For those of you with roommates (not spouses) what have/will you done/do if you roommate lost their job?
I don't want to kick him out yet as we have been friends for 12 years but I can't afford to pay all the bills. I can't even afford our apartment on my own.
I'm at a loss, do I preserve my friendship or my home stability.
Ouch! That is a tough one.
My gut says set a time limit and stick to it. It may be harsh when the time is up, but you can not save a drowning man if you are drowning too.
EDIT: I hope your roommate finds gainful employment soon. Good luck.
Ouch! That is a tough one.
My gut says set a time limit and stick to it. It may be harsh when the time is up, but you can not save a drowning man if you are drowning too.
EDIT: I hope your roommate finds gainful employment soon. Good luck.
I'd have to agree with the talking poodle. If you continue to support you both - you will only drown to. Give him a time limit and once it's up - out he goes. Yes, jobs are hard to come by but anything will do until he can find something better.
For those of you with roommates (not spouses) what have/will you done/do if you roommate lost their job?
I don't want to kick him out yet as we have been friends for 12 years but I can't afford to pay all the bills. I can't even afford our apartment on my own.
I'm at a loss, do I preserve my friendship or my home stability.
It sucks, but you have to take care of yourself. I say give him a very firm deadline and let him know how long you'll be able to help.
"I wish I had more money, but I don't. I can't afford this place without a paying roomate. I want that roomate to be you. I can afford to give you until (month or two), but thats it. Frankly I'll have to find another roomate or move out myself. Also, I would prefer that when you got a job you paid me back for the month(s)that I cover you. Not immediately of course, but as soon as you get back on your feer."
If he's a good friend he'll understand. You're not a charity nor do you have deep pockets.
Hope that helps.