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Cowards. The lot of them. The vast majority are internet bullies. Face-to-face, they know that they are cowards. Unfortunately, they empower the few who are willing to actually harm others.

People should spend more time doing what they were told as toddlers: "don't say that, it's not polite."


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Seconded, Bob. Yet another reason why I don't like bullies.


I spent most of my life being bullied. They never like when I fight back. I try to avoid it, but there are times when I need to do something. Violence is so very rarely the answer, even to a bully. I have found that simply standing up to them is often enough to get support from others and the violence doesn't come. Which is good because I don't want to get my butt kicked!


I was bullied all through High School. I was far too intelligent for some of my classmates. I loved to read, my favorite classes were Math and Chemistry, and so on. More than once, I was referred to as "Nerd B**ch." Part of the reason I enlisted was to learn how to better defend myself, if that makes sense.


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It makes perfect sense.

I was bullied because I was a military brat.
I was bullied because I liked D&D.
I was bullied because I was skinny and loved learning.
I was bullied because I was good at every subject in school.
I was bullied because it was a Monday.

I joined the military because I grew up in one and my father grew up in one and his father did etc. The same for my mothers (birth and step). I was in love with the military. I was never expected to join. It was always my decision.

Once I was in, I thought that it would stop the bullying. It did while I was in basic training, but it started again once I got to my duty station. Oddly, I was bullied because I am white. That didn't last long, but it happened. It never happened in school, even though I went to a school in a predominantly black neighborhood (Flatbush in Brooklyn).

I don't know why bullies think that I'm a good target. I don't put up with it for more than about 1 second. I shut it down as fast as I can. My father taught me to defend myself when necessary. He said that I don't have to win the fight to win the war. I was never taught self defense. I wish I had been, and now I just don't have the money or time (my schedule makes it difficult to get to the classes regularly).

Bullies don't know how to handle themselves when confronted. They either walk away or fight back. They aren't used to actually fighting someone who will fight back so it generally doesn't take much to deal with them.


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That's been my post-army experience as well. I seem to have perfected that "don't f**k with me" look. I can walk through some of the worst areas of Pittsburgh unscathed. I guess it's kind of like how predators can sense another predator. My DI in Basic told me to go straight for the incapacitating shots. I've so far never had to raise my fist in self-defense.

Edit: self-corrected spelling error. *oops :) *


Bob_Loblaw wrote:

It makes perfect sense.

I was bullied because I was a military brat.
I was bullied because I liked D&D.
I was bullied because I was skinny and loved learning.
I was bullied because I was good at every subject in school.
I was bullied because it was a Monday.

I joined the military because I grew up in one and my father grew up in one and his father did etc. The same for my mothers (birth and step). I was in love with the military. I was never expected to join. It was always my decision.

Once I was in, I thought that it would stop the bullying. It did while I was in basic training, but it started again once I got to my duty station. Oddly, I was bullied because I am white. That didn't last long, but it happened. It never happened in school, even though I went to a school in a predominantly black neighborhood (Flatbush in Brooklyn).

I don't know why bullies think that I'm a good target. I don't put up with it for more than about 1 second. I shut it down as fast as I can. My father taught me to defend myself when necessary. He said that I don't have to win the fight to win the war. I was never taught self defense. I wish I had been, and now I just don't have the money or time (my schedule makes it difficult to get to the classes regularly).

Bullies don't know how to handle themselves when confronted. They either walk away or fight back. They aren't used to actually fighting someone who will fight back so it generally doesn't take much to deal with them.

HOLY S**@ WHERE DID YOU GO TO SCHOOL MAN?

BROOKLYN!!!


I spent my freshman year at Brooklyn Tech. My dad was stationed on Governor's Island. We transferred to Cape May, NJ and I ended up in a horrible education system.

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Those are Coastie Stations!

