Go Kittyburger ! :D
And sorry toi hear about that, Cindy, I hope you find a place soon.
Ni-ni?
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Ni-ni?
{buttles past with silver tray of Mistress's evening hot cocoa and warm brownie} Ni-ni.
I spent my weekend seething.
Now, to go back to work.
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For some good news:
My Kroger cashier today was wearing a small pin that said "she/her".
I looked at it and asked, "you're union, right?" (Where I live is a right-to-work state, but Kroger has a strong UFCW presence).
She nodded. Apparently her union had negotiated for people to be able to wear their pronouns on their uniform.
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I've had a pretty peaceful and productive Monday. It's my birthday, so my stepmom got me my favorite ice cream to go with dinner tonight!
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Happy birthday.
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Happ bort, Terminal Artiste!
I've been reading over PF2, and I just can't wait for Kitsunes :D
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It's Wednesday. Do you know what that means?
Mid-week hugs, handshakes, headnods, fist-bumps, etc. for all!
Go, my skittermander army, spread the love and joy.
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They've given me more responsibility at work (and likely an actual promotion soon) and I'm just dying tbh!!! Can't I just make more money and continue to slack off??
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One of the reasons I have a candy jar full of chocolate at my desk available to all - helps keep the murderous thoughts down.
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A quick clarification:
There is a huge difference between "At Will Employment" and "Right To Work"
What Jessica seems to be referring to is most likely "At Will Employment", which allows any employer to fire anyone for any reason (except legally protected ones).
"Right To Work" legislation is about not having to join a union, or pay any part of the union's dues if you are hired by an employer who has a contract with a union.
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Good morning, all you wonderful people!
It's Friday! Yay!
* sends out skittermanders to spread the love, hugs, handshakes, fist-bumps, positive vibes, etc. *
I hope your day is truly awesome.
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Called every bike shop in Manhattan. The word is out.
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Happy Tuesday, everyone!
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Hey everyone...being dealing with frustration and just being depressed lately. I just not moving along anything...and I can not. Money issues and my living situation just makes it impossible.
And recently I had a dream where my father found out...it was not a good dream
Worst...right now I just don't feel like I have anybody to talk too.
Hugs for you Selene.
PM me if you want to connect on Messenger or another chat system.
Please share here selene.
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For my birthday (it's on Monday), can I ask a favor? I know that man know about the child in Oklahoma who was threatened for being trans. Can I ask that you send a card full of love to the school to make sure that she gets it? Her name is Maddy. The school's address is:
Achille Public Schools
P.O. Box 280
Achille, OK 74720-0280
She needs to know that she is loved and that this world loves her. She should never feel fear simply for existing.
I want to make it clear that the school, school district, and the local police are limited by Oklahoma laws and they are supportive of her. Please make sure that you do not attack the school or the district. Only show her love. Together we can and will make this world a better place.
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Hey everyone...being dealing with frustration and just being depressed lately. I just not moving along anything...and I can not. Money issues and my living situation just makes it impossible.
And recently I had a dream where my father found out...it was not a good dream
Worst...right now I just don't feel like I have anybody to talk too.
I really understand how you feel. I was like this for a very long time. I wish I had answers or suggestions. I hope you are able to get things going in a positive direction sooner than later.
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Hey everyone,
Today I came out to my Significant Other as trans, which is the first time i actually verbalized my identity as female, which I only in the past few weeks fully realized about myself.
My SO themselves being gender nonbinary, was very happy for me and happily accepted calling me their girlfriend from now on (one of my greatest fear with coming out was that they wouldn't)
I wanted to share my journey to finally coming to terms with who I am now at the age of 31, and also how it relates to gaming as well (since this is after all the LGBT Gaming thread). And please forgive me, I find it a bit difficult finding the right words for everything, since I never really actively dealt with what it means to be transgender and the vocabulary attached to it.
I apologize in advance for my habit of constructing long, meandering sentences. And I'm thankful for anyone wiling o suffer through this.
