Drejk |
Did you know the closest you can get to asexual as a relationship status on facebook is "It's Complicated" I guess that pretty much fits me though!
I think the closest thing you can get to asexual as status on facebook is not filling that entry.
Note that not filled relationship entry on facebook may also mean many different things as well.
Liranys |
Liranys wrote:Did you know the closest you can get to asexual as a relationship status on facebook is "It's Complicated" I guess that pretty much fits me though!I think the closest thing you can get to asexual as status on facebook is not filling that entry.
Note that not filled relationship entry on facebook may also mean many different things as well.
Yeah, but when I do that I keep getting relationship status requests. :P
Mikaze |
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I like to make a distinction between open relationships and polyamory. In the first instance, you have a mutual agreement to see other people, but not necessarily the same people. In the second, you are involved with the same people. (Just my personal preference. :) )
Agreed on needing that distinction.
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Lilith |
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Relevant comic (links to NSFW webcomic site, but comic itself is SFW).
Judy Bauer Associate Editor |
For anyone in the Seattle area, the LGBT film fest just released its schedule: link! Have now penciled "watch all relevant trailers" in on our agenda for tonight.
Drejk |
From whom? No one asks me about my relationships status!
Or maybe people know that I am serial loner...
Or maybe they already know that I would probably not answer. Unless they would be a hottie I was interested in... Which might end with the person asking learning that I do not consider her (or him) a hottie...
Yuugasa |
As far as who I am attracted to, I definitely have a type. Slender, blonde, but with enough curves to be interesting. Not that I can't be attracted to people who fall outside of that type, but most of the people I've been attracted to over the years, celebrity or real life, fall inside that type. Examples include but are not limited to Anna Paquin, Chris Pines, Katee Sackhoff, Alexander Skarsgaard.
And then there are a couple of actors that I don't find all that physically attractive, but there's something about their voice that just turns me into a puddle. Notable examples would be Vin Diesel and Keira Knightley. I would happily listen to either one of them read a phone book. :)*shrug* that said, attraction is a weird thing and not always easily predicted.
Anna Paquin and Alexander Skarsgaard? And I was just watching True Blood before getting online...
ReckNBall |
So I recently started new job. I am one of four males out of about twenty it seems. One obvious G, a handful of discrete L, the rest protray as heteronormative. Thus far no derogatory comments towards GL or B. Convo drifts into fashion, including men in kilts; which led to the inevitable CD/MtF. T's are apparently still fair game. Fortunately, those that felt compelled to comment arent my type either...
The only bit of shame i felt was not advocating, but let the convo drift away. Just noted the haters and ignored. I do need this paycheck.
Liranys |
So I recently started new job. I am one of four males out of about twenty it seems. One obvious G, a handful of discrete L, the rest protray as heteronormative. Thus far no derogatory comments towards GL or B. Convo drifts into fashion, including men in kilts; which led to the inevitable CD/MtF. T's are apparently still fair game. Fortunately, those that felt compelled to comment arent my type either...
The only bit of shame i felt was not advocating, but let the convo drift away. Just noted the haters and ignored. I do need this paycheck.
Sometimes the best you can do is ignore, because a lot of times the outspoken haters are just doing it for attention.
Drejk |
That's a possibility. So, you're a serial loner are you? Why?
Curiosity. I'm wondering if you have reasons for being a loner like fear of being hurt again or if you're just naturally reclusive. :) You do not have to answer.
Mostly being loner by nature - introvert preferring controlled dosage of social situations, plus the fact that I am not good at reading signs of others' emotions, plus the fact that I find courting process tedious and fatiguing, plus the fact that I don't handle rejection well.
Another factor is that I was in unrequited love for a long time (about nine years) - and during this time wasn't interested in pursuing other women, going as far as explicitly rejecting advances of two women, and indirectly two or three more... Not counting those that were probably interested in me but I haven't noticed.
Freehold DM |
lulz I don't discriminate for the most part xD.
Granted I am not very much into black females though... When it comes to females I love hair... and their hair just doesn't do it for me. Too knappy. Granted I do not mind black guys. I just don't like the whole "thug wanna be" thing...
