Deep 6 FaWtL


Off-Topic Discussions

202,101 to 202,150 of 239,767 << first < prev | 4038 | 4039 | 4040 | 4041 | 4042 | 4043 | 4044 | 4045 | 4046 | 4047 | 4048 | next > last >>
The Exchange

1 person marked this as a favorite.

Also the culture here is that the guys should do the chasing. If a lady puts herself forward, she's considered too brash and loose.

Going around nekkid is definitely loose. And an offence as well.

*gets dressed*


1 person marked this as a favorite.
Capn Yesterday's Wedding Anniv. wrote:
This gets more hilarious every year!

WOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO


6 people marked this as a favorite.
Just a Mort wrote:

Also the culture here is that the guys should do the chasing. If a lady puts herself forward, she's considered too brash and loose.

Going around nekkid is definitely loose. And an offence as well.

*gets dressed*

I remain confused and frustrated by the idea that women are not allowed to be forward. it leads to nonsensical amounts of subtlety on their part, and a lot of missed opportunities.

That said, more forward naked kitteh.


4 people marked this as a favorite.

Kjeldorn: no worries, we're good.
Mort: He KNOWS I'm married; for the last five years, he's been our housemate as well as our landlord. The awkward monologue was right after his "gee, I'm gonna miss having the kids around" speech.

The Exchange

1 person marked this as a favorite.

Oh sorry, I thought it was your new landlord. If it's your old landlord, then probably you won't see much of him so it's not that bad of an issue me thinks.


2 people marked this as a favorite.

I am a notorious flirt. My appetite for intimate company is considerable. It would help if I knew how to flirt well. Fortunately my 13 Charisma helps get me out of scrapes and social gaffes.

The Exchange

2 people marked this as a favorite.
Freehold DM wrote:
Just a Mort wrote:

Also the culture here is that the guys should do the chasing. If a lady puts herself forward, she's considered too brash and loose.

Going around nekkid is definitely loose. And an offence as well.

*gets dressed*

I remain confused and frustrated by the idea that women are not allowed to be forward. it leads to nonsensical amounts of subtlety on their part, and a lot of missed opportunities.

That said, more forward naked kitteh.

Under Asian culture, the male is supposed to be the breadwinner and the female is supposed to be meek and submissive. Damn, I should have been born male.

In China (and india), they even practice female infanticide because girls are useless since they cannot carry the family's surname(China - since children's surnames follow their father), or require a large dowry to be married off(India).

Yeah it's nasty stuff.

Shadow Lodge

2 people marked this as a favorite.

I have to agree with Freehold on this one. At least the first part.

Such was the custom here at one time as well. We are thankfully moving away from it as a society.

The Exchange

2 people marked this as a favorite.

In Asia female empowerment doesn't come that quickly. If you're a stay-home mom, people will praise you on being dutiful and taking care of the family. However stay-home Dads on the other hand, get people being nasty saying that you have to live off your wife.

Yes I know it's not fair but I'm just describing the way things are here.

The female is supposed to take care of the family, the male, work and bring the moolah.

Shadow Lodge

3 people marked this as a favorite.

My SO and I have long since decided neither are changing our names when we get married. It's unnecessary and only causes more paperwork and unneeded expenses.

Shadow Lodge

2 people marked this as a favorite.

I would not do well in Asia then. I've long since accepted that my GF will be the eventual breadwinner for us, and neither of us wants kids, so stay at home parent isn't happening on either side.

The Exchange

1 person marked this as a favorite.

But your kids will be taking after your surname, no, Orthos? Passing on the surname is a very important thing in Chinese culture.

Also the girl is expected to live with her husband(and possibly her family), rather then the guy moving into the girl's family.

The Exchange

3 people marked this as a favorite.

The guys in high school didn't take it well when I approached them talking about games they were playing. They treated me like a freak. So what if I'm a girl, you mean I can't game? Gaming is reserved for males only?

My family was like, why can't you be like all the other girls, and why do you have boyish habits like gaming?

(Note: They didn't complain when I didn't demand branded handbags and shoes like some fashionstas in my school).

