Hi,
I've played about 20-30 games of Pathfinder Society and as an adult, I am seeing some players i've encountered as less than fun to play with. My purpose is to get advice on either adjusting my attitude or calling out other's poor attitude in a way that is logical and not demeaning so they will ultimately treat me with courtesy like I will in return.
Issue 1: People (not even in a game) talking about my character as splitting the party after the game when my character never split the party...My character had first initiative in a combat and signalled to the entire party the direction I was headed and asked them to follow (my character ultimately died because no one chose to follow)...this became a debate after the game because others were gossiping one of the person's opinions about my character's path he chose. The issue wasn't that I died or any feelings about no one following my character the path I went...the issue was that someone lied after the game and was spinning gossip about me personally...I kindof think its hugely disrespectful to have a venture captain state his opinion of a game he "heard about" and this come up.
Issue 2: During a game, I was skipped over 3 times where others did what they wanted (out of combat initiative) and waited 15 minutes. I spoke up to the GM and asked if my character can explore an area while others were doing their part (effectively splitting the party). Because my character I assumed over a 90-120 min period during the game would be doing something helpful. The GM got pissed and said he is not going to do that because all the party had to stay in the same area...I checked after and we did not in that scenario...that is not the issue though...How do you deal with a GM when they choose to railroad the adventure and it is extremely boring and are ignoring your character ----and when you try to do something you get hostility? Would it be okay to just get up and leave that table and get no credit because there seems to be some person hostility issue the GM has?
Ideally, I want to get along with all my party and help everyone enjoy the game...but as there's always the human element...I want to ensure to have a good response to times when people are being dicks (whether it's other players or a click of players OR its the GM themself). Sometimes tables I am at have kids too, so it really strikes me at surprising that some of these behaviors manifest from adults.
Please send advice on how I can respond to these things as I haven't yet confronted the individuals or reported them if I should for their behavior. I dislike hostility so as a newer player in Pathfinder Society i've just chalked up the disappointing experiences as something to hopefully learn from...I just want to make sure I stand my ground but not be wrong in how I do it according to proper society play.
Thanks in advance to anyone who can give me good advice.