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*turns into a Positive-energy absorbing singularity, needs it all after discovering the replacement Starfinder book is in worse shape than the book it was replacing*
May we all find enlightenment and balance on this day of frying.
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It's not going to be much of a weekend for me, between both jobs today and taking wife to dentist tomorrow (not easy to care for someone as sky high as she is going to be)and going back to work on Sunday(instead of going to a friend's birthday party! Yaaaaaaaay), Freehold is kinda bummed.
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It's not going to be much of a weekend for me, between both jobs today and taking wife to dentist tomorrow (not easy to care for someone as sky high as she is going to be)and going back to work on Sunday(instead of going to a friend's birthday party! Yaaaaaaaay), Freehold is kinda bummed.
We need to go out. That will make it better.
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It's not going to be much of a weekend for me, between both jobs today and taking wife to dentist tomorrow (not easy to care for someone as sky high as she is going to be)and going back to work on Sunday(instead of going to a friend's birthday party! Yaaaaaaaay), Freehold is kinda bummed.We need to go out. That will make it better.
lap dances on me!
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lap dances on me!It's not going to be much of a weekend for me, between both jobs today and taking wife to dentist tomorrow (not easy to care for someone as sky high as she is going to be)and going back to work on Sunday(instead of going to a friend's birthday party! Yaaaaaaaay), Freehold is kinda bummed.We need to go out. That will make it better.
I mean, if they're not on you, they're not lap dances! More like... lap-adjacent, maybe.
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I like numbers more than most people, particularly interesting patterns and the like, but why would you do that?
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Biromantic I believe is the word for someone who is asexual but are romantically attracted to more than one gender.Like me! :)
*high-fives Captain collateral damage* Team-mates!
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I know that I've been absent for a bit. I've been reading, but not really partaking in conversation. I'm struggling with a few things, one of which is debilitating headaches that have been causing me to go to the ER and/or miss work. It's frustrating because the doctors acknowledge that they are getting worse, but they aren't prescribing anything for the pain. There are plenty of non-narcotic options that can help. Instead, they want me to be patient and wait until a CT scan can be done in 2 weeks. It's not easy for me to wait that long because every time I miss work I miss money that I could use for something extravagant, like rent.
Anyway, happy belated birthday to everyone!
I'm part of a bariatric weight loss group and I was selected to be their Inspirational Story of the Week. This is what I wrote:
ADMIN-AS YOU ALL KNOW WERE ARE ALL ABOUT SUPPORT AND EMPOWERMENT HERE IN FAMILY! YOUR STORIES INSPIRE OTHERS! SO ONCE A WEEK I WILL RANDOMLY PM A MEMBER AND ASK IF THEY WOULD SHARE THEIR “INSPIRATIONAL STORY” ! IF YOU CHOOSE NOT TO IT WILL BE MET WITH A SWIFT DEATH!!! JUST KIDDING! FEEL FREE TO SAY NO! WE WANT YOU TO FEEL COMFORTABLE HERE SO NEVER FEEL OBLIGATED.
THIS WEEKS “INSPIRATIONAL STORY” GOES TO:
“MY INSPIRATIONAL STORY” #BWLFEMPOWERMENT AND TAG ME PLEASE
Well, it looks like yours truly has been selected to give her inspirational story!
This may be a little confusing so bear with me. I wasn't always the beautiful woman you see before you. At one point I was a semi-handsome man. I was skinny. Really skinny. I could hide behind a pencil skinny. Then I joined the Army and put on a lot of muscle in basic training. I was injured and my metabolism slowed down, but my eating habits didn't. I also had a bunch of undiagnosed mental health problems.
I left the Army and started putting on weight. It was slow, but it was happening. I got married and then divorced (that's a different story for another time). This triggered some really deep depression. I needed a lot of medication. Those of you who have taken antidepressants know that a very common side effect is weight gain. The doctors were more concerned with keeping me from killing myself than they were with the weight gain. I ended up putting on over 100 pounds in a year.