The Exchange

1 person marked this as a favorite.

When it comes to clothes and shoes, whatever's comfortable and easy to put on makes me happy. I'm more or less going around in flats all the time, and yes, I've actually climbed up Mount Faber in office attire(it's that comfy I can do that). But don't expect me to be all up in high fashion, since I am not wearing fancy stuff that isn't practical.

Now if you talk to me about clothes fashion, I'll probably fall asleep. But if you're talking to me about the best eats, I'm your cat!

Shadow Lodge

2 people marked this as a favorite.

As I said, there will be no kids.

If there were, though, I'd be happy with them not. I don't like my surname.

Family's another way I wouldn't fit in. I'm moving to where she is and much closer to her family, far far away from mine.

The Exchange

1 person marked this as a favorite.
Freehold DM wrote:
I am a notorious flirt. My appetite for intimate company is considerable. It would help if I knew how to flirt well. Fortunately my 13 Charisma helps get me out of scrapes and social gaffes.

From the female point of view, I suggest you find hobbies we share in common. I don't do the talk to strangers thing well. Get me talking about food...or maybe hearthstone, or slay the spire, or PBPS...

The Exchange

1 person marked this as a favorite.

Now about my shoes again, I really should foot up more dosh and get them from Mondo's instead of some random cheap neighbourhood store. Since one pair I got from the neighbourhood store was too tight that it's not comfortable, and the other was so loose that it could fall out if I started walking too fast. The Mondo shoes are fine and I've been prioritizing wearing them over the other two pairs, such that they're likely to wear out faster.

About how cheapskate I can be about my shoes...my track shoes sported a hole, I asked my Dad for help, and he stuck the edges together with araldite glue, and I'm still using them.

The issue is when shoes give way on sole issues, chances are you're caught midwalk and you have to hop back, so the base of the shoe gets too much dirt from the ground to be glued back to its sole properly. You need a smooth surface for araldite to function. You could possibly sandpaper the base, but the base is usually thin so you'd get nothing left by the time you're done with the sandpaper.


2 people marked this as a favorite.
Pathfinder Adventure Path, Rulebook, Starfinder Adventure Path, Starfinder Roleplaying Game, Starfinder Society Subscriber

Orthos, with kids! That would be something to charge admission for! :-)


1 person marked this as a favorite.
Capn Yesterday's Wedding Anniv. wrote:
This gets more hilarious every year!

Completely forgot this the first time around! Sorry!

Congrats Cap.

Shadow Lodge

2 people marked this as a favorite.

I don't mind kids on principle. I like my nieces fine.

But I'm under no illusions that I would be a good parent, and my SO has stated similar. Nor do I believe we will ever reach a financial status where we can responsibly afford to care for and maintain children, even if we wanted them.

Plus the whole ace thing.


2 people marked this as a favorite.
lisamarlene wrote:

Kjeldorn: no worries, we're good.

Mort: He KNOWS I'm married; for the last five years, he's been our housemate as well as our landlord. The awkward monologue was right after his "gee, I'm gonna miss having the kids around" speech.

Thank you LM.

I can be very awkward to be around, as I don't really "get" people.


1 person marked this as a favorite.
captain yesterday wrote:
Orthos, with kids! That would be something to charge admission for! :-)

I would pay a considerably large sum of money, in cash, to watch orthos fatherhood follies.


1 person marked this as a favorite.

Why Does NobodysHome Boycott Home Depot?

So, our neighbor really wants to replace the lattices that were on the top of the fence. And, of course, they're a Home Depot exclusive so I have to hold my nose and shop there.

Saturday, July 28: "Sorry, sir. We're out. But the shipment should arrive on Tuesday, so if you come late Tuesday afternoon they should be here."
Tuesday, July 31, after work: No lattices. I don't blame the woman; she told me what she'd been told. She doesn't manage shipping, so she can only tell me what she knows.
Thursday, August 2: Still no lattices. NobodysWife suggests I stop driving there (a 10-minute drive) and start calling first.
Saturday, August 4: I call. They cannot figure out which department the lattices are in, so I spend 6 minutes holding for various people before accidentally being hung up on. So, being out of a product doesn't frustrate me. Wasting my time with incompetent phone operators? That really incenses me. If your people aren't trained to use the phone, don't have them answer it. Hire ONE person whose job it is to just answer the phone, check the inventory system, and say, "Yes" or "No".

