Ow ow ow ow ow ow ow just OW.
*...just had the mental imagery of broken toe and then eight hours of work on it, or a roller derby match...*
Be safe and careful out there folks and take care of your health!
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I second what the noble bird man says.
Stay safe and take care of yourselves.
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Ooof. At least it's not broken, and 2 weeks isn't that long. Wishing you a speedy recovery!
Good morning, all.
Sending out my love and good thoughts to everyone.
* plops down by Kittyburger *
If you need something fluffy to rest your foot on while it heals I make a great footrest.
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Good afternoon and happy new year ladies and gentlequeers... I've been a bit remiss in my attendance here since mid december, sorry about that, I've had a major bout of depression, and could not be assed to come, or do much else for that matter... fortunately, I'm, at last, under a medication that seems to be enough to hold me in one piece and dam the floodgates of mine eyes... so maybe I'll come back to celebrate happy events and commiserate on less happy ones with ya'll... at any rate, I hope this post finds you all in good health and better moral than I (and I hope Kitty's toe heals well).
See y'all soon
Glad you've resurfaced from the Slough of Despond
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*channels positive feelings and offers hugs to anyone and everyone that wants or needs some*
*makes it a double*
* makes it a triple and throws in big fluffy bear hugs, hand shakes,
high-fives, and head nods *Stay wonderful, all of you!
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I'm worried that a bad tactical decision on my part is gonna lead to a TPK in my PbP D: my brain's been too fuzzy the past few days
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Good morning, all.
* sending out my love. positive vibes, and hugs before Rysky *
Hope your Friday and upcoming weekend is awesome.
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So I might be in uncharted waters (for me). Gay guy here and my best friend is straight. We've known each other for many years. However, I've increasingly noticed some signals he's been sending. I'm fairly oblivious about this sort of thing so the fact that I'm noticing at all is indicative. Has anyone ever been in a similar situation? If so, what kind of "tells" are there that an otherwise-straight friend might be interested in becoming something more? Or is this something best quashed in the name of maintaining the friendship, which I value very highly?
You could be upfront and take to him about it...a direct approach sometimes is the best. Just make sure you are not too...blunt about it.
So I am kinda facing a issue...my friends are kinda of ignoring the whole transgender stuff. They are calling me by my birth name...and such.
Pretty much the only girl time I get is when I am alone wHicham is kinda turning me into a hermit.
It is very frustrating...
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Looks like my robot-post got fixed.
Last night I had one of my most nerve-wracking nights in a long time.
I was asked to give an anti-extremism/white nationalism Q&A session at FGCU in Ft. Myers. I was asked to do it partially because of controversy down there surrounding a "White Racism" class... which I only got asked my opinion on once. I'm not very good at public speaking.. but I think I did fairly well. It was recorded and streamed as well. I'm not Tedx quality.. but.. ahh well. I can always improve.
Anyway, of course the last question of the night had to be one asking me to expand an offhand comment earlier (that I didn't even think about when I said it) in the talk about me considering myself LGBTQ+.
I went and did explain that I was polysexual and what that is.. so I guess I am no longer just not closeted.. I am now entirely out... having now vocalized it.
Don't get me wrong... that was probably one of the easier questions for me... surprisingly.
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Here's a hug Selene. Do you have any friend who you can ask to be your spokesperson? Like let them know how you're feeling and ask them to help coach the rest of your crowd into being more thoughtful?
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I went and did explain that I was polysexual and what that is.. so I guess I am no longer just not closeted.. I am now entirely out... having now vocalized it.
Don't get me wrong... that was probably one of the easier questions for me... surprisingly.
Wow! Congrats on coming out of the other side of that event with your mental health intact.
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So far my weekend's been great.
Last night I went to see The Greatest Showman with my boyfriend and some of his exercise buddies. GREAT movie, his friends seem cool, and I got to watch him lip-synch pretty much all the songs which was cute. Also we held hands through the entire show.
Then we all got ice cream (my first visit to Cold Stone Creamery) and I slept over. Had his delicious scrambled eggs for breakfast this morning and he surprised me with a fidget cube as a gift. I'm liking it so far.
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So I am kinda facing a issue...my friends are kinda of ignoring the whole transgender stuff. They are calling me by my birth name...and such.
Pretty much the only girl time I get is when I am alone wHicham is kinda turning me into a hermit.
It is very frustrating...
*offers hugs*
Here's a hug Selene. Do you have any friend who you can ask to be your spokesperson? Like let them know how you're feeling and ask them to help coach the rest of your crowd into being more thoughtful?
The Friendswood I would have thought would be good as spokesperson are the ones who are...back sliding the worst. :(
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oh no. That's so rough.
Deep breaths. Accept our hugs and our love. We're here to cheer you on when you're ready to face the world again. Until then hermit as needed
And practice being a steel magnolia: charm plus persistence as you gently correct their manners.
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It is hard sometimes to re-evaluate our connections in life when they are keeping us connected.
For many, many years I hung out with a group of friends that were incredibly misogynistic chain-smokers that pretty much had no respect for anyone (including themselves).