My particulair favorite though (if I had to pick) would probably be pale, milky lithe females and cute, tallish guys xD (skin tone really doesn't matter to me there)
I'm sorry but FFVIII is my favorite FF.
Well VIII, X, and IX
Well, I'm not staying where I'm not wanted!
takes FF I-VI collection and storms out, pausing only to set black manliness to *hmph*
Liranys |
Liranys wrote:That's a possibility. So, you're a serial loner are you? Why?
Curiosity. I'm wondering if you have reasons for being a loner like fear of being hurt again or if you're just naturally reclusive. :) You do not have to answer.
Mostly being loner by nature - introvert preferring controlled dosage of social situations, plus the fact that I am not good at reading signs of others' emotions, plus the fact that I find courting process tedious and fatiguing, plus the fact that I don't handle rejection well.
Another factor is that I was in unrequited love for a long time (about nine years) - and during this time wasn't interested in pursuing other women, going as far as explicitly rejecting advances of two women, and indirectly two or three more... Not counting those that were probably interested in me but I haven't noticed.
I know what you mean there. I do not pick up subtle cues. Unless someone comes out and says "Hey, I like you." I'm going to be pretty oblivious. Luckily, I don't care. The only type of relationship I want is emotional and most people want more than that, so me being oblivious is probably a good thing. It means I don't have to reject anyone. Although, I do, on occasion, have to explain that I'm not interested in a physically intimate relationship. Had a friend who knows I'm asexual tell me that I might "have a problem" because one of our mutual friends was asking is I was available. That was awkward.
Liranys |
PIXIE DUST wrote:lulz I don't discriminate for the most part xD.
Granted I am not very much into black females though... When it comes to females I love hair... and their hair just doesn't do it for me. Too knappy. Granted I do not mind black guys. I just don't like the whole "thug wanna be" thing...
My particulair favorite though (if I had to pick) would probably be pale, milky lithe females and cute, tallish guys xD (skin tone really doesn't matter to me there)
I'm sorry but FFVIII is my favorite FF.
Well VIII, X, and IXWell, I'm not staying where I'm not wanted!
takes FF I-VI collection and storms out, pausing only to set black manliness to *hmph*
Who said you weren't wanted? LOL
Liranys |
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I often do notice clues but cannot read what they actually mean. Or maybe it's just my luck that women who just like me are more prone to showing that than those that are actually interested in me. Probably some combination of both.
You know the worst part of growing up unable to read those types of cues is how hurt you can get. I found out not that long ago that one of the guys that used to pick on me unrelentingly had a huge crush on me. That guy put me through so much emotional agony that I don't think I'd have been able to date him if he'd come out and said "I like you". I still have scars from guys like that in my past and it's probably part of what made me the way I am.
Liranys |
There is significant chance that he as bad at reading clues as well, failing to understand that his picking - which he might erroneously consider friendly, funny, and teasing - is causing you emotional harm.
*sigh*
I might have been there at times... I hope that I haven't crossed that line :/
Quite possibly. Although, in the early cases, I doubt it. I was literally in tears in front of the entire class many times because of him.
Drejk |
Terquem wrote:I have never been pursued by a woman in my life. i wouldn't know what that is likeWere you ever picked on by a girl when you were young? Tormented, teased? Chances are, she was trying, unsuccessfully, to pursue you. :P
Heheh. At the end of elementary school a few girls were showing their interest in me but at that time me with my old grumpy soul were convinced that they were just teasing me...
*shrug* After I got younger, learned more distance to myself, learned to read people better than that (but still far from good) I look in the past and laugh at my old self.
I often catch hints and clues going between other people, not always but much more efficiently when they are directed at/related to me. I recall one evening when we were sitting in a pub with one friend flirting with a girl, other girls sitting on his other side visibly angry and me and another friend sitting on the other side of the table *giggling* and commenting...
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I had a gal who asked me out when I was a sophomore in high school. I turned her down because I thought it was a joke. She was incredibly pretty, and I thought she was out of my league. 2 more years pass and I realize her "type" was indeed guys like me, seeing the other dudes she dated in HS.
That was a tough realization...