So off to Home Depot for another morning of fail.

Gods, I loathe Home Depot.


4 people marked this as a favorite.
Just a Mort wrote:
The guys in high school didn't take it well when I approached them talking about games they were playing. They treated me like a freak. So what if I'm a girl, you mean I can't game? Gaming is reserved for males only?

Weird guys...

In my time in middle school (think American high school), if a woman approached us to talk about games we would be more than happy to speak with her!

In fact, once I was approached asked about those games we play by a girl I had a crush on, but when I was explaining role playing games to her, she responded that she can't comprehend how it is supposed to work. *sigh* In the hindsight I should have organized a session to show her. *stupid-stupid*

Shadow Lodge

3 people marked this as a favorite.

Meanwhile my parents boycotted them over the bathrooms thing a few years ago.

One of these things is not like the others, one of these things just doesn't belong...


2 people marked this as a favorite.
Pathfinder Adventure Path, Rulebook, Starfinder Adventure Path, Starfinder Roleplaying Game, Starfinder Society Subscriber
Kjeldorn wrote:
Capn Yesterday's Wedding Anniv. wrote:
This gets more hilarious every year!

Completely forgot this the first time around! Sorry!

Congrats Cap.

No worries! I don't think anyone pays attention to what alias I'm using anymore. :-)

Thanks for the well wishes everyone! These last 17 years have really flown by!


2 people marked this as a favorite.

My dad also refuses to shop at Home Depot ever again due to looking for something in plumbing and overhearing an employee giving some home plumbing advice to another customer: "Just force it."

Dad promptly left and went to Lowe's.


4 people marked this as a favorite.

Well, the deed is done, and it was rather amusing having to go through about a dozen lattices before finding three that didn't have gaping knots in the frames. Classic Home Depot, "If you aren't very, very careful about what you buy, you're going to get ripped off."

But so far, ever since Home Depot did a craptastic job on my kitchen floor and then threatened me instead of fixing the issue, I estimate I've cost them around $40,000 in business.

Revenge is a dish best served in orders of magnitude.


2 people marked this as a favorite.

On the other hand, on the drive there I saw something that incensed me no end: A student driver with instructor.

So, you expect a bit of weaving, excessive adherence to the law, slow driving, etc., so none of that bothered me in the least.

However, when at every single Stop sign the student rolled right through the first line, stopped at the second (thus blocking the crosswalk), then sat there for a full three seconds (obviously in, "Come to a full and complete stop" mode), I was flabbergasted. You're going to train a student that the correct place to stop for a Stop sign is in the middle of the frigging crosswalk?!?!?! I watched it for four Stop signs. Just appalling.

At one Stop sign, the instructor decided to do one better, and, with a line of traffic behind them, had the student just sit there while he showed the person (didn't see the student) something on his phone. So yeah, let's teach them early on that it's OK to block traffic so we can look at things on our phones. Not *quite* as bad as looking at the phone while moving, but with an entire block of empty parking spaces, pulling over would have been an easy and valuable lesson.

As the student left my path, the student performed the classic, "I'm not going to signal at all until I actually start the turn, because letting people know where I'm going is Evil."

So yep, blocking crosswalks. Being distracted. Not signaling. All while being trained by a driving instructor.

I know one school the kids are NOT going to.


4 people marked this as a favorite.
Orthos wrote:

Meanwhile my parents boycotted them over the bathrooms thing a few years ago.

One of these things is not like the others, one of these things just doesn't belong...

I'm sure it's political, but I don't even know what the "bathrooms thing" is.

But then I'm a clueless person. I don't even understand why we have gender-specific bathrooms in the first place, especially in places where they're single-person rooms. Why not just design bathrooms to actually give the people doing their thing a bit of privacy, so it doesn't matter what gender they are?

