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Well, if you're taken and constantly looking then that might be relationship issue? If you're single, then don't worry about it on your side but I think it is important to respect others.
I'm huge on respect. They may have significant others that would not appreciate you staring them down. I guess if you're just looking and appreciating their attractiveness then it's fine but if you're literally staring then I am sure they're aware of it. After all, it is a compliment but still it can be taken too far. Not everyone is going to take it lightly. I know girls that get upset at the gym because guys will occasionally look at them. *shrug* And I have had guys take pictures of me with their cell phone cameras while I was working out. Total disrespect...and creepy!
Also, it's really about knowing the people you're staring at! If you know they're someone who wouldn't mind it then it's not a big deal...just like how you know there are some people you can joke with about certain things and other people you cannot joke with that way...just gotta get a sense for their personality so you don't accidentally or unintentionally disrespect them.
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To quote Seinfeld (You can apply to attractive people as well as cleavage)
Jerry: Looking at a cleavage is like looking at the sun. You don't stare at it. It's too risky. You get a sense of it and then you look away.
Stop looking at me like I'm a piece of meat, Joela!
I don't know about Joela but all I can say is MMMM Mountain oysters! Don't knock'em till you've tried them folks.
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Moral of the story: Being at the wrong end of that kind of thing really sucks...oh yea and I'm not THAT creepy...mostly.
Ugh. I had something similar happen to me once years ago. I was livid. It took both my sisters (both of whom have HR background) some time to calm me down. I've become more standoffish with my female colleagues these days ;-(
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Well, if you're taken and constantly looking then that might be relationship issue?
Nah. I'm very happy with my spouse whom I "harass" constantly ;-)
I guess if you're just looking and appreciating their attractiveness
That's pretty much it. Would I jump their bones if given the chance? No, because I'm already in a primary relationship. *shrug* Could be nascent Roman Catholic upbringing in me or something.
Ugh. I had something similar happen to me once years ago. I was livid. It took both my sisters (both of whom have HR background) some time to calm me down. I've become more standoffish with my female colleagues these days ;-(Moral of the story: Being at the wrong end of that kind of thing really sucks...oh yea and I'm not THAT creepy...mostly.
Were you able to clear it up? That kind of stuff can screw you over bad, luckily for me I was cleared of it right away thanks to my coworker.
Raw or fried?Stop looking at me like I'm a piece of meat, Joela!I don't know about Joela but all I can say is MMMM Mountain oysters! Don't knock'em till you've tried them folks.
I've had'em boiled, and fried. I like'm boiled better.
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Were you able to clear it up? That kind of stuff can screw you over bad, luckily for me I was cleared of it right away thanks to my coworker.
There were no legal ramifications, if that's what you mean. Everyone knew, though, something had happened. (I'm not exactly an introvert.) Later she left for maternity leave, then permanently to become a full-time mom. I've moved on since then, job-wise, and am now more careful in compliment women when they change their looks or if pregnant.
A slight threadjack, so sorry.. but this thread made me think of something I watched recently, and I'm sure most people will get the reference. I'm spoilering the quote however, due to it's possibly offensive nature.
"Whoever swallows the most Tylenol PM, wins!"
There were no legal ramifications, if that's what you mean. Everyone knew, though, something had happened. (I'm not exactly an introvert.) Later she left for maternity leave, then permanently to become a full-time mom. I've moved on since then, job-wise, and am now more careful in compliment women when they change their looks or if pregnant.
Were you able to clear it up? That kind of stuff can screw you over bad, luckily for me I was cleared of it right away thanks to my coworker.
Yea it's crazy how careful you have to
be at work, CYA seems to be the rule ofthe day. Thats good that there was not
legal ramification though, you don't want
that kind of stuff following you around.
Where do you work that everyone's so attractive?I work in the corporate world (media).However, lots of folks are in great physical shape. And while they're too young for my taste, the company employs a lot of folks from the local university.
Ah, I see. Say no more, I know how that goes. I used to go out for beers after work with some of my wife's coworkers from other departments, and we all had enjoyed poking at the people from the media desk looking like they strolled through Executive Men's- and Women's-wear on their way to pound out a couple of cheap brews. More than one of them looked like a movie star, and there was one time that we actually convinced some tourists that one in particular was a movie star from the early 90's(I forget who) on a bender.
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I think it's okay to appreciate the way some one looks, just make sure you don't lose touch of the fact that they are still a person. I have had male coworkers (and even some management) in the past who treated me as eye-candy instead of a person and it is really demeaning and uncomfortable. I have also had male coworkers in the past who were able to express appreciation for both my appearance AND my opinions. The tricky part is that human communication varies widely between individuals and what is ok with some one is not ok with others. In the workplace, its really best to err on the side of caution.