And yeah, CG stations are rarely put in "good" locations. One of "nicer" locations that comes to mind: there was a CG auxilarist (volunteer civilian USCG groupie) that owned a house adjacent to/nearby a station. He rented it out to the crew so they could 1) afford to live nearby, especially for those without cars 2) not worry about parking/commuting (extremely developed tourist area) for those that did have have cars, 3) trustworthy/accountable renters 4) Owner got his in-depth Coastie experience.

This was an outlier.


Closing up the Garage to go home. Good night, all.


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My dad put in 32 years in the Coast Guard. I loved growing up and moving all over. I got to see so many things that people only see in books.


I know, right? I saw much of Bavaria during my two years in Germany.


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I never went overseas, but when my dad was transferred instead of flying out he would take leave and we would make a road trip across the country. We camped the whole way. I got to see so much of this country and meet so many interesting people from different places. I think that it was one of the greatest experiences of my life.


Bob_Loblaw wrote:
I spent my freshman year at Brooklyn Tech. My dad was stationed on Governor's Island. We transferred to Cape May, NJ and I ended up in a horrible education system.

my wife went to Brooklyn Tech you're a technite wooooooooooooo


Bob_Loblaw wrote:
I never went overseas, but when my dad was transferred instead of flying out he would take leave and we would make a road trip across the country. We camped the whole way. I got to see so much of this country and meet so many interesting people from different places. I think that it was one of the greatest experiences of my life.

The trip of a lifetime? I'm jealous, now. :) The longest road trip I've ever done was from Pittsburgh to Minneapolis and back to visit my Brother and his family.

Scarab Sages

I spent a good chunk of my childhood in the back of a car - my father was a salesman for medical devices (which was, apart from my size my reason to be buggered at school - most of my fellow students were kids of doctors, architects, lawyers etc - being on the short end of money can put you on the low step of the social ladder even at school).
During holidays or saturdays he would take me and my mother on his trips from hospital to hospital - I saw quite a few german cities during that time - and I developed a habit - books and audio-books.
The trips were almost always daytrips (sometimes loooong daytrips, though.)


*Bright and cozy, inviting for companionship, conversation, hugs, smiles and games and general merryment*
*Beverages of all sorts*


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Freehold, it was the best school I have ever been to. It was challenging and encouraging. I really felt like I was learning at a great pace and that I had the help when I needed it. I like being pushed to do more.

John, we drove across country more than once and took different routes when we did. If I recall, we drove across country 4 times east/west and we drove north/south twice. When people tell me how hard life must have been growing up moving all the time all I remember is the good stuff.

feytharn, I hope you were able to find the good things from those trips. Day trips aren't much fun, but if you got to meet great people and go to great places it could have been worth it.

Scarab Sages

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Bob_Loblaw wrote:


feytharn, I hope you were able to find the good things from those trips. Day trips aren't much fun, but if you got to meet great people and go to great places it could have been worth it.

More places than people - I take quite some time to warm up to people, so daytrips weren't the best opportunity for that - but the older towns and cities formed my interest in history just as much as the backseat formed my interest in reading.

Plus I got to spend time with my parents where they were much less likely to fight then at home.

edit: also, especially during the long evening and night hours (my father wouldn't have light inside the car, so reading hour was over) I met much of myself, which formed a lot of who I became (and made me even more introverted then I was before)


Campfire Elemental wrote:

*Bright and cozy, inviting for companionship, conversation, hugs, smiles and games and general merryment*

*Beverages of all sorts*

Thanks for the tea. About to take a break from preparing all my Classic Traveller Adventures for Starfinder. I have to go to a Walmart to buy a new rake.


Bob, right now what I'd love to do is to travel the country and visit my on-line friends. But, alas, my work schedule and lack of funds wouldn't permit it. :(


I understand that John. I can't even afford to visit my local friends lately.


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Well, at the very least, we have the same unrealized dreams.


Using my tablet and hotspot on a bus. Harder to post on a moving vehicle than I thought.