EDIT: I mean, nobody has gender-specific bathrooms in their homes, do they?

EDIT 2: But then, one of my favorite, "Gods, Americans are messed up" moments came when I was at the beach in Germany and everyone just changed into their swimsuits right there. Young, old, male, female; it didn't matter. They just changed. And because nobody made a big deal about it, nobody cared. It was amazingly refreshing.


2 people marked this as a favorite.
Freehold DM wrote:
I remain confused and frustrated by the idea that women are not allowed to be forward.

Most definitely yes.

Freehold DM wrote:
That said, more forward naked kitteh.

Also most definitely yes.

Freehold DM wrote:
... My appetite for intimate company is considerable. It would help if I knew how to flirt well. It would help if I knew how to flirt well.

My appetite for intimate company (of any kind, by a member of the opposite sex) is also considerable. It would help if I knew how to actually deal with people well.

Orthos wrote:

...

Such was the custom here at one time as well. We are thankfully moving away from it as a society.

Still got small vestiges of it here too, though its mostly a generational (maybe even a regional too) thing. Nordic women are overall very independent minded, thus no longer tolerate such non-sense.

Just a Mort wrote:

...If you're a stay-home mom, people will praise you on being dutiful and taking care of the family. However stay-home Dads on the other hand, get people being nasty saying that you have to live off your wife...

...The female is supposed to take care of the family, the male, work and bring the moolah.

Yup got vestiges of that too, though again, its mostly a generational (maybe even a regional too) thing. From my Parents generation and forward, its a become something of a rarity.

Though if any future wife/cohabitant/whatever had better career prospects then me (actually very likely), then I would have no problem being the "stay-at-home-dad", "child-raiser" or even just being the primary "house-keeper".

Just a Mort wrote:
Freehold DM wrote:
I am a notorious flirt. My appetite for intimate company is considerable. It would help if I knew how to flirt well. Fortunately my 13 Charisma helps get me out of scrapes and social gaffes.
From the female point of view, I suggest you find hobbies we share in common. I don't do the talk to strangers thing well. Get me talking about food...or maybe hearthstone, or slay the spire, or PBPS...

*Plys Mort with Mint and chocolate-chip ice-cream, while discussing Rpg's and what's for dinner later*


2 people marked this as a favorite.
Pathfinder Adventure Path, Rulebook, Starfinder Adventure Path, Starfinder Roleplaying Game, Starfinder Society Subscriber

Every company I've ever worked for despises Home Depot.

It's too bad you don't have Menard's out there, they rock!


Capn Yesterday's Wedding Anniv. wrote:
This gets more hilarious every year!

Congratulations!

(And for the record, if any of you has ever told me any date of any year whatsoever, I apologize, but I’ve totally forgotten it. In other news, I’m slowly getting better at remembering when my own wedding anniversary, but this comes with the trade off of slowly getting worse at remembering ,y own birthday.)

Shadow Lodge

1 person marked this as a favorite.
NobodysHome wrote:
Orthos wrote:

Meanwhile my parents boycotted them over the bathrooms thing a few years ago.

One of these things is not like the others, one of these things just doesn't belong...

I'm sure it's political, but I don't even know what the "bathrooms thing" is.

It is politics: the big debate a couple years ago about transgender laws and public restrooms and who gets to/is supposed to use what room(s). Home Depot was one of the first big companies to publicly announce transgender-friendly restroom assignments and when they did my parents immediately announced they'd stop shopping there on Facebook and to anyone who brought the subject up.

Shadow Lodge

1 person marked this as a favorite.
NobodysHome wrote:
EDIT 2: But then, one of my favorite, "Gods, Americans are messed up" moments came when I was at the beach in Germany and everyone just changed into their swimsuits right there. Young, old, male, female; it didn't matter. They just changed. And because nobody made a big deal about it, nobody cared. It was amazingly refreshing.

I guess this is very much a personal issue, because that would have unnerved me as hell, even as a non-participant. Do not want.

But then again, I'm a prude even for an American, who doesn't like wearing shorts outside the house. I definitely would never be comfortable with such open and public nudity and changing of clothing.


