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I am not here to promote anything, this is just a thread to support my friend and Colleague Louis Porter Jr. and pass along my useless condolences on the death of his wife.
To Mr. Porter and his family, may this time of grief be filled with the memories or love and happiness you shared in your time together.
While mere words can never fully ease the pain of the passing of a loved one know that there are people whom you have never met that grieve with you in your time of loss and are keeping your family in our thoughts.
Having lost my Father last month, I can empathize on your loss. I feel the same emptiness and add your wife to my prayers.
I'm so sorry, Bwang. Truly. You and your family, too, will be in my prayers.
I'm so sorry, Luis, for you and your family.
I'll be praying for you. God bless you.
I was really at a loss for what to say before, so I'll say it now.
I'd wanted to say that, having gone through a miscarriage a few months back, now (starting before Thanksgiving and going through that weekend, actually), I understand the pain of loss, but I also understand that this is different, heavier; in too many ways to really count, much harder (though those words hardly do the pain justice).
We never got to know our child. We loved the little one, but ultimately they were not someone we'd spent every day actively loving.
You have lost more than just a friend, a lover, a family member - you've lost all that, and also lost a substantial portion of your life... she was (and will remain) part of your mind, heart, breath, and everything else you had. You shared one life together intimately woven.
I cannot fully comprehend how difficult this is. I've had many glimpses - the miscarriage recently and losing other friends and loved ones - but this is beyond and more intimate than that. And for that, I apologize - nothing I can ever say will take the pain away or make things better.
But I can assure you that, in the end, no matter how bad and hard things get, it will get better. Not the "better" where you can go around like nothing ever happened - of course it happened, and that will always be a part of your life. Not the "better" where there is no pain. Not the kind of better where everything is as it used to be. That kind of "better" can't exist. But rather, the kind of better where you can live your life again with the son of both of you. Where you can think on your time with her as joy once again.
Right now, you probably need to just mourn. And that's okay.
Do not feel ashamed or worried or pressured about this - about anything, really, however you're feeling.
Regardless of your emotional state... that's natural.
I'm just sorry it's so painful.
But I also want you to hold onto hope. I want you to know that it does, in fact, get better. That life continues and that it's a good thing that it continues. That you will endure, if you allow yourself to do so. That your son will as well. Your family (including hers).
I don't know if you will ever read these messages. But I just want you to have a good life, and be at peace and find joy, even in these times of sorrow and mourning.
What I do know is how I feel, thinking about if it happened to me. How it gets hard to think and type and breath and swallow. And I mourn with you. I don't know you, nor her, personally, but I mourn with you and your family. Peace to you, sir. I am praying. And it will get better.
|Michael Kortes Contributor|
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I just want to say thank you to everyone who commented on this thread about my wife Carla. I know time are tough but my family will get through this. Here is a little video about everything that I placed on my blog:
Transparency Agenda #45: Thank you for your support during this time...
Thank you again, my extended RPG family.
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