Going offline, now. This isn't worth the effort. :(


Well,everybody. Someone's finally done it. Someone has finally pissed me off enough to want someone dead. It seems that, between Yesterday afternoon and this afternoon, someone had drained my checking account to nearly zero. Right now, I'm unable to renew my Transit pass for the week after next week, or even do laundry. There's a branch of my bank that's open tomorrow. I'll go there to try to get this resolved. Wish me luck.

I'm sorry for venting here and in other threads.

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Sorry to hear that, John :(

*hugs*

I hope everyone else's weekend is going well.

*channels positive feelings and offers hugs to anyone and everyone that wants or needs some*


*Accepts hugs*


Coming back out from lurking

That really sucks, like big time.

How much are the transit pass in your area? Maybe there could be a way to have people send you a dollar or 2 to get you back on your feet. I know I could, I just don't know how to get it to you.


I appreciate the thought, but I don't want to be a burden to my friends.


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I'm not rich, but my financial situation allows me to help people in need once in a while, it wouldn't be a burden. But I leave that up to you. You can always PM worst come to worst.


Thanks, Rannik. We'll see what the bank has to say, tomorrow.


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John Napier 698 wrote:

Well,everybody. Someone's finally done it. Someone has finally pissed me off enough to want someone dead. It seems that, between Yesterday afternoon and this afternoon, someone had drained my checking account to nearly zero. Right now, I'm unable to renew my Transit pass for the week after next week, or even do laundry. There's a branch of my bank that's open tomorrow. I'll go there to try to get this resolved. Wish me luck.

I'm sorry for venting here and in other threads.

in the days directly leading up to the worst day of my life, this happened to me. In fact it was the incident that set things into motion, but that doesn't matter now.

When you are hacked in this fashion, forget visiting the bank proper- they can't do anything much to help. Instead, call the 24 hour number on the back of your debit card and dispute the outstanding purchases. See if they happened in your state or not, if they did not, then you have a very, very strong case to dispute the charges. It will take anywhere from 2 to 3 business days for you to get your money back, but do not rest on their reassurances- call them once a day EVERY day until you get your money back. Be a pain in the ass, don't let them try to tell you it was your fault or anything like that.


I'll do that, but I want to eliminate all the purchases that I know I did personally. I renewed my transit pass for the week beginning tomorrow, I bought another month of T-Mobile hotspot airtime, I did some shopping at a Grocery store, I bought some food at a 7-11, I bought two sodas at a Dollar Store, and I bought a stylus for my tablet. Anything other than that is likely the source of the transaction. Then I'll call customer service and dispute that charge.


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John Napier 698 wrote:

Well,everybody. Someone's finally done it. Someone has finally pissed me off enough to want someone dead. It seems that, between Yesterday afternoon and this afternoon, someone had drained my checking account to nearly zero. Right now, I'm unable to renew my Transit pass for the week after next week, or even do laundry. There's a branch of my bank that's open tomorrow. I'll go there to try to get this resolved. Wish me luck.

I'm sorry for venting here and in other threads.

I am sorry to hear about this, John.

*hugs*

I wish could help, but right now I am having my own financial difficulties.

Hope everything works out for you.


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John Napier 698 wrote:
I'll do that, but I want to eliminate all the purchases that I know I did personally. I renewed my transit pass for the week beginning tomorrow, I bought another month of T-Mobile hotspot airtime, I did some shopping at a Grocery store, I bought some food at a 7-11, I bought two sodas at a Dollar Store, and I bought a stylus for my tablet. Anything other than that is likely the source of the transaction. Then I'll call customer service and dispute that charge.

find the exact charge, yes.


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Thanks Selene. *accepts hug* Knowing that my friends care is enough, right now.

Yes, Freehold, that's just what I was planning. Find the exact transaction, then dispute that.