Freehold DM wrote:
Syrus Terrigan wrote:

And Now For Something Completely Typical:

Unholy Flaming Hell$#!ts, Batman!! That was awful!!

So I finally watched TLJ.

And I still haven't stopped laughing. It's been four hours.

This message is brought to you by Rantraptor's Roost, the next Paizo Forums thread that will never happen.

EDIT: 'cause "hell$#!ts" made it through the filters. Huh.

yeah, bad star wars movies exist

Yes, indeed. And the stories are getting worse, too.

*chucklesnort*

How much money does it take to screw something up? Not much, but we've got TONS!!


2 people marked this as a favorite.
Drejk wrote:
Just a Mort wrote:
The guys in high school didn't take it well when I approached them talking about games they were playing. They treated me like a freak. So what if I'm a girl, you mean I can't game? Gaming is reserved for males only?

Weird guys...

In my time in middle school (think American high school), if a woman approached us to talk about games we would be more than happy to speak with her!

In fact, once I was approached asked about those games we play by a girl I had a crush on, but when I was explaining role playing games to her, she responded that she can't comprehend how it is supposed to work. *sigh* In the hindsight I should have organized a session to show her. *stupid-stupid*

Yup, pretty much my take too.

Heck, today I miss the few girls we've had in our groups over the years. The current crop of wives, girlfriends and even children have shown very little interest in taking up Rpg-ing.

*Sigh*

NobodysHome wrote:

...

I don't even understand why we have gender-specific bathrooms in the first place, especially in places where they're single-person rooms. Why not just design bathrooms to actually give the people doing their thing a bit of privacy, so it doesn't matter what gender they are?

EDIT: I mean, nobody has gender-specific bathrooms in their homes, do they?

Gender neutral toilets with accommodations for male, female, disabled and whatever.

*Dusts of hands*

NobodysHome wrote:


EDIT 2: But then, one of my favorite, "Gods, Americans are messed up" moments came when I was at the beach in Germany and everyone just changed into their swimsuits right there. Young, old, male, female; it didn't matter. They just changed. And because nobody made a big deal about it, nobody cared. It was amazingly refreshing.

The Germans are very nudity-friendly…even more then us northerners.

Its still a bit of a divided topic up here, with no clear consensus on the topic.
So most beaches do have (kind of) "dressing areas", unless its specifically a nude-beach.
Though most people will give you the space to change on a beach, if you just have a friend/partner/whatever holding up a towel and try to screen you off (ie the genuine attempt to accommodate everyone sensibilities, will often give you the leeway to bend or push whatever expectations/rules/whatever/are in place).


2 people marked this as a favorite.

Made my own brand of a Curry hot pot for dinner...
with a little to much emphasis on the hot

*Gulps down from a carton of milk*


2 people marked this as a favorite.
Pathfinder Adventure Path, Rulebook, Starfinder Adventure Path, Starfinder Roleplaying Game, Starfinder Society Subscriber

I tried for years to get girls to play RPGs, but eventually gave up and quit D&D to go play what they wanted to play.

Best decision of my life!


1 person marked this as a favorite.
Orthos wrote:
NobodysHome wrote:
Orthos wrote:

Meanwhile my parents boycotted them over the bathrooms thing a few years ago.

One of these things is not like the others, one of these things just doesn't belong...

I'm sure it's political, but I don't even know what the "bathrooms thing" is.
It is politics: the big debate a couple years ago about transgender laws and public restrooms and who gets to/is supposed to use what room(s). Home Depot was one of the first big companies to publicly announce transgender-friendly restroom assignments and when they did my parents immediately announced they'd stop shopping there on Facebook and to anyone who brought the subject up.

Oh wow, did not know. I am suddenly just a bit happier that there is a Home Depot 10 minutes down the road.

Spoiler:
I've never had a problem with HD like NobodysHome has; possibly because of lower expectations.

Orthos wrote:
My SO and I have long since decided neither are changing our names when we get married. It's unnecessary and only causes more paperwork and unneeded expenses.