Drejk |
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I had a gal who asked me out when I was a sophomore in high school. I turned her down because I thought it was a joke. She was incredibly pretty, and I thought she was out of my league. 2 more years pass and I realize her "type" was indeed guys like me, seeing the other dudes she dated in HS.
That was a tough realization...
Yup.
That reminds me of Nobby Nobbs and his relation with Betty Tawnee...
Yuugasa |
Well, I'm not staying where I'm not wanted!
takes FF I-VI collection and storms out, pausing only to set black manliness to *hmph*
FF6 is one of my fav games of all time, good characters, good story, good villain. Also it has some funny interactions, Like remember that time Edgar sexually harasses Terra and leaves her questioning her sexuality? =p (from minute 1:00 to 1:50)
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lynora wrote:Anna Paquin and Alexander Skarsgaard? And I was just watching True Blood before getting online...As far as who I am attracted to, I definitely have a type. Slender, blonde, but with enough curves to be interesting. Not that I can't be attracted to people who fall outside of that type, but most of the people I've been attracted to over the years, celebrity or real life, fall inside that type. Examples include but are not limited to Anna Paquin, Chris Pines, Katee Sackhoff, Alexander Skarsgaard.
And then there are a couple of actors that I don't find all that physically attractive, but there's something about their voice that just turns me into a puddle. Notable examples would be Vin Diesel and Keira Knightley. I would happily listen to either one of them read a phone book. :)*shrug* that said, attraction is a weird thing and not always easily predicted.
That one scene...you know the one where Sookie and Eric hook up? Best. Porn. Ever. ;)
Drejk |
Well I pretty much missed puberty but I had the attitude of someone 3x my size.
Like a little chihuahua xD
I grew early and quickly - usually being highest (and probably the heaviest) boy in my class of elementary school until the seventh grade (Polish elementary school had eight grades then, from seven to fifteen years old) when we got a classmate repeating his year. It hadn't protected me from being teased, mocked, and harassed by other boys because of being much smarter than most of them, a bit more mature, openly atheist (seventh and eight class) recluse nerd...
Some of them probably survived the school only because I was (and still am) very slow runner... And very unwilling to use actual violence besides grabbing the offender and hit him against the wall.
Middle school (equivalent to US High school) was a heaven compared to this.
Yuugasa |
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Well I pretty much missed puberty but I had the attitude of someone 3x my size.
Like a little chihuahua xD
Not I, I was a sweet, sensitive boy, pretty much the easiest target for picking on a bully could want. I still have 'nam like flash backs of a cheerleader a foot taller than me and twice my weight laughing maniacally as she chased me through the school parking lot swinging a baton at my head. To this day I get still all sweating when I see a girl in a cheerleading uniform, just not for the same reasons other men do. =D
PIXIE DUST |
I feel sad :(
Granted my first few years of "high school" (I was in a German Gymnasium before I moved back to the states to finish Junior and Senior year) was rough being the American Kid there. Especially since my German was more... proper if you will (I was fluent enough in German, I just wasn't very fluent in the slang)
GreatKhanArtist |
It's interesting--we talked about sexuality at my HF autism group of females and most of us are not too, um, horny. Many are borderline asexuals. I think it's because so many aspies associate themselves with more the masculine than the feminine. However, when questioned further by the facilitator, aspie women of all adult ages stated that their sexuality was like a slider. Sometimes they felt more feminine and sometimes more masculine.
I attest to this. In church, I totally exercise my feminine side. Lots of skirts and little children and talk of families and such. I love it, it's one of my favorite reasons for going. On the other hand, I don't like NT women, I find them fickle and concerned about ridiculous things, especially outside of church women. Many aspies also tend to express more "masculine" emotions. For example, we don't all cry when presented with frustration, many just get mad. A reason proposed for the increased masculinity of the group was that so many aspie women were bullied and automatically fell into a script of aggression towards others. Of course, most of us find womanly pursuits uninteresting and tend towards other special interests, so that helps define our sexuality as well.
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This article won't be news to some, but it's worth a read:
Why Aren't Women Advancing at Work? Ask a Transgender Person
(I haven't been hit by this yet, but I'm also not passing consistently at this point.)