I was eventually diagnosed with diabetes. The side effects of those meds are all weight gain. The solution to diabetes is weight loss. What a conundrum! I really tried to lose the weight. I went to gyms. I completely changed my diet. I went for walks. I would lose 10 to 20 pounds and then put on 30 to 40. I went from 165 pounds in July 1989 to 380 pounds in December 2014. I was still gaining weight. My ankle injury was getting worse. I was developing neuropathy in my feet as well, making exercise more and more difficult.
My psychiatrist had talked to me for a couple years about the surgery. My PCP didn't want me to do it. My brother ended up doing it himself and lost a good chunk of weight. Then my friend and his wife both had the surgery. I began the process. My psychiatrist spoke with my PCP and they agreed that I had done as much as I could on my own and I now needed another tool.
During my 6 months of nutrition appointments, I ended up losing 20 pounds and then put on only 10 or so. The neuropathy was so bad that I would sit at work (I have a job where standing and walking for 8 hours is the expectation) and cry because nothing would touch the pain. My feet were on fire and numb at the same time. I could hardly sleep.
So I finally got my surgery date (October 2015) and my brother came out to visit to help for the first week. At this point, I had already told him a bit about myself, but I continued to present as male because I didn't think it was the right time. It was great having him here. I don't get to see him very often.
After he fly home, I ended up having a major complication. There is a very rare complication that can occur from Heparin. It's called Heparin-induced thrombocytopenia, or HIT. I had the more common version which takes 7 to 10 days to manifest. I ended up with blood clots throughout my brain and abdomen. I called a friend to drive me to the ER. By the time I got there (about 30 minutes) I went from walking around and speaking to needing to be wheeled around and no longer knowing who I was. I went to one ER and woke up in a completely different hospital a couple days later, still unaware of what what going on. I barely knew my own name. I had no idea what the date was. I was in the hospital for 3 weeks and out of work for another 2 months recovering. Then I went back to work. (Funny story to go along with this: I play role playing games like Dungeons and Dragons. If you roll well enough you can critically hit your opponent. When I woke up I was in the ICU. There was a sign above my head that read: CRITICAL HIT. I was in critical condition and I had a HIT. I was laughing so hard once I was aware of my surroundings because I am one of the few people I know who has actually felt what it's like to be critically hit!)
I couldn't keep food down. I would throw up every day. It was to the point that I didn't want to eat because I was afraid that I would throw up. I was on 4 different antiemetics and they barely helped. I would be in the ER every few days because of dehydration. I even had to be rescued from work when I collapsed. I know that the surgeon didn't want to remove my gallbladder at this point because I was on blood thinners and another surgery so soon was not a good idea. He eventually decided that it had to go. We set up the appointment. He joked that he should have another surgeon in there just in case his problem child causes any more problems. Turns out that he made the right choice. I bled out a bit and had to stay in there another day. At least I'm predictable.
I was so much better within days. I could work full time. I could eat. I had to experiment now to see what wouldn't cause dumping, but at least I could function again! I had no idea that the gallbladder could fail because of the surgery. My brother told me that they mentioned it, but I honestly don't remember. To be fair, I'm missing memories from the minor brain damage. There is a small part of my brain that still has no blood flow. It's just a black circle on the scans.
Here I am, down 125 pounds total. I feel so much better. My goal weight is 220. I know that women should be less than that for a proper BMI, but I don't care. That's a good weight for me. I may identify as female sometimes and male at others so I use the male values because they make more sense to me. 220 is still higher than the BMI says, and I still don't care. That's what I was when I left the Army and that's what I want to be again.
The one thing I'm really looking forward to doing is indoor skydiving. The maximum weight is 250. I'm fluctuating between 260 and 275. It's right within reach. I just need to actually start exercising. That's the hardest thing for me. I knew that it would be.
Honestly, the one thing that I'm really hoping for is not the skydiving, or swimming, or hiking, or anything like that. I want to be able to begin hormone replacement therapy and go on my next journey. I want to make sure that I am at a comfortable weight so I can have a more feminine figure. I know that it may seem odd to many, but I don't want to look like a man in a dress. I want to look like a woman in a dress.
