be true.
But reading through some of the comments here it's super obvious that some of y'all are why Reddit keeps getting more horror story fodder.
