C Yesterday, Spoiler Tag Police |
captain yesterday wrote:There is no bro code, just a$#~!@#s making excuses to act like an a%!$+&@ in front of other a$@~*$&s.Well you done went and spoiled the bro code. Now they all know. >.>
See! It's not so fun when someone doesn't use spoiler tags, huh.
Mister too good to use spoiler tags for Deadpool 2...
Freehold DM |
So one of my three and a half year old students was trying to chat up a classmate today, thinking he could impress her with his encyclopedic knowledge of the Transformers.
And the funniest thing was that he was imitating his dad's flirting voice.
And he leaned in toward her and put one elbow on the art supply shelf and said, in a low whisper, "But you know, the COOLEST one is Octopus Prize."
I died.
and so, a nickname was born.
Freehold DM |
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So one of my three and a half year old students was trying to chat up a classmate today, thinking he could impress her with his encyclopedic knowledge of the Transformers.
And the funniest thing was that he was imitating his dad's flirting voice.
And he leaned in toward her and put one elbow on the art supply shelf and said, in a low whisper, "But you know, the COOLEST one is Octopus Prize."
I died.
waitaminute, how do you know his dads flirting voice?
Drejk |
So, this is Gorbacz's fault.
I should have known.
Yup.
lisamarlene |
lisamarlene wrote:waitaminute, how do you know his dads flirting voice?So one of my three and a half year old students was trying to chat up a classmate today, thinking he could impress her with his encyclopedic knowledge of the Transformers.
And the funniest thing was that he was imitating his dad's flirting voice.
And he leaned in toward her and put one elbow on the art supply shelf and said, in a low whisper, "But you know, the COOLEST one is Octopus Prize."
I died.
From another student's birthday party.
He's mostly harmless.NobodysHome |
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So, I've learned a new "generational thing", and in spite of my overly-generous nature, I can't say I approve.
It would seem that the teens and twentysomethings of today assume that, if you offer them something, then you're also offering to pay for said thing.
I said, "OK!" and we brought up the ordering site. I put in his order. All the other kids started ordering. By the time we had 8 or 9 shirts in the order, one of the other kids said, "Well, I'd order more, but you're already paying so much I don't want to make you pay more."
"What? What makes you think that *I* am paying for these shirts?"
Cue a quick cancellation of all but 3 shirts (the original guy, Impus Major, and Impus Minor).
So all these kids figured that since I'd brought up the order site at the request of one of them, I'd be paying for all the shirts. It was... surreal.
He looked over the menu, picked something out, and she went off and got it for him.
He, of course, never even considered paying her for the lunch.
But he's not as good evidence, as he proved himself a buttweiner right after that. (She "took too long" so after asking her to pick something up for him, he went across the street and got food for himself, so he didn't need the food she picked up.)
But it's an interesting extension of the whole, "Kids aren't growing up until their 30's any more" that I've been reading about. If you're socializing with someone under 25 and you're over 40, it seems like they just assume you're going to pick up the bill.
Weirdness.
Drejk |
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This isn't something new. It's a glitch at the edge of etiquette - extending the general rule of "the one inviting others to <thing> should pay for <thing>" beyond its traditional boundaries and into vague territories and beyond. The first case is more blatant overextension of this than the other, as you weren't the one who offered to order it in the first place but reacted to someone else's decision to order.
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This isn't something new. It's a glitch at the edge of etiquette - extending the general rule of "the one inviting others to <thing> should pay for <thing>" beyond its traditional boundaries and into vague territories and beyond. The first case is more blatant overextension of this than the other, as you weren't the one who offered to order it in the first place but reacted to someone else's decision to order.
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indeed.
This is also extremely cultural.
It is best to be a bit wooden/oafish and say "my treat" or "dutch (or your local equivalent)" after making the offer to avoid confusion.
Can't tell you how many times I embarrassed myself growing up coming from a culture that assumes the absolute worst if someone pays for something for you, especially across gender lines.
NobodysHome |
Drejk wrote:This isn't something new. It's a glitch at the edge of etiquette - extending the general rule of "the one inviting others to <thing> should pay for <thing>" beyond its traditional boundaries and into vague territories and beyond. The first case is more blatant overextension of this than the other, as you weren't the one who offered to order it in the first place but reacted to someone else's decision to order.
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indeed.
This is also extremely cultural.
It is best to be a bit wooden/oafish and say "my treat" or "dutch (or your local equivalent)" after making the offer to avoid confusion.
Can't tell you how many times I embarrassed myself growing up coming from a culture that assumes the absolute worst if someone pays for something for you, especially across gender lines.
So I may be stepping all over FaWtL rules here, but it's kind of important, since I chaperone a LOT of kids: Do you think that's a "black culture" thing, a "New York culture" thing, or some combination thereof?
We have a HUGELY diverse school, and I don't want to get myself reported for inappropriate activity for offering to buy someone lunch or something...
(And on a total side note, apparently it's totally OK for Balinese, since I bought a Balinese girl and her friends dinner for doing me a solid, and they were just happy 'bout the whole thing... so data point of 1...)
Negachaotic Teenage Slaadhead |
They gave me neon yellow T-shirts for work, they go with the neon yellow gloves I found, so all I need are neon shorts and a neon hat and I can be Neon Jesus.
Or Captain Deadpool. Yesterpool?
Ambrosia Slaad |
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This isn't something new. It's a glitch at the edge of etiquette - extending the general rule of "the one inviting others to <thing> should pay for <thing>" beyond its traditional boundaries and into vague territories and beyond. The first case is more blatant overextension of this than the other, as you weren't the one who offered to order it in the first place but reacted to someone else's decision to order.
Spoiler:Personally I prefer to clear the matter of payment beforehand, usually using vague statement like "I don't have that kind of money" or "how much will it cost", to give the person extending the offer the chance to explicitly say "it's on me" or say something like "oh, ok"
Yeah, I don't think it's a generational thing, it's just a thing with some people. I don't know if they start off raised that way or if they just evolve backslide into that way of thinking over time. If you don't clearly state your personal (and financial) boundaries/expectations with them up front, they think nothing of walking all over you accepting your kind offer and expecting you to do it gratis... and then seem confused/upset when, no, you can't really afford to buy them lunch for free (or waste two whole days fixing their computer that they royally borked up, and why is it taking so long... grumble, grumble).
It ain't you, NobodysHome. All you can do is try to identify these people asap, and adjust your interactions with them accordingly.