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Laurefindel stated it pretty well.
I agree your wife needs some time 'off' to be herself and have some fun. But so do you.
There was a time when all I did was eat, sleep, work, house work, yard work, and maybe a little bit of homework with the kids. Notice how much of that is work? Notice how little of it is fun? I was trying so hard to be a good everything, that I became a not very pleasant person much of the time and was actually not doing very well as a spouse or dad.
I eventually learned I had to make the time to do something fun to remain a sane person. But I had a job, wife, 3 kids, etc... So I had to schedule it. At first it seemed impossible. So I started really looking at it as a technical problem to be solved. (Can you tell that I'm an engineer?) Travel to, game time, and travel home should be about 6 hours. Is there really no way I can find 6 hours once a month for something I really want to do? That's less than 1% of the time in 4 weeks. That can certainly be worked into any schedule.
Talked it over with my wife and we just worked it in. The 2nd Saturday of the month I went gaming. The 4th Saturday of the month she went out with her friends. The 1st and 3rd Saturday we did something together.
All the crapola that I been doing on Saturdays had to be worked into the other days of the week. So I'd do laundry while watching the kids or mow the yard instead of watching another sitcom that I don't really like. Some of it was just dropped altogether. I decided I really didn't care if my yard didn't look as nice as the rest of the neighborhood. I'll mow the yard, but I'm not going to kill myself making it look perfect. I also stopped sleeping in until 10 on the weekends.