So that's my story so far. I have a long journey ahead. I'm slowly working on the next steps. There are some major hurdles I need to overcome, and they are political issues (I would be getting treatment through the VA) so I don't want to get into that because it's all speculation and not productive.
I'm willing to answer just about any questions you have. I hope those of you who haven't gone through the surgery yet aren't scared because of my setbacks. There is only a 1-5% chance of having a HIT. There was only a roughly 10% chance of coming out of it mostly unscathed. That means that there was only 0.9% chance of this being a major problem with a less experienced team. I will forever be grateful for the surgery team at Virginia Mason Medical Center in Seattle. Dr Hunter was amazing. His staff was amazing.
Anyway, have a great weekend everyone!
Simple curiosity.** spoiler omitted **I like numbers more than most people, particularly interesting patterns and the like, but why would you do that?
There was nothing simple about that. ;)
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To all my fellow bisexuals, I hope you had a great Bi Visibility Day!
(Not I, sadly, the temperatures were in the 90s all day >_<)
*channels positive feelings and offers hugs to anyone and everyone that wants or needs some*
Happy Bi Visibility Day! *hugs*
Sorry for the temp though. :( *hugs*
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HUZZAH for bisexuality!
BOOOOOOOOOOO for high temperatures!
Maybe you should live somewhere that isn't the same temperature outside your body as it is inside. :)
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Maybe you should live somewhere that isn't the same temperature outside your body as it is inside. :)
Give me money and I will gladly do so.
Hope everyone is having a great Sunday.
*channels positive feelings and offers hugs to anyone and everyone that wants or needs some*
Does anyone here use Rogue Genius Games's Anachronistic Adventures?
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I apologize for the longish silence in this thread. I have been walking through a pretty dark vale of burnout, depression, sleep deprivation and dealing with less than great people - all nicely complementing each other. I am now slowly dealing with the depression part, hoping that the rest will get better, too after that (except for those people, but perhaps I will grow a thicker skin dealing with them).
Have a great weekend, everybody!
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I apologize for the longish silence in this thread. I have been walking through a pretty dark vale of burnout, depression, sleep deprivation and dealing with less than great people - all nicely complementing each other. I am now slowly dealing with the depression part, hoping that the rest will get better, too after that (except for those people, but perhaps I will grow a thicker skin dealing with them).
Have a great weekend, everybody!
best of luck, feytharn.
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I apologize for the longish silence in this thread. I have been walking through a pretty dark vale of burnout, depression, sleep deprivation and dealing with less than great people - all nicely complementing each other. I am now slowly dealing with the depression part, hoping that the rest will get better, too after that (except for those people, but perhaps I will grow a thicker skin dealing with them).
Have a great weekend, everybody!
Do not worry about it. We are here for you whenever we need us. *hugs*
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To all my fellow bisexuals, I hope you had a great Bi Visibility Day!
(Not I, sadly, the temperatures were in the 90s all day >_<)
*channels positive feelings and offers hugs to anyone and everyone that wants or needs some*
I really did although most of it was dedicated to gming.
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I really did although most of it was dedicated to gming.To all my fellow bisexuals, I hope you had a great Bi Visibility Day!
(Not I, sadly, the temperatures were in the 90s all day >_<)
*channels positive feelings and offers hugs to anyone and everyone that wants or needs some*
Gaming good!
Glad to hear you're dealing with it Feytharn :3
*hugs*
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Sorry for my own absence, as well. I only get to see my bisexual wife one day a year-- as we all know, bisexuals are invisible the other 364 days. Thankfully, I took the Blind Loving feat, so I have better odds of smooching invisible hunbuns.
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Good day, all,
Just a short, introductory post.
I'm a bisexual (mostly gay ... in the same way that Wesley, in "the Princess Bride", was "mostly dead") and just turned 50. When I came out, I was lucky. Mom didn't know but she was already heavily active in church trying to get acceptance for gay folk and ordained ministers. In short, I knew I could trust her when coming out (back in '94).
