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Cowards. The lot of them. The vast majority are internet bullies. Face-to-face, they know that they are cowards. Unfortunately, they empower the few who are willing to actually harm others.
People should spend more time doing what they were told as toddlers: "don't say that, it's not polite."
I spent most of my life being bullied. They never like when I fight back. I try to avoid it, but there are times when I need to do something. Violence is so very rarely the answer, even to a bully. I have found that simply standing up to them is often enough to get support from others and the violence doesn't come. Which is good because I don't want to get my butt kicked!
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It makes perfect sense.
I was bullied because I was a military brat.
I was bullied because I liked D&D.
I was bullied because I was skinny and loved learning.
I was bullied because I was good at every subject in school.
I was bullied because it was a Monday.
I joined the military because I grew up in one and my father grew up in one and his father did etc. The same for my mothers (birth and step). I was in love with the military. I was never expected to join. It was always my decision.
Once I was in, I thought that it would stop the bullying. It did while I was in basic training, but it started again once I got to my duty station. Oddly, I was bullied because I am white. That didn't last long, but it happened. It never happened in school, even though I went to a school in a predominantly black neighborhood (Flatbush in Brooklyn).
I don't know why bullies think that I'm a good target. I don't put up with it for more than about 1 second. I shut it down as fast as I can. My father taught me to defend myself when necessary. He said that I don't have to win the fight to win the war. I was never taught self defense. I wish I had been, and now I just don't have the money or time (my schedule makes it difficult to get to the classes regularly).
Bullies don't know how to handle themselves when confronted. They either walk away or fight back. They aren't used to actually fighting someone who will fight back so it generally doesn't take much to deal with them.
It makes perfect sense.
I was bullied because I was a military brat.
I was bullied because I liked D&D.
I was bullied because I was skinny and loved learning.
I was bullied because I was good at every subject in school.
I was bullied because it was a Monday.I joined the military because I grew up in one and my father grew up in one and his father did etc. The same for my mothers (birth and step). I was in love with the military. I was never expected to join. It was always my decision.
Once I was in, I thought that it would stop the bullying. It did while I was in basic training, but it started again once I got to my duty station. Oddly, I was bullied because I am white. That didn't last long, but it happened. It never happened in school, even though I went to a school in a predominantly black neighborhood (Flatbush in Brooklyn).
I don't know why bullies think that I'm a good target. I don't put up with it for more than about 1 second. I shut it down as fast as I can. My father taught me to defend myself when necessary. He said that I don't have to win the fight to win the war. I was never taught self defense. I wish I had been, and now I just don't have the money or time (my schedule makes it difficult to get to the classes regularly).
Bullies don't know how to handle themselves when confronted. They either walk away or fight back. They aren't used to actually fighting someone who will fight back so it generally doesn't take much to deal with them.
HOLY S%@! WHERE DID YOU GO TO SCHOOL MAN?
BROOKLYN!!!
I spent my freshman year at Brooklyn Tech. My dad was stationed on Governor's Island. We transferred to Cape May, NJ and I ended up in a horrible education system.
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Those are Coastie Stations!
And yeah, CG stations are rarely put in "good" locations. One of "nicer" locations that comes to mind: there was a CG auxilarist (volunteer civilian USCG groupie) that owned a house adjacent to/nearby a station. He rented it out to the crew so they could 1) afford to live nearby, especially for those without cars 2) not worry about parking/commuting (extremely developed tourist area) for those that did have have cars, 3) trustworthy/accountable renters 4) Owner got his in-depth Coastie experience.
This was an outlier.
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My dad put in 32 years in the Coast Guard. I loved growing up and moving all over. I got to see so many things that people only see in books.
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I never went overseas, but when my dad was transferred instead of flying out he would take leave and we would make a road trip across the country. We camped the whole way. I got to see so much of this country and meet so many interesting people from different places. I think that it was one of the greatest experiences of my life.
I spent my freshman year at Brooklyn Tech. My dad was stationed on Governor's Island. We transferred to Cape May, NJ and I ended up in a horrible education system.
my wife went to Brooklyn Tech you're a technite wooooooooooooo
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I spent a good chunk of my childhood in the back of a car - my father was a salesman for medical devices (which was, apart from my size my reason to be buggered at school - most of my fellow students were kids of doctors, architects, lawyers etc - being on the short end of money can put you on the low step of the social ladder even at school).
During holidays or saturdays he would take me and my mother on his trips from hospital to hospital - I saw quite a few german cities during that time - and I developed a habit - books and audio-books.
The trips were almost always daytrips (sometimes loooong daytrips, though.)
*Bright and cozy, inviting for companionship, conversation, hugs, smiles and games and general merryment*
*Beverages of all sorts*
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Freehold, it was the best school I have ever been to. It was challenging and encouraging. I really felt like I was learning at a great pace and that I had the help when I needed it. I like being pushed to do more.
John, we drove across country more than once and took different routes when we did. If I recall, we drove across country 4 times east/west and we drove north/south twice. When people tell me how hard life must have been growing up moving all the time all I remember is the good stuff.
feytharn, I hope you were able to find the good things from those trips. Day trips aren't much fun, but if you got to meet great people and go to great places it could have been worth it.
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feytharn, I hope you were able to find the good things from those trips. Day trips aren't much fun, but if you got to meet great people and go to great places it could have been worth it.