I tried to talk Mrs Sunrise into amalgamating a new family name from our maiden names -- not simply hyphenating our names, but creating a new one from bits of both -- but she didn't dig it. So we did the conventional thing; I kept my family name, and she took it too.

She said she just didn't like any amalgamation I could think of, and I also put it down to her being pretty conventional about a lot of things. But just now it occurred to me that maybe like you she doesn't like her maiden name, and its associations. She's definitely the black sheep of her family; she's a progressive Wiccan in a family of conservative Christians, and that fact causes her considerable angst. EDIT: Don't know why you don't like your family name, not trying to imply that I know your reasons.


3 people marked this as a favorite.

Few more weeks before going back to school. Feels weird after just wandering about aimlessly during the summer break, more or less. At least my birthday went really well, haha.


2 people marked this as a favorite.
Just a Mort wrote:

Now ok, confessions time. I've never started flirting with anyone in RL. I literally didn't feel the urge to approach guys. I mean Orlando Bloom, ok sure a little happy mooning, but nothing comes out of it.

'Mooning' is a colloquial term for showing your backside to someone. I assume that isn't what you meant...

Shadow Lodge

1 person marked this as a favorite.
Limeylongears wrote:
Just a Mort wrote:

Now ok, confessions time. I've never started flirting with anyone in RL. I literally didn't feel the urge to approach guys. I mean Orlando Bloom, ok sure a little happy mooning, but nothing comes out of it.

'Mooning' is a colloquial term for showing your backside to someone. I assume that isn't what you meant...

It's also a synonym of "swooning" in some cultures, which I presume is the meaning she did mean.

Shadow Lodge

2 people marked this as a favorite.
Tequila Sunrise wrote:
EDIT: Don't know why you don't like your family name, not trying to imply that I know your reasons.

In my case, it's simply because my surname is really really easy for kids to make fun of. It was the root of a large portion of the abuse and mockery I suffered at the hands of my fellow students for the entirety of my public-school life. (The rest, of course, being my introversion, social anxiety, lack of interest in sports, general nerdiness and bookishness, and so forth.)

Maybe a bit childish and petty of me, but that was thirteen years of my life I'd rather not risk putting theoretical offspring through. I'm already dreading the first time my niece comes home with similar tales of unkind peers.

That combined with no real pride or fondness for the name itself nor strong tie to a personal or cultural need to see the family name continued, I see no reason I would want to burden a child with it.

Thankfully, our immediate family will be rid of it within the next generation - my sister took her husband's name, and my brother only had girls, so the chances are high (though, as I am proof, not guaranteed) that by the time they reach adulthood at least our branch of the family tree will finally cease to bloom.

I've got some cousins that will likely carry it on, but they're all states away and we have next to no interaction with them except for those of us on Facebook.


4 people marked this as a favorite.
Tequila Sunrise wrote:


I tried to talk Mrs Sunrise into amalgamating a new family name from our maiden names -- not simply hyphenating our names, but creating a new one from bits of both -- but she didn't dig it. So we did the conventional thing; I kept my family name, and she took it too.

She said she just didn't like any amalgamation I could think of, and I also put it down to her being pretty conventional about a lot of things. But just now it occurred to me that maybe like you she doesn't like her maiden name, and its associations. She's definitely the black sheep of her family; she's a progressive Wiccan in a family of conservative Christians, and that fact causes her considerable angst. EDIT: Don't know why you don't like your family name, not trying to imply that I know your reasons.

ALL (DE) and I also discussed this, which means things may be getting Serious from somebody's point of view. We'd probably end up keeping our own, since (being Afro-British) she's already got a couple of surnames, and having three would be a bit much; I am certainly not going to insist on her taking mine.

What does tickle my fancy is adopting hers. Since I have a Biblical first name, anyone seeing my first name coupled with her surname would probably expect to see some sort of immense Ghanaian walk through the door. Boy, would they get a surprise.

ALL (DE) is also quite amused by this, and thinks I should practice the accent as well. I am not going to do that.


2 people marked this as a favorite.
Orthos wrote:
Limeylongears wrote:
Just a Mort wrote:

Now ok, confessions time. I've never started flirting with anyone in RL. I literally didn't feel the urge to approach guys. I mean Orlando Bloom, ok sure a little happy mooning, but nothing comes out of it.

