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I don't know, going by my encounters with rabbit-folk in my D&D game, they aren't a prey species so much as a predator species. . . *ahem*

I mean like... for the purpose of being a PG-rated game, the bunnies are sweet and cute and made of fluff and innocence.

Shifty wrote:

Boons stop now.
AcP launch Season 4 (a year away).

That seems like an unfortunate gap.

Not as big as gap as The Gap!

Partylf Sunev is banned for tipping into the dill.

*(tipping what, I don't know, but the herb garden will never be the same again.)*

Count Reiner Heydrich is banned purely because Revenge of the Vampire had too many editing errors, making it nowhere as good as Vault of the Vampire.

I can confirm this personally. Sit down for story time with Isabelle.

I used to love running games at conventions here in Michigan. I'd sign up to GM literally every slot of cons. But...

After a while, the misgendering (both willful and unintentional-but-recurring) got to be too much. The last straw came at TavernCon 2018, when a player (who had misgendered me at every opportunity the previous day) went on a loud rant about his opinions on same-sex relationships; a rant loud enough that I could hear it all two tables away. When I approached the convention organizer, his response was "He has a right to his opinion. If you don't like it, feel free to debate him."

I don't know you personally Isabelle, but I can tell 100% that this community is a better place with you in it.

The nice thing about what Doug is suggesting is that it's simple and structured — not something that relies on us being super empaths.

1. Ask folks to identify the pronoun of their characters.
2. Create space at your table to gently correct people if they get someone's gender wrong (and to do the pull-aside that you mention if they're being insistent)

This. Very, very much this.

If someone is GMing a game, and a player asks that you identify them or their character by their given pronoun, you should make a point to use it. If you're a player at a table and another player asks you to identify them or their character by their given pronoun, you should use it. If you ask someone at the table to identify either you or your character by your preferred pronoun, you should have the safe expectation that the people at the table will make an effort to do so.

Most trans people like myself know, from experience, that not all gender identities are immediately evident from a first glance. Generally we won't mind if you slip up now and then, so it's really only an issue of annoyance if it's done really, really excessively. And even then, we generally know that it's not malicious and typically just someone not paying attention :)

How often would pronouns come up anyway in a gaming session?

Kinda a lot actually. It's part of just the regular day-to-day language for the most part.

GM: "Okay, so on this turn of combat, everyone please tell me what you want your characters to do."
Player 1: "Transgirl's character is injured. I want to cast a healing spell on him. Then I'll move behind the rocks over there."
GM: "Cool cool, he gains twelve hit points."
Transgirl: "Thanks, but she's..."
Player 2: "I'm going to move between Transgirl's character and the enemy and hold my action. When they shoot at him, I'll return fire."
Transgirl: "I appreciate that, but she's a girl, not..."
Player 3: "Transgirl, can your character lend mine a grenade?"
Transgirl: "Sure."
Player 3: "Thanks. My character takes the grenade from him, and..."
Transgirl: "Her"
Player 3: "throws it at the enemy."
GM: "Nice, that hits, twelve points of damage. Transgirl, what do you do?"
Transgirl: "I move out of cover and take a shot. *Rolls* Nice, I think that hits? Twelve damage."
GM: "Nicely done. So, your character runs out, shooting as he goes. As he rounds the corner, the shot hits his enemy straight in the head."
Transgirl: "That... that's like three times you just said he. Please, could you..."
Player 1: "Geez, you're so over-sensitive!"

So I'll discuss this a little, as a non-binary trans person...

I've been misgendered at gaming tables before. My characters have also been misgendered. The latter is a lot easier to deal with. I'm serious there - if I say "Actually, Captain Fuzzifuzz is 'she'", most players will quickly adjust - or at least, attempt to adjust. There's still the occasional "and then he can... sorry, she... can" moment, but those are very distinct accidents and not something I let worry me.

The bigger problem I've had is in playing non-binary characters in fantasy games. It seems that in sci-fi, people are more willing to suspend their disbelief in terms of genders, what with it being a setting that's full of weird alien races, but less so when I'm playing an elf in a fantasy setting. I've had a few "Yeah, but what gender is she REALLY?" questions here and there, and that's... y'know, it's kinda funny that a lot of cis people can grasp non-binary genders easier if they think about non-binary people like me as if we're weird aliens from another planet, eh?

And of course, the biggest problem is people misgendering ME at the table. Now here's the thing - I've noticed that this varies a lot between different games. I guess that's because different games draw in different audiences, and different types of people. On the whole, Pathfinder/Starfinder players are pretty good at making a point to remember. Sometimes if I'm at a convention I'll set a little note card with such details for the players - "I am Alison Cybe (they/them) and I am playing Captain Fuzzifuzz (she/her)", that kinda thing. Like I said, a lot of SFS/PFS players are generally really good for that, and slip-ups tend (in my experience, at least) to be accidental. For other games that I've played, and I won't name them here, you can kinda tell that it's deliberate.

Welcome Alison! Anything you have written I might know?

Thus far, I've had a few adventures on DriveThru under community content, a fiction piece for Blue Rose and a piece in the recent issue of Wayfinder for Starfinder :)

So this is completely and utterly a luxury, but I would love to have a Starfinder insignia.
A total extravagance, I know, but I would like one... and yes, I know that I could just 3D print one, but I would rather not have one that looks like my cat threw it up! (honestly my 3d modelling capabilities are that bad!)

I guess that I should introduce myself. I'm Alison Cybe, trans (she/her or they/them) and a freelance gaming writer, I know a few people here from twitter (@cyberawolf) so, awwwr, some of you just starting on hormones, I remember those days! :D

HAVE: Paizocon online 2020 boon

WANT: Bantrid/khazir

Kudos! That was quick - I didn't know they'd gone out yet :)

Depending on where in the UK you are, I may be able to help ore than others. I'm local to Hampshire, and run an RPG society in my home city which includes SFS adventures, we are currently running online during lockdown but will continue to play in person once everything is back to normal. In addition if you are slightly further afield, I can put you in touch with your local groups - the UK has a pretty big Paizo contingent, especially at conventions. If you say hello on the UK Pathfinder facebook group, you shouldn't have any problem finding a few :)