More places than people - I take quite some time to warm up to people, so daytrips weren't the best opportunity for that - but the older towns and cities formed my interest in history just as much as the backseat formed my interest in reading.
Plus I got to spend time with my parents where they were much less likely to fight then at home.edit: also, especially during the long evening and night hours (my father wouldn't have light inside the car, so reading hour was over) I met much of myself, which formed a lot of who I became (and made me even more introverted then I was before)
I understand that John. I can't even afford to visit my local friends lately.
That really sucks, like big time.
How much are the transit pass in your area? Maybe there could be a way to have people send you a dollar or 2 to get you back on your feet. I know I could, I just don't know how to get it to you.
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I'm not rich, but my financial situation allows me to help people in need once in a while, it wouldn't be a burden. But I leave that up to you. You can always PM worst come to worst.
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Well,everybody. Someone's finally done it. Someone has finally pissed me off enough to want someone dead. It seems that, between Yesterday afternoon and this afternoon, someone had drained my checking account to nearly zero. Right now, I'm unable to renew my Transit pass for the week after next week, or even do laundry. There's a branch of my bank that's open tomorrow. I'll go there to try to get this resolved. Wish me luck.
I'm sorry for venting here and in other threads.
in the days directly leading up to the worst day of my life, this happened to me. In fact it was the incident that set things into motion, but that doesn't matter now.
When you are hacked in this fashion, forget visiting the bank proper- they can't do anything much to help. Instead, call the 24 hour number on the back of your debit card and dispute the outstanding purchases. See if they happened in your state or not, if they did not, then you have a very, very strong case to dispute the charges. It will take anywhere from 2 to 3 business days for you to get your money back, but do not rest on their reassurances- call them once a day EVERY day until you get your money back. Be a pain in the ass, don't let them try to tell you it was your fault or anything like that.
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Well,everybody. Someone's finally done it. Someone has finally pissed me off enough to want someone dead. It seems that, between Yesterday afternoon and this afternoon, someone had drained my checking account to nearly zero. Right now, I'm unable to renew my Transit pass for the week after next week, or even do laundry. There's a branch of my bank that's open tomorrow. I'll go there to try to get this resolved. Wish me luck.
I'm sorry for venting here and in other threads.
I am sorry to hear about this, John.
*hugs*
I wish could help, but right now I am having my own financial difficulties.
Hope everything works out for you.
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I'll do that, but I want to eliminate all the purchases that I know I did personally. I renewed my transit pass for the week beginning tomorrow, I bought another month of T-Mobile hotspot airtime, I did some shopping at a Grocery store, I bought some food at a 7-11, I bought two sodas at a Dollar Store, and I bought a stylus for my tablet. Anything other than that is likely the source of the transaction. Then I'll call customer service and dispute that charge.
find the exact charge, yes.
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Well,everybody. Someone's finally done it. Someone has finally pissed me off enough to want someone dead. It seems that, between Yesterday afternoon and this afternoon, someone had drained my checking account to nearly zero. Right now, I'm unable to renew my Transit pass for the week after next week, or even do laundry. There's a branch of my bank that's open tomorrow. I'll go there to try to get this resolved. Wish me luck.
I'm sorry for venting here and in other threads.
Sorry to hear that.
*offers hugs*Good luck resolving this!
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Well,everybody. Someone's finally done it. Someone has finally pissed me off enough to want someone dead. It seems that, between Yesterday afternoon and this afternoon, someone had drained my checking account to nearly zero. Right now, I'm unable to renew my Transit pass for the week after next week, or even do laundry. There's a branch of my bank that's open tomorrow. I'll go there to try to get this resolved. Wish me luck.
I'm sorry for venting here and in other threads.
in the days directly leading up to the worst day of my life, this happened to me. In fact it was the incident that set things into motion, but that doesn't matter now.
When you are hacked in this fashion, forget visiting the bank proper- they can't do anything much to help. Instead, call the 24 hour number on the back of your debit card and dispute the outstanding purchases. See if they happened in your state or not, if they did not, then you have a very, very strong case to dispute the charges. It will take anywhere from 2 to 3 business days for you to get your money back, but do not rest on their reassurances- call them once a day EVERY day until you get your money back. Be a pain in the ass, don't let them try to tell you it was your fault or anything like that.
Yup, that's what I had to do. At some point they send you a form you have to fill out that you then have to turn in to your bank in person but that is the only way to dispute and eventually be absolved of the charges. In my case it resulted in me missing a mortgage payment that created a negative spiral that took months to recover from since there was about 3 weeks of an empty bank account while bills stacked up and credit cards were required to eat.
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Going to try to get some sleep, now. Not feeling so angry right now, just tired, sad, and disappointed. Did I ever mention how much I dislike hackers?Well worth repeating, carving in stone and hitting said hackers with that stone
I'd just take their eyes and fingers. Deprive them of the tools they used to hurt others. But I might be a little vengeful.
Damn John, that's messed up. I hope they resolve this quickly for you. I know that my credit union is always quick about fixing things like this. I hope your institution is also.
That sucks John, I hope you get a swift and happy solution to your trouble
*channels positive feelings*
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I'd just take their eyes and fingers. Deprive them of the tools they used to hurt others. But I might be a little vengeful.Going to try to get some sleep, now. Not feeling so angry right now, just tired, sad, and disappointed. Did I ever mention how much I dislike hackers?Well worth repeating, carving in stone and hitting said hackers with that stone
that's the paladin way of handling things!