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Weird story.
Okay. A few years back, there was this very attractive guy where I worked. Definitely eye candy (and drool) material. I usually just said "Hi" and kept on working, except the one day I heard the 'twitter'? What's that high-pitched, secretive laugh you sometimes hear teenage girls do? It's not exactly flirtatious, but one of those "OMG, he's so cute." type things. It made me look over, just to see what they were laughing at, and of course there was my coworker, who had also overheard the 'twitter' and was shaking his head about it. I broke into a grin at the expression on his face and laughed a little. He stopped and looked over at me, and said something like. "You can do that too, if you want to."
I smiled and said, "Thank you for the permission, but I think I can restrain myself."
Anyway, from there things went from flirtatious to weird, and to make a long story short, he quit and the last few times I saw him and said 'Hi' to him, he's ignored me. But that's the way life is, generally speaking, and I'm not that upset about it. It just... was weird... for a time. Anyway, lesson learned.
Eye candy is for your eyes only, even if things get a little flirtatious, avoid physical contact.
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I think it's okay to appreciate the way some one looks, just make sure you don't lose touch of the fact that they are still a person. I have had male coworkers (and even some management) in the past who treated me as eye-candy instead of a person and it is really demeaning and uncomfortable. I have also had male coworkers in the past who were able to express appreciation for both my appearance AND my opinions. The tricky part is that human communication varies widely between individuals and what is ok with some one is not ok with others. In the workplace, its really best to err on the side of caution.
But it's okay if I leer at your avatar, right?
Interesting thread - nice to see people showing respect to others. Personal experience/story follows:
When I was much younger, I worked with some real characters, some of them funny, some of them *dodgy*. I saw some pr0n changing hands - "The 75 Nurse Orgy" - and being the practical joker I am, felt the need to do something stupid.
So, at lunch, I stole said pr0n and made 1000 copies of the cover. Then I switched the paper over and returned it to the copier.
Suffice to say my boss, an extremely professional lady, didn't find it as funny as I did. Apparently it does count as Sexual Harassment under UK law.
I doubled my count by asking if she'd prefer some man-on-man next time?
I've grown up a lot since then!
Interesting thread - nice to see people showing respect to others. Personal experience/story follows:
** spoiler omitted **
In my youth I would have been laughing so hard vomit would have come out of my nose. :-)
Age has taught me that there is a time and a place - and work (if its important to you) is not it.
What is cool about my Job... Is that No one looks good in an Airman Battle Uniform (ABU)
Oh, that is so not true...
When I was on det way back when, there was a girl who looked amazing in anything, include BDUs. And she looked like Audrey Hepburn...
Confuse-Us say, 'When admiring eye candy it is not appropriate to compliment a lady's lollypops'.
I think it's okay to appreciate the way some one looks, just make sure you don't lose touch of the fact that they are still a person. I have had male coworkers (and even some management) in the past who treated me as eye-candy instead of a person and it is really demeaning and uncomfortable. I have also had male coworkers in the past who were able to express appreciation for both my appearance AND my opinions. The tricky part is that human communication varies widely between individuals and what is ok with some one is not ok with others. In the workplace, its really best to err on the side of caution.But it's okay if I leer at your avatar, right?
Can I leer at your avatar? ;P
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Between checking out office eye candy and posting on Paizo, it’s a wonder I get any work done.
In all seriousness, I think its ok to look, so long as you’re not creeping anyone out or making them uncomfortable. Over the years I’ve been quite open about looking (not staring or drooling!) at attractive coworkers, and / or complementing them on their appearance (again, nothing too creepy – more along the lines of ‘that’s a nice outfit you’re wearing today’ than ‘hey, nice rack’), but I would make sure I know them pretty well and know that they would be comfortable with that sort of thing before I go there.
What is cool about my Job... Is that No one looks good in an Airman Battle Uniform (ABU)
After two months in Balad, it doesn't really matter.
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I think it's okay to appreciate the way some one looks, just make sure you don't lose touch of the fact that they are still a person. I have had male coworkers (and even some management) in the past who treated me as eye-candy instead of a person and it is really demeaning and uncomfortable. I have also had male coworkers in the past who were able to express appreciation for both my appearance AND my opinions. The tricky part is that human communication varies widely between individuals and what is ok with some one is not ok with others. In the workplace, its really best to err on the side of caution.
It must be tough for you in that new job... With all that eye-candy around.
I think it's okay to appreciate the way some one looks, just make sure you don't lose touch of the fact that they are still a person. I have had male coworkers (and even some management) in the past who treated me as eye-candy instead of a person and it is really demeaning and uncomfortable. I have also had male coworkers in the past who were able to express appreciation for both my appearance AND my opinions. The tricky part is that human communication varies widely between individuals and what is ok with some one is not ok with others. In the workplace, its really best to err on the side of caution.It must be tough for you in that new job... With all that eye-candy around.