Scarab Sages

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John Napier 698 wrote:

Well,everybody. Someone's finally done it. Someone has finally pissed me off enough to want someone dead. It seems that, between Yesterday afternoon and this afternoon, someone had drained my checking account to nearly zero. Right now, I'm unable to renew my Transit pass for the week after next week, or even do laundry. There's a branch of my bank that's open tomorrow. I'll go there to try to get this resolved. Wish me luck.

I'm sorry for venting here and in other threads.

Sorry to hear that.

*offers hugs*
Good luck resolving this!


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Thanks, Feytharn. I'll need all the luck I can get in resolving this. *Accepts hugs*


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Going to try to get some sleep, now. Not feeling so angry right now, just tired, sad, and disappointed. Did I ever mention how much I dislike hackers?

Scarab Sages

John Napier 698 wrote:
Going to try to get some sleep, now. Not feeling so angry right now, just tired, sad, and disappointed. Did I ever mention how much I dislike hackers?

Well worth repeating, carving in stone and hitting said hackers with that stone

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Freehold DM wrote:
John Napier 698 wrote:

Well,everybody. Someone's finally done it. Someone has finally pissed me off enough to want someone dead. It seems that, between Yesterday afternoon and this afternoon, someone had drained my checking account to nearly zero. Right now, I'm unable to renew my Transit pass for the week after next week, or even do laundry. There's a branch of my bank that's open tomorrow. I'll go there to try to get this resolved. Wish me luck.

I'm sorry for venting here and in other threads.

in the days directly leading up to the worst day of my life, this happened to me. In fact it was the incident that set things into motion, but that doesn't matter now.

When you are hacked in this fashion, forget visiting the bank proper- they can't do anything much to help. Instead, call the 24 hour number on the back of your debit card and dispute the outstanding purchases. See if they happened in your state or not, if they did not, then you have a very, very strong case to dispute the charges. It will take anywhere from 2 to 3 business days for you to get your money back, but do not rest on their reassurances- call them once a day EVERY day until you get your money back. Be a pain in the ass, don't let them try to tell you it was your fault or anything like that.

Yup, that's what I had to do. At some point they send you a form you have to fill out that you then have to turn in to your bank in person but that is the only way to dispute and eventually be absolved of the charges. In my case it resulted in me missing a mortgage payment that created a negative spiral that took months to recover from since there was about 3 weeks of an empty bank account while bills stacked up and credit cards were required to eat.

RPG Superstar 2009 Top 16

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feytharn wrote:
John Napier 698 wrote:
Going to try to get some sleep, now. Not feeling so angry right now, just tired, sad, and disappointed. Did I ever mention how much I dislike hackers?
Well worth repeating, carving in stone and hitting said hackers with that stone

I'd just take their eyes and fingers. Deprive them of the tools they used to hurt others. But I might be a little vengeful.


Yes, but first the guilty party must be established. I don't want to ruin the lives of the wrong people.


Damn John, that's messed up. I hope they resolve this quickly for you. I know that my credit union is always quick about fixing things like this. I hope your institution is also.


Bob_Loblaw wrote:
Damn John, that's messed up. I hope they resolve this quickly for you. I know that my credit union is always quick about fixing things like this. I hope your institution is also.

PNC is a large bank, with branches nationwide. They have a reputation to protect, so this should be resolved swiftly. God, I hope this wasn't done by anyone I know.


That sucks John, I hope you get a swift and happy solution to your trouble
*channels positive feelings*


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Mark Thomas 66 wrote:
feytharn wrote:
John Napier 698 wrote:
Going to try to get some sleep, now. Not feeling so angry right now, just tired, sad, and disappointed. Did I ever mention how much I dislike hackers?
Well worth repeating, carving in stone and hitting said hackers with that stone
I'd just take their eyes and fingers. Deprive them of the tools they used to hurt others. But I might be a little vengeful.

that's the paladin way of handling things!


Klorox wrote:

That sucks John, I hope you get a swift and happy solution to your trouble

*channels positive feelings*

Thanks, Klorox.

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