As time went on I would always wear one of the skirts i had bought or made myself along with feminizing makeup whenever I would go out to parties or clubs with friends. I also started wearing more traditionally female articles of clothing, really anything that woudn't reveal my all to male body hair. My circle of friends have always been a rainbow coalition of all sorts of identities and sexualities so I fit right in, but at the time i would still refuse to (or perhaps be afraid of) call myself female, I just told anyone who would ask im a guy who likes to look feminine, or a crossdresser.
In my gaming life i had a parallel development. I've been playing videogames since childhood and started TTRPGs (in the form of the German game the Dark Eye) in my early teens, in which at the time i always made male characters. Whereas in videogames I found myself gravitating towards choosing the female options, even in games where this choice made little to no difference, such as in Civilization II. I later started playing D&D a few years later with some of the abovementioned circle of friends, and that was when i made my last male player character before playing almost exclusively female characters. I have made two or three male characters but would always quickly find that i never really feel those characters the way i did any of my female characters, even those that were much less well developed. I didn't realize this for a long time and always thought my preference for female player characters was based in the fact that i found them more visually appealing, and while I do, i only later and in retrospect realized how much more i connect to these characters than male ones.
When I started my relationship with my SO just over 12 years ago now, it didn't take long for us to find that we both were a bit gender nonconforming, and in our conversations, which at the time were purely online, because we lived in different countries at the time, we started using opposite pronouns.
Later as i picked up more about transgender, genderqueer and nonbinary identities more through cultural osmosis than active research, I thought perhaps calling myself nonbinary would be more appropriate. At the time i told myself I didnt really mind about what anyone would call me and what pronouns they used. But really, it always felt right to me when people used "she", or when i used it for myself when chatting with my SO, it made me feel affirmed, even when it was more in jest. The same has always been true when someone called me anything that is linked intrinsically to the female gender. I ignored these feelings however, and never acted on them by asking people to use female pronouns, partly for fear of ridicule, partly because some part of me still denied it.
In between, I sometimes felt a conscious desire that I would rather be a girl and even told some friends, but I kept dismissing these feelings every time.
As I grew older, i gained some weight and started growing rather strong body hair, (I already was slightly overweight before) which only pulled me further away from the image of the girl, or the woman, I would want to be and started me down a path where i almost completely blocked out my feminine side for several years. I told myself its better to be a hairy guy than a hairy girl, and almost completely stopped dressing in feminine clothing and using makeup. I grew a beard (more of a goatee) to hide my fading jaw line and really would only make any effort to dress up for dates with my SO who by the time had moved in with me.
I think in someway i was also afraid to actively claim any sort of trans or genderqueer identity because I felt inadequate claiming a label of a grou of people who have had to suffer so much historically and even now, both with the society around them and their very own bodies, when my life was always quite comfortable and dare I say, privileged.
Another reason may have just been that it was easier to conform to the gendered expectations put on me in daily life.
My SO and I are both currently staying at their parent's home (it's been nearly two weeks now and we're going to stay until the end of the month) and I haven't taken anything with me with which to express my feminine side (for multiple reasons which I feel I shouldn't get into). and it's only since we came here that these thoughts have been building up, and i have been reflecting back on my life so far, that I realized that i'm neither male nor nonbinary, and I wasn't for all this time.
I'm a woman.
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Hello and welcome Threeshades! Awesome to hear. :D
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Thank you. Not only have i been feeling much happier and more at peace with myself since then, but also healthier. I've stopped overeating and it looks like im in the process of losing weight.
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That's an awesome sign that you're more at peace with yourself!
Welcome!
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*does not usually get into hugging but after drought of over a week of no forums and terror offers many!*
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Welcome Threeshades...it was...what over a a year and half ago that a posted a very similair post,
This is a great place full of accepting and helpful people...for the most part.
Now my stuff...
I kinda left off and than the site went down...I am doing okay...I still have those problems...what I really need is a safe place.
I am sending CrystalSeas a PM...