...because they were my friends, and I didn't know any better.
A few years after that I found new friends... and I hung out with them for several years until they revealed that they were TERF-positive and brooking no exceptions.
It's hard when emotional, social, and intellectual connections to community can be bruising at the same time reinforcing. Very difficult to step away, and sometimes the hardest step is to just quietly walk away.
No explanation, no 'this is why it isn't going to work'.
Could it be considered 'running away'?
Maybe.
But better to have faded out of those circles than drawing lines in the sand that may have caused a 'scorched earth' policy in either direction, imo?
Be safe and careful out there, folks!
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Generic Villain, Im not sure what advice I could possibly offer other than to be direct. Remind your friend that you are gay, and that there is a limit to horseplay before things get personal.
Selene, not sure what I can say other than to be a broken record. Being a woman only when you are alone sounds awful.
*Bright and warm flames cozying up ample space for hugs, smiles, companionship, gaming, all sorts of merrymaking and conversations*
*Hot and cold beverages at your leisure*
So I might be in uncharted waters (for me). Gay guy here and my best friend is straight. We've known each other for many years. However, I've increasingly noticed some signals he's been sending. I'm fairly oblivious about this sort of thing so the fact that I'm noticing at all is indicative. Has anyone ever been in a similar situation? If so, what kind of "tells" are there that an otherwise-straight friend might be interested in becoming something more? Or is this something best quashed in the name of maintaining the friendship, which I value very highly?
My personal opinion: let him be the one to bring it up. Until he states that he's interested, the knowledge you have is "He is straight and therefore cannot be." If information that he previously gave you is no longer true, he has to be the one to correct it, yes?
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Hey all, just dropping in to offer my love and support!
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So I might be in uncharted waters (for me). Gay guy here and my best friend is straight. We've known each other for many years. However, I've increasingly noticed some signals he's been sending. I'm fairly oblivious about this sort of thing so the fact that I'm noticing at all is indicative. Has anyone ever been in a similar situation? If so, what kind of "tells" are there that an otherwise-straight friend might be interested in becoming something more? Or is this something best quashed in the name of maintaining the friendship, which I value very highly?
I would need more context. What kind of signals are you getting? Is he flirting?
Lighthearted flirtation is probably the easiest to address by equally lightheartedly sending it back to him and seeing how he responds. (You could try a line like, “Careful - you could give me the wrong idea that way” and see whether he escalates or backs off, etc.) Some straight guys like the attention they get when flirting with a gay friend but will leave it like that, or he could be flirting because he wants to go further and doesn’t know how else to pursue it.
If the tone is more serious that can be thornier, but often easier to read.
I fell down the steps on my tailbone last Friday. While it seemed to be getting better for the first couple days, I haven't seen any improvement in like a week. x.o Starting to wonder if I need to get it looked at, but I haven't figured out a PCP since I got insurance at the start of the year.
I fell down the steps on my tailbone last Friday. While it seemed to be getting better for the first couple days, I haven't seen any improvement in like a week. x.o Starting to wonder if I need to get it looked at, but I haven't figured out a PCP since I got insurance at the start of the year.Sadly, there isn't much they can do about a broken tailbone, assuming that's what it is. Can't really put a cast on your butt.
I broke mine in a pretty serious fall a few years ago. Never actually went to the doctor. :)
It was a week or so before I could even sit for more than a few minutes and months before it was mostly better.
Initially suspected a basic bruise, but I feel like it's not painful enough to be broken. Guessing at this point it's sprained, since it seems to be behaving somewhere inbetween. :P
Friend of mine recommends getting a bonut, so I'll see if I can will myself to the store and pick one up.
I'll bear that in mind!
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So it has been a year since I started coming out to friends as a transgendered woman. Some things have changed...and frustratingly some things have not. This place though has been a constant source of support, advice, and comfort. So thank you all and *hugs*.
Special shout though to Rysky *hug*...you are probably my best friend that I have never actually met.
And Ambrosia Slaad who lurks about sometimes but sent some very supportive PMs...*hugs*
I fell down the steps on my tailbone last Friday. While it seemed to be getting better for the first couple days, I haven't seen any improvement in like a week. x.o Starting to wonder if I need to get it looked at, but I haven't figured out a PCP since I got insurance at the start of the year.Sadly, there isn't much they can do about a broken tailbone, assuming that's what it is. Can't really put a cast on your butt.
I broke mine in a pretty serious fall a few years ago. Never actually went to the doctor. :)
It was a week or so before I could even sit for more than a few minutes and months before it was mostly better.
Initially suspected a basic bruise, but I feel like it's not painful enough to be broken. Guessing at this point it's sprained, since it seems to be behaving somewhere inbetween. :P
Friend of mine recommends getting a bonut, so I'll see if I can will myself to the store and pick one up.
A bonebruise is a possibility. My wife had pretty much the same thing happen from a slip on ice and it took the better part of six months to stop hurting. Landing hard on a nice bundle of nerves can really suck, but there's little you can do aside from trying to reduce the pressure on the area with cushions and things like that.