'Mooning' is a colloquial term for showing your backside to someone. I assume that isn't what you meant...
It's also a synonym of "swooning" in some cultures, which I presume is the meaning she did mean.

He's a handsome individual,

He makes me faint and swoon,
I put my head under the faucet and loosen up my corset,
When I'm moonin' with Orlando Bloom!

He makes me blush, it's such a rush,
My heart goes bang, crash, boom,
When I'm showin' my ass besides Legolas,
I'm moonin' with Orlando Bloom!


4 people marked this as a favorite.

I'm keeping my name because effort. I've seen what happens to teachers who change their name - you don't get to because the admins won't update your work email, and the kids still call you your maiden name anyway. I already use Ms. rather than Miss, so even easier.

I'm not particularly fond of the name, but whatever. Who needs that much extra headache?


5 people marked this as a favorite.

Impus Major on Shopping at Target: Wow! GTA makes shopping much more exciting! I could go into a store, and buy some gum, and not get shanked or shot at! And I could buy as much as I wanted! Take that, coppers!


6 people marked this as a favorite.
Orthos wrote:

In my case, it's simply because my surname is really really easy for kids to make fun of. It was the root of a large portion of the abuse and mockery I suffered at the hands of my fellow students for the entirety of my public-school life.

Maybe a bit childish and petty of me, but that was thirteen years of my life I'd rather not risk putting theoretical offspring through. I'm already dreading the first time my niece comes home with similar tales of unkind peers.

What's funny is that I had a similarly mockable last name, and endured many years of grief over it. NobodysWife and I hyphenated to create an even more ridiculous last name, and both kids own it; their classmates think their name is "cool", and anyone who tries to mock it gets shut down very quickly. Of course, as I've mentioned, one of the huge improvements in our school district in the last 40 years is that their anti-bullying policy is comprehensive and has teeth; every report of bullying immediately results in the parents and the student being brought in and 100% belief in the purported victim until proven otherwise. It's been astonishingly effective; the bullying I hear about from my kids is nothing compared to what it was when I was growing up.

As for name-changing, back in 1994 when NobodysWife and I got married, it was $15 for her to legally change her name, and $300 for me to change mine. As a poor grad student marrying a receptionist, that was too rich for our blood so legally she has the hyphenated name, while I have my own. We both go by the hyphenated name for all non-legal stuff, such as annual passes, reservations, etc.


1 person marked this as a favorite.
Orthos wrote:
Tequila Sunrise wrote:
EDIT: Don't know why you don't like your family name, not trying to imply that I know your reasons.

In my case, it's simply because my surname is really really easy for kids to make fun of. It was the root of a large portion of the abuse and mockery I suffered at the hands of my fellow students for the entirety of my public-school life. (The rest, of course, being my introversion, social anxiety, lack of interest in sports, general nerdiness and bookishness, and so forth.)

Maybe a bit childish and petty of me, but that was thirteen years of my life I'd rather not risk putting theoretical offspring through. I'm already dreading the first time my niece comes home with similar tales of unkind peers.

That combined with no real pride or fondness for the name itself nor strong tie to a personal or cultural need to see the family name continued, I see no reason I would want to burden a child with it.

Thankfully, our immediate family will be rid of it within the next generation - my sister took her husband's name, and my brother only had girls, so the chances are high (though, as I am proof, not guaranteed) that by the time they reach adulthood at least our branch of the family tree will finally cease to bloom.

I've got some cousins that will likely carry it on, but they're all states away and we have next to no interaction with them except for those of us on Facebook.

there has been a movement to make some of these surnames illegal for those very same reasons.

202,101 to 202,150 of 239,767 << first < prev | 4038 | 4039 | 4040 | 4041 | 4042 | 4043 | 4044 | 4045 | 4046 | 4047 | 4048 | next > last >>
Community / Forums / Gamer Life / Off-Topic Discussions / Deep 6 FaWtL All Messageboards

Want to post a reply? Sign in.