Dad was a good, easy-going sort, but I honestly wasn't sure how he'd react. I had known for a few years and kept it quiet. My siblings and friends knew, but that was it. When I told Dad, I came over to their house on a Sunday for lunch and told him, "Dad, I've wanted to tell you and Mom something: I'm bisexual."
He had been reading the comics page of the newspaper, put it down, and looked thoughtful.
Then, he said "Like Elton John, right?"
I have to tell you, he was the greatest! All he wanted to make sure is that, with the AIDS crisis still very much in the headlines, that I was being safe.
Anyway, that's my introduction.
It's good to meet you all!
Yours,
Sylvan
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Nice to meet you, Sylvan! Welcome to the fold. Grab a coffee, and relax by the fire... or the A/C. Whichever is more relevant to your temperature. :P
Nice to meet you, Sylvan! Welcome to the fold. Grab a coffee, and relax by the fire... or the A/C. Whichever is more relevant to your temperature. :P
Thank ya, kindly! Although I'm in Minnesota, I'll take the A/C. It's been unseasonably hot and humid, of late; if you're an asthmatic, it feels like breathing soup.
Yours,
Sylvan
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She's back to her usual invisibility, but I can hear her snoring in bed under a lump in the covers, so <3
The autumn equinox has barely been and gone and nasty wet weather has already set in, with autumnal temperatures (high single figures) to suit. This is one of those few occasions I'd actually prefer living somewhere hotter.
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Welcome Sylvan! *hugs*
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I got to go to my first GLBT+ advisory committee meeting on Friday for the State Union.
We were going over agenda items of things we would like to see talked by the state union BOD, and I added an item to have our state union start to develop a more detailed plan of action and guidelines on how to help our members who are anticipating or going through transition on the job at our various school districts.
I enforced that I have always been disappointed that it seems that each person who goes through transition or comes out at a job within the state always seems to have to re-invent the wheel and always feels alone.
I was informed that we offer many legal and other support services for our members, and if they are put in contact with our state diversity team, they are able to get guidance.
I pushed back that this is rather reactive, and that many members and chapters never know about this and am asking for better publication and centralization of resources that our Union offers to our members regarding this issue.
I understand that this is an evolving target each year, but that is what we pay our dues for, and it happens too often to remain reactive.
I was successful in adding it to the list. Now to see how far I can drive it forward.
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She's back to her usual invisibility, but I can hear her snoring in bed under a lump in the covers, so <3
Goooood mornin'! My leg is asleep :D but unfortunately the rest of us do not share that luxury.
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I got to go to my first GLBT+ advisory committee meeting on Friday for the State Union.
We were going over agenda items of things we would like to see talked by the state union BOD, and I added an item to have our state union start to develop a more detailed plan of action and guidelines on how to help our members who are anticipating or going through transition on the job at our various school districts.
I enforced that I have always been disappointed that it seems that each person who goes through transition or comes out at a job within the state always seems to have to re-invent the wheel and always feels alone.
I was informed that we offer many legal and other support services for our members, and if they are put in contact with our state diversity team, they are able to get guidance.
I pushed back that this is rather reactive, and that many members and chapters never know about this and am asking for better publication and centralization of resources that our Union offers to our members regarding this issue.
I understand that this is an evolving target each year, but that is what we pay our dues for, and it happens too often to remain reactive.
I was successful in adding it to the list. Now to see how far I can drive it forward.
F~~@ yeah, Jessica!
Good mornin' all'y'all!
And good morning to you, in return: one and all!
Hell with morning- I say Good Afternoon!
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Happy Wednesday!
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For folks in Seattle, the Twist queer film festival is coming in mid-October! I strongly recommend I Dream in Another Language, which I saw at SIFF. Looking forward to an enjoyable evening browsing through the other offerings (though the films with knitting and luchadors seem like strong contenders)!
Yay I got laundry going my dad is not very flexible with workflows at all but I got it started.
Well, good morning all, time to rise and shine :)
Still night for me. Yay time zones. I still need to finish leveling up my cleric and my technomancer for starfinder.