She just glances over at Cosmo to purge any naughty thoughts... hopefully she is still making her SAN checks. :)
Mimes... {shudders}
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There are a lot of attractive folks at my job and, because of where my cube's situated, I see them. A lot. I've been enjoying it but am wondering if that's the wrong attitude. These are my colleagues!
There have been a few changes at work. Now I have a new boss who, shall we say, I find pleasing to look at. While it definitely makes it easy to pay attention in conversation, is it time to look for a new job? :(
There are a lot of attractive folks at my job and, because of where my cube's situated, I see them. A lot. I've been enjoying it but am wondering if that's the wrong attitude. These are my colleagues!
I don't understand the question, why would you even consider feeling guilty to begin with?
Are you doing something illegal?
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There have been a few changes at work. Now I have a new boss who, shall we say, I find pleasing to look at. While it definitely makes it easy to pay attention in conversation, is it time to look for a new job? :(
If you can keep your interaction respectful and professional, then you should be fine. Just make sure you don't leer, and don't let it affect how you interact with her.
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There are a lot of attractive folks at my job and, because of where my cube's situated, I see them. A lot. I've been enjoying it but am wondering if that's the wrong attitude. These are my colleagues!There have been a few changes at work. Now I have a new boss who, shall we say, I find pleasing to look at. While it definitely makes it easy to pay attention in conversation, is it time to look for a new job? :(
Do you otherwise enjoy your job?
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I think it's okay to appreciate the way some one looks, just make sure you don't lose touch of the fact that they are still a person. I have had male coworkers (and even some management) in the past who treated me as eye-candy instead of a person and it is really demeaning and uncomfortable. I have also had male coworkers in the past who were able to express appreciation for both my appearance AND my opinions. The tricky part is that human communication varies widely between individuals and what is ok with some one is not ok with others. In the workplace, its really best to err on the side of caution.
I KNOW! I'm always having to tell Sean "Hey--I have a face! Eyes up here!"
...because he's busy painting minis.
Treat your fellow co-workers with the same amount of respect that you'd treat your boss...What if your boss is a hot little number?
Well then that just makes review time that much easier. You can really be a "team" player willing to go all the way and do whatever it takes to achieve the teams goals.
Remember guys can't be sexually harassed because were wired for breeding 24/7.
*yes I have completed my companies sexual harassment training, the above mentioned post was meant to be sarcastic humor, for those that didn't get it*
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Do you otherwise enjoy your job?There are a lot of attractive folks at my job and, because of where my cube's situated, I see them. A lot. I've been enjoying it but am wondering if that's the wrong attitude. These are my colleagues!There have been a few changes at work. Now I have a new boss who, shall we say, I find pleasing to look at. While it definitely makes it easy to pay attention in conversation, is it time to look for a new job? :(
Best. Job. Ever.
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Best. Job. Ever.Do you otherwise enjoy your job?There are a lot of attractive folks at my job and, because of where my cube's situated, I see them. A lot. I've been enjoying it but am wondering if that's the wrong attitude. These are my colleagues!There have been a few changes at work. Now I have a new boss who, shall we say, I find pleasing to look at. While it definitely makes it easy to pay attention in conversation, is it time to look for a new job? :(
Why would you then leave?
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joela: Do you have a question, a complaint, or are you just taunting the rest of us? ;)
joela: Do you have a question, a complaint, or are you just taunting the rest of us? ;)
Also, I still don't understand your original question -- What are you doing that makes you feel guilty??
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There was a Pinky and The Brain episode about this subject:
"Here is a copy of our Sexual Harassment Policy."
*Boss drops a truckload of paperwork on Brain's desk*
"You should be fine, as long as you avoid all contact with other people."
X Says "Hi!"
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There are a lot of attractive folks at my job and, because of where my cube's situated, I see them. A lot. I've been enjoying it but am wondering if that's the wrong attitude. These are my colleagues!
Yes. Now you must report for mandated sexual harrassment training for having such dirty, dirty thoughts.
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And definitely don't lick a co-worker's stapler...at least while anyone else is around......that didn't end up well at all.....no wonder I can't find a job...:(
Damn blacklisters!
There have been a few changes at work. Now I have a new boss who, shall we say, I find pleasing to look at. While it definitely makes it easy to pay attention in conversation, is it time to look for a new job? :(
I command you not to get off on this!
Anyway sexual harassment is bad, and I agree with the Seinfeld quote upthread.
And is "take a picture, it'll last longer" ever actual permission? NO.