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I actually just joined a one on one PBP and I'm really excited about it. I get to hog the spotlight and explore the environment the GM has designed for me at my own pace and without worrying about holding up three-four other people. The appeal to me is just that the focus is my character and how she perceives and interact with the world. Call me selfish, but its nice to have that from time to time!
On the issue of creepiness...
Well, people online are only as creepy as you let them be. Report and ignore/block. Bam. Then there's like, 1/10 creeps (and creeps are only like, 1/100 of the general population at the MOST) who will be persistent enough to make a new account just to creep on you. Then that's more of an issue and you work with the site staff to solve it. Or ignore it because a bully/creep is only a bully/creep when there's a victim to target and ignoring things is pretty easy on the net (mixed results when you try this IRL ofc).
It also helps when you don't walk around advertising your gender. Females do generally get a bit of extra attention on the net, sure. But you can easily avoid that attention if you don't want it by simply not saying you're a female. I mean, does it matter you're a female? No. This is a roleplay site. Half the time the men are women, women are men, and the children are always FBI agents. I don't care if you're a guy, a girl, if you're straight, or if you're gay. Or any of those in-between things I'm supposed to be including to be politically correct or whatever.
I don't even know the genders of my own players of the game I DM, and I doubt they know mine. But it doesn't matter because I'm not trying to become romantic partners with any of them which is really the only time gender matters.
So, if being a female makes you wary of playing a one on one PBP, or even like it makes you a target, then just don't tell people your gender and don't add your gender to your profile.
I'm probably going to get lynched for this, but I find that the people who...
I'm not going to lynch you, but I really feel like this is giving up - "there's going to be creeps around, so don't tell anyone you're a woman".
I think it's worth putting the effort in to make the community better and it shouldn't be up to the